FabSwingers.com forum: Proof that winking is...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good or completely useless.

No its not a typo. The use of winks is often debated, so help me out with a study.

Did the last wink you received, lead to anything?

Did you ignore, wink back and hear nothing, or possibly currently on a water bed, drinking cocktails with that person, tickling their posterior with a tickle stick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve replied to a wink with a ‘thank you’

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I think couples / women winking men works, single men winking women and couples, rarely ever!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I only open my winks to get rid of the notification. I don't even glance at who has actually winked.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I think I ignored the last one, was from a blank profile. I'll always message if I like what I see though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe if there is a good profile name and photo that wink would be opened . It’s human nature to be curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good found few lady friends via a wank sorry fraudian slip

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By *exleypeteMan
over a year ago

bexleyheath

I alway reply with a thank you

But don't always lead to anything

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"I think couples / women winking men works, single men winking women and couples, rarely ever! "

Pretty much this

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By *ustdaveHantsMan
over a year ago

chippenham

Love a wink. It shows an interest that can and has led to more.

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By *inger_the_NinjaMan
over a year ago

Frome

2 winks often make it permission to message. If I wink someone who I think might be out of my league (most people here) and they wink back, I'll send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent them a message to say thanks. Convo went no where so I stopped replying.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Winks can work.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

My last amazing fab was done by winking. I prefer it myself

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Nope, never look at the winkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last received wink led to nothing as we weren't interested in the chap so didn't respond.

Last wink we sent was a response to a wink we received.

I think it's a useful tool to gauge initial interest before composing a well thought-out message. I operate under the unwritten rule that the winkstigator sends the first message.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I sent them a message to say thanks. Convo went no where so I stopped replying."

Yeah it happens to all us happens to me alot. So now I just wink back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't recall tbh. I only really wink if I feel I don't match the profile ask... But also know that the profile ask isn't the totality of why ppl are here. That and any straight profile viewers.

Only really respond to women and couples that I like. It seems a like warm way of indicating attraction .... But get the power dynamic here is skewed. It's also like responding to a smile irl, I expect to do more actual approaching even if the gal has given me a nod of approval. Or has something in her eye !!

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By *rouble Is My Middle NameWoman
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Totally useless.

Never paid attention to them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever look at them

I find them a waste of time. Send a decent message to capture my attention not a lazy click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at them but rarely reply to them. I did however reply to one this morning as its from a fun forum user and I knew my sarcasm would be appreciated.

NBVN x

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Never look at them. I just bulk delete when I feel like it.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I just... don't understand winks.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Winks are my initial way to express interest to a couple or single woman here. If they wink back I send decent message to open conversation.

It’s a pity to see most ignore winks but equally messages are either ignored or drown in your overflowed inboxes. I am not fan of sending one word message and I don’t see the point to put effort into something that with 99% probably will not be appreciated.

Winks and clubs are the way!

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"Last received wink led to nothing as we weren't interested in the chap so didn't respond.

Last wink we sent was a response to a wink we received.

I think it's a useful tool to gauge initial interest before composing a well thought-out message. I operate under the unwritten rule that the winkstigator sends the first message.

Exactly this, well said

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

On here no don’t even pay any attention to them but a wink in real life from a hot guy makes me go weak at the knees.

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By *inger_the_NinjaMan
over a year ago

Frome

So what works better as an expression of interest, a wink or a fabbed photo?

I'm reluctant to message as first contact because I know women are mostly overwhelmed with messages and I don't want to bombard.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

The last wink I received led to a fantastic mfm evening,

The last 50 winks I have given have led to nothing lol

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"So what works better as an expression of interest, a wink or a fabbed photo?

I'm reluctant to message as first contact because I know women are mostly overwhelmed with messages and I don't want to bombard. "

I personally don't really think either, in honesty?

From what little I know of winks, there's too many different interpretations of what they mean for them to be of any use. And a fabbed pic cooould mean interest, but it could mean they just liked something about that one pic.

But that's just me, guess it's better to message the winker/fabber with a 'HI WHAT DOES THIS MEEEEAN', in capitals, without punctuation, for added drama, love a bit of that

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

" Good or completely useless.

No its not a typo. The use of winks is often debated, so help me out with a study.

Did the last wink you received, lead to anything?

Did you ignore, wink back and hear nothing, or possibly currently on a water bed, drinking cocktails with that person, tickling their posterior with a tickle stick?

