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More dominant or more submissive?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When it comes to sex, which side do you veer on the most? Prefer being in control or having them take the lead?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I wouldn't consider myself to be either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominant I like to think but the right guy gets me submitting

-Chrissy

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Switch because I’m greedy and want to have my cake and eat it too

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Dominant, I like to lead

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends. I don't think I really identify as either, I like fucking and I like the myriad of responses each lover elicits in me.

Sometimes I want to pull their hair as we kiss, or guide their face as a cock fucks it, or bite into their flesh or edge them, other times I want to be erm... well facefucked. Spanked/bitten. Marked and...(redacted for rude stuff). So yes, it varies a lot.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I’d say generally on the submissive side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both, really depends on who it’s with. Sometimes I like being a more in control, watching how much pleasure they are getting from what I’m doing to them, teasing and seeing them desperate to cum turns me on massively.

Other times I like being dominated. Being restrained , spanked , hair being pulled etc etc. I’m away for a lie down I think I’m in heat today

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"A bit of both, really depends on who it’s with. Sometimes I like being a more in control, watching how much pleasure they are getting from what I’m doing to them, teasing and seeing them desperate to cum turns me on massively.

Other times I like being dominated. Being restrained , spanked , hair being pulled etc etc. I’m away for a lie down I think I’m in heat today "

I'm in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A bit of both, really depends on who it’s with. Sometimes I like being a more in control, watching how much pleasure they are getting from what I’m doing to them, teasing and seeing them desperate to cum turns me on massively.

Other times I like being dominated. Being restrained , spanked , hair being pulled etc etc. I’m away for a lie down I think I’m in heat today "

And....how do you tease now?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really sure to be honest. I think I may lean more on the submissive side as I get pleasure from giving it so always want to do things they like and enjoy. Although I have heard the viewpoint that it may make me more dominant as I like being in control of their pleasure. It all just condlfuses me to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With men I'm usually submissive but doesn't have to be every time.

With women I find I end up being the dominant one. Would love to meet a lady that could take me in hand sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominant

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I don't pigeonhole myself and like to mix it up. I like to be picked up, thrown around, butt slapped, hair pulled, called a slut etc. but then will turn it on a sixpence and take control myself. Have had experiences with both a very dominant guy and a very submissive one - neither were my cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not really sure to be honest. I think I may lean more on the submissive side as I get pleasure from giving it so always want to do things they like and enjoy. Although I have heard the viewpoint that it may make me more dominant as I like being in control of their pleasure. It all just condlfuses me to be honest "

I think it’s about the way you like to give the other pleasure. Having a woman sit on your face as you bring her to orgasm is seen as more submissive than maybe having her blindfolded while using different toys to give her pleasure. Either way it doesn’t really matter as long as you’re enjoying it.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

It totally depends on the meet. I'm quite happy being a switch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More dominant but also like to please with the right woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not really sure to be honest. I think I may lean more on the submissive side as I get pleasure from giving it so always want to do things they like and enjoy. Although I have heard the viewpoint that it may make me more dominant as I like being in control of their pleasure. It all just condlfuses me to be honest

I think it’s about the way you like to give the other pleasure. Having a woman sit on your face as you bring her to orgasm is seen as more submissive than maybe having her blindfolded while using different toys to give her pleasure. Either way it doesn’t really matter as long as you’re enjoying it. "

Ah that makes a lot of sense to be honest, in that case I think I definitely lean more towards the submissive side but can have some dominant traits depending what they're into such as spanking, hair pulling etc.

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Neither, just the sex part of sex please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im definitely more on the submissive side

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By *mmortalValkyrieWoman
over a year ago

From a galaxy far far away

I’m dominant with women…but in a sensual Domme way…. With sub guys…. I’m very dominant…

With an Alpha Daddy Dom Male….. I’m putty in His Hands…… but I’d never tell him that

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

More dominant. It’s rare a women is dominant with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More submissive in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm good with either of those roles. Just not so keen on anything more wishy washy in the middle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say on the submissive side

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Just love fluidity! One moment I slap his face as I ride him for my pleasure, the next he has me pinned down and fucking me senseless.. Just greedy I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it comes to sex, which side do you veer on the most? Prefer being in control or having them take the lead?

