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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Hi Meli. Hope you’re not too irritated?

I find it helps to take myself out of the situation - “flight” as it were. Then I can have a proper think about it rather than flying off the handle. Then I have a little mantra that helps me every time.

“I never did mind the little things”

Hope that can help a bit but if you need a rant I’ve had the day from hell… quite literally… so feel free to message me for one

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Oh once my irritation itch has been triggered, there’s nothing to do…. I either need to erupt & get it out or sleep.

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Just best to go with flow here. It’s not a real world and some are a pain. Lots of lovely people though. I just take a deep breath and move on. Xxx

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

I try to just focus my mind on something else. Try doing something I enjoy or speaking to a friend. Eventually you just forget about whatever was irritating you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the best method of calming your irk?"

Brutal murder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Flash in the pan with me.

It takes a lot to irritate me, but it comes with a bang and then is gone.

I don't harbour ill feelings either. If someone is really irritating me on a long term basis I cut them out of my life; or I blank it out if it's family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dance

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Irritation. When it flares up, how do you handle it? Are you a sit with it and wait for the emotions to pass sort of person? Do you go from 1-100 in a fit of rage? What's the best method of calming your irk? "

It takes a lot to get me to boiling point, I sit and simmer for a while, but when it does…

Hell hath no fury like a dickhead scorned!

As for calming it down… it depends on whats caused it.

Lego can be a good mood calmer.

Music as well.

Other times a bit of righteous vengeance goes a long way.

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.

Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent…

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Oh, I just nip over to Swingers Chat and by the time I get back here, I'm too horny to remember what I was irritated about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could say I'm always in control of my emotions but hell no. When I'm irritated those who live with me know about it. I do admit to them how I'm feeling so they will give me a wide birth. Recently I have been really trying not to flare up so quickly, count to 10 before I blow, walk out of the room and calm down. It's not always easy, but as I say I'm trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m irritated.

Can I do something about it? Yes? I do that. Stop being irritated. No? No point getting irritated.

I’m done either way in seconds.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I rarely get irritated. In fact it's that long ago I can't remember the last time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to identify the cause and address it. Sometimes the irritation is justified, sometimes its petty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s up Meli?

*gives a big hug…. Your more irritated arnt you?

I snap. It’s like a bomb going off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that depends on what they mean to me

On how I handle the situation

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Meli I have been called the Welsh Dragon in work (I work in England). Once someone pushes my button I go off like a firework. Luckily I work with about 30 truckers and they always bring me yum yums from Greggs the next time they see me. That usually helps.

Not great for my ass fat though!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.

Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent… "

Bottling things up isn’t great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily I never get irritated

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"What's the best method of calming your irk?

Brutal murder."

I mean yeah, this could help. Only if it's done proper folk style, you know worship some ancient pagan deity, be in touch with dark feminine energy...

Chuck in a floral crown and some peculiar chanting in tongue and I'll be a happy soul*

*this is a joke. I would never do such a thing. Murder is bad, kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I'm awful at and need to get better at and it's the same with all my emotions, really. I just feel overwhelmed with it all at once which goes from ranting, getting irritated with other small things that I don't need to get worked up over and then I'm calm and just get on with it. It's honestly exhausting and probably the worst way of dealing with it because even when you're calm, what you've done or even said remains.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Hi Meli. Hope you’re not too irritated?

“I never did mind the little things”

Hope that can help a bit but if you need a rant I’ve had the day from hell… quite literally… so feel free to message me for one

You're a delight Littlebird, I genuinely mean that. Sorry to read you've had the day from hell, that's really rather rubbish.

Might start chanting your mantra. Through gritted teeth counts doesn't it?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Hi Meli. Hope you’re not too irritated?

“I never did mind the little things”

Hope that can help a bit but if you need a rant I’ve had the day from hell… quite literally… so feel free to message me for one

You're a delight Littlebird, I genuinely mean that. Sorry to read you've had the day from hell, that's really rather rubbish.

Might start chanting your mantra. Through gritted teeth counts doesn't it?"

Oh sweetheart. Just say it. I promise it will help

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Oh once my irritation itch has been triggered, there’s nothing to do…. I either need to erupt & get it out or sleep."

Sleeping is good. But when you're rather... grrrr how do you sleep? I've taken myself to bed. Like a petulant child. The poor fiancé must be one step away from sending me to a nunnery.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It really depends what it is. I can go from zero to red mist if it's really irritating. Other times I just stop, take a breath and ask myself if it's really that important.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation. "

Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.

I'm trying to be better by posting it into this random void of horny, bored or poo-ing people. I can almost predict what my friends will say if I message them. So instead it's on here and it's kind of stopping it becoming a Big Thing.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation.

Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.

Become a Domme and take it out on your subs!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Flash in the pan with me.

It takes a lot to irritate me, but it comes with a bang and then is gone.

I don't harbour ill feelings either. If someone is really irritating me on a long term basis I cut them out of my life; or I blank it out if it's family. "

See, this is quite a rational, mature response. The sort of calm logic I wish I had. I'm not sure if it's the Italian blood but I feel emotions far too keenly. Not harbouring ill wishes is very healthy - they don't serve you or them. So you need to find a way to move past it.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

It takes a lot to get me to boiling point, I sit and simmer for a while, but when it does…

Hell hath no fury like a dickhead scorned!

As for calming it down… it depends on whats caused it.

Lego can be a good mood calmer.

Music as well.

Other times a bit of righteous vengeance goes a long way. "

Righteous vengeance. Do you have a playlist for that sort of mood?

