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".. but I am really interested in making better connections. How do we connect with each other how can we better our connections? I'm wondering what I can do to connect more with people around me." Really good question, OP! I think being interested, genuinely interested in what the other person has to say is a good place to start. Then applying good listening skills and finding out about them before talking them to death about ourselves. Respect, kindness, empathy towards others and being authentic, truthful ourselves might be a way to build better connections. ![]() | |||
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"I think by being actually present in our interactions with people. We talk a lot about honest and open communication with others but a lot of that also depends on how open we are to connecting with another. I think if you invite people in with genuine intent, a lot more will want to connect than you'd expect. We want to talk to others, we're naturally sociable people. Even those who proclaim to be otherwise, it's not so much about quantity as quality. But at the same time, we've got to meet people half way, not just have it all on our terms. Which is a lot easier typed than actioned isn't it? I was going to start verging into linguistic territory and talking about the importance of matching energies, mirroring communication styles but then realised I'd spend several paragraphs talking about such a vast topic. Interpersonal relationships are something I have a keen interest in, in part because of the ND thing, in part because it relates to work. I do think that with the emergence ofsl social media, the almost reliance at times we've lost some of the natural skills. Not to mention the rise in self, almost self focused zeitgeist." This in a nutshell - so much better said than what I put. | |||
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"I think by being actually present in our interactions with people. We talk a lot about honest and open communication with others but a lot of that also depends on how open we are to connecting with another. I think if you invite people in with genuine intent, a lot more will want to connect than you'd expect. We want to talk to others, we're naturally sociable people. Even those who proclaim to be otherwise, it's not so much about quantity as quality. But at the same time, we've got to meet people half way, not just have it all on our terms. Which is a lot easier typed than actioned isn't it? I was going to start verging into linguistic territory and talking about the importance of matching energies, mirroring communication styles but then realised I'd spend several paragraphs talking about such a vast topic. Interpersonal relationships are something I have a keen interest in, in part because of the ND thing, in part because it relates to work. I do think that with the emergence ofsl social media, the almost reliance at times we've lost some of the natural skills. Not to mention the rise in self, almost self focused zeitgeist." ![]() ![]() | |||
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"An over simplification, but isn't it just time? I know for me, even though you can have immediate chemistry, connections build over time. Sexual or otherwise, but investing time in a person (and vice versa) is really the only way I know how to build a real connection. " I think this nails it | |||
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"An over simplification, but isn't it just time? I know for me, even though you can have immediate chemistry, connections build over time. Sexual or otherwise, but investing time in a person (and vice versa) is really the only way I know how to build a real connection. " You can also have a friend or partner for years and neither of you grow or it always feels one sided. It’s what you do with the time and I think sinetunes it’s not organic , it’s a choice by one ti make it or attempt to make go deeper and then it happens fast. | |||
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"I am doing rather the opposite at the moment. I am working on detachment. To everyone and everything. After a very traumatic month of November, I am resolute to not get overly attached to anyone. In the end it only ends in pain and suffering. It is easier to enjoy the here and now, the company, but not to get too emotionally invested. The traumatic event is not about a partner BTW- it’s about the dramatic death of my mother. My job helps me with this. I work with different people every day, so enjoy the day, the work, the new colleagues and customers every day. And the next day is a totally new one! ![]() Awwwww amiga ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I am doing rather the opposite at the moment. I am working on detachment. To everyone and everything. After a very traumatic month of November, I am resolute to not get overly attached to anyone. In the end it only ends in pain and suffering. It is easier to enjoy the here and now, the company, but not to get too emotionally invested. The traumatic event is not about a partner BTW- it’s about the dramatic death of my mother. My job helps me with this. I work with different people every day, so enjoy the day, the work, the new colleagues and customers every day. And the next day is a totally new one! ![]() Not a dark cloud at all, and I'm sorry you had a tough month. I think this is equally important: sometimes too many connections can be tiring. Quality over quantity is a cliche, but mainly because it's so often true. | |||
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"I am doing rather the opposite at the moment. I am working on detachment. To everyone and everything. After a very traumatic month of November, I am resolute to not get overly attached to anyone. In the end it only ends in pain and suffering. It is easier to enjoy the here and now, the company, but not to get too emotionally invested. The traumatic event is not about a partner BTW- it’s about the dramatic death of my mother. My job helps me with this. I work with different people every day, so enjoy the day, the work, the new colleagues and customers every day. And the next day is a totally new one! ![]() So sorry about your mother. | |||
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"I am doing rather the opposite at the moment. I am working on detachment. To everyone and everything. After a very traumatic month of November, I am resolute to not get overly attached to anyone. In the end it only ends in pain and suffering. It is easier to enjoy the here and now, the company, but not to get too emotionally invested. The traumatic event is not about a partner BTW- it’s about the dramatic death of my mother. My job helps me with this. I work with different people every day, so enjoy the day, the work, the new colleagues and customers every day. And the next day is a totally new one! ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Connection is a 2 way street, you may try as hard as you like, but if the other person has ulterior motives or doesn't want to have a stronger connection it's a futile exercise " ![]() | |||
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