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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too!

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Yes. Unlikely though. I'm too old and ugly for consideration by the trendy set. Ploughing my furrow though, so say hi if you want

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Yes. Unlikely though. I'm too old and ugly for consideration by the trendy set. Ploughing my furrow though, so say hi if you want "

Too far away for me unfortunately - but at fifty you’re hardly old my lovely. I’ve got a few years on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m gonna throw my hat in the ring here. I’m getting sick of telling 15 men how my day went every day

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Yes. Unlikely though. I'm too old and ugly for consideration by the trendy set. Ploughing my furrow though, so say hi if you want

Too far away for me unfortunately - but at fifty you’re hardly old my lovely. I’ve got a few years on you. "

You are somewhat more attractive

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Feeld, Hinge and killing kittens seems to be where some look for relationships.

Good luck as its a mine field out there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "

Consider perhaps meeting someone on fab and only swing as a couple….. best of both worlds

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Why would they need to know about your swinging past?

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Feeld, Hinge and killing kittens seems to be where some look for relationships.

Good luck as its a mine field out there!"

It certainly seems to be from what I’ve seen. Is buying a cat compulsory if you stay single forever?

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I’ve chatted to a few people on here.. and straight away they say they are looking for a relationship not a one off.. I mean, how does that work.. do you just say ok I will be in a relationship with you… these things take time.. getting to know each other.. specially on a site like this lol have to see if your sexually compatible too

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Why would they need to know about your swinging past?"

Probably - I’m literally an open book and crap at lying. Also - most of my best friends are swingers and I’d like my future partner to meet all the people who are important to me - so I’m sure the penny would drop soon enough.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Feeld, Hinge and killing kittens seems to be where some look for relationships.

Good luck as its a mine field out there!

It certainly seems to be from what I’ve seen. Is buying a cat compulsory if you stay single forever? "

While cats can be cunts, you at least know that about them from the outset - unlike some of people on those sites

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here.. and straight away they say they are looking for a relationship not a one off.. I mean, how does that work.. do you just say ok I will be in a relationship with you… these things take time.. getting to know each other.. specially on a site like this lol have to see if your sexually compatible too"

If course they take time I think it’s just important to be open and honest about what you’re really up for.

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Feeld, Hinge and killing kittens seems to be where some look for relationships.

Good luck as its a mine field out there!

It certainly seems to be from what I’ve seen. Is buying a cat compulsory if you stay single forever?

While cats can be cunts, you at least know that about them from the outset - unlike some of people on those sites "

Tbh I’ve already got the world’s most gorgeous chocolate lab - not sure how he’d react to a cat.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Feeld, Hinge and killing kittens seems to be where some look for relationships.

Good luck as its a mine field out there!

It certainly seems to be from what I’ve seen. Is buying a cat compulsory if you stay single forever? "

Single nearly 8 years. Rug and slippers essential

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Feeld, Hinge and killing kittens seems to be where some look for relationships.

Good luck as its a mine field out there!

It certainly seems to be from what I’ve seen. Is buying a cat compulsory if you stay single forever?

Single nearly 8 years. Rug and slippers essential "

10 years for me. got the rug, the slippers - and the oodie now it’s bloody freezing.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Relationships can spring up from anywhere - I met Shogun here 5yrs ago and we were a couple within 3 weeks, and still going strong

It's probably best to be upfront that's what you're looking for but I imagine it's not what most people are here for.

We weren't on here looking for a relationship, it just developed naturally the more we met, which is probably the best way of going about it. You just need to find that person and have lots of fun I'm the meantime

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Feeld, Hinge and killing kittens seems to be where some look for relationships.

Good luck as its a mine field out there!

It certainly seems to be from what I’ve seen. Is buying a cat compulsory if you stay single forever?

Single nearly 8 years. Rug and slippers essential

10 years for me. got the rug, the slippers - and the oodie now it’s bloody freezing. "

Yeah, we need a spoon partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm intrigued as to what you mean by a real relationship, do you mean someone who you want to jump on the relationship escalator with, someone who can be more emotionally supportive then a FWB, someone you can live with and grow old together with,

I see all FB's/FWB's and even friends with no benefits as a types of relationships that are to be valued and appreciated for what they are, I wouldn't ever call one type of relationship any more real then the other, monogamous or no-monogamous, personally I think you need to figure out exactly what is you want from the relationship you are seeking then what things you might be able to compromise on and then go out and look for it, being completely honest with whoever it is you meet so as there are no surprises down the road.

Good luck and hope you find what ever it is you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "

Tried to message you but can't ..

