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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is an open message with no reply another way of saying not interested like a deleted message or can it be seen as a maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d take it as a no, they’re not interested, I’d also not check my sent items so you don’t stress, or get in a quandary over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is an open message with no reply another way of saying not interested like a deleted message or can it be seen as a maybe?"

Morning OP, I believe that if you haven't received a reply, then there is no interested, but I could be wrong as views differ on these forums.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Is an open message with no reply another way of saying not interested like a deleted message or can it be seen as a maybe?"
its a maybe because they get so many messages they may have not had time to reply to yours

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Give it 2 days then block if no reply. They won't appear in searches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I’ll leave a message open as I haven’t got time at that moment to reply to it, but it’s there as a reminder to do that

However then it’s amazing how many come back with a comment when you do that or actually block you.

Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Could mean a whole variety of things, everyone looks at it differently.

I would prefer the site just didn't tell people the status of their sent messages. The idea of someone refreshing their outbox constantly to see if it's read or deleted or unopened is uncomfortable.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Sometimes I’ll leave a message open as I haven’t got time at that moment to reply to it, but it’s there as a reminder to do that

However then it’s amazing how many come back with a comment when you do that or actually block you.

Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t "
awww hey that obviously in that instance is their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could mean a whole variety of things, everyone looks at it differently.

I would prefer the site just didn't tell people the status of their sent messages. The idea of someone refreshing their outbox constantly to see if it's read or deleted or unopened is uncomfortable."

Good way would be to immediately delete the message from your sent box. That way you can forget about it and if they do reply, it's a nice surprise

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

We sometimes open messages and reply to them a few hours later but more often than not an opened unanswered message is a no interest

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think people read far too much into a message that has been read but not responded to. The fact is that it depends _entirely_ on the individual profile.

If you send a message that has been read but not responded to then my advice would be play it cool and just wait. I have had responses weeks later.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Is an open message with no reply another way of saying not interested like a deleted message or can it be seen as a maybe?"

Yep, probably. But don't overthink it. You've sent a message. You'll either get a reply or you won't, just don't send another saying "I see you read my last message but haven't replied..."

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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"Is an open message with no reply another way of saying not interested like a deleted message or can it be seen as a maybe?"

This has been covered many times.i personally leave some messages for missus to reply. But surely there are many who are not getting replied. However I really hate the principle that people would be somehow morally obliged to reply to every message.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

If you are messaging a couple it could be read by one half and waiting for the other half to read before they answer is also a possibility

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes, no reply is a no thank you, I rarely delete messages.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is an open message with no reply another way of saying not interested like a deleted message or can it be seen as a maybe?"

Yes until they do reply if ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, no reply is a no thank you, I rarely delete messages.

Mrs "

Well I haven't technically had a no reply yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily they could just be a tad busy,and didn't delete because they may reply later

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By *ena AmourTV/TS
over a year ago

Chard

If you spoke to me and I heard what you said but did not reply. What would you think? Remember however that messaging here is not an instant conversation and many people have either:

a) alot of messages

b) busy lives away from fab

c) a lasse faire attitude

Whatever the answer, you can wait for a reply or not. But my advice would be don't get too bothered, as others have already said.

Keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send your message

Delete and Forget about it

If you get a reply happy days

If you done, no harm no foul.

If guys put as much into reading what their woman wants/needs as they do into the nuances of non replies etc life might be a little nicer all round.

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've started doing the whole block thing if I get no reply/deleted messages (mostly the latter). They're for sure not interested and it makes life a bit easier that is for sure on here knowing I can't message them again

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Usually yes it means not interested, however someone I messaged the other day pointed that out in bio but also said if interested she might leave on read but not delete if interested because she's probably interested but doesn't know what to say at the time.

I'm still sitting on read and not deleted a couple of days later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t let this distract you from the fact that Christmas is only 17 days away

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

For the love of god! It hasn’t been 24 hours yet!

OP - there has to be a minimum of a full day between threads about opened messages, not read, deleted, not replied yada yada yada.

I will reconvene the ladies of fab committee meeting so we can agree another official response

Ps. Just send them and forget about them. Otherwise it’s a bit like being a stalker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i delete messages as soon as i send them so i cant see what appens to them and dont have to question the response to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just waiting for the open and unopened legs thread, and what those confusing signals might mean

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yes, no reply is a no thank you, I rarely delete messages.

Mrs

Well I haven't technically had a no reply yet... "

That's some wishful thinking you have there

Mrs

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


" I'm just waiting for the open and unopened legs thread, and what those confusing signals might mean "

Please please don’t encourage them…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it generally means I've read something funny, seen something hot but I'm too busy/can't be arsed/in a fuck off mood to reply.

Generally I do also forget to reply later.

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