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By *ena Amour OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Chard

So, I actually have found someone I fancy in more than a "I want to get naked and sweaty" way. I have had a chat with them and we are going to meet up for a social. I am nervous now, this tells me I want it to work. How do you know when it is more than just physical?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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When it just clicks. There's this sort of shared bond and they feed more than your desire. You want to find out more about them, talk to them and light them up.

Buuuut.... I also think sometimes you can get so caught up in the idea of lust and it being something more that you fall in love with the ideal.

Whatever happens OP, I hope you enjoy it for what it is. Don't be in any rush and enjoy the journey and however it naturally progresses. Best of luck, it's an exciting feeling, x

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I know when I fuck it up lol

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I know instantly if it’s someone I want to be friends with but I don’t feel I want more than that. Feelings of lust and attraction can often be mistaken for something more on here.

I hope it works out for you OP. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know instantly if it’s someone I want to be friends with but I don’t feel I want more than that. Feelings of lust and attraction can often be mistaken for something more on here.

I hope it works out for you OP. But you have to know I love to take it up in the ass. Enjoy "

Wise Babs

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I know instantly if it’s someone I want to be friends with but I don’t feel I want more than that. Feelings of lust and attraction can often be mistaken for something more on here.

I hope it works out for you OP. But you have to know I love to take it up in the ass. Enjoy

Wise Babs"

Always, Beardy, you know that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that you've asked an unanswerable question. I could say "you just know" but clearly you want a definitive answer and my opinion is that there isn't one.

Hope you have a great social and the two of you hit it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they make you ridiculously happy, then they make you ridiculously sad.

It's fun!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Try not to conflate lust, desire and infatuation with feelings of a more serious nature.

If this is your first social meet then I would counsel managing your own expectations and not getting ahead of yourself. That way be dragons when it goes sour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they make you ridiculously happy, then they make you ridiculously sad.

It's fun!

"

I try my best

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Enjoy the butterflies, have a good time, and don't get too attached too fast. Crushes and new relationship energy can be powerful on the moods but make sure they've faded before commiting yourself to anything more than originally planned.

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By *ena Amour OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Chard


"I think that you've asked an unanswerable question. I could say "you just know" but clearly you want a definitive answer and my opinion is that there isn't one.

Hope you have a great social and the two of you hit it off "

I am saying that there are things I do/feel which tell me that the person I am meeting might be more than a friend or fwb/fb. I am interested to know if others have an internal "tell" which makes them realise the same.

More than once in my life I have had this and ended up not telling the person involved which is probably a whole different thread!

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

When I go through all the stages of grief in the days after I've seen them, and all the songs seem to be about us.

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By *ena Amour OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Chard


"Try not to conflate lust, desire and infatuation with feelings of a more serious nature.

If this is your first social meet then I would counsel managing your own expectations and not getting ahead of yourself. That way be dragons when it goes sour."

Thank you, I am guilty of doing this sometimes, more recently too. I seem to be more emotionally swayed in my later life? Weird, maybe just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just know sometimes.

But take it one step at a time. You never know, the connection might be entirely different in person. And as others have said, it is easy to mistake lust for something more.

Go and spend time together, see how you feel. But don't get your hopes up, and be honest with them in regards to how you're feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I actually have found someone I fancy in more than a "I want to get naked and sweaty" way. I have had a chat with them and we are going to meet up for a social. I am nervous now, this tells me I want it to work. How do you know when it is more than just physical?"

You probably know when your palms are sweaty, knees weak arms are heavy - you're nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I actually have found someone I fancy in more than a "I want to get naked and sweaty" way. I have had a chat with them and we are going to meet up for a social. I am nervous now, this tells me I want it to work. How do you know when it is more than just physical?

You probably know when your palms are sweaty, knees weak arms are heavy - you're nervous"

Don't forget the spaghetti.

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Pinner

After many years, there is a fb who I am very fond of - and go out of my way to arrange meets with him. When he’s not around, I dream of him. I am sure he realises this but deep down we both know it will not work out.

I hope yours does tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I actually have found someone I fancy in more than a "I want to get naked and sweaty" way. I have had a chat with them and we are going to meet up for a social. I am nervous now, this tells me I want it to work. How do you know when it is more than just physical?

You probably know when your palms are sweaty, knees weak arms are heavy - you're nervous

Don't forget the spaghetti."

The ones where you open your mouth but the words just don't come out?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"So, I actually have found someone I fancy in more than a "I want to get naked and sweaty" way. I have had a chat with them and we are going to meet up for a social. I am nervous now, this tells me I want it to work. How do you know when it is more than just physical?"
if he keeps his trousers on for the first 14 hours of the date

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"So, I actually have found someone I fancy in more than a "I want to get naked and sweaty" way. I have had a chat with them and we are going to meet up for a social. I am nervous now, this tells me I want it to work. How do you know when it is more than just physical?"

This makes me very happy beautiful! Use your Scooby Senses wisely and just play it by ear. But most of all enjoy it. You deserve happiness

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i hope it works out for you,, but one step at a time

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think that you've asked an unanswerable question. I could say "you just know" but clearly you want a definitive answer and my opinion is that there isn't one.

Hope you have a great social and the two of you hit it off

I am saying that there are things I do/feel which tell me that the person I am meeting might be more than a friend or fwb/fb. I am interested to know if others have an internal "tell" which makes them realise the same.

More than once in my life I have had this and ended up not telling the person involved which is probably a whole different thread!"

I don't know if I have an internal tell. Actually, no that's a lie.

There's just a feeling. I think I'm a bit of a soppy optimist and sometimes there's something really special there. Whatever happens you want that person in your life in some capacity. I think it's good to remain open to things. Even if it's from an unlikely place like fab. Sometimes you meet people and you end up falling for them. They love you. Keep the hope. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i hope it works out for you,, but one step at a time"

Oh fuck is that how you're meant to do it? Damn I've been leapfrogging in and I don't mean to brag but I kinda hold a trophy at my primary school for long jump record.

Fuck fuck fuck I wish I have seen this advise decades ago!

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