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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

Good morning everyone. In keeping with the tradition started by StarflyLou here is your Boxing Day space.

In truth, I don't much like Christmas and New Year. Sure I appreciate the time off but I have to almost paint a smile on and I feel it's the same for my mum and dad.

Past Christmases have seen me become quite reflective. It's at this time I am reminded of my grandparents and of getting older.

It's also been the second Christmas since my brother died, and his anniversary is around the corner - on the horizon and is another day when I'm unsure if my usual pleasant demeanor will be replaced by melancholy. He's never far from my thoughts, but I painted on the smile, sank the wine and bobbed along the best I could.

I think this is why I want to change the traditions. I now give to charity at this time of year. I made just one post on social media.

Just reaching out here, hoping others have been able to get through.

I made it through the most sugar-coated of days - again and will do so next weekend too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning everyone. In keeping with the tradition started by StarflyLou here is your Boxing Day space.

In truth, I don't much like Christmas and New Year. Sure I appreciate the time off but I have to almost paint a smile on and I feel it's the same for my mum and dad.

Past Christmases have seen me become quite reflective. It's at this time I am reminded of my grandparents and of getting older.

I think this is why I want to change the traditions. I now give to charity at this time of year. I made just one post on social media.

Just reaching out here, hoping others have been able to get through.

I made it through the most sugar-coated of days - again and will do so next weekend too."

I don't think melancholy is a bad thing. Sometimes we need to just wallow in the sadness, get it all out. Then after a sleep (or two or more) we feel better again.

You made it here.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

All good with me other than man flu and sinusitis

Had my daughter staying so all is good.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Feel for you. I am exactly the same and just want to get it over with and back to normal. Ive lost loved ones at Xmas too.

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"Good morning everyone. In keeping with the tradition started by StarflyLou here is your Boxing Day space.

In truth, I don't much like Christmas and New Year. Sure I appreciate the time off but I have to almost paint a smile on and I feel it's the same for my mum and dad.

Past Christmases have seen me become quite reflective. It's at this time I am reminded of my grandparents and of getting older.

I think this is why I want to change the traditions. I now give to charity at this time of year. I made just one post on social media.

Just reaching out here, hoping others have been able to get through.

I made it through the most sugar-coated of days - again and will do so next weekend too.

I don't think melancholy is a bad thing. Sometimes we need to just wallow in the sadness, get it all out. Then after a sleep (or two or more) we feel better again.

You made it here.

Yes really good to get here. Hope that you had a pleasant day x

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"All good with me other than man flu and sinusitis

Had my daughter staying so all is good."

Sounds good - hopefully you are taking in the cold compliment tablets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for those that have lost loved ones at Christmas. I know a 19 year old who died in a car crash Tuesday all g with her dad. I can't imagine how their family feel right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mental health has taken a good bashing for some months now but after getting closure on something yesterday I’m feeling pretty positive that I can finally pick myself up. Time to focus on me for a change.

Hope everyone else is ok, my inbox is always open for a chat with anyone having a down time x

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Gotta be honest things have been a struggle for maybe 6 months or so now. Think im slowing getting on top of things, but it's been a difficult time, hidden alot for a while now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a massive fan of it either, can’t wait for it all to blow over so everything goes back to normality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly feeling low today, cold and no motivation.

The kids have toys scattered all around and constantly asking for more food, hubby is at work.

Feeling like after a good day yesterday I've let myself down.

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help"

That sounds so slow in responding, silly question have you raised it with your doctor again?

Plenty to move forward for with your lovely grandchildren.

Intrusive thoughts are difficult. Mine rear up from time to time telling me that I'm crap and I won't amount to anything or progress further.

Here if you fancy a natter x

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"My mental health has taken a good bashing for some months now but after getting closure on something yesterday I’m feeling pretty positive that I can finally pick myself up. Time to focus on me for a change.

Hope everyone else is ok, my inbox is always open for a chat with anyone having a down time x"

Really glad to hear about your closure. My inbox is open and yes I agree, time to focus on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feeling like shiv with a virus, so under a blanket after using all my energy over festive period

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"Gotta be honest things have been a struggle for maybe 6 months or so now. Think im slowing getting on top of things, but it's been a difficult time, hidden alot for a while now."

That first step is the most difficult to take. I remember being in my docs a few years ago finally admitting that things were getting on top of me. Small steps and reward yourself!

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"Not a massive fan of it either, can’t wait for it all to blow over so everything goes back to normality. "

Yes for me that was New Years Day, now a little longer..

