FabSwingers.com forum: When blokes type

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's a lot of negative comments about men's behaviour ( very often by men), but one pattern I've noticed, is the woe is me theme.

Men joining the forum games, commenting "I'm in, but noone will message me" or similar.

Do we think that helps, or instantly smacks of desperation which is off-putting. Putting it out there for the brothers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just men that do it.

But then they just get pity comments, who wants those?!

And yes it's an instant turn off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

" Do we think that helps, or instantly smacks of desperation which is off-putting. Putting it out there for the brothers."

No one likes self pity, it shows a lack of confidence so why would anyone pick you?

Fake it till you make it!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I use two fingers to type

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Typing in but no one will message me etc just makes them look bad and probably means that no one will because they now look desperate for attention from a group of strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In "

You forgot the ‘ but no one will message me’

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Just get straight to the point and start with...

I am sad.

Anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it to the thread please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In

You forgot the ‘ but no one will message me’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just a moody fucker...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep it to the thread please "

This^ annoys the fuck out of me.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I'd give you my honest opinion, but no one cares what I have to say anyway so why bother

Joking aside, it doesn't help and it does give off an unattractive impression of yourself.

If you're feeling low/down/unattractive then talk to people about your feelings. Don't carry around all that weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd give you my honest opinion, but no one cares what I have to say anyway so why bother

Joking aside, it doesn't help and it does give off an unattractive impression of yourself.

If you're feeling low/down/unattractive then talk to people about your feelings. Don't carry around all that weight

It's really not easy carrying around extra weight believe me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep it to the thread please

This^ annoys the fuck out of me. "

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

" There's a lot of negative comments about men's behaviour ( very often by men), but one pattern I've noticed, is the woe is me theme.

Men joining the forum games, commenting "I'm in, but noone will message me" or similar.

Do we think that helps, or instantly smacks of desperation which is off-putting. Putting it out there for the brothers."

Many of the “poster above” type forum games get very boring as single guys either don’t post, or skip the poster above because it’s another bloke….

“No-one will message me” comments are counter-productive anyway, as such a small proportion of people in Fab use the forum, and of those that do, it’s very rare you will actually meet physically them. The messages I receive from posting in threads I reckon are only because they’re always miles away from me, so they feel safe……

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

"Keep it to the thread please

This^ annoys the fuck out of me.

You're in there pal.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'd give you my honest opinion, but no one cares what I have to say anyway so why bother

Joking aside, it doesn't help and it does give off an unattractive impression of yourself.

If you're feeling low/down/unattractive then talk to people about your feelings. Don't carry around all that weight

It's really not easy carrying around extra weight believe me. "

Leave your purse at home then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd give you my honest opinion, but no one cares what I have to say anyway so why bother

Joking aside, it doesn't help and it does give off an unattractive impression of yourself.

If you're feeling low/down/unattractive then talk to people about your feelings. Don't carry around all that weight

They can't talk, no fucker will message them!.....

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

People want to be noticed don't they? Men and women type it, maybe that's how they really feel or maybe they want someone to prove their fears wrong. Yeah, it's a bit silly but fuck it, we all do some silly behaviour on here.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"I'd give you my honest opinion, but no one cares what I have to say anyway so why bother

Joking aside, it doesn't help and it does give off an unattractive impression of yourself.

If you're feeling low/down/unattractive then talk to people about your feelings. Don't carry around all that weight

It's really not easy carrying around extra weight believe me. "

I wouldn't know

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

" There's a lot of negative comments about men's behaviour ( very often by men), but one pattern I've noticed, is the woe is me theme.

Men joining the forum games, commenting "I'm in, but noone will message me" or similar.

Do we think that helps, or instantly smacks of desperation which is off-putting. Putting it out there for the brothers."

What cracks me up is when a single guy jumps in with the claim of 'oh here's another single men bashing thread' or 'women and couples tar all men with the same brush'.

Those threads are 99% of the time related to specific behaviour by a tiny minority of men. In no way, shape or form all men. But there are those that see any criticism of men, no matter how specific and how small a section of the Fab male population any negative feedback is targeted at, as a personal insult to both themselves and all mankind, regardless of the fact that they don't behave in the manner that's being criticised or do whatever is being moaned about.