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here.. and straight away they say they are looking for a relationship not a one off.. I mean, how does that work.. do you just say ok I will be in a relationship with you… these things take time.. getting to know each other.. specially on a site like this lol have to see if your sexually compatible too

If course they take time I think it’s just important to be open and honest about what you’re really up for. "

Looking for a relationship is just fine.. but to ask someone if you are looking for the same.. and then try and push that on them lol.. think it’s a little desperate in the search of one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a relationship is just fine.. but to ask someone if you are looking for the same.. and then try and push that on them lol.. think it’s a little desperate in the search of one lol"

How do they ‘push it on you’ though? I’m curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a relationship is just fine.. but to ask someone if you are looking for the same.. and then try and push that on them lol.. think it’s a little desperate in the search of one lol

How do they ‘push it on you’ though? I’m curious."

Red, fancy being boyfriend and girlfriend?

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too!

Tried to message you but can't .."

I’m not looking for a long distance relationship my lovely. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can all live in hope I suppose, ticking boxes is one thing but finding needle in haystack, well even that has filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "

Can you call up the po* guy?

I'd say Fab is your best place to look. Would you hide your veris and summary if he agreed to hide his? Then you wouldn't see new ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a relationship is just fine.. but to ask someone if you are looking for the same.. and then try and push that on them lol.. think it’s a little desperate in the search of one lol

How do they ‘push it on you’ though? I’m curious.

Red, fancy being boyfriend and girlfriend?"

You are such a stone cold weirdo

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I’m gonna throw my hat in the ring here. I’m getting sick of telling 15 men how my day went every day"

I literally just spat my drink out at this

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Oh yes it’s the goal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more I am in the platonic area of fab, the more I realise this is the way forward for me too. Might still take some time to come back from celibacy, but the idea of a romantic relationship with someone I could share my sexual curiosity is getting more appealing. After being single for 11 years it might be the time, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my ex on here and would be open to dating/possibly more with a guy or girl from here if it felt right and they were after the same thing.

I don't understand why people say that this site is not the place to look for a relationship, I think it's as good a place as any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about the differences between Fab and non Fab sites, there are kinky fuckers and lovely vanilla types everywhere these days ! And most people over 40 will have a mixed sexual history. I would just concentrate wherever you have the most positive response and experiences. Good luck in 2023, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m gonna throw my hat in the ring here. I’m getting sick of telling 15 men how my day went every day"

Yes! Same

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I’m gonna throw my hat in the ring here. I’m getting sick of telling 15 men how my day went every day

Yes! Same "

I mean, "Fine." only takes a moment to type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m gonna throw my hat in the ring here. I’m getting sick of telling 15 men how my day went every day

Yes! Same

I mean, "Fine." only takes a moment to type."

One word answers are a conversation killer though

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Why would they need to know about your swinging past?

Probably - I’m literally an open book and crap at lying. Also - most of my best friends are swingers and I’d like my future partner to meet all the people who are important to me - so I’m sure the penny would drop soon enough. "
Have you considered moving to Devon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my ex on here and would be open to dating/possibly more with a guy or girl from here if it felt right and they were after the same thing.

I don't understand why people say that this site is not the place to look for a relationship, I think it's as good a place as any "

If any girls or guys from Brum wanna date and have fun my dms are open

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"One word answers are a conversation killer though "

Is the same dull small talk blandness you've already answered a thousand times really enough to put the onus on you to make it into an actual conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a relationship is just fine.. but to ask someone if you are looking for the same.. and then try and push that on them lol.. think it’s a little desperate in the search of one lol

How do they ‘push it on you’ though? I’m curious.

Red, fancy being boyfriend and girlfriend?

You are such a stone cold weirdo "

I'm warm and snuggly deep down underneath?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One word answers are a conversation killer though

Is the same dull small talk blandness you've already answered a thousand times really enough to put the onus on you to make it into an actual conversation?"

I wouldn't say asking how someone's day is when you first start speaking to them is bland. It's basic conversation.

I just becomes annoying when you're in the talking stages with multiple people and have to answer similar questions from each of them

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I wouldn't say asking how someone's day is when you first start speaking to them is bland. It's basic conversation.

I just becomes annoying when you're in the talking stages with multiple people and have to answer similar questions from each of them "

Basic is very much the word. But maybe I'm just a bitch haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One word answers are a conversation killer though

Is the same dull small talk blandness you've already answered a thousand times really enough to put the onus on you to make it into an actual conversation?"

I've never asked how anyone's days gone I don't think unless it's DMS after a long time and some sort of chat established.

And that's cause with a newbie stranger I truly, honestly, couldn't give a shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say asking how someone's day is when you first start speaking to them is bland. It's basic conversation.

I just becomes annoying when you're in the talking stages with multiple people and have to answer similar questions from each of them

Basic is very much the word. But maybe I'm just a bitch haha."

Possibly

You did react over this comment when it wasn't even my comment I just agreed with it....