I think there's a natural tipping point isn't there? There's only so much a person can take before they just... snap.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Flash in the pan with me.

It takes a lot to irritate me, but it comes with a bang and then is gone.

I don't harbour ill feelings either. If someone is really irritating me on a long term basis I cut them out of my life; or I blank it out if it's family.

I've always been this way. I'm not much of an arguer because not much pisses me off, and I can hold my temper.

Once I pop though all hell is unleashed-for about a minute-and then I'm cool again.

Being angry takes up too much of my emotional energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation.

Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.

I hope whatever is going on it all works out for you lovely

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

I thought this was regarding advice on soothing creams and ointments!

I'm quite easy. If someone irritates me then normally il just shrug it off and forget it.

I'm generally fine with any online abuse but if my wife and I have a big argument, 99 times I ignore it and just annoy her by not caring... but otherwise il probably lock myself in the bathroom and sob my little eyes out in secret then all is well again.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.

Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent… "

Do you ever angry cry? It's a particularly irritating habit of mine.

Like I can't quite process or get out all these emotions so instead my brain thinks "I know, I'll make her cry, sure she read it's cathartic somewhere".

I've already not picked up one call so I don't vent unfairly because my instinctive response and heightened emotions might result in me not being fair. So I'm going to sit and post crap on here. And hope that people I fancy don't read this and think fuck no.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

It takes a lot to get me to boiling point, I sit and simmer for a while, but when it does…

Hell hath no fury like a dickhead scorned!

As for calming it down… it depends on whats caused it.

Lego can be a good mood calmer.

Music as well.

Other times a bit of righteous vengeance goes a long way.

Righteous vengeance. Do you have a playlist for that sort of mood?

I think there's a natural tipping point isn't there? There's only so much a person can take before they just... snap."

I think so.

Too many entitled people get away with their behaviour because people are afraid to act. People need ro realise that their actions have consequences.

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

I think I store things up.

So I can ignore really bad or nasty stuff 99 times out of 100 then 1 little thing makes me go bat shit crazy

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I am a slow burn type of person, it will irk me for a bit, before I go from 0 to 10000.

As for calming me down, no idea how to do that now. Years ago. I would thrash the bike. After a few miles, you get it out of your system and start to ride the bike nicely.

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

I tend to go off and cry and/or bottle things up.

Unless I’m confronted… then I will vent…

Do you ever angry cry? It's a particularly irritating habit of mine.

Like I can't quite process or get out all these emotions so instead my brain thinks "I know, I'll make her cry, sure she read it's cathartic somewhere".

Oh god yes! I do the angry cry… the frustrated cry… the fuck you, you asshole cry

It’s weird but once I’ve cried I do feel better… lighter. And can process things more clearly.

And it’s good to take time out for yourself… be selfish! I’m trying to do this more as I tend to let my emotions get the better of me.

Nothing wrong with posting crap either… and my inbox is always open if you need to vent… I’m a pretty good listener and can (occasionally) offer advice that isn’t total bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it out on the cleaning!! I can clean really fast if I'm pissed off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i reach tipping point i try to do something physical, like digging, walking, listening to music or dancing... I try to reframe my perspective and take a breath... Usually it works... But the underlying annoyance must be dealt with at some point

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I put a good finger of sudocrem on it and try to resist the itching for the night.

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

A cigarette and a couple of Diazepam.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'm so much less fiery than I used to be. Nowadays I tend to just tell people bluntly that they're irritating me and why. I'm happy to discuss it calmly, but I'm going to let them know that I think they're being an arse.

It's a rare occasion when I lose my rag, but when I do I explode... I have a long fuse, but a viscous temper. If I get to that point I need to let it out, then take myself off to calm down alone.

I have angry cried at work...I told my ex boss that I wasn't upset, it was just the sheer effort of not headbutting him because he wasn't worth getting sacked over.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I have no limits once I'm angry, but it happens exceptionally rarely. I can think of two occasions in my life.

Most of the time, I feel no more than icy, Parnassian contempt, Nietzsche-style, for the mouth-breathing, oxygen-thieving, crawling, slack-jawed üntermenschen who try to thwart me.

Ahem. That's actually a little better. Thank you for the opportunity, Meli. Hope your irritation fades like a winter frost in spring sunshine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be that person who flew off the handle pretty quickly. It took me a long time to change that and I'm a lot more chilled these days. I've learnt to take a breath, pick my battles and not to react to things based on my own expectations. If something has really irritated me I will voice it later on when my heads clear and not in that moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not very good at hiding it if I’m irritated. It usually ends up with me erupting if I can’t get myself out of the situation.

Ach, eruptions aren't good but they are understandable.

But if you feel it's a Big Thing, then it is. Why would your friends invalidate your feelings? You can be irritated or angry or sad or really fucking annoyed if you want to.

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Angerwank

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Angerwank

Yeah, this helped.

I also took myself off and ignored everyone while watching a horror film. And it's a new day so I'm less... *teeth gnashing*. Thank you for all the lovely advice and insight into how you manage things echo chamber residents.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I'm like the Hulk, always angry so my emotions are always in a state of high anxiety.

I'm definitely going to drop dead before much longer.

I find cat cuddles and strokes help and I don't mean stroking your lovely lady pussy,but if it helps

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I try focus on something else, usually music on and stress clean.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

parenthood has tought me control on this!

deap breathes... undetstand what you can.. and smile

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If it's a person that's irritated me, I'll usually let them know and why.

I can usually shrug it off after that.

I annoy myself if I seethe, so try not to

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

I grind my teeth to powder and curse the human race !!

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