FabSwingers.com forum: Red Flags

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do you guys see on profiles that makes you think ‘Hmm I think I’ll steer clear’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘No baggage’

Everyone does. The fact some wont accept it/don’t know it - concerning.

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Bareback videos or loads of videos of them with different guys. That usually puts me off

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

More pics of women than him when a single male ,

Mentions drug use

Slags others off on their status updates .

Not 1 public pic .

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Discreet, discrete, discreet yada yada.

Different meanings but probably just spelt wrong.

If it’s in there more than once it means… attached and playing away. Well it does to me

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

When I see fun guy,genuine,no drama...

because its usually other way around

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"‘No baggage’

Everyone does. The fact some wont accept it/don’t know it - concerning."

That's a really good point. Self-awareness and honesty are vital.

My mother used to train teachers. The student teachers she worried about weren't the ones who had occasional bad lessons - everyone had those sometimes. It was the ones who had bad lessons, then during the feedback afterwards loudly proclaimed their brilliance, that constituted a massive red flag.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Anyone who uses the phrase “Cockwomble”

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I see fun guy,genuine,no drama...

because its usually other way around

Damn, mine implies no drama (albeit worded differently)… perhaps some judicious editing is needed

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By *ovingSussexLifeMan
over a year ago

West Sussex

LOADS OF RANTING ABOUT WHAT THEY DONT WANT IN BLOCK CAPITALS

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"‘No baggage’

Everyone does. The fact some wont accept it/don’t know it - concerning.

That's a really good point. Self-awareness and honesty are vital.

I get that… when I was training to do what I do now, I was massively aware of my shortcomings, but worked my arse off to overcome them

Now I’m training my customers in a particular skill (even though I hope none would be on here I don’t want to give too much away), I find those who are over-confident and don’t take on board my advice are the ones who won’t succeed

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Anyone who uses the phrase “Cockwomble”"

That’s funny ‘cause I only consider them on condition they DO use the phrase “cockwomble”…

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Anyone who uses the phrase “Cockwomble”"

I absolutely love that word so it wouldn’t put me off. Entirely as Absofuckinglutely wouldn’t

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Consistently poor grammar and spelling coupled with punctuation errors.

Everyone makes a few here and there, that's a given. However a whole profile riddled with them does raise an amber flag. An amber flag means, "Read the profile again more sympathetically. They might have a condition."

If I still cannot interpret the profile, I realise that no matter how genuine they may be, if I cannot understand them then we'd have a communication issue.

Of course interpretation is a two-way thing and perhaps it's me, so I amber/red flag myself and leave the profile.

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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (UAE)

"Bareback videos or loads of videos of them with different guys. That usually puts me off"

^^^THIS 100%^^^

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Lack of imagination.

Arrogance.

Entitlement.

Lack of humility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for ….

And then a list of physical attributes I will never fit into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Concur with the above, but I've found some very well written profiles, with personalities that don't match when you start chatting.

For me, any strange ranting about everything puts me off...oh and talking in third person

are you gollum?

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

To me if someone comes across as massively passive aggressive and takes themselves too seriously without showing an element of a nice personally / humour then we probably won’t be a match.

That and (as said above) lots of photos of different BB blokes hanging out the back of them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its so hard to read someone from a profile..

Even the silohettes don't really mean anything - could be a great person.

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

- a ‘couple’ where the female isn’t playing at the moment!!

- a couple profile where it is only ever the man who chats!

- a profile with loads of demands / do’s don’ts etc

- pictures where the background looks a tip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘No baggage’

Everyone does. The fact some wont accept it/don’t know it - concerning.

That's a really good point. Self-awareness and honesty are vital.

Positivity trumps reality.....

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"What do you guys see on profiles that makes you think ‘Hmm I think I’ll steer clear’?"

It can literally be anything.

A particular photo, a status update, the profile text or the content of a verification.

There's no one thing.

Good photos may mean there's less worry about the text.

A good profile write up may mean more forgiveness for bland photos.

A profile that has something to spark interest will always have more of a chance of getting attention than one that looks like hundreds of others.