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Looking for a relationship is just fine.. but to ask someone if you are looking for the same.. and then try and push that on them lol.. think it’s a little desperate in the search of one lol

How do they ‘push it on you’ though? I’m curious."

I wouldn't even bother with someone who felt pressurised, just shows where his head is at.

It's should be natural progression when meeting someone. I had a fabber who told me he wanted a relationship but at the same time if it doesn't come, fun and experience from fab. I'm sure that's majority of single people on here unless they been to emotionally scarred to want to enter into another romantic relationship. Some people aren't good in relationships too. Again I avoid them but you can tell from getting to know them, where their head is at.

I keep seeing people asking for a dating section on fab.... shame they haven't put one up. They did put up virus section when we went into lockdown. Just think dating be such a useful section as there's probably alot more people seeking than you think. Like me...but I want to find the right person who is in the right head space for a relationship.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I wouldn't say asking how someone's day is when you first start speaking to them is bland. It's basic conversation.

I just becomes annoying when you're in the talking stages with multiple people and have to answer similar questions from each of them

Basic is very much the word. But maybe I'm just a bitch haha."

Don't worry, I agree with you. I can't stand small talk. To me it looks like he just messaged 20 people, "hi how's it going? "

Usually you can tell its copy and paste because they clearly haven't read your profile and you're just one of the many. Avoid these types.

Obviously if it's someone you known for ages or established good contact, then that's fine.

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By *ena AmourTV/TS
over a year ago

Chard


"I met my ex on here and would be open to dating/possibly more with a guy or girl from here if it felt right and they were after the same thing.

I don't understand why people say that this site is not the place to look for a relationship, I think it's as good a place as any "

I am in agreement with this, I want someone to see me for all the weird shit and still get in touch. If they manage more than the usual bollocks in the first few messages then who knows what might happen?

I am happy meeting for fun, friendship, fucks and more. At least here there is a huge filter on who I get to consider as possible meets and in the meantime discover some new friends maybe and that I am jot the only sex obsessed,pleasure seeking deviant out there

Love you lots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a relationship is just fine.. but to ask someone if you are looking for the same.. and then try and push that on them lol.. think it’s a little desperate in the search of one lol

How do they ‘push it on you’ though? I’m curious.

I wouldn't even bother with someone who felt pressurised, just shows where his head is at.

It's should be natural progression when meeting someone. I had a fabber who told me he wanted a relationship but at the same time if it doesn't come, fun and experience from fab. I'm sure that's majority of single people on here unless they been to emotionally scarred to want to enter into another romantic relationship. Some people aren't good in relationships too. Again I avoid them but you can tell from getting to know them, where their head is at.

I keep seeing people asking for a dating section on fab.... shame they haven't put one up. They did put up virus section when we went into lockdown. Just think dating be such a useful section as there's probably alot more people seeking than you think. Like me...but I want to find the right person who is in the right head space for a relationship."

I kind of agree with what you've put here, but I also think there's numerous other factors to include with being in the right frame of mind.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I met my ex on here and would be open to dating/possibly more with a guy or girl from here if it felt right and they were after the same thing.

I don't understand why people say that this site is not the place to look for a relationship, I think it's as good a place as any

I am in agreement with this, I want someone to see me for all the weird shit and still get in touch. If they manage more than the usual bollocks in the first few messages then who knows what might happen?

I am happy meeting for fun, friendship, fucks and more. At least here there is a huge filter on who I get to consider as possible meets and in the meantime discover some new friends maybe and that I am jot the only sex obsessed,pleasure seeking deviant out there

Love you lots "

Beautiful words Lena as always

And who knows what lies around every corner?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Don't worry, I agree with you. I can't stand small talk. To me it looks like he just messaged 20 people, "hi how's it going? "

Usually you can tell its copy and paste because they clearly haven't read your profile and you're just one of the many. Avoid these types.

Obviously if it's someone you known for ages or established good contact, then that's fine."

Oh thank you, I was worrying I was just being an asshole for a moment haha.

But yes, very much the bland, low effort, send to every remotely viable female vibe on those.

Most of my friends know better than to ask how my day was without a more precise context or clear movement towards what they actually want to talk about. Unless they already know I'm having a bad time and are genuinely asking rather than it just being part of the social contract nonsense, those times I don't mind it so much.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I met my ex on here and would be open to dating/possibly more with a guy or girl from here if it felt right and they were after the same thing.

I don't understand why people say that this site is not the place to look for a relationship, I think it's as good a place as any "

I agree ,met jack my other half over 7 years ago here

Where better to meet like minded people ?

Good luck peachy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too!

Tried to message you but can't ..

I’m not looking for a long distance relationship my lovely. X"

I'm well aware of that gorgeous , there's absolutely no problem at all regards that but l just wanted to message you about your post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking? No, never.

If it happens natural then yay, though I've also given up on that.

I've never been the type that guys want for anything more.