Share your story."

OP, I hope you’ll publish research results and your improvement suggestion as outcome of this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very imotive topic. The problem is in the nature of the site. The male to female ratio, the lack of general responsiveness across the board. A wink "should" be seen as an icebreaker to a potentially matching people. It is however used way to frequently so is now commonly ignored. Messaging with an interesting well thought out message is great but can be soul destroying when you never get a reply, or blocked or just deleted.So what do we do. Carry on as we are and accept that a sex site with millions of people is going to end up by becoming a bit of a selfish consuming monster. It's just how base nature sexual instinc works in a throw away society lol

Obviously I don't speak for the many here just us 2 xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I just think they have an eye twitch as even if I wink back, they don't make their move just wink again and again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I just think they have an eye twitch as even if I wink back, they don't make their move just wink again and again! "

Just put that to the test xx

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Will just deletes them, if I notice any before he does I might take a look but rare, guess it depends on my mood, kind of think if they can’t be bothered to message then they would be hard work in the chat.

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By *idsfun555Man
over a year ago

kingsbury

"Sometimes I just think they have an eye twitch as even if I wink back, they don't make their move just wink again and again! "

???? Can't imagine what sends them into twitch mode ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send nudes to all who wink as a sign of gratitude for their remarkable life choices

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Will just deletes them, if I notice any before he does I might take a look but rare, guess it depends on my mood, kind of think if they can’t be bothered to message then they would be hard work in the chat."

They might be thinking a wink is more likely to be seen than a message though because they often get lost amongst others, having said that so do winks

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"So what works better as an expression of interest, a wink or a fabbed photo?

I'm reluctant to message as first contact because I know women are mostly overwhelmed with messages and I don't want to bombard. "

Not sure about other women but I don't look at photo fabs or winks.

If someone wants a response a decent message is the only way.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've had a couple of good meets that started with a wink, I quite like them.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had a couple of good meets that started with a wink, I quite like them.

Mrs "

Can you unblock me so I can wink?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

They might be thinking a wink is more likely to be seen than a message though because they often get lost amongst others, having said that so do winks

We always reply to messages even if late doing so

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

A waste of time sending if you're male

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

They might be thinking a wink is more likely to be seen than a message though because they often get lost amongst others, having said that so do winks

We always reply to messages even if late doing so

Always? That's no doubt a lot of messages to reply to

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Very boring

Send a message it's more likely to get seen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very boring

Send a message it's more likely to get seen

Doubt it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never use them never look at them.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

[Removed by poster at 19/12/22 17:21:16]

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We've had a couple of good meets that started with a wink, I quite like them.

Mrs

Can you unblock me so I can wink?

nope sorry, I'm hiding my pics

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

No. Winks mean nothing on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well a female winked at me 3 days ago,I winked back...

Now thats the end of that

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

It will have been completely useless as we never look at winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many winks to messages do you receive?

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By *entleman69xxMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

I send them but never get any in return

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Good or completely useless.

No its not a typo. The use of winks is often debated, so help me out with a study.

Did the last wink you received, lead to anything?

Did you ignore, wink back and hear nothing, or possibly currently on a water bed, drinking cocktails with that person, tickling their posterior with a tickle stick?

Share your story.

OP, I hope you’ll publish research results and your improvement suggestion as outcome of this thread "

I would do, but not everyone's got the brief, which was, share what happened after you received your last wink?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I look at winks, but tend to ignore then for the most part.

We have had some good meets from a wink, but its the exception not the norm

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

"Very boring

Send a message it's more likely to get seen

Doubt it lol"

You can't still be bitter , it's nearly Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very boring

Send a message it's more likely to get seen

Doubt it lol

You can't still be bitter , it's nearly Christmas

Bah humbug lol

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"… not everyone's got the brief, which was, share what happened after you received your last wink?

Okay, I’ll bite.

My last three winks, all this week, have all gone the same way. I can see from the thread this isn’t normal, but here you go.

A woman winked at me. I looked at her profile and she seems nice. So I winked back. Then she messaged me. I messaged back. We’re still chatting now.

If it wasn’t the holiday season with everyone being crazy busy, I’d have met at least one of these three by now because they’re all miraculously local.

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I have never sent or received a wink. It reminds me of the poke feature on Facebook and only sex pests used that back in the day.