The biggest turn off is a complete lack of personality, either in photos and/or text.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Ninja Profiles

That have in Bold writing

" Face pic is a must when msging"

Thats an instant nope from me,

Ninja Profiles in general get my goat, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they say 'not looking for a pen pal' or aggressively stating how straight they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures where the guy is completely naked apart from still wearing socks. Not sure if it's a red flag or just a dislike. Lol

Another are where the photos are all taken in the bathroom.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

People who go on a political rant about who they won't meet because they have different political views..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything about Sydney university, any profile with a profile picture of a vagina whilst complaining about dick pictures in their profile, anybody that says “keep it the the forums” on a thread, I don’t know why but it just is for me, any profile that says “will fill in later” and anybody from Toxteth, oh and anybody that doesn’t like dogs, it’s just fucking odd to me

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

"People who go on a political rant about who they won't meet because they have different political views.. "

100% this. We’ve looking for Naked Attraction rather than Question Time

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

A long (very long) list of things they won’t do. That’s not to say they shouldn’t do that, and everyone has boundaries, but I joined this lifestyle to be open-minded, explore and adventure, to find that different “flavour”, some profiles are so rigid in what they do, it just wouldn’t do it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No profile pic.

No public pics.

Single guys who have more pictures of women on their profile than they do of them.

Profiles with a long list of what they do and don't want.

Profiles with status's calling other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No profile text. If they're gay. Weird as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No profile text. If they're gay. Weird as."

It’s the one with no interest listed that sets off alarms. Are they a boring bastard or here to break penises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No profile text. If they're gay. Weird as.

It’s the one with no interest listed that sets off alarms. Are they a boring bastard or here to break penises"

Probably both.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Pics which are clearly screenshots of other apps.

Minimal profiles

Ranty profiles about what a bad time they’re having.

No Veris or Veris from everyone in Christendom (I get there are group meets/socials but at least be a little bit selective).

People who clearly need a bath.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being ugly

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

- "Legal" disclaimers which are longer than their profile text.

- More demands than information about them, demands which exclude about 98% of the population if they're being truthful

- Joined within the last week and already has twenty pictures up with full face out and nothing more racy than what you'd see on Instagram or Facebook *hint hint*

LvM

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Referring to women as females

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"When they say 'not looking for a pen pal' or aggressively stating how straight they are."

These for me too. While I get that people want to meet rather than endless messaging that goes nowhere, anything that implies lack of patience and that they would be pushing for a meet after a couple of messages makes me not want to make contact.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"Being ugly "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being ugly "

Have you considered buying a face mask?

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By *akingMemoriesMan
over a year ago

Toronto

I tend not to judge books by their covers. I’m not a huge fan of profiles full of passive aggressiveness and negativity though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Discrete” or “curious”.

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By *isterPepperMan
over a year ago

Central Swindon

A profile only containing negatives. Sure set out what you don’t want but find a balance. Are you really expecting anyone to make a genuine effort if all they have to go on in terms of a personality is a list of dislikes? What are they supposed to find in common, “yes, I also dislike dick pics?”

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By *ralextacyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Non smoker with fag in pics

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Any form of aggression and I’m gone, I know some like it, it’s just not my particular cuppa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than 5000 word profile.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

"Referring to women as females

This

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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (UAE)

"...and anybody from Toxteth..."

Brilliant

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"it costs nothing to be polite and reply!!" goodbye

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

Any warning statements - they just bore me!

A single guy profile full of action shots where you mainly just see women

States safe sex, yet most of the action shots are them being bareback

Cannot accommodate would also prevent me from messaging as usually for guys it means “I’m attached” (ofc I realise that’s not always the case)

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

- Joined within the last week and already has twenty pictures up with full face out and nothing more racy than what you'd see on Instagram or Facebook *hint hint*

LvM"

So I think you're referring to fake profiles who have lifted someone else's images from elsewhere...but...generally...what's wrong with no racy photos

I don't have anything racy in public, perhaps the naked scrabble pic but that's more naturist than racy.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Pics of then having unprotected sex

Negativity

Any mention of squirting

Claims of being dominant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you guys see on profiles that makes you think ‘Hmm I think I’ll steer clear’?

It can literally be anything.

A particular photo, a status update, the profile text or the content of a verification.

There's no one thing.

Good photos may mean there's less worry about the text.

A good profile write up may mean more forgiveness for bland photos.

A profile that has something to spark interest will always have more of a chance of getting attention than one that looks like hundreds of others.

The biggest turn off is a complete lack of personality, either in photos and/or text.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they write "women" when they clearly mean "woman".

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"What do you guys see on profiles that makes you think ‘Hmm I think I’ll steer clear’?"

"I don't bite...unless you ask me nicely/want me to"

Using "female" when they mean "woman/women".

A couple that strictly only play together- you do you, but it's not for me.

People who won't kiss.