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By *r Discreet 75Man
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

I'm to busy for a relationship... I'd just like the odd date with good company filled by good sex or a regular meet with someone for a night in with a bottle of wine

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

This is ultimately what I’m looking for, not the monogamous but though. I don’t think I could go back to vanilla, although never say never I suppose.

I’m on other dating sites but everyone looks rather beige , if you get what I mean.

Good like on your quest gorgeous lady x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "

Damn I'm to young you shouldn't have any trouble as you are stunning

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"This is ultimately what I’m looking for, not the monogamous but though. I don’t think I could go back to vanilla, although never say never I suppose.

I’m on other dating sites but everyone looks rather beige , if you get what I mean.

Good like on your quest gorgeous lady x"

Yes I agree. I had afew arguments with vanilla men about it too so need a guy who understands my needs

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

On fab you get to see more about the guy than on vanilla websites. Well OP, I wish you all the best and hope mr right come soon. I started a thread about getting a meet and I did. So all the positive energy from us will support you through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my ex husband on here.

I was not looking for a relationship and neither was he but it happened naturally.

It didn't work but that's life.

I never rule anything out but I'm not actively looking for anything more.

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By *ustincider888Man
over a year ago

Preston Ish

If I was looking for a relationship I'd be in your inbox in a flash but unfortunately I'm not, besides I'm a shit shag anyway

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By *ornado69Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I would love to find a lady into this lifestyle. To take to places like Cap D'Adge, clubs and parties. But alas where are the ladies

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"This is ultimately what I’m looking for, not the monogamous but though. I don’t think I could go back to vanilla, although never say never I suppose.

I’m on other dating sites but everyone looks rather beige , if you get what I mean.

Good like on your quest gorgeous lady x"

Beige. I get you. All trying to put on a front of respectability, when really, most of them are on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say asking how someone's day is when you first start speaking to them is bland. It's basic conversation.

I just becomes annoying when you're in the talking stages with multiple people and have to answer similar questions from each of them

Basic is very much the word. But maybe I'm just a bitch haha.

Don't worry, I agree with you. I can't stand small talk. To me it looks like he just messaged 20 people, "hi how's it going? "

Usually you can tell its copy and paste because they clearly haven't read your profile and you're just one of the many. Avoid these types.

Obviously if it's someone you known for ages or established good contact, then that's fine."

She, I’m a woman.

And it wasn’t that at all, it’s people I’ve known for a long time. But I’d rather come home to one person and tell them how my day went.

Everyone understand the joke now? Good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say asking how someone's day is when you first start speaking to them is bland. It's basic conversation.

I just becomes annoying when you're in the talking stages with multiple people and have to answer similar questions from each of them

Basic is very much the word. But maybe I'm just a bitch haha.

Don't worry, I agree with you. I can't stand small talk. To me it looks like he just messaged 20 people, "hi how's it going? "

Usually you can tell its copy and paste because they clearly haven't read your profile and you're just one of the many. Avoid these types.

Obviously if it's someone you known for ages or established good contact, then that's fine.

She, I’m a woman.

And it wasn’t that at all, it’s people I’ve known for a long time. But I’d rather come home to one person and tell them how my day went.

Everyone understand the joke now? Good."

What joke? What do you mean 'she, I'm a woman'?

You clearly don't understand what they were discussing.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Casual sex has lost all it’s charm for me, so whilst not actively looking for a relationship/to date I can kind of relate.

However, I have just stopped looking full stop. If I find something then I do, if not then I shall continue to pootle along, single, happy, carefree.

All my best relationships were spontaneous, so I’m not looking to make magic happen, it can find me (or not).

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Casual sex has lost all it’s charm for me, so whilst not actively looking for a relationship/to date I can kind of relate.

However, I have just stopped looking full stop. If I find something then I do, if not then I shall continue to pootle along, single, happy, carefree.

All my best relationships were spontaneous, so I’m not looking to make magic happen, it can find me (or not).

"

.....looks at trains to Wales

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Morning everyone. Thanks for all the positive responses/support.

I definitely agree that fab should have a relationship/dating section - there’s been a demand/requests out there for it for several years now from multiple fabbers - but unfortunately it doesn’t look like it’ll happen any time soon.

In the meantime I guess we just have to get ourselves out there on threads such as this.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Good luck gorgeous x

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France


"Morning everyone. Thanks for all the positive responses/support.

I definitely agree that fab should have a relationship/dating section - there’s been a demand/requests out there for it for several years now from multiple fabbers - but unfortunately it doesn’t look like it’ll happen any time soon.

