FabSwingers.com forum: Christmas ain’t the same.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t switch the radio on. I’ve not yet bought a Christmas themed food/drink. I’ve not watched a Xmas film. The best I’ve got for getting into the Christmas spirit is changing my profile picture here and I bought a few presents.

Anyone else just not feeling it? Will I even enjoy this one. I miss my kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you see them at Christmas?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I don’t switch the radio on. I’ve not yet bought a Christmas themed food/drink. I’ve not watched a Xmas film. The best I’ve got for getting into the Christmas spirit is changing my profile picture here and I bought a few presents.

Anyone else just not feeling it? Will I even enjoy this one. I miss my kids. "
awww hey I miss mine too not the same without the kids

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Just remember Christmas is a time of giving…

So give me stuff and then feel better about yourself!

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I keep thinking I've done fuck all for it and then realise that it doesn't need to be over the top and that my kids will love whatever I do and prompt me on whatever things I forget.

I don't really do Christmas on the years they're at their dads (until they come home) as in reality is just another day and I'll treat it however is fitting.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, make Christmas what you need it to be not what society tells you it should be x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's only the 6th of December, don't put pressure on yourself

Christmas might well be different for you this year, I hope you can get some pleasure from it

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Only thing that happens before my birthday is advent calendars for the kids. Even though right now decorating and Christmas spirit is looking doubtful as I’m still absolutely full of the cold and feeling sh1t. Mrs

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

By now I'm usually excited and listening to Christmas music in the kitchen.

I've been so ill I'm not feeling anything.

I am starting to panic that I'm getting behind on the shopping and wrapping up and I'll have a mad rush in the last week.

I hate rushing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's only the 6th of December, don't put pressure on yourself

Christmas might well be different for you this year, I hope you can get some pleasure from it

This Xmas stressful time of year for all hope you do get bit enjoyment out of it woody like the last poster said only December 6

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"By now I'm usually excited and listening to Christmas music in the kitchen.

I've been so ill I'm not feeling anything.

I am starting to panic that I'm getting behind on the shopping and wrapping up and I'll have a mad rush in the last week.

I hate rushing. "

Are you feeling better now?

Bulk order gifts and gift bags on line. Don't stress

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not feeling it yet, we put the tree up last night but that turned into stress with the kids pulling all the stuff off, I think as it gets a bit closer the Christmas spirit will hopefully kick in.

Mrs

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Anyone else just not feeling it? Will I even enjoy this one. I miss my kids. "

Snap.. First year I'm thinking of not even getting a tree or decorations...if it wasn't the fact I know ill feel guilty afterwards which will probably make me do something eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picked up a cold at work as well can’t stop sneezing and blowing nose

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Definitely not feeling it, going to be just me, myself and I again, same as last year. It's just another day, only difference is everywhere is closed

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Did alot of wrapping yesterday all under tree! Surprised myself how organised I am this year x

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

Dreading it.

Been told what I am and what I’m not allowed to get the kids by the ex yet both of them have asked me for things that are on the “Not allowed list”.

Guess the ex will be disappointed for Christmas..

Just hoping I get to see my babies and have some quality time with them and they’re happy with what I’ll sort out for them.

Times aren’t easy for easy right now.

Any chance we can postpone Christmas for a month or two?

Just a thought.

Perhaps we can start a petition to send to the North Pole…

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

"Definitely not feeling it, going to be just me, myself and I again, same as last year. It's just another day, only difference is everywhere is closed"

Same as.

Being a single guy isn’t so great at various times of the year…

Still. I can probably get away with a microwave curry for dinner and the tv if my choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up OP it's still early yet big hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dreading it.

Been told what I am and what I’m not allowed to get the kids by the ex yet both of them have asked me for things that are on the “Not allowed list”.

Guess the ex will be disappointed for Christmas..

Just hoping I get to see my babies and have some quality time with them and they’re happy with what I’ll sort out for them.

Times aren’t easy for easy right now.

Any chance we can postpone Christmas for a month or two?

Just a thought.

Perhaps we can start a petition to send to the North Pole…

Have you asked why some things are not allowed? Maybe she/ family already has plans to buy those things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have kids, so its never been a big deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep thinking I've done fuck all for it and then realise that it doesn't need to be over the top and that my kids will love whatever I do and prompt me on whatever things I forget.

I don't really do Christmas on the years they're at their dads (until they come home) as in reality is just another day and I'll treat it however is fitting.