Couples profiles where it's 100 pics of her and only one of him, from 15 years ago, on holiday at dusk with sunglasses and a hat on, shot from 20 metres away.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

- Joined within the last week and already has twenty pictures up with full face out and nothing more racy than what you'd see on Instagram or Facebook *hint hint*

LvM

So I think you're referring to fake profiles who have lifted someone else's images from elsewhere...but...generally...what's wrong with no racy photos

I don't have anything racy in public, perhaps the naked scrabble pic but that's more naturist than racy. "

That was my point, yes. There's nothing wrong with having tamer pics at all! I was more stating the combination of recently joining, suddenly have a maxed out gallery, and as you said, pictures that looks like they've been lifted from someone socials. They generally don't last long but the flag is still there.

Also, Scrabble looks fun

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance, anyone who appears to believe their value is higher than anyone else... What puts one person above another... Get over yourself and be a better human being

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By *ornyone30Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

420

No pic, no reply.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Apparently clueless what I'd need, in order to assess their suitability as a partner

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Discreet, discrete, discreet yada yada.

Different meanings but probably just spelt wrong.

If it’s in there more than once it means… attached and playing away. Well it does to me

Does to most on here.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Anyone who uses the phrase “Cockwomble”"

Cockwomble

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Looking for ….

And then a list of physical attributes I will never fit into. "

Everyone in here has a preference.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don't think I have any specific red flag but when you read a profile you just know.

I dislike any kind of rules or lists but I have seen it done so creative and funny I really wanted to meet the mind behind that writing - and knew I would instantly like them.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Not too much but:

- overall negativity of bio

- long-long list of T&Cs

- no bi guys

I respect everyone’s preferences but I am sure we will not go anywhere even if we bump into each other in a club if any of the above is in profile. Hence it’s block on my side usually

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

- Status’ emphasising that they’re “receiving lots of messages”

- Profiles that refer to whose they aren’t into in a objectifying or derogatory way

- A long list of demands or stating more what they’re not looking for as opposed to what they are looking for

- A sense of entitlement

- No indication of what they have to offer

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"What do you guys see on profiles that makes you think ‘Hmm I think I’ll steer clear’?

"I don't bite...unless you ask me nicely/want me to"

Using "female" when they mean "woman/women".

A couple that strictly only play together- you do you, but it's not for me.

People who won't kiss.

Couples profiles where it's 100 pics of her and only one of him, from 15 years ago, on holiday at dusk with sunglasses and a hat on, shot from 20 metres away."

That's a new one on me, someone preferring couples who play separately!

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By *omtom21100Man
over a year ago

Fareham/Portchester

Arrogance

Bad grammar

Bad spelling

The “I’m getting too many messages” whine…

You just know really….

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

That's a new one on me, someone preferring couples who play separately!

Been stung in the past with jealousy issues from this kind of couple before (the ones that strictly only play together all of the time). Of course I know this doesn't apply to everyone, but i personally find it an exhausting situation to navigate. Inevitably I will find one of them more attractive than the other, but you have to hide that, and I am exhausted by not wanting one person to feel left out/like the other is getting more attention/better connection/etc etc. Doesn't always rule them out for me, but definitely makes me wary!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Threads containing the words ‘Red Flags’

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

That's a new one on me, someone preferring couples who play separately!

That makes a lot of sense, I appreciate your explanation so much!! I'm always keen to understand other perspectives and dynamics on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t realise the getting lots of messages statuses were so annoying, I’ve written similar before, saying - ‘getting messages from people from all corners of the country, it ain’t gonna work dudes’

That puts people off, huh?

Cool

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By *esmond and Molly JonesCouple
over a year ago

Watford

The ones appealing to an Australian university to not use their content.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I didn’t realise the getting lots of messages statuses were so annoying, I’ve written similar before, saying - ‘getting messages from people from all corners of the country, it ain’t gonna work dudes’

That puts people off, huh?

Cool

I use mine to put people off

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

That puts people off, huh?

Cool

I use mine to put people off

Yeah but…. You’l make an exception for me this one time right? I mean go on you know you want to… I am nice…. Why aren’t you replying…. /cry

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

That puts people off, huh?

Cool

I use mine to put people off

Yeah but…. You’l make an exception for me this one time right? I mean go on you know you want to… I am nice…. Why aren’t you replying…. /cry"

Awww… don’t cry. Do you have Haribo?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

The Sydney University shit

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

I don’t think you can tell until meet and see how you get on. Learnt a lesson recently and missed out big time as got an invite. Was convinced fake profile as looked too good to be true. found out later they genuine nice people. Sadly was too late as they blocked me. Have had fake though and not there when turn up as washing their hair or some other stuff

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"What do you guys see on profiles that makes you think ‘Hmm I think I’ll steer clear’?"

