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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just thought I’d post here for a bit of fun!

I’m seeing more and more status’ on here about guys who are saying the wrong things on their initial messages, sending cock pics when they aren’t wanted, not reading profiles and other things. So, I thought I’d start a group where we could help these guys and lead them back onto the right path!

I’ll kick it off with this - just because you’re hiding behind a computer it does not make you a pornstar or super sexy. In fact, when people receive that wrong message it makes them cringe. Stop trying to be someone else - be yourself and it’ll all fall into place. Don’t act like somebody who’s on a sex offenders register! Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you aren't having any luck sending your dick pic. Send mine. It always works

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you aren't having any luck sending your dick pic. Send mine. It always works"

I just send a picture of a mushroom - same colour as mine but just bigger haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will never work

The amount off help me threads have shown that

When ever I see one I take a note off the op name

Give my input and watch other input

And then check back they profiles in a weeks time

9 out off 10 times the profile gose unchanged

So what’s the point

Also your crateing a fake image off someone

That isn’t a true representation off them selfs

Witch can be dangerous as

People who use things to flag a profile may go unflagged till it’s to late

If it wasn’t for the coatching them though stuff

They would have probably shown those flags long ago when it was still in the message stages

Not mid meet putting people in danger

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Imagine the person you’re sending the message to is a real person. How do you think they will react?

Hint: porn film scenarios don’t happen often

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I was asked for advice earlier on and never got so much as a thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It will never work

The amount off help me threads have shown that

When ever I see one I take a note off the op name

Give my input and watch other input

And then check back they profiles in a weeks time

9 out off 10 times the profile gose unchanged

So what’s the point

Also your crateing a fake image off someone

That isn’t a true representation off them selfs

Witch can be dangerous as

People who use things to flag a profile may go unflagged till it’s to late

If it wasn’t for the coatching them though stuff

They would have probably shown those flags long ago when it was still in the message stages

Not mid meet putting people in danger "

You have a very fair Point! Although I do believe people don’t necessarily change their behaviour until challenged to!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was asked for advice earlier on and never got so much as a thankyou"

Well from one fab member to another - thank you for trying to make this site a little more bearable!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Imagine the person you’re sending the message to is a real person. How do you think they will react?

Hint: porn film scenarios don’t happen often "

Damn it - that’s the last time I try my pizza delivery trick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It will never work

The amount off help me threads have shown that

When ever I see one I take a note off the op name

Give my input and watch other input

And then check back they profiles in a weeks time

9 out off 10 times the profile gose unchanged

So what’s the point

Also your crateing a fake image off someone

That isn’t a true representation off them selfs

Witch can be dangerous as

People who use things to flag a profile may go unflagged till it’s to late

If it wasn’t for the coatching them though stuff

They would have probably shown those flags long ago when it was still in the message stages

Not mid meet putting people in danger

You have a very fair Point! Although I do believe people don’t necessarily change their behaviour until challenged to!"

It’s more to do with safety aspects if you change someone online habits they habits are still there offline

Your just putting people in danger as they would have show those flags sooner than later

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It will never work

The amount off help me threads have shown that

When ever I see one I take a note off the op name

Give my input and watch other input

And then check back they profiles in a weeks time

9 out off 10 times the profile gose unchanged

So what’s the point

Also your crateing a fake image off someone

That isn’t a true representation off them selfs

Witch can be dangerous as

People who use things to flag a profile may go unflagged till it’s to late

If it wasn’t for the coatching them though stuff

They would have probably shown those flags long ago when it was still in the message stages

Not mid meet putting people in danger

You have a very fair Point! Although I do believe people don’t necessarily change their behaviour until challenged to!

It’s more to do with safety aspects if you change someone online habits they habits are still there offline

Your just putting people in danger as they would have show those flags sooner than later "

But then again a lot of people are different online and offline. A lot of people drop their ego face to face. It’s just reminding people of how to actually treat others with respect and to start a conversation. It can be difficult because everybody wants different things. Some women want you to send cock pics on first message and some don’t. Some want the dirty talk and the requests straight away and others don’t. That’s why it’s important to read profiles. But I do genuinely think that people have just forgotten how to communicate and it’s the problem with the modern era of people - people are now engrossed in technology too much that they’ve forgotten how to actually address people. It may not always be the case that they’re bad people or that they’re going to intentionally cause harm. But I do see where you’re coming from and I completely understand it! This thread was more put up for some light hearted entertainment than anything!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

....and what extremely invaluable tips do you offer those men who •receive• messages from women?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"....and what extremely invaluable tips do you offer those men who •receive• messages from women? "

Count yourself lucky?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to chime in and add that asking if someone will provide es*ort services for them is not flattering. Nor is attaching 6 or more cock shots to your ‘hi hwz u’ initial message.

I’ll always reply, even if it’s a ‘no thank you’ but the above will always just get deleted. It’s actually not so easy to receive a half decent message on here at the moment, so I’m finding.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"....and what extremely invaluable tips do you offer those men who •receive• messages from women? "

I wouldn't know, it's never happened.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d like to chime in and add that asking if someone will provide es*ort services for them is not flattering. Nor is attaching 6 or more cock shots to your ‘hi hwz u’ initial message.