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"Certainly feeling low today, cold and no motivation.

The kids have toys scattered all around and constantly asking for more food, hubby is at work.

Feeling like after a good day yesterday I've let myself down. "

You certainly havem't let yourself down. It's a time of year frought with sailing close to burnout and what comes after emotional highs. Be kind to yourself

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"Feeling like shiv with a virus, so under a blanket after using all my energy over festive period

Look after yourself! Hopefully you have a couple of easy days coming up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christmas has never been a good time for me yet every year I've plastered on a smile and done what is expected.

That stopped last year and it was just me and my daughter doing it our way. I've bought gifts for the people that really matter to me and treated myself.

This is how it's going to be from know on.

Love and hugs to everyone that needs it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help"

I'm so sorry you are struggling and unable to get the help you need though the NHS.

Are there any charitable organisations that offer counselling in your area?

Is there anyway you could pay to see a counsellor, even if its only once a month? Failing that then as someone else suggested go back to your GP and tell them you are not coping. Your grandchildren are worth staying alive for x

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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago

south west

I had a breakdown this morning, I've been struggling for a while now, but it came to a head in the car at Asda's, doing box breathing to centre myself while tears ran down my cheeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help

That sounds so slow in responding, silly question have you raised it with your doctor again?

Plenty to move forward for with your lovely grandchildren.

Intrusive thoughts are difficult. Mine rear up from time to time telling me that I'm crap and I won't amount to anything or progress further.

Here if you fancy a natter x"

Speak to my doctor ...... impossible lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help

I'm so sorry you are struggling and unable to get the help you need though the NHS.

Are there any charitable organisations that offer counselling in your area?

I don't know of any local charities.

It's almost impossible to contact my GP.

I will google help. Ty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a crisis number to phone, thank you.

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"I've got a crisis number to phone, thank you."

I'm pleased to read this.

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By *elloIntrigue OP Man
over a year ago

North West UK

"I had a breakdown this morning, I've been struggling for a while now, but it came to a head in the car at Asda's, doing box breathing to centre myself while tears ran down my cheeks."

Sorry to hear about this. How are you feeling now?

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help"

I suffer anxiety depression so I know how you feel. Outside can be way too people's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help

I suffer anxiety depression so I know how you feel. Outside can be way too people's "

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For those that are struggling - it does get better. My inbox is open for those that wana chat

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By *mightyMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

#itsoknottobeok inbox is always open, i suffer with M/H myself have done for years always grafted on my happy pills not supposed to mind. somebody gotta pay the bills though & it gives me summa to grasp & focus on

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"For those that are struggling - it does get better. My inbox is open for those that wana chat "

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By *mightyMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help

I suffer anxiety depression so I know how you feel. Outside can be way too people's

mental health first response team 0800 952 1181

samaritans 116 123

my well-being college for M/H 0300 5555551

hope this helps if not they can direct you

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By *mightyMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

"For those that are struggling - it does get better. My inbox is open for those that wana chat "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Christmas has never been a good time for me yet every year I've plastered on a smile and done what is expected.

That stopped last year and it was just me and my daughter doing it our way. I've bought gifts for the people that really matter to me and treated myself.

This is how it's going to be from know on.

Love and hugs to everyone that needs it x"

I love that, do what is best for you and your daughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got a crisis number to phone, thank you."

Please contact your GP, even for a telephone consultation. Medication may help, especially with the intrusive thoughts. Also try the simple technique of telling the thoughts off. Say you are just thought and you are wrong and not true. A simple technique but can work.

Mindfulness also helps, you need to get out I know how hard it could be but even 5 minutes in the fresh can do wonders.

If you work, do they have mental health first aiders you could talk to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm struggling hugely.

I sought NHS help in may following a traumatic event. I've had a phone call consultation in spring and am waiting to hear what type of help they will offer. But that was months ago.

I have intrusive thoughts, i can't see the point of being here in general but i have delightful grandchildren.

I rarely leave the house, today i have lent my football season ticket to someone and havn't been much this season anyway.

I'm fed up, i don't know how to get help

I suffer anxiety depression so I know how you feel. Outside can be way too people's

mental health first response team 0800 952 1181

samaritans 116 123

my well-being college for M/H 0300 5555551

hope this helps if not they can direct you "

Thank you

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

I've struggled since my late teens. Learnt recently to speak about it rather then keep bottled up. Helps alot. Feel free to inbox me also as I find speaking online can be easier then face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I despise this time of year for many reasons: marriage breakdown, the false bonhomie required, religious nonsense. Always just want it to be over.

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