Hopefully I’ve wrote mine in a way that screams this

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

That puts people off, huh?

Cool

Something that's seemingly true on here; practically anything and everything you do puts people off, and similarly, anything and everything you DON'T do... also puts people off.

Or maybe that only really applies to the men.

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

Moaning status updates

Anyone dumb enough to put that Sydney (or any) disclaimer up

Been on over a year & no narrative, pics or veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

420 friendly I’ve even seen people put that they use c0ke openly on their profiles I’m like seriously?!

Bareback pictures just ew!

People who imply they will meet just about anyone just because their in the area and are horny.:

The list goes on

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By *infully_yoursMan
over a year ago

redditch

if i see a phone number,or they give numbers out to quickly,and the offer of c.o.k.e sex which i've had twice this week! no go for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys don't message or I'll block , if I want you I'll find you...ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you guys see on profiles that makes you think ‘Hmm I think I’ll steer clear’?"

Couples profiles that are too forth coming. Male is saying hes straight but my spidy senses are telling me something else.

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

Couples profiles where it's the guy whos only ever available

I mean - do you think we were born yesterday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That puts people off, huh?

Cool

Something that's seemingly true on here; practically anything and everything you do puts people off, and similarly, anything and everything you DON'T do... also puts people off.

Or maybe that only really applies to the men.

Maybe. Or maybe not. No one is everyone’s type regardless of gender x

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Maybe. Or maybe not. No one is everyone’s type regardless of gender x"

What's the saying... 'If you were everyone's cup of tea, you'd be a mug.'

I agree.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

"Couples profiles where it's the guy whos only ever available

I mean - do you think we were born yesterday!"

I came hear to say this. Especially when they’re asking to swap pics / phone w@nk / whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 100% discreet..." but then has the Sydney University bollocks.

So you're discreet but willing to go to court...hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Yeah and guys, pics of your gaping arse.

I may be bi but I don't want to see that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what to do.

Me too. I call Ricky Machado, P.I. and get him to investigate your ass.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Single guys don't message or I'll block , if I want you I'll find you...ffs"

Whays wrong with that? ...saves wasting your time, surely?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

So negative the whole read, who wants somebody who dwells on the negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couples profile with 15 pictures of the man erect and one of the woman's back whilst she gets dressed for work.

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

Bareback

And also an insistence that you MUST send a face pic when their profile has no pics at all

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

I must be really choosey.

THAT must be why I never find a woman to chat to!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couples profile with 15 pictures of the man erect and one of the woman's back whilst she gets dressed for work."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for ….

And then a list of physical attributes I will never fit into. "

As I’m in a much more positive mood, I take this back. After all, I’m a growing boy aren’t I? That what I was told when I was younger.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

Most things but us men still go for it … because we are clowns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex talk.

Referring to themselves as well hung.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Bareback photos on a single profile, no or little blurb, rant statuses, profiles that sound up themselves. There are many things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex talk.

Referring to themselves as well hung.

Do you just rock up to strangers houses without asking about kinks. What is he only want a gum job?

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

When:

Floppy cock pics.. not sure what they’re trying to show

Sentences or the whole profile in capital letters… feels aggressive, like they’re shouting

Can only meet during the day… he’s attached

Discreet… he’s attached

No pics … attached?

Emphasising numerous times NSA, no drama blablabla… he’s attached

Not really into attached people… haha

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By *oufouCouple
over a year ago

Somerset

TEXT

Will fill this in later, poor grammar, 420 friendly, genuine people only (it’s often an irony)…

IMAGES

Dick pics that don’t match, old pics, constantly recycled pics, pics from the web!

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"When I see fun guy,genuine,no drama...

because its usually other way around

Lol. Couldn’t agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex talk.

Referring to themselves as well hung.

Do you just rock up to strangers houses without asking about kinks. What is he only want a gum job? "

I like surprises

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

It’s so difficult to know now what to put in a profile as people see different things different one persons red flag is another’s green go. I guess we just got say who we are and be honest with ourselves and what we want and when reading others be the same like what we read say hi if we don’t then don’t or maybe give it a go and see lol

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Dom"

In my experience, invariably seems to mean "I'm going to be extremely selfish", and often purveyed by people who are not good looking enough to be selfish.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

""Dom"

In my experience, invariably seems to mean "I'm going to be extremely selfish", and often purveyed by people who are not good looking enough to be selfish."