Some like to play the victim.

Whether it's a hope that a 'woe is me' comment or thread will get them some sympathy sex (it won't - ever) or that they just feel that being overly negative about themselves will cause people to give them (often fake) compliments and encouragement - it's usually flaring obvious when it happens what the motivation is.

*And yes. Some women and some couples do this too. I wouldn't want to be accused of bashing single men now would I......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep it to the thread please

This^ annoys the fuck out of me.

You're in there pal.

Already been in.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Keep it to the thread please

This^ annoys the fuck out of me.

You're in there pal.

Already been in. "

You said I was the only one to go in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep it to the thread please

This^ annoys the fuck out of me.

You're in there pal.

Already been in.

You said I was the only one to go in there

Sshhhhhhh.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Not me, I’m handsome, In not bad shape and big dicked

who wouldn’t want to chat with me

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Makes me incredibly horny when they behave all desperate and needy......

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Makes me incredibly horny when they behave all desperate and needy......"

Does your otters pocket flood?

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

"Makes me incredibly horny when they behave all desperate and needy......

Does your otters pocket flood?"

I wear my plastic pants so I'm safe so far.....

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

Woe is me and "no one will message me" comments are always a shame to see, because the poster is obviously feeling invisible. But it invites eye rolls and scorn because we don't know that's the case, and cynicism says that the poster is doing it for the sympathy vote, especially if it is said over and over again.

We all want attention... but do we really want eye rolls and scorn type attention? Feels doubtful.

No one should feel invisible though. We are all seen and acknowledged by someone.

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

"Not me, I’m handsome, In not bad shape and big dicked

who wouldn’t want to chat with me

You're perfection. Everybody wants you

Posh

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"Not me, I’m handsome, In not bad shape and big dicked

who wouldn’t want to chat with me

You're perfection. Everybody wants you

Posh

Exactly this! I’m glad it’s so obvious to everyone

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I guess I'll go and eat worms

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"...Putting it out there for the brothers."

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What does that even mean? ^

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

"...Putting it out there for the brothers.

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What does that even mean? ^"

I'm taking it to mean his male siblings are asking the question. Maybe

Posh

(Hi Nero)

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

My self pity is the most redeeming of all my qualities. Fact.

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

"My self pity is the most redeeming of all my qualities. Fact. "

Untrue. It's your ability to get into tight, sticky spots and thrive

Posh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...Putting it out there for the brothers.

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What does that even mean? ^"

As per usual Fab protocol, interpret it how you like, and go completely off tangent on the thread.

Or....posing the question on behalf of the men who post comments with an element of self pity, so they can read the comments for feedback.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"My self pity is the most redeeming of all my qualities. Fact.

Untrue. It's your ability to get into tight, sticky spots and thrive

Posh

Like mold? I’ll take that. Look at me “brothers” I’m interacting woohoo

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

"My self pity is the most redeeming of all my qualities. Fact.

Untrue. It's your ability to get into tight, sticky spots and thrive

Posh

Like mold? I’ll take that. Look at me “brothers” I’m interacting woohoo "

Exactly like mold.

(I wouldn't get too excited about interacting... I'm flaky and rarely answer messages

)

Posh

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I'd give you my honest opinion, but no one cares what I have to say anyway so why bother

Joking aside, it doesn't help and it does give off an unattractive impression of yourself.

If you're feeling low/down/unattractive then talk to people about your feelings. Don't carry around all that weight

It's really not easy carrying around extra weight believe me. "

Me being serious for minute… I couldn’t agree more with the posters above - i do question if a site where rejection is around 99% of the experience for most blokes is a healthy place for anyone with low self esteem .. obviously I am no expert but it sometimes takes a thick skin to be on here and I genuinely worry about people who might be more vulnerable… and this time of year is no help whatsoever to those people.

I guess especially at this time of year we should go the extra mile to be kind and supportive of each other…

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I'd give you my honest opinion, but no one cares what I have to say anyway so why bother

Joking aside, it doesn't help and it does give off an unattractive impression of yourself.

