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"Form a folk band with the local homeless population " Why would you be so glib when someone in pain is reaching out? | |||
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"Form a folk band with the local homeless population Why would you be so glib when someone in pain is reaching out?" It was a serious suggestion, homeless people at Christmas are also extremely lonely and who doesn’t like folk music? | |||
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"Anyone got any tips for crippling loneliness?? Hate this time of year anyway being familyless, but this year its beyond.... ![]() have you thought about helping out at a soup kitchen or a local charity they love volunteers helping out this time of year ![]() | |||
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"Anyone got any tips for crippling loneliness?? Hate this time of year anyway being familyless, but this year its beyond.... ![]() ![]() Thank you. It's just an annual reminder that I'm still struggling, and I'm not sure how much more I can take xxx | |||
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" Its a genuine thing that affects mental health and wellbeing and if not shared, can spiral into overthinking and glum thoughts. Must be tough...how about volunteering and meeting new folk whilst feeling a sense of achievement at a difficult time?" Thank you, I'm invisibly disabled so have many unseen struggles. I'm also isolated and anxiety vetos being able to drive..... and all of that destroyed any self worth I had x | |||
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"Nope • Helpful. ![]() Yep it's no wonder people stop reaching out Op I'm so sorry you're feeling that way ,I'd echo what others have suggested .Could you volunteer anywhere over the festive period ,you could check local FB groups as they often put things on. Or some places offer a meal and a get together for anyone alone ,again people in your local area may know of somewhere. Don't feel alone ,as you can always chat to us here too Big hug x | |||
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"Anyone got any tips for crippling loneliness?? Hate this time of year anyway being familyless, but this year its beyond.... ![]() You could see if we're your kind of people and say hi. Nothing beats loneliness, like not being alone ![]() | |||
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"Anyone got any tips for crippling loneliness?? Hate this time of year anyway being familyless, but this year its beyond.... ![]() ![]() That could also mean going to a local pub quiz or social ![]() | |||
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"Sorry to hear you're struggling, OP. Volunteering is a really good shout: it won't solve everything, but a ready made community and you'd be really helping others too. Not sure if this is just a Christmas thing, but there was a thread recently about making friends as an adult where there were lots of good suggestions too. And, as others have said, just keep chinwagging on here for virtual company!" I'm a social butterfly by nature, but had to withdraw from life to get myself well in 2019. The timing on that ![]() | |||
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"Ok is your loneliness due to lack of company or lack of people who you have things in common with?" Lack of confidence and trust I think. I'm all for volunteering if I was fit and well. I can be fit and well for a day with prep, but then I'm knackered for a few days feeling useless again... xxx | |||
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"Can you cook? Could you create your own little Christmas supper club? Anxiety is a nightmare. I’m definitely guilty of letting mine take over at times, I really have to get a hold of myself. My gp has been an amazing help, could you go to your gp? If you could chip away at that anxiety, that could help." I have anxiety & pain driven anorexia. Just going to the supermarket can make me nauseous. I'm fucking broken aren't I.... ![]() | |||
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"Can you cook? Could you create your own little Christmas supper club? Anxiety is a nightmare. I’m definitely guilty of letting mine take over at times, I really have to get a hold of myself. My gp has been an amazing help, could you go to your gp? If you could chip away at that anxiety, that could help. I have anxiety & pain driven anorexia. Just going to the supermarket can make me nauseous. I'm fucking broken aren't I.... ![]() Not at all, not at all. It all feels overwhelming today, I feel you. Hold on, breathe. I know it feels shit right now, but you won’t feel this way forever. | |||
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"Ok is your loneliness due to lack of company or lack of people who you have things in common with? Lack of confidence and trust I think. I'm all for volunteering if I was fit and well. I can be fit and well for a day with prep, but then I'm knackered for a few days feeling useless again... xxx" I volunteer with the elderly. While I do do fetching and carrying, there is quite a lot of sitting, listening, and talking. Or talking to someone on the phone. It is instant community and usually a place filled with love and compassion. Just a thought. I hope you find what you need. | |||