In the meantime I guess we just have to get ourselves out there on threads such as this. "

Good morning OP, it would be great if there was a section on fabs like that. I'm like you, would love to find a lady for a regular relationship. But it's proving hard to find

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Morning lovely - speaking from experience I can honestly say that I have found someone here who has restored my faith in man kind, neither of us were looking for a relationship but what we have become over time with patience, communication and understanding of each other is something I never thought I’d feel. I wouldn’t say I was broken when I joined here but I was definitely healing - some people come along when you least expect it and everything just fuses together - wishing you happiness in whatever comes your way xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Good luck peachy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to all that are seeking meaningful relationship 2023.

I’ll happily remain in Team FWB

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I found my fiancée purely by accident on Fab (I wasn't looking for love, neither was she).

But when you think about it this is a perfect place to find someone to have a relationship and share the lifestyle with. We all want to be in a relationship where we can be loved and supported for who we are and ideally share it with them. Naturally most people aren't swingers. So chances of dating someone who also wants to share that life is slim. Plus vanilla people tend to get wrong impressions or ideas if you sound them out sexaully early on in conversation. However we're (generally) all swingers here. Anyone genuinely seeking the same will allow you both to concentrate on getting to know each other and developing a relationship first with the safe knowledge that if relationship wise its a match you'll also be a match sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love nothing more than to be married to a lady who would allow me to 'pimp her out' occasionally or maybe even regularly.

Not going to happen, but hey I can dream lol

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.

As much as I love meeting new people on here and having fun, part of me would still love a relationship.

I’m mega indecisive so can’t decide if I’d want to be on here together as a couple, or just have them for myself

I’ve been single for nearly ten years and have pretty much given up hope of finding anyone. Plus throw in the widow card and it sends some running!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I love meeting new people on here and having fun, part of me would still love a relationship.

I’m mega indecisive so can’t decide if I’d want to be on here together as a couple, or just have them for myself

I’ve been single for nearly ten years and have pretty much given up hope of finding anyone. Plus throw in the widow card and it sends some running! "

11 years here and counting. I wouldn't mind pairing up with you

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.


"As much as I love meeting new people on here and having fun, part of me would still love a relationship.

I’m mega indecisive so can’t decide if I’d want to be on here together as a couple, or just have them for myself

I’ve been single for nearly ten years and have pretty much given up hope of finding anyone. Plus throw in the widow card and it sends some running!

11 years here and counting. I wouldn't mind pairing up with you "

Let’s do it mrs

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"As much as I love meeting new people on here and having fun, part of me would still love a relationship.

I’m mega indecisive so can’t decide if I’d want to be on here together as a couple, or just have them for myself

I’ve been single for nearly ten years and have pretty much given up hope of finding anyone. Plus throw in the widow card and it sends some running! "

Well, Kinky, we start with our game of pool and go from there, ok...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I love meeting new people on here and having fun, part of me would still love a relationship.

I’m mega indecisive so can’t decide if I’d want to be on here together as a couple, or just have them for myself

I’ve been single for nearly ten years and have pretty much given up hope of finding anyone. Plus throw in the widow card and it sends some running!

11 years here and counting. I wouldn't mind pairing up with you

Let’s do it mrs "

Being so far away sucks

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"Why would they need to know about your swinging past?"

Why wouldn't you want to know what you are getting into?

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.


"As much as I love meeting new people on here and having fun, part of me would still love a relationship.

I’m mega indecisive so can’t decide if I’d want to be on here together as a couple, or just have them for myself

I’ve been single for nearly ten years and have pretty much given up hope of finding anyone. Plus throw in the widow card and it sends some running!

Well, Kinky, we start with our game of pool and go from there, ok..."

Aw you

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.


"As much as I love meeting new people on here and having fun, part of me would still love a relationship.

I’m mega indecisive so can’t decide if I’d want to be on here together as a couple, or just have them for myself

I’ve been single for nearly ten years and have pretty much given up hope of finding anyone. Plus throw in the widow card and it sends some running!

11 years here and counting. I wouldn't mind pairing up with you

Let’s do it mrs

Being so far away sucks "

It sure does lovely!

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I am looking for a relationship, but only on here. I may as well have as much fun as I can during the looking for phase

Good luck Peachy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking, but if it found me I wouldn't rule it out, it would be nice to have consistent company...but I don't hold hope, fab ladies don't date fuglies

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By *igblackcock69Man
over a year ago

notts


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "
I'm alwayse looking and hoping

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

The goal of the whole thing. I’m hopping in slowly getting there !!!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"The goal of the whole thing. I’m hopping in slowly getting there !!! "
are you hopping coz you stubbed yer toe at footie?

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By *an I Kiss youMan
over a year ago

Manchester City Centre


"Why would they need to know about your swinging past?

Probably - I’m literally an open book and crap at lying. Also - most of my best friends are swingers and I’d like my future partner to meet all the people who are important to me - so I’m sure the penny would drop soon enough. "

.