I’ll always reply, even if it’s a ‘no thank you’ but the above will always just get deleted. It’s actually not so easy to receive a half decent message on here at the moment, so I’m finding. "

Maybe that’s how they think they’ll get a chance lol - I mean I’ve looked at your pics and can understand why they might think they have to pay to get somebody that looks as good as you do (smooth I know lol) but I agree - too far. I mean they come straight out with it too on the first message - that’s before they’ve been rejected cause they already know they have no chance!

I must admit I try to make more effort than “hi hwz u” - I at least remember my capital letters and full stops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh this is lovely.

guys helping other men out. It’s like the ultimate wingman thread.

I’ve learned over the time in fab that nothing will change. No matter what advice or complaints that are thrown around these forums, there are groups of people that will never change and will continue to act the same way.

But if this is a tongue in cheek thread-

Guys, if your not getting any replies to your messages, stop and think. The numbers are against you, so make it more in your favour… send MORE messenges

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I'd hate to be a guy.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I don't fall into this category because I always read profiles and always send well thought out messages with a face pic and I'm getting a fair bit of interest, you just can't help some guys though even when they ask for help they don't know what's wrong, I saw a guy ask why last night and he had changed his profile but nothing lol I knew what was wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not offer a woman 20 quid for a bj

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Sounds a good idea. Can you make it so that once they ate in the group they stay there and are never allowed back ? Offer free man on man sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh this is lovely.

guys helping other men out. It’s like the ultimate wingman thread.

I’ve learned over the time in fab that nothing will change. No matter what advice or complaints that are thrown around these forums, there are groups of people that will never change and will continue to act the same way.

But if this is a tongue in cheek thread-

Guys, if your not getting any replies to your messages, stop and think. The numbers are against you, so make it more in your favour… send MORE messenges "

That’s what it’s all about - bros before hoes right? Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do not offer a woman 20 quid for a bj "

Oops sorry - was £20 a bit too low for you?

What honestly comes over people when they’re sending these messages?!!

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France


"Do not offer a woman 20 quid for a bj "

How about £25 then hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send out a fair few messages and the most common thing I get is something like that is the most unique message I’ve heard in a while.

Remember, everyone is different and embrace that! Think of the audience you’re trying to attract? If a women write black guys only it’s incredibly unlikely that she we will want a message from me, which is fine, each to their own! But at the end of the day you’re messaging someone to see if they’re in the same vibe with you, so you should probably think to yourself am I right for them? Ie have they written I like guys who are clean shaven and covered in tattoos and that’s not you then that’s fair enough, you probably shouldn’t message.

But if you are going to message, make it unique, as in maybe include their name, good grammar goes a long way with people…if you can’t be arsed to spell a 3 letter word properly then it doesn’t bode well for the future and just have a bit of humour about yourself…I’m a strong believer that everyone has some interesting life experiences, draw from that!

Those are my tips anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It will never work

The amount off help me threads have shown that

When ever I see one I take a note off the op name

Give my input and watch other input

And then check back they profiles in a weeks time

9 out off 10 times the profile gose unchanged

So what’s the point

Also your crateing a fake image off someone

That isn’t a true representation off them selfs

Witch can be dangerous as

People who use things to flag a profile may go unflagged till it’s to late

If it wasn’t for the coatching them though stuff

They would have probably shown those flags long ago when it was still in the message stages

Not mid meet putting people in danger "

And often, those guys post an almost identical thread on a daily basis.

There's one chap who started at least 3 threads in the past few days who has clearly taken none of the advice he's been given on board

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"God I'd hate to be a guy."

•

I thought your name was Tarquin on Saturdays?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s what it’s all about - bros before hoes right? Haha"

Men before them?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Thanks for the wise words OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanna see your a-hole game...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I send out a fair few messages and the most common thing I get is something like that is the most unique message I’ve heard in a while.

Remember, everyone is different and embrace that! Think of the audience you’re trying to attract? If a women write black guys only it’s incredibly unlikely that she we will want a message from me, which is fine, each to their own! But at the end of the day you’re messaging someone to see if they’re in the same vibe with you, so you should probably think to yourself am I right for them? Ie have they written I like guys who are clean shaven and covered in tattoos and that’s not you then that’s fair enough, you probably shouldn’t message.

But if you are going to message, make it unique, as in maybe include their name, good grammar goes a long way with people…if you can’t be arsed to spell a 3 letter word properly then it doesn’t bode well for the future and just have a bit of humour about yourself…I’m a strong believer that everyone has some interesting life experiences, draw from that!

Those are my tips anyway "

Some great advice there - completely agree with you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It will never work

The amount off help me threads have shown that

When ever I see one I take a note off the op name

Give my input and watch other input

And then check back they profiles in a weeks time

9 out off 10 times the profile gose unchanged

So what’s the point

Also your crateing a fake image off someone

That isn’t a true representation off them selfs

Witch can be dangerous as

People who use things to flag a profile may go unflagged till it’s to late

If it wasn’t for the coatching them though stuff

They would have probably shown those flags long ago when it was still in the message stages

Not mid meet putting people in danger

And often, those guys post an almost identical thread on a daily basis.

There's one chap who started at least 3 threads in the past few days who has clearly taken none of the advice he's been given on board"

Probably because he’s a wanker! Interesting about the thread though - I genuinely wanted to just start something tongue in cheek but it would make sense why some people who aren’t having much luck ask for help. Bottom line is the majority of the bellends on here get found out during messaging anyway because they’re that arrogant and full of self importance!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wanna see your a-hole game..."

Can you be gentle? Haha

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