What if it's someone's name?

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Also the bed wank pic.

You know, the one where somebody lying down with a duvet half draped over them has taken a pic of their dick mid-wank in terrible lighting.

Just screams laziness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they say 'not looking for a pen pal' or aggressively stating how straight they are."

Oioioiiii i have to say.. ah... My profile mentions penpals... Simply because although i am a chatterbox, i get bored of people after a while... So yea, lets chat, and chat as long as we can arrange a meet, but if there's no intention of meeting, just chatting... There are other sites for that, and simply, they may just be wasting my time.

So, no.

No penpals.

Next steps could be cam chat,

Meet half way for a social... Or so.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

""Dom"

In my experience, invariably seems to mean "I'm going to be extremely selfish", and often purveyed by people who are not good looking enough to be selfish.

What if it's someone's name"

Collateral damage, Unfortunately.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

420 friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"420 friendly "

Yea, that usually does it for me too.

Although my abroad friends almost all are 420 friendly, guess im just not intending to sleep with them/known them all my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get accused that my profile info is too long, and in reality it really is. I just want people to be informed before they start chatting with me. You know, the whole managing expectations.

However, given that most don’t read my profile any way, I don’t know why I bother.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

(1) To many criteria a person has to fit (absolutely nothing wrong with that but we don't like it)

(2) moaning/negative in there bio

(3) "I get 1000s of messages and often bulk delete" (again nothing wrong with that but it definitely puts us off messaging at all)

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By *dnmartinMan
over a year ago

Hounslow

Just from the profile.

Any references to drugs.

HnH,or such.

Please, you do you, but knowing what I am like, that is a rabbit hole I am not going down.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"I get accused that my profile info is too long, and in reality it really is. I just want people to be informed before they start chatting with me. You know, the whole managing expectations.

However, given that most don’t read my profile any way, I don’t know why I bother.

no profile is to long ...i get moaned at all the time but at the end of the day if a guy cant read a five mins profile then they are not going to be to good between the sheets ..

then they moan they are not going to jump thro hoops to meet and i then have to tell them good i dont want you too thats the point i jump for no one nor should you .. we match or we dont ..get over it..

guys start these type of post so they can avoid this is why i disagree with advice for profiles or advice how to meet or advice where they are going wrong sorry guys but all those things you ask advice for are my filters im not going to help anyone get around them ..

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"‘No baggage’

Everyone does. The fact some wont accept it/don’t know it - concerning."

Well I have never married have no kids always worked . House,car, outside hobbies. I an honestly say I have no baggage. So doing the right thing g all my life makes me a red flag?

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"When I see fun guy,genuine,no drama...

because its usually other way around

So if said neurotic,damaged, Convict that would be more reassuring?

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

People describing themselves as ‘elite’. Each to their own but it sounds big-headed and just puts us off.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"420 friendly "

i have no problems with people who do ''420'' however i view it the same as alcohol it blurs the lines and thats a big big no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People describing themselves as ‘elite’. Each to their own but it sounds big-headed and just puts us off. "

Do people actually do this?!

I'd die of cringe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hung

girthy

daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get accused that my profile info is too long, and in reality it really is. I just want people to be informed before they start chatting with me. You know, the whole managing expectations.

However, given that most don’t read my profile any way, I don’t know why I bother.

I just ready your info, it isnt at all long, and has all the basic info for me to decide if I want to meet you or if i am the sort of person you are looking for.

My profile thingie is rather long too, some would say it is messy, some would say it is interestesting, but most never read it before they send me a msg - so thats a no no right there.

So umm, cool profile

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By *cott73Man
over a year ago

brighton

[Removed by poster at 28/01/23 18:09:04]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get accused that my profile info is too long, and in reality it really is. I just want people to be informed before they start chatting with me. You know, the whole managing expectations.

However, given that most don’t read my profile any way, I don’t know why I bother.

I just ready your info, it isnt at all long, and has all the basic info for me to decide if I want to meet you or if i am the sort of person you are looking for.

My profile thingie is rather long too, some would say it is messy, some would say it is interestesting, but most never read it before they send me a msg - so thats a no no right there.

So umm, cool profile

Well thank you kindly.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

"People describing themselves as ‘elite’. Each to their own but it sounds big-headed and just puts us off.

Do people actually do this?!

I'd die of cringe!"

Seen it a fair few times, yes.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

"hung

girthy

daddy

Yeah - with you on all three!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any usage of the word “mmmmm”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘No baggage’

Everyone does. The fact some wont accept it/don’t know it - concerning.