*** I guess what I'm trying to say is, make Christmas what you need it to be not what society tells you it should be x ***

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It's just one day. Times are hard for many people. Kids and adults need to remember this.

All this keeping up with the Facebook neighbours shit has gone too far. Fuck the elves and photos of 3,000 presents people post on SM!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep thinking I've done fuck all for it and then realise that it doesn't need to be over the top and that my kids will love whatever I do and prompt me on whatever things I forget.

I don't really do Christmas on the years they're at their dads (until they come home) as in reality is just another day and I'll treat it however is fitting.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, make Christmas what you need it to be not what society tells you it should be x "

Have you seen the "alternative" John Lewis ad?

That's brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dreading it.

Been told what I am and what I’m not allowed to get the kids by the ex yet both of them have asked me for things that are on the “Not allowed list”.

Guess the ex will be disappointed for Christmas..

Just hoping I get to see my babies and have some quality time with them and they’re happy with what I’ll sort out for them.

Times aren’t easy for easy right now.

Any chance we can postpone Christmas for a month or two?

Just a thought.

Perhaps we can start a petition to send to the North Pole…

I really feel for you,has your ex asked why you can't by the gifts? Tell her that your kids have asked for certain presents ,surely she won't what your kids being upset on Christmas morning

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Dreading it.

Been told what I am and what I’m not allowed to get the kids by the ex yet both of them have asked me for things that are on the “Not allowed list”.

Guess the ex will be disappointed for Christmas..

Just hoping I get to see my babies and have some quality time with them and they’re happy with what I’ll sort out for them.

Times aren’t easy for easy right now.

Any chance we can postpone Christmas for a month or two?

Just a thought.

Perhaps we can start a petition to send to the North Pole…

I get really upset by posts like this. Christmas is all about the kids. I would never tell my ex what they could or couldn’t buy unless someone else has already got it. For many years we still bought a joint big present. They always see the ex on the day too. I know I’m probably in the minority though

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Went to a Christmas Victorian Fayre at the weekend and watched Elf so it’s starting to kick in.

I’ll be putting a tree up this weekend with the kids and hopefully that make it feel a bit more real.

But I’m not going overboard this year…only buying for my kids and myself and C will get each other a little something.

Then that’s it…haven’t ordered any special meats, no big extravagance.

Myself and C have weekly/monthly treats - we’ve stayed in so many hotels this year and been to so many events - we don’t need a day to show how much we care for each other.

Don’t worry OP…your kids will know how much you are there for them.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I don't celebrate xmas, so not done anything other than order a couple of presents for others online.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Dreading it.

Been told what I am and what I’m not allowed to get the kids by the ex yet both of them have asked me for things that are on the “Not allowed list”.

Guess the ex will be disappointed for Christmas..

Just hoping I get to see my babies and have some quality time with them and they’re happy with what I’ll sort out for them.

Times aren’t easy for easy right now.

Any chance we can postpone Christmas for a month or two?

Just a thought.

Perhaps we can start a petition to send to the North Pole…

Been there. If its any help at all. Ignore the unreasonable ex demands. I had an ex that was the same and to avoid hassle I always acceded to her demands. I regret it now and should have done it differently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Will you see them at Christmas?

xx"

Yes. On set days, and there’s no problems with me visiting. But, I miss the evenings with them. And just being there. Just feeling it right now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else just not feeling it? Will I even enjoy this one. I miss my kids. awww hey I miss mine too not the same without the kids

Nope. The build up and watching the excitement from them made me feel good too.

It’s crap isn’t it when what you felt comfort in is taken away?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dreading it.

Been told what I am and what I’m not allowed to get the kids by the ex yet both of them have asked me for things that are on the “Not allowed list”.

Guess the ex will be disappointed for Christmas..

Just hoping I get to see my babies and have some quality time with them and they’re happy with what I’ll sort out for them.

Times aren’t easy for easy right now.

Any chance we can postpone Christmas for a month or two?

Just a thought.

Perhaps we can start a petition to send to the North Pole…

Where do I sign?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's only the 6th of December, don't put pressure on yourself

Christmas might well be different for you this year, I hope you can get some pleasure from it

Maybe. I hope so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love Xmas, but this year for some reason it makes me sad aswell.

I do have a lot to be thankful for, but I also have a lot that's missing that i know I'll never have.

Just watch die hard and drink Bailey's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *illybeachboyMan
over a year ago

Guernsey

I haven't felt xmassy in years, the whole season leaves me cold - roll on Jan 2!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I haven't felt xmassy in years, the whole season leaves me cold - roll on Jan 2!!"

