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By *obdacoys OP Man
over a year ago

Rochester

I néed a bit of help/advice this is not an attention seeking post I just feel low and shit.. I feel like no one is interested in me I wemt out tonight not 1 look in my direction.. I mean am I ugly am I too short what is it about me??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I néed a bit of help/advice this is not an attention seeking post I just feel low and shit.. I feel like no one is interested in me I wemt out tonight not 1 look in my direction.. I mean am I ugly am I too short what is it about me?? "

You have to be confident when you go out, even if you don't feel it. Smile and chat to people.

I note that your profile says both five foot nine and five don't five. You may want to amend that

Some people have issues with height but not all.

Fab is notoriously difficult for men. Just read the forum!

Missy x

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By *obdacoys OP Man
over a year ago

Rochester

Thanks for the reply I try to caht to people I just struggle with confidence to be honest lol

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

No, you are not ugly. And you are not too short.

You're hundreds of miles away from us. But if we'd seen you out tonight, I'm not sure we would have approached you, but if you had approached us, Alice would have been delighted.

And I would have been getting a taxi home on my own!

I'm sorry you're feeling low.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

All we can do is be ourselves, and learn to love ourselves.

We're not all the life and soul of the party.

Find the positives in life and seek some professional help if you're struggling.

Best wishes OP.

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

You feel like no one is interested??

What is it that makes you feel that??

Did you attempt to approach anyone to talk etc??

Possibly women there that feel the same as you do but haven't got the confidence either!

Maybe you expectations for this evening were to high!?

Confidence is very attractive to many, being able to chat make them laugh is always a winner also!

Sitting in the dark waiting to be approached, you gonna be in for a long wait!

Go out and don't expect anything and then if something happens it’s a bonus!

Don't feel shit and low because one night you didn't get looked at! There’s gonna be plenty more! So go out make them look! Chin up

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

you are not ugly or too short.

Lots of people feel low at this time of year for various reasons, (festives always bring me down) I hope you feel better soon x

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By *obdacoys OP Man
over a year ago

Rochester

Thank you for your messages x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

U are no way ugly! I would say total opposite infact! Keep ur chin up! Have u tried any of the pub group socials? Good way of meeting people? X

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

Nothing wrong with you fella.

On fab there`s countless men for people to choose from.

Also going down the pub,likelihood people was looking at you, but you may not have noticed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Precious.

If you want people to pay you attention. Give them a fucking reason to.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Ask yourself. Why are you letting other people define your happiness? . Fuck people! So what if no birds have eyed you up, is it really worth crying over ? Get yourself out there today and do the thing you enjoy the most. Don’t go hunting for happiness because you’ll never find it.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let’s be positive Guys

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By *obdacoys OP Man
over a year ago

Rochester

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin "

Haha OK mate ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin

Haha OK mate ??"

Not really.

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By *obdacoys OP Man
over a year ago

Rochester

That's a shame

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

No your not ugly, I went through a phase where I though I was invisible

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"No your not ugly, I went through a phase where I though I was invisible "
which one of you?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Hey this place can make you feel that you're invisible but you have to have the confidence and wherewithal to see it through its nothing to do with height unless you approach tall women

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

Confidence is the key.

You've got 1 body,you cant change it.

Learn to love it. Smile at people, say hi

Everyone has insecurities, not everyone is perfect but everyone is unique.

Love what you have, the minute you do others will too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are busy in their own lives. It means nothing if they don’t look. They didn’t look as much as you’ve probably not looked at a whole host of people going about their every day life today and every day. As others have said, talk to people. It’s not always easy but 99% of people are good people and happy to be talked too. There will be plenty going forward who it’s worth persevering more than that with.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Precious.

If you want people to pay you attention. Give them a fucking reason to.

Why u being unkind? X

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Precious.

If you want people to pay you attention. Give them a fucking reason to.

"
harsh

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin "

Are you for real?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

OP you are bloody tasty!!! Guarantee I'd have been perving - Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin

Are you for real?"

Yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’ve got a cul sec I’ll do you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin

Are you for real?

Yes? "

Is this the confidence people tell me about, and the sense of humour women will crave ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only because you feel low and shit you are thinking your ugly and short.

Confidence comes and goes for some, and you’ll feel different on a different day. Just imagine how you’d have felt if a hot chic would have chatted you up, you’d have felt ten feet tall (that was intended ).

You look normal, but you sound like you need to lift yourself up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be worse, you could be a slut!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Is this about you going out or are you looking for advice re not getting interest on here?

If the former? When i go out I don't expect people to be looking at me. Even when I was single I didn't. If I was in the mood I'd be proactive and try and strike up conversations with others, not sit and wait for them to make the first move.

If you want profile advice you'll have to ask for it because them's the rules on here.

And as DM's have already been mentioned - keep it to the thread please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Precious.

If you want people to pay you attention. Give them a fucking reason to.

You're so two faced. Why act supportive in another thread yet be like this here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a slippery slope when you let this scene effect your confidence. You can't be everyone's cup of tea but you need to be confident in who you are and what you've got to offer. Once you start to feel that, others see it too and you give off the right energy to people.