Love this honest answer.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"The goal of the whole thing. I’m hopping in slowly getting there !!! are you hopping coz you stubbed yer toe at footie? "

Please I steeped on a LOGO BRICK bet you feel bad now right feeling my pain….! Like man flu dangerous .

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"The goal of the whole thing. I’m hopping in slowly getting there !!! are you hopping coz you stubbed yer toe at footie?

Please I steeped on a LOGO BRICK bet you feel bad now right feeling my pain….! Like man flu dangerous . "
you steeped it in salt water?

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By *aniplaytoo4011Man
over a year ago

BURY

I personally think that if a partner could be found in here then the chances are that you are both on the same page and it would save on the message tennis on other vanilla sites trying to gauge a person’s sexual likes and dislikes.

That said it’s as hard of not harder to find compatibility in here than it is on POF etc.

I think being honest is best policy when meeting someone you hope could be special.

Add a new partner to your list for Santa, you just never know what the big man can sort out x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I like real relationships & dating even though I’m poly, one of sex or sex without any kind of relationship doesn’t do it for me.

I use other sites and once I get the “what are you looking for’ type questions I send them a slightly edited version of my fab profile. It gives them a lot to read and take in and surprising most still want to meet.

I think it’s important to be very clear to yourself what you want , and then using almost the same wording like this isn’t an issue. If you’re having to tell a different story across platforms then you’re not really figured it out yourself. It’s like making your CV and LinkedIn aligned , a very clear story of who you are and what you want.

I also make it clear im not into cheating or cheaters but exclusivity isn’t being offered. That gets rid of most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should you swinging for the last 9 years be a negative.. You are obviously a beautiful woman and enjoy sex... Be proud of who you are, if a guy isn't comfy with the swinging side don't feel guilty... Look further x

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I like real relationships & dating even though I’m poly, one of sex or sex without any kind of relationship doesn’t do it for me.

I use other sites and once I get the “what are you looking for’ type questions I send them a slightly edited version of my fab profile. It gives them a lot to read and take in and surprising most still want to meet.

I think it’s important to be very clear to yourself what you want , and then using almost the same wording like this isn’t an issue. If you’re having to tell a different story across platforms then you’re not really figured it out yourself. It’s like making your CV and LinkedIn aligned , a very clear story of who you are and what you want.

I also make it clear im not into cheating or cheaters but exclusivity isn’t being offered. That gets rid of most "

As you know my lovely I’m very much an open book. My fab profile and my dating profile are not dissimilar in tone - and there’s a nod to non monogamy in my dating profile. On both profiles I’ve mentioned my love of sex but stated that, of course, a great relationship involves having more in common than jiggy jiggy!

Tbh I get a lot of interest (I’m aware that’s because I have a vagina and - unusually on a ‘normal’ dating site - am open about having a high sex drive). The problem is that I’m looking for someone within an hour’s drive max - and it seems to be rather slim pickings in my area. Either that or the hotties don’t fancy me!

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Why should you swinging for the last 9 years be a negative.. You are obviously a beautiful woman and enjoy sex... Be proud of who you are, if a guy isn't comfy with the swinging side don't feel guilty... Look further x "

Thanks lovely - kind of you to say.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

It’s been 4 years since my last long term relationship and I’m definitely ready for a relationship again but starting to feel like it’s never going to happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to find a relationship on here where we are both on the same level. But unfortunately that is wishing for a lot

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"It’s been 4 years since my last long term relationship and I’m definitely ready for a relationship again but starting to feel like it’s never going to happen again."

I hear you there my lovely. Maybe we should get ourselves on the undateables?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "
I'd take anything to be honest

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Its all about the connection you make with people and the things you enjoy together .you will find things develop into long term overtime .its just about been open to it as long as your both happy .

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton


"It’s been 4 years since my last long term relationship and I’m definitely ready for a relationship again but starting to feel like it’s never going to happen again.

I hear you there my lovely. Maybe we should get ourselves on the undateables? "
sounds like a plan

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here.. and straight away they say they are looking for a relationship not a one off.. I mean, how does that work.. do you just say ok I will be in a relationship with you… these things take time.. getting to know each other.. specially on a site like this lol have to see if your sexually compatible too"

I think they want to know if you’re open to that. I don’t think it means let’s go on a relationship straight away. Some people are not open to a relationship, even if all seems right

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

I’m looking for a relationship, definitely am. But it’s a journey. It’s about getting to know someone and if we happen to fall in love, I’m in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve chatted to a few people on here.. and straight away they say they are looking for a relationship not a one off.. I mean, how does that work.. do you just say ok I will be in a relationship with you… these things take time.. getting to know each other.. specially on a site like this lol have to see if your sexually compatible too

I think they want to know if you’re open to that. I don’t think it means let’s go on a relationship straight away. Some people are not open to a relationship, even if all seems right "

Exactly, not every person I meet would end up that way, but every time you mention you are open to a relationship developing, they run for the hills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't trawled through the other 100 odd responses so maybe repeating here.