Thanks for the reminder. AND it’s fucking cold.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm not a christmassy person but taking my grandchildren out Sunday was awesome but that is it until I see them again boxing day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not feeling it at all. I already had some dread, thinking of the first Christmas without my mum. Now I've got to add my brother into the mix.

If it wasn't for my daughter I'd be doing fuck all. I'm just not in the mood. And the thought of spending it with my partners family being all lovey dovey happy families is making me cry. I know I'm lucky to have that, but it just hurts too much at the moment.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I'm not feeling it at all. I already had some dread, thinking of the first Christmas without my mum. Now I've got to add my brother into the mix.

Can you not sack off your partners family and have it just you, him and your daughter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not feeling it at all. I already had some dread, thinking of the first Christmas without my mum. Now I've got to add my brother into the mix.

Can you not sack off your partners family and have it just you, him and your daughter? "

We live with them so we can't escape unfortunately.

My brothers funeral could be the week of Christmas, so I might see how long I can stay in Manchester. At least that way I don't have to deal with big family parties and get togethers.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Christmas isn't a competition and not everyone remembers that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not feeling it at all. I already had some dread, thinking of the first Christmas without my mum. Now I've got to add my brother into the mix.

Can you not sack off your partners family and have it just you, him and your daughter?

We live with them so we can't escape unfortunately.

My brothers funeral could be the week of Christmas, so I might see how long I can stay in Manchester. At least that way I don't have to deal with big family parties and get togethers."

Mine seems such a smaller issue now.

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By *lud4you2Man
over a year ago

Dunstable

Iv not felt Christmassy for the past 5-6 years.. spent 2 of them in australia just to get out the country.. last year I had a curry on Christmas Day as were tired and just off work for few days.. maybe it’s because I’m single

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I'm not feeling it at all. I already had some dread, thinking of the first Christmas without my mum. Now I've got to add my brother into the mix.

Can you not sack off your partners family and have it just you, him and your daughter?

We live with them so we can't escape unfortunately.

My brothers funeral could be the week of Christmas, so I might see how long I can stay in Manchester. At least that way I don't have to deal with big family parties and get togethers."

Absolutely understandable. I know it's their Xmas too and if anything recent events may make them want to be close to family and friends, not to take anything for granted, but I do hope they are mindful and compassionate with how they celebrate this year.

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

"Dreading it.

Been told what I am and what I’m not allowed to get the kids by the ex yet both of them have asked me for things that are on the “Not allowed list”.

Guess the ex will be disappointed for Christmas..

Just hoping I get to see my babies and have some quality time with them and they’re happy with what I’ll sort out for them.

Times aren’t easy for easy right now.

Any chance we can postpone Christmas for a month or two?

Just a thought.

Perhaps we can start a petition to send to the North Pole…

Have you asked why some things are not allowed? Maybe she/ family already has plans to buy those things.

Oh she’s not buying them presents.

She’s taking them in a holiday in the summer.

She won’t have glittery toys, slime toys, or arts and craft gifts that could make a mess.

Another thing is musical instruments.

My youngest asked for a guitar last year and a recorder for her birthday.

I haven’t seen them again since…..

Basically, on top of that it’s an no to anything that takes up any space in their room.

Suggested I buy them gift vouchers for the games on their tablets.

They’re two girls of 10 and 8 and they love all the craft stuff and make up and outdoor toys along with dolls and all sorts.

All of that stuff is on the prohibited list.

If I get them anything that she doesn’t approve of, it has to stay with me and that breaks my heart because they wanna take things home with them after they see me for Christmas.

Ex’s really suck.

And not in a good way…..

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

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"I'm not feeling it at all. I already had some dread, thinking of the first Christmas without my mum. Now I've got to add my brother into the mix.

Can you not sack off your partners family and have it just you, him and your daughter?

We live with them so we can't escape unfortunately.

My brothers funeral could be the week of Christmas, so I might see how long I can stay in Manchester. At least that way I don't have to deal with big family parties and get togethers."

Feel for you.

What many see as a massively great time of the year can be the worst for others.

Maybe We can start an anti Christmas thread and all support each other.

Let’s not call it the Anti Christ thread by mistake though…..

Spell check at the ready..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be alone for Christmas Day and all of new year unless Santa brings me a nice man

It’ll be my first Christmas alone properly, as I’d normally work, but I’ll be at home this year

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