Don't let people's preferences dictate your self esteem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Precious.

If you want people to pay you attention. Give them a fucking reason to.

You're so two faced. Why act supportive in another thread yet be like this here? "

Im sure of it had been a woman posting this thread, he'd have been infinitely more sympathetic and supportive.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Precious.

If you want people to pay you attention. Give them a fucking reason to.

Wow... Nice.!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin "

Why come here and be nasty to people? Not necessary nor is it needed.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

You look good looking to me OP (albeit I’m not your target market), keep your chin up and tomorrow is another day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin

Why come here and be nasty to people? Not necessary nor is it needed. "

Maybe the op sent a nasty dm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin "

To quote others...'wow'.

Well you showed your true colours this morning, didn't you.

Ps..its gold at the end of the rainbow.

The Emerald City is at the end of the yellow brick road.

If you are going to be nasty and insulting, at least get it right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You feel like no one is interested??

What is it that makes you feel that??

Did you attempt to approach anyone to talk etc??

Possibly women there that feel the same as you do but haven't got the confidence either!

Maybe you expectations for this evening were to high!?

Confidence is very attractive to many, being able to chat make them laugh is always a winner also!

Sitting in the dark waiting to be approached, you gonna be in for a long wait!

Go out and don't expect anything and then if something happens it’s a bonus!

Don't feel shit and low because one night you didn't get looked at! There’s gonna be plenty more! So go out make them look! Chin up

^ 100% this…… you’ll do ok OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin

Why come here and be nasty to people? Not necessary nor is it needed.

Maybe the op sent a nasty dm? "

Exactly this! I bet the OP for the thread isn’t going to set it straight what they pm’d to warrant this public reply, though.

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

I am pretty sure I am less confident than you but I have met a few from here.

The thing is on here there are literally 1000s of men many with 6 packs and built like gladiators so we all struggle to stand out in looks alone.

You just have to show something different. Maybe original imaginative photos or if you message someone try to make it personalised and not sound generic and always attach a pic.

I have never ever had confidence to smile at or chat to a woman in a pub or club.yet I have slept with over 100 women and believe me I'm just average looking.

If you see someone you like on here don't message them something because you want to fuck them just message them something to make them smile and if they reject you just move on.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. You don't look a bad looking guy what I can see behind those sunglasses.

Not everyone is looking for an administrator. Some of us want a nice ordinary guy that sends decent messages and they feel comfortable with. There's far more average looking people on here than super models

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Hey OP... sorry to see you are feeling this way.

I have looked at your pic and think you are a good looking guy.

Your height would not be an issue for me.

If I was out and about and we caught each others eye, I'd happily have a chat.

As has been said confidence is attractive and if you are not feeling that way, well maybe that comes through.

Try not to be disheartened. Go out have a good time, let that shine through. That is attractive x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh and op. My son is just over 5ft 5 and he's never been short of girlfriends. Girls used to think of him as cute in his younger days

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Lionel Messi is only 5ft 7" and I saw his wife on TV yesterday and she's a hottie.

So obviously height doesn't stop people getting a woman at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im 5’ 6. Just gotta rock what ya got op.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

"Lionel Messi is only 5ft 7" and I saw his wife on TV yesterday and she's a hottie.

So obviously height doesn't stop people getting a woman at all.

You mean the world famous and multi-millionaire Lionel Messi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks op for sending a DM to me.

I think its probably your awful attitude due to your short man syndrome. Or just that you're short and people can't see you down there.

But its Christmas and there's hopefully gold at the end of the yellow brick road you munchkin

Why come here and be nasty to people? Not necessary nor is it needed.

Maybe the op sent a nasty dm? "

Maybe he did, in response to this...?

'Precious.

If you want people to pay you attention. Give them a fucking reason to.'

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Lionel Messi is only 5ft 7" and I saw his wife on TV yesterday and she's a hottie.

So obviously height doesn't stop people getting a woman at all.

You mean the world famous and multi-millionaire Lionel Messi?"

So tell me debbie. What first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Lionel Messi is only 5ft 7" and I saw his wife on TV yesterday and she's a hottie.

So obviously height doesn't stop people getting a woman at all.

You mean the world famous and multi-millionaire Lionel Messi?"

That's him.

Short guy. Hot wife.

Nothing is impossible.....

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Spending your night out monitoring who's looking at you is such a waste of time.

Think about why your brain is focussed internally on these thoughts instead of enjoying the moment for what it is. Is it anxiety or low confidence? Can you do anything to address those issues?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to come at this from a different angle.. Maybe just maybe some places & situations aren't for you? If you're trying too hard to be something you're not, you'll give off an awkward vibe. None of us are 'better' or 'worse' than the next person but if we're not aligned with our true selves (be that extrovert, introvert or whatever 'vert.. short, tall) we'll constantly find ourselves butting against everything. You should perhaps look into who you really are, what you really want. Just be you and you'll attract other 'you's.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

This site is brutal for any man coming with an expectation of a meet. Have fun on the forums and only send messages to those whose profile you match.

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