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What about you op?

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Just love fluidity! One moment I slap his face as I ride him for my pleasure, the next he has me pinned down and fucking me senseless.. Just greedy I guess "

Why? Don't you like him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll never guess.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Neither really but definitely not submissive.

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By *ubikslongswordMan
over a year ago

Rubiksville

I'm definitely more dominant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

70/30

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them to do what I tell them to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About half/half

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

It's all in the username for meeeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definately more submissive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably submissive but that comes from lack of experience.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

Definitely more left of the slash. I find it difficult to trust enough to give up control. I like to be in control of the situation, but it really does depend on the individual how far that goes.

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
over a year ago

Midlands

Im submissive to women and well hung men, can be a bit domme with cuck hubbies or t girls

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Uhhhhhm.

I have completely different dynamics with different people. I occasionally like being dominated, I'm not sure I'm all that submissive though

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

100% sub but only with the correct partner so I choose wisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a switch

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"When it comes to sex, which side do you veer on the most? Prefer being in control or having them take the lead?

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I'm a switch. It depends on the day and my mood to be honest. I usually let the men lead with the kissing and touching but I often soon can take over after a few minutes and often get under their clothes before they can get under mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No question about it, girl or guy I'm a sub.

So freeing and makes me feel so primally wanted.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"Just love fluidity! One moment I slap his face as I ride him for my pleasure, the next he has me pinned down and fucking me senseless.. Just greedy I guess

Why? Don't you like him? "

Oh I more than like him!!

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Not extreme in either, like most Librans I sit on the fence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not everyone is dom or sub - many of us enjoy an equal balance and as we do we like to give a bit of direction to ensure the other person is in tune with the sexual mood that day.... sometimes its as simple as "would you like your cock sucked" or a simple "I'd love you to eat my pussy" balance all the way we say...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on my partner at the time. I'm not naturally submissive or overly dominant I just know what I like.

If someone can bring out my sub side as it is there then we'll I can be pretty sub.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We are both flip of a sort. I am not sub with other men. Only john gets that. But i can flip with ladies but prefer to be both in a really horny meet with them. John is predominantly top but will flip for the right guy. Jo.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"not everyone is dom or sub - many of us enjoy an equal balance and as we do we like to give a bit of direction to ensure the other person is in tune with the sexual mood that day.... sometimes its as simple as "would you like your cock sucked" or a simple "I'd love you to eat my pussy" balance all the way we say..."

Agree.

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By *trongbobMan
over a year ago

rochester

Definitely a sub here

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Traditionally the brat and masochist tendencies would indicate I was on the submissive side, but mostly I prefer to play with people as equals. Sometimes I like hands around my throat and being fucked down to size, sometimes I like to pin my partner down and tease and edge for hours, but nothing is ever a given, everything is determined by the mood and dynamic of the moment.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’m dominant and C is submissive although C has found she quite likes switching when playing with another woman.

Much to the surprise of both of us

K

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Dominant by nature/instinct, but believe it can depend on the other person, the vibe and the energy within the dynamic. More than happy with neutral sex, too.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Dominant, entirely. If I could be a little submissive occasionally it would probably make me a more effective Dominant, but, like when I tried to be bi, it just doesn't take. It's not just a bedroom thing, either. Not even mostly.

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By *ark eyesMan
over a year ago

city center

I tend towards submissive but I am a switch so it's mood and vibe dependent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I claim to be submissive but I'm actually just lazy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I’m getting older sexual appetite getting worse a lot of kinks and want to do so oi you get yourself over hear

So dominant tends to start with kissing snogging that’s when usually take over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fuck knows

depends who what and when

so many fucking labels... i prefer to just be

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I like to take the lead, I just love the feel of someone who's completely put themselves my hands. I not however comfortable putting myself in others hands. I'm also quite sadistic when it comes to kink. Which may seem odd being such a pleasant guy but hey its always the people you least expect right? I get a lot enjoyment out of playful sadism. My cheif enjoyment is letting bratty types fall into their own traps and be the instigators of their downfall. Irony, creativity and surprises plays a big part in my play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen. "

oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'm not submissive.