I'd be slightly surprised that if after nearly 8 years was it? Of socialising and sexyising (not a real word) you haven't developed a more romantic link with anyone from fab or the swinging world then there's something missing from the people you meet here that you need.

Perhaps monogamy is that thing?

I totally get the whole "how the hell do I tell a prospective relationship person what I had in my past" issue. Only advice is - don't weigh in with it straight away, let things flow naturally. Test and test though! There's undoubtedly kinks and shall we say bedroom capability that are more a must have than you'd have settled for in the past.

No guarantees but there is a chance you'll find the right person just out there. I joined an activity club and found the dirtiest, baddest bitch I've ever met in my life - and now we are here so it does happen.

Also I believe that there are at least two threads I've seen of couples that met here getting married - but I will refer you back to my second statement.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I think dating has changed a lot in recent years, certainly in the more mature end of things. From conversations that I've had with single friends and colleagues, not many place much importance on sexual history (they all understand they're unlikely to meet a 40+ year old virgin)...most are mainly concerned with a prospective partners life stage and financial situation. They're already comfortable and secure, and only want someone that will compliment and add something extra to that.

I'm also a firm believer that you can't 'look' for a relationship... call it coincidence, luck, or even fate if you must, but a lot of different things have to be in the right place at the right time for a relationship to blossom. I think all that you can do is put yourself in the position to meet different people, and see if those pieces fall into place with anyone.

But, as pessimistic as all the above may sound, it can and does happen...we're living, breathing proof of that, despite us both being adamant that the last thing in the world we wanted was to be in a relationship. Sometimes your life improves just by having a certain person be a part of it

Good luck in your searches to everyone that is hoping to find someone special x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not going to quote the whole thing but Lilly you have it bang on 100%

When BB and I first met it was also on a "not looking for a relationship basis" . The old adage that if you go looking for love it will always evade you but you'll find it when you least expect it.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Did you get a romantic date op since putting this out?

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"I'm not going to quote the whole thing but Lilly you have it bang on 100%

When BB and I first met it was also on a "not looking for a relationship basis" . The old adage that if you go looking for love it will always evade you but you'll find it when you least expect it."

I agree too, the last thing we were looking for was a relationship, it just happened naturally and progressed from fun to love x

Tg x

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"I’m looking for a relationship, definitely am. But it’s a journey. It’s about getting to know someone and if we happen to fall in love, I’m in! "

And so is he sorry couldn't resist it

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By *ereagainlolMan
over a year ago

Lerwick

I've been looking for a relationship on here for a long time. I'm even willing to move for the right person, once we've met and have some kind of connection.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"I'm not going to quote the whole thing but Lilly you have it bang on 100%

When BB and I first met it was also on a "not looking for a relationship basis" . The old adage that if you go looking for love it will always evade you but you'll find it when you least expect it."

Except whenever I wasn’t looking for love and found it in the past, the love was a lie

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I met my late partner I hadn't long come out of a relationship and was determined to stay single. He had given up on relationships because of his age.

We met and became friends becoming very close. It took a year for us to fall in love and become a couple.

I truelly believe love does happen when you least expect it.

Now I'm on my own I will stay that way and never want to date. I can't imagine wanting to find love again.

I wish you all success on your journeys and hope you find someone who makes you as happy as my partner did me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out as soon as I read ‘fine shag’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "

Hi, you are exactly what I am looking for! Sadly I am 130 miles away, older than you want and may not be able to keep up with your needs, that said you can fuck others and tell me about it. Please get in touch asap. Merry Xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I met my late partner I hadn't long come out of a relationship and was determined to stay single. He had given up on relationships because of his age.

We met and became friends becoming very close. It took a year for us to fall in love and become a couple.

I truelly believe love does happen when you least expect it.

Now I'm on my own I will stay that way and never want to date. I can't imagine wanting to find love again.

I wish you all success on your journeys and hope you find someone who makes you as happy as my partner did me"

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"When I met my late partner I hadn't long come out of a relationship and was determined to stay single. He had given up on relationships because of his age.

We met and became friends becoming very close. It took a year for us to fall in love and become a couple.

I truelly believe love does happen when you least expect it.

Now I'm on my own I will stay that way and never want to date. I can't imagine wanting to find love again.

I wish you all success on your journeys and hope you find someone who makes you as happy as my partner did me"

Thanks so much for posting this. My mother felt the same after dad passed away. Absolutely no intent at all to find someone else. She told us she’d already had the best - so why try the rest?

Sending hugs. Xx

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"When I met my late partner I hadn't long come out of a relationship and was determined to stay single. He had given up on relationships because of his age.