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"I volunteer with the elderly. While I do do fetching and carrying, there is quite a lot of sitting, listening, and talking. Or talking to someone on the phone. It is instant community and usually a place filled with love and compassion. Just a thought. I hope you find what you need." Absolutely love this. I think I’ll look into it, for me x | |||
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"I volunteer with the elderly. While I do do fetching and carrying, there is quite a lot of sitting, listening, and talking. Or talking to someone on the phone. It is instant community and usually a place filled with love and compassion. Just a thought. I hope you find what you need. Absolutely love this. I think I’ll look into it, for me x" Dementia is a bastard as is... death. Those are the downsides that always come with the territory. But a charity for the elderly is going to be *very* understanding of physical limitations, for obvious reasons. | |||
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"Sorry to hear you're struggling, OP. Volunteering is a really good shout: it won't solve everything, but a ready made community and you'd be really helping others too. Not sure if this is just a Christmas thing, but there was a thread recently about making friends as an adult where there were lots of good suggestions too. And, as others have said, just keep chinwagging on here for virtual company! I'm a social butterfly by nature, but had to withdraw from life to get myself well in 2019. The timing on that ![]() Sounds tough, OP. I'm sorry. Trusting people takes time for sure, especially if you've been hurt. Life is definitely tough right now but, and I know this is a cliche, give yourself the credit you deserve. It might feel impossible, but you're doing it! Sometimes just getting through the day is enough. | |||
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"Anyone got any tips for crippling loneliness?? Hate this time of year anyway being familyless, but this year its beyond.... ![]() That thread title is the best first step, OP ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Anyone got any tips for crippling loneliness?? Hate this time of year anyway being familyless, but this year its beyond.... ![]() Hi OP, there has been so many good bits of advice here. And I hope they have been of some help. I agree in trying to find either some volunteering to do or something similar. When I got divorced and moved out on my own to a new town, the Salvation Army invited me to Christmas dinner on Xmas day even though I’m not religious it was a great help and it was a start for me building friendships in a new town. This post was a good start in not being silent and hopefully you’ll gain some great support. Feel free to message anytime and take care of yourself x | |||
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"Are there any local charities that can help, here we have Sparks, people meet up twice a week for coffee and cake, I've seen "chatty cafe" advertised online. Any community churches? You don't need to be religious, they often have cafes in now and always someone to chat to. Volunteering? Salvation army and homeless places always need help this time of year x" Some very good suggestions here. Church groups arent all about religion. And they will stay in contact out of hours. Ive helped (or tried to help) numerous lonely people through my job. This time of year can be the worst for them...especially with the TV preaching about families at Christmas. What do you enjoy? Any hobbies, interests, sports? Anything you enjoy, there are clubs for them...cooking, walking, reading, baking, sewing/knitting, gaming..to name a few. Dog walking/sitting can be good too. If you like animals, volunteer at a local shelter/stables Try and think where you'd feel most comfortable doing or what you feel would be a good first step. But, as with most things...that first step is the hardest. But i think its fair to say the forumites who've commented have got your back, especially if you need advice | |||
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"Thanks everyone for your loveliness!! Prob should have mentioned I'm challenged with invisible disabilities and already have 2 dogs that I can't walk enough ![]() ![]() try and stay positive op I don’t want to intrude but have you no body close you can turn to? I know people have offered good sound advice in previous posts remember you’re dogs and cats rely on you so much and the love they have towards you for me is special I know this as my dog is my best companion at the moment like you I’ve health problems and no matter what I’m going through I look at my dog and think I’m so glad he’s here with me as he needs me and I need him I tend to keep things from friends and family I don’t like to burden them but sometimes you do need to share things good luck with whatever you do ![]() | |||
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