I like to orchestrate the passionate interludes, taking charge and coaxing my partner, whilst 'listening' to her reactions and bodily responses.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.

oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt "

That's ok, it's normal for me and if I am the dominant one in the room, you'll know it, and do as you're told

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

When I (female) was first on fab I was submissive, but over the 11 years my Dom side has developed to the point that I will switch, depending on my mood or who I am am playing with. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub I deal with being the dominant type everyday.its a fantastic change.

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

Definitely much more sub happy to be lead astray by a man or couple

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Domme in my BDSM life. My sex life depended on who I'm with and my mood. More equal I'd say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll never guess."

Lol could be tricky to work out xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen. "

Well as gorgeous as you are I definatley wouldnt, taking immediate control from the moment we meet, tall or short doesnt bother me when in dom mode i will be in charge x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo dom here, in either my bdsm life or vanilla life xx

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

I’m not into fucking, don’t like it so that means i am totally into submission . Being humiliated is What i’m into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone tell me What submissive means? Because I don’t know.

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By *otallysmoothMan
over a year ago

Telford

More sub, will do as guy requires, within reason though not sure I could be in charge.

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By *dventurous.biMan
over a year ago

Funcorn

I've definitely got a bit of both. I like to role play too so things can get very interesting.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Can someone tell me What submissive means? Because I don’t know. "

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It's when a "Submariner" writes a very long letter to a loved one. That letter is known as a "Missive".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.

oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt

That's ok, it's normal for me and if I am the dominant one in the room, you'll know it, and do as you're told "

Lol no chance

You do as your told handcuffs and whip ready you on Santas naughty list

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By *arkcrystalMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Switch if that's ok.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a switch, but I almost always end up topping because I'm massive and always look and sound furious even when I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone tell me What submissive means? Because I don’t know.

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It's when a "Submariner" writes a very long letter to a loved one. That letter is known as a "Missive"."

and this shows why I never knew.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i (k)prefer to be submissive but i do sometimes switch with others we play with but S is always Dominant to me and others.

k

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.

Well as gorgeous as you are I definatley wouldnt, taking immediate control from the moment we meet, tall or short doesnt bother me when in dom mode i will be in charge x"

Where have you been all my life?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I can switch, but In girl mode I’m mainly submissive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can someone tell me What submissive means? Because I don’t know. "

A person who agrees to submit or give up control in a relationship, scene, or activity.

Source kinktionary

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a switch, but I almost always end up topping because I'm massive and always look and sound furious even when I'm not. "

No

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I can be either but I like being overpowered. A lot!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Btw SPOILER ALERT I'm more dominant I'm afraid and will only let the sexiest dominant women tie me to a chair xox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can be either but I like being overpowered. A lot! "

Can do!

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"I can be either but I like being overpowered. A lot!

Can do!"

Merry Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fuck knows

depends who what and when

so many fucking labels... i prefer to just be"

Very much this… Fair to say, depends on the person but I tend to submissive with the right one

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I'm a switch, but I almost always end up topping because I'm massive and always look and sound furious even when I'm not.

No "

"No" what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always in charge but I don't want to be. I have only met a couple of guys who can actually take the lead from me, the others talk the talk but when they walk in to all 6ft 2 of me in my heels, lingerie, and naturally authoritative nature, they melt very quickly and its me in charge. I would love nothing more than to just relax and let the man take the lead, but it just doesn't happen.

oh my. I’d do whatever you asked me too…sorry im with the guys who would melt

That's ok, it's normal for me and if I am the dominant one in the room, you'll know it, and do as you're told "

Yes ma'am

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Dominant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominant always and rough too

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By *tead88Man
over a year ago

nine elms

Depends on the circumstances entirely!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Bit of both, I do enjoy tieing up the Mr and allowing him to cum when I'm ready, I don't like being tied up or restrained myself though but do enjoy him taking control at times.