We met and became friends becoming very close. It took a year for us to fall in love and become a couple.

I truelly believe love does happen when you least expect it.

Now I'm on my own I will stay that way and never want to date. I can't imagine wanting to find love again.

I wish you all success on your journeys and hope you find someone who makes you as happy as my partner did me

Thanks so much for posting this. My mother felt the same after dad passed away. Absolutely no intent at all to find someone else. She told us she’d already had the best - so why try the rest?

Sending hugs. Xx"

Did you find anyone op?

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By *ust Peachy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"When I met my late partner I hadn't long come out of a relationship and was determined to stay single. He had given up on relationships because of his age.

We met and became friends becoming very close. It took a year for us to fall in love and become a couple.

I truelly believe love does happen when you least expect it.

Now I'm on my own I will stay that way and never want to date. I can't imagine wanting to find love again.

I wish you all success on your journeys and hope you find someone who makes you as happy as my partner did me

Thanks so much for posting this. My mother felt the same after dad passed away. Absolutely no intent at all to find someone else. She told us she’d already had the best - so why try the rest?

Sending hugs. Xx

Did you find anyone op?"

Hi lovely.

I went for a coffee with a guy on fab but it didn’t quite work out.

Onwards and upwards though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello there my lovelies.

In the new year - assuming my current health issues have been dealt with - I’ve decided I’d like a ‘real’ relationship rather than the fb’s/fwb’s I’ve enjoyed in the past.

Happy to swing if my partner wants to - but could manage monogamy as long as he’s a damned fine shag.

I’ve dipped my toe in the water on ‘normal’ dating sites - but worry about that awkward bit where you mention you’ve been swinging for the last 9 years and that most of your best friends are swingers. I’m also worried about being too sexually open/honest in the initial stages - but no longer sure what ‘normal’ is supposed to be?

Part of me thinks it would be far easier finding a relationship on fab - but that comes with it’s own issues (such as reading about an amazing meet they had not long after the amazing meet the two of you had for instance - you don’t get that in the real world).

Anyway - I’m mostly just thinking aloud - but also wondering how many other fellow fabbers are looking for a real relationship rather than an Fb etc - and are you just looking on here? Or normal dating sites - or both?

Btw - If you’re 45 - 53 (ish), good looking, physically fit, intelligent, fun, highly sexed and live in Lancashire - get your arse over here!

Ps - feel free to chat/ flirt with other relationship seeking fabbers on here too! "

Me and my partner met on fab and are now currently engaged nearly 2 years later.

(Mrs)

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

How did he get on then any news

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By *old HoopsWoman
over a year ago

Near Chester


"

Hi lovely.

I went for a coffee with a guy on fab but it didn’t quite work out.

Onwards and upwards though. "

Yay for taking the step. I'm following this with interest. Wishing you the best of luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im going to be wanting a 'relationship' I think really aswell. All the sites such as feeld and hinge still have all the fab people past and present on too, and everyone is so fucked arent they in some way or other (self included) its just working out what level of fucked you can both deal with and blossom under. Hold nose, deep breath and jump into that icy water feet first. Good luck all

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"Im going to be wanting a 'relationship' I think really aswell. All the sites such as feeld and hinge still have all the fab people past and present on too, and everyone is so fucked arent they in some way or other (self included) its just working out what level of fucked you can both deal with and blossom under. Hold nose, deep breath and jump into that icy water feet first. Good luck all "

Well when you put it like that it’s not so appealing any more argh

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Im going to be wanting a 'relationship' I think really aswell. All the sites such as feeld and hinge still have all the fab people past and present on too, and everyone is so fucked arent they in some way or other (self included) its just working out what level of fucked you can both deal with and blossom under. Hold nose, deep breath and jump into that icy water feet first. Good luck all "

this is true I find so many fab profiles on normal dating sites .. its quite funny often with very different parameters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How's it been dipping your toes in the normal dating sites? I've never done them, but also thinking of after the new year maybe giving it a go. Though I haven't actually proper dated in over 10 years

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"How's it been dipping your toes in the normal dating sites? I've never done them, but also thinking of after the new year maybe giving it a go. Though I haven't actually proper dated in over 10 years "

Don't. Stay here. It's a tawdry experience

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I've had some amazing fab dates so it's worth holding out to find the right person.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"How's it been dipping your toes in the normal dating sites? I've never done them, but also thinking of after the new year maybe giving it a go. Though I haven't actually proper dated in over 10 years "

Wouldn't recommend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How's it been dipping your toes in the normal dating sites? I've never done them, but also thinking of after the new year maybe giving it a go. Though I haven't actually proper dated in over 10 years

Wouldn't recommend "

I'd concur. From a male perspective the people here are far more "normal" than those I encountered on POF. Could be that I attracted a certain sort of psycho maybe but I think that's just the demograph there personally

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