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By *el13ABCMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I always reply to show my gratitude

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Sometimes a wink works, sometimes it doesn't... don't want to loose the function though, do we?!

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Sometimes a wink works, sometimes it doesn't... don't want to loose the function though, do we?!

Like a pirate?

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Sometimes a wink works, sometimes it doesn't... don't want to loose the function though, do we?!

Like a pirate?"

Don't they get their parrots to wink for them?

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Sometimes a wink works, sometimes it doesn't... don't want to loose the function though, do we?!

Like a pirate?

Don't they get their parrots to wink for them?"

How can you tell if a parrot is winking? Their eyes are on the side of their head

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't remember the last time I looked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have responded to winks in the past but as part of a forum game, I usually just delete without even looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks have been really successful for me. I think they do work… I don’t as a rule send first messages but if I wink and get a wink back then I might message…

So far the future looks exciting

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I don't mind winks at all. If i like the look of someone i'll respond to a wink and can lead to chats etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, winks most definately work.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Rarely work for me, but then again neither does writing out nice personalised messages so time saved I suppose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was from a guy. It didn’t lead to anything.

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"It was from a guy. It didn’t lead to anything. "

Yet.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I do find winks useful. They get the ball rolling….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was from a guy. It didn’t lead to anything.

Yet."

Haha. (I actually laughed). Oh, you stole my quote and used it against me. I like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we will look through winks and wink back , other times we just delete them if there’s too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never ever look at them

I find them a waste of time. Send a decent message to capture my attention not a lazy click"

Do you any advice for how to send a decent message to get your attention? I usually mention something about their pics I like or their update status and never attach a dick pic unless they ask. I don’t get any replies and just get deleted or unread

I get as a single guy there’s alot us but how do I stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They work for us , we have no complaints with winks giving or receiving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh yes, winks most definately work.

Wink me back if you want a dick pic I mean face pic

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

I don't mind a wink, I use them to gauge a mutual interest first before messaging.... Plus my opening messages are shit

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

" Good or completely useless.

No its not a typo. The use of winks is often debated, so help me out with a study.

Did the last wink you received, lead to anything?

Did you ignore, wink back and hear nothing, or possibly currently on a water bed, drinking cocktails with that person, tickling their posterior with a tickle stick?

Share your story.

OP, I hope you’ll publish research results and your improvement suggestion as outcome of this thread

I would do, but not everyone's got the brief, which was, share what happened after you received your last wink?

Short answer then is nothing

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

They might be thinking a wink is more likely to be seen than a message though because they often get lost amongst others, having said that so do winks

We always reply to messages even if late doing so

Always? That's no doubt a lot of messages to reply to

No not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had 34 winks since I joined the site , not bad for six years lol !!!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I have had 34 winks since I joined the site , not bad for six years lol !!! "

I won't tell you how many I've had then

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By *urrey SpecialMan
over a year ago

Chertsey

I find myself winking a great deal more these days as it saves everyone a bit of time. If there's no initial interest you can simply move on.

I think as a guy on here you can only send so many messages without replies before it all gets a bit pointless. So at least with a wink you can feel like you tried without having wasted too much time. Nothing ventured nothing gained and all that!

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By *overs4evaCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

I have winked/ been winked and responded leading to a meet

The profile has to catch my eye x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last wink I received was from a couple but it led to nothing as they had no pictures at all so didn’t reply back

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

"I find myself winking a great deal more these days as it saves everyone a bit of time. If there's no initial interest you can simply move on.

So very true, put effort in to that first message as some do say and then when you do even trying to relate it to someone's profile who hasn't a lot go off... either it's unread or just straight up deleted, im finding forums more the alure of this site recently dating apps are out there if I want a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you believe I'm currently on a water bed, drinking cocktails with the last person who winked me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you believe I'm currently on a water bed, drinking cocktails with the last person who winked me

If I'm brutally honest....if its not on Strava it hasn't happened my dear.

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By *orthwhile27Man
over a year ago

dark side of the moon

I rarely get a wink so on the rare occasion I do I'll always say thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look through my winks but I very rarely reply from a wink usually because they are not someone I'm interested in.

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By *kcirtMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

I tend to wink at the singles/couples that I know I have no chance with. Just to show that I think they are hot and not putting anyone in the awkward situation of having to put someone down or waiting for a reply that will never come

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