Mrs

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By *idwalescymruMan
over a year ago

welshpool

Sometimes this will generally depend on your partner or who your with.

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By *ivelife02Man
over a year ago

Portchester

100% dom, always have been. Nothing better than the satisfied look on their faces.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Neither and both.

Why do people think that everything in life is binary?

I don't have to choose......... So many other factors both physical , mental and emotional ( that's both +1 ) come into play at all times.

Sometimes I will , sometimes I won't , sometimes I want sommat that I didn't want the other day .......... now stop with the daft Q's

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"100% dom, always have been. Nothing better than the satisfied look on their faces."

Well I'm chortlin' if that's any indication of my thoughts n feelings.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'm a dominant personality but not a dom, make of that what you will, not that you're interested in my answer

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I'm a dominant personality but not a dom, make of that what you willy, not that you're interested in my answer "

He said willy too ^

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I'm a dominant personality but not a dom, make of that what you willy, not that you're interested in my answer

He said willy too ^"
lol

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"I'm a dominant personality but not a dom, make of that what you will, not that you're interested in my answer "

I'm interested, and this is a good point. For me, I'm quietly dominant, in terms of control, taking the lead, etc, in life and in the bedroom. But often, someone whose life involves a lot of responsibility craves to hand that over in one limited but important area. And vice versa, of course.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I'm a dominant personality but not a dom, make of that what you will, not that you're interested in my answer

I'm interested, and this is a good point. For me, I'm quietly dominant, in terms of control, taking the lead, etc, in life and in the bedroom. But often, someone whose life involves a lot of responsibility craves to hand that over in one limited but important area. And vice versa, of course."
Of course i agree but in the bedroom I'm all about her pleasure but in a I'll do what you want me to kind of way

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

She is the dominant one but has masochist tendencies; he is the submissive (to her) one who is quite the sexual sadist.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"She is the dominant one but has masochist tendencies; he is the submissive (to her) one who is quite the sexual sadist."

Another really good point, yes! Dominant doesn't always track with sadistic, nor submissive with masochistic. I'm not remotely sadistic. At least, not physically.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london


"When it comes to sex, which side do you veer on the most? Prefer being in control or having them take the lead?

"

100% submisive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know how to spell submissive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who I'm fucking and what switch on me they're flipping.

I'm equally adept at taking orders as well as dishing them out!

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Am sub bi guy just love being fucked and spanking

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Neither regarding sex, I'm quite vanilla and have equal sensual partners

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Can't stand dominant men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m more of a sub, T more of a Dom but not in the actual sense, T just tends to take the lead more often than not

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lean towards bottom/sub unless I'm feeling bratty!

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Neither, or both - depends entirely upon mood and my lover(s)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% sub, always.

not a domme bone in my body Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not get on well with a submissive man in life or the bedroom

I'm assertive and i know what i want...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely sub,

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By *illxxMan
over a year ago

motherwell

I am definitely on the dom side of things but it’s got to be with a willing partner I don’t assert myself on someone that’s not into being submissive

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I (Mrs R) am definitely more on the sub side. I prefer to be taken control of rather than be the one in control and as part of that I particularly like being tied up. If there is something I want Mr R to do I will say to him and he will do it, although often not right away. He will tease me by making me wait knowing its something I want.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

With other's we're neither, just fun times..

Between us, well no one likes the same meal every time and as we feel

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By *uminmyhole69Man
over a year ago

-

Like to be submissive with guys but take tend to take control with women though depends if the woman wants to dominate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither.. it seems everyone labels themselves one or thr other.. im just neither

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Bot of both if mood is right... but...I enjoy myself more when I'm a sub.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

neither as I dont see myself as sub/dom with sex .. I just see it as mutual experience ... I think many people mistake passive / active sex roles with sub/dom roles which are different things entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"neither as I dont see myself as sub/dom with sex .. I just see it as mutual experience ... I think many people mistake passive / active sex roles with sub/dom roles which are different things entirely "

See its this exactly. Glad it's mot just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both people who want each other to have the most amazing orgasms, because of that we are both happy to be in charge of the other person, we both lead and we both submit.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I’m a bit of both I guess, really depends on who you’re with and how the dynamic is between you both.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham


"When it comes to sex, which side do you veer on the most? Prefer being in control or having them take the lead?