If you're feeling low/down/unattractive then talk to people about your feelings. Don't carry around all that weight

It's really not easy carrying around extra weight believe me.

I guess especially at this time of year we should go the extra mile to be kind and supportive of each other…

I will now return to insensitive sarcastic prick mode!!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Confidence is sexy. Some people need reminded of that, sometimes.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'll comment not that anyone will reply......

In all seriousness it's a turn off, I get we aren't all confident but that self pitty is a little off-putting, it to me screams give me attention which makes me want to do the opposite, I'd rather reply, respond, wink whatever it maybe to someone who seems generally happy and friendly.

Mrs

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"...I'm taking it to mean his male siblings are asking the question. Maybe

Posh

(Hi Nero)"

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Hello my resplendent creature. Long and hard have the months endured to find you at this juncture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would make me more inclined to reply just to prove them wrong to be honest

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

"I would make me more inclined to reply just to prove them wrong to be honest

A pity response?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would make me more inclined to reply just to prove them wrong to be honest

A pity response?"

I pity no fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would make me more inclined to reply just to prove them wrong to be honest

A pity response?

I pity no fool. "

I'm reading that in a Mr T accent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would make me more inclined to reply just to prove them wrong to be honest

A pity response?

I pity no fool.

I'm reading that in a Mr T accent

^A team player

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confident people are sexually attractive. Simples. Confident does not mean arrogant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Confident people are sexually attractive. Simples. Confident does not mean arrogant "

I would like to point out that my profile name is not a typo

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Keep it to the thread please

This^ annoys the fuck out of me. "

Omg me too! It really does

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

In answer to the op. Totally off-putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep it to the thread please

This^ annoys the fuck out of me.

Omg me too! It really does "

Me three

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to say away from those types off threads

Like match make and such

Better to not know than to find out you not people’s cup off tea

The way I see it as fun as those are if someone needs a game to message me we just not that compatible

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Turn off

Like on the threads compersion does about receiving a nice message at 8pm in your inbox and they never send one to anyone else.Just expect to get sent them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think much to be honest. I am just trying to get laid.

It doesn’t seem to work so I started to think.

It doesn’t seem to work either. So I gave up and fuck watermelons and Ford fiesta’s exhaust pipes time to time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think much to be honest. I am just trying to get laid.

It doesn’t seem to work so I started to think.

It doesn’t seem to work either. So I gave up and fuck watermelons and Ford fiesta’s exhaust pipes time to time x"

Depends on what fiesta

Anything other than a xr2 or the Holly grall super sport then nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think much to be honest. I am just trying to get laid.

It doesn’t seem to work so I started to think.

It doesn’t seem to work either. So I gave up and fuck watermelons and Ford fiesta’s exhaust pipes time to time x

Depends on what fiesta

Anything other than a xr2 or the Holly grall super sport then nope "

The exhaust pipe needs to be tight to boost my ego a bit !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think much to be honest. I am just trying to get laid.

It doesn’t seem to work so I started to think.

It doesn’t seem to work either. So I gave up and fuck watermelons and Ford fiesta’s exhaust pipes time to time x

Depends on what fiesta

Anything other than a xr2 or the Holly grall super sport then nope

The exhaust pipe needs to be tight to boost my ego a bit ! "

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think much to be honest. I am just trying to get laid.

It doesn’t seem to work so I started to think.

It doesn’t seem to work either. So I gave up and fuck watermelons and Ford fiesta’s exhaust pipes time to time x

Depends on what fiesta

Anything other than a xr2 or the Holly grall super sport then nope

The exhaust pipe needs to be tight to boost my ego a bit !

Ha ha "

Every little helps as they say.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

No, the ‘poor me’ comments are such a turn off. Confidence is attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think much to be honest. I am just trying to get laid.

It doesn’t seem to work so I started to think.

It doesn’t seem to work either. So I gave up and fuck watermelons and Ford fiesta’s exhaust pipes time to time x

Depends on what fiesta

Anything other than a xr2 or the Holly grall super sport then nope

The exhaust pipe needs to be tight to boost my ego a bit !

Ha ha

Every little helps as they say. "

Yip that is true

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