Well I have never married have no kids always worked . House,car, outside hobbies. I an honestly say I have no baggage. So doing the right thing g all my life makes me a red flag?"

Equating kids with the term baggage doesn’t come across great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles that discount people based on race/colour.

There's been several times when i've received a friend request and when i read the profile that sent it, it excludes an ethnicity that I'm partly connected to. (I'm a mixture of lots of things).

I told this to a friend who jokingly told me that perhaps some people may have a colour chart on their wall..

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Top only"

If they say this during a message exchange or in person it's usually the truth.

If they say this on their profile there's half a chance when I turn up they're wearing their wife's pants/stockings/bra pointing their behind at me asking me to fuck them in the ass.

It's almost like catfishing, you turn up expecting one thing & get the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sarcastic/entitled/complaining status updates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Experienced Dom'...Right you are, on the block list you go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples with photos of just the lady.

Experienced bull

Hot wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are those the things to avoid? I must be colour blind coz I see the flags and just seem to ignore them??

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By *ttentiveRabbitMan
over a year ago

Lymington

420 friendly = you and your house stinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘No baggage’

Everyone does. The fact some wont accept it/don’t know it - concerning.

Well I have never married have no kids always worked . House,car, outside hobbies. I an honestly say I have no baggage. So doing the right thing g all my life makes me a red flag?"

Baggage isn't all about whether you have kids and exes - assuming you have exes, or have you never been in a relationship?

Every one carries around something from their past and/or present.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Profile reads "will fill in later" or "new to this" but they've been on FAB over a year.

Will only meet "exceptional" people. Just screams arrogance.

Self entitlement.

Text speak.

No pics whatsoever.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"People describing themselves as ‘elite’. Each to their own but it sounds big-headed and just puts us off. "

Ah, the one's with a massive ego that will only meet "exceptional" people.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

As usual this has turned into a thread about how to lie on your profile.

Just be honest guys, what is a red flag for one will be just what someone else is looking for.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Consistency has always been my favourite fab word in regard to pics, bio, veries, pm's and forum comments.

My red flag alarm isn't infallible but checking consistency has always worked reasonably well for me and as a result I've never had a no show, been scammed or catfished or engaged with a fake profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate these threads.

Red flags are there for a reason to protect people FFS.

Why teach people how to hide thier undesirable traits, options, attitudes situations etc

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"When:

Floppy cock pics.. not sure what they’re trying to show

Sentences or the whole profile in capital letters… feels aggressive, like they’re shouting

Can only meet during the day… he’s attached

Discreet… he’s attached

No pics … attached?

Emphasising numerous times NSA, no drama blablabla… he’s attached

Not really into attached people… haha

And the essential dick hovering above a toilet bowl in a public convenience picture.

You're right about the cheaters though. FAB Swingers or FAB cheating husbands? It's beginning to feel like the latter these days.

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By *ifewantsmore777Couple
over a year ago

North West

Our pictures being passed of as there’s is usually a big red flag for us

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Hate these threads.

Red flags are there for a reason to protect people FFS.

Why teach people how to hide thier undesirable traits, options, attitudes situations etc

KJ"

I feel the same about responding to "profile advice" threads.

I don't think we should help these people to work out how to get positive responses from established users, they need to work it out for themselves.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Our pictures being passed of as there’s is usually a big red flag for us

I always use the search image with Google lens option. The sheer number of profiles with images nicked of 'tinternet is quite staggering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate these threads.

Red flags are there for a reason to protect people FFS.

Why teach people how to hide thier undesirable traits, options, attitudes situations etc

I feel the same about responding to "profile advice" threads.

I don't think we should help these people to work out how to get positive responses from established users, they need to work it out for themselves. "

Exactly.

It's like when they tell them to remove the 420 reference to increase thier chances er no!

That's a very important red flag for many people. Plus surely they would feel most comfortable with other drug users anyway?

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"When:

Floppy cock pics.. not sure what they’re trying to show

Sentences or the whole profile in capital letters… feels aggressive, like they’re shouting

Can only meet during the day… he’s attached

Discreet… he’s attached

No pics … attached?

Emphasising numerous times NSA, no drama blablabla… he’s attached

Not really into attached people… haha

And the essential dick hovering above a toilet bowl in a public convenience picture.

You're right about the cheaters though. FAB Swingers or FAB cheating husbands? It's beginning to feel like the latter these days."

Totally agree.

Oh yes a cock above the toilet is not sexy lol

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