"

I am totally sub.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Im grateful… is that an answer?? Deeply grateful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both submissive.

Definitely need the guy we meet to suggest and take control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo Dom, love to take control

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow


"Switch because I’m greedy and want to have my cake and eat it too "

Finding that to be the case!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominant leaning, but happy to surrender to the right partner.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

All Dom no switch here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it really depends on who I'm with, but I do enjoy being sub to demanding dom lady sometimes;)

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I'm rather submissive. I like a man (or woman for that matter) to have their way with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lean more on the sub side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"neither as I dont see myself as sub/dom with sex .. I just see it as mutual experience ... I think many people mistake passive / active sex roles with sub/dom roles which are different things entirely "

Good point! Even many 'dom' types seem to want to be led from the bottom too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both and, often preferably, neither. Or like switchy back and forth even in the moment with a person it works like that with.

Prefer to play with others who don't have particularly fixed ideas on the matter. If they do then definitely not into chaps who only want to dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More a natural Dom than the types who claim to be you Uber Dom and Master

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% submissive for me , it isnt easy to find compatibility because variety is the preference for most

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

(her)

I do like to play masochist but I'm not remotely submissive. And I don't generally like dominant men. My favourites are switches who can do a little give and take and genuinely enjoy both.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Switch but lean more submissive, depending on the mood can be a bit of a brat aswell,

Em x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am completely submissive, love a man who knows how to take control of my body

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Aaammm...its a difficult one.

I get more pleasure out of it when I'm in sub mode...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub here - found there to be a distinct lack of dom people…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am completely submissive, love a man who knows how to take control of my body "

Well a very lucky Dom then

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By *erriman69Couple
over a year ago

highworth

Dominant in life, submissive in the bedroom!!

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

deal

Male is dom in bedroom

Female very sub in bedroom

But in daily life the other way round

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Switch, sometimes I'm the boss, sometimes I'm the obedient fuck toy.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Lead / dominant by nature but can take a more laid back, go with the flow approach when it suits.

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By *s-two-75Couple
over a year ago

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We definitely are switch, he tends to be dominant more and she loves to sub for him but she also has a dominant streak she likes to let out of her own too.

It works for us but it’s something we keep for just us rather than bring others into it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly submissive but I can lead on the rare occasion

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I'm definitely not submissive. I wouldn't really say that I'm dominant either, I know what I like and how to ask for it, but I'm never going to demand it...fantastic sex is about give and take in my opinion.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"When it comes to sex, which side do you veer on the most? Prefer being in control or having them take the lead?

"

Prefer being in control mostly, depends on the partner!

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Im definitely dominant

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By *ade crossTV/TS
over a year ago

chiselhurst

Deffinatly lean towards being sub

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"I'm definitely not submissive. I wouldn't really say that I'm dominant either, I know what I like and how to ask for it, but I'm never going to demand it...fantastic sex is about give and take in my opinion. "

That!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am completely submissive, love a man who knows how to take control of my body "

Shame im outside your age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Submissive

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By *unbipleasure84Man
over a year ago

around you

Very submissive here just love it

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Barrhead

I am a natural Daddy/Dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Submissive "

Love your bdsm test results x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I like lulling them into a false sense of security, them thinking they’re in control. And then I like running rings around them.

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow


"Switch because I’m greedy and want to have my cake and eat it too "

Getting more that way...

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"Switch because I’m greedy and want to have my cake and eat it too

Getting more that way..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like lulling them into a false sense of security, them thinking they’re in control. And then I like running rings around them.

"

Sssshhh don't let them in on it!

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

Switch but favour being dominant in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like lulling them into a false sense of security, them thinking they’re in control. And then I like running rings around them.

Sssshhh don't let them in on it! "

Don't worry some of us will still fall for it

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