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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We would always do a social first. No plans, no expectations. Just see how we get on.

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Social first no expectations anything else is a bonus

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Almost always a social first.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I never fuck on a first meet, no matter how gorgeous they are. Touch & taste is my limit. If that's enough to warrant a second meet, then good job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't rule anything out but usually agree beforehand what we are willing to do if feeling it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuckity fuck fuck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

See I’ve met a few ladies saying just a kiss and they are like no I want you now

I’m like no wait till next time x

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I prefer a social to break ice n see if you click

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Always a social and often not even a kiss on that social.

I don't play on a first meet. That has only ever worked out well on one occasion.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Social first.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd never meet without a public social first.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

I have done both and both can be exciting in their own way.

I have had socials that have led to some fantastic fun and socials that didn't go anywhere.

I have also had first meets which where just for the naughty fun.

Some people the sexual tension and anticipation after a good social can act the whole experience, some people just get the same having sex with strangers.

Always open to both!

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By *atnipOMan
over a year ago

sawbridgeworth

Would always prefer a social first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no expectations or any pressure , that a person has given me their time is a start , it's like everything , your behaviour gets you a shot at the title wether you get another one totally depends on you .

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By *rGandMrsGGCouple
over a year ago

aberdeen

Social first for us with no expectations and if it goes further then its a bonus x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've done both, we've also had socials only after and we've taken people home we hadn't gone out to meet so a total mixed bag.

Each situation had its own triggers and each fitted what we wanted at the time.

Don't limit yourself then everything that's available to you is an option should you choose it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd never meet without a public social first."

^this^

I think its important its public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both.

Meet for drinks and chat then onto a hotel.

I don't have time for 2 separate meets.

Unless they're a complete knobhead then I'll leave after the first drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to say I chat a lot beforehand.

If I'm meeting you for a drink I'm 90% sure I want more.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I just love meeting new people it's not essential to get it on on first date

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.

Im ok with either to be honest.

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By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton

Will be happy to do a social as looking for a genuine social meet with a woman .

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"Just to say I chat a lot beforehand.

If I'm meeting you for a drink I'm 90% sure I want more. "

Yep… what she said ^^

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London


"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.

Im ok with either to be honest. "

You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.

Im ok with either to be honest.

You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in! "

Maybe they said "get it out!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.

Im ok with either to be honest.

You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in! "

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland


"Im yet to have a social of any description, but thats not to say i wouldnt. Some meets weve chatted, had a drink etc before hand at their place, others ive literally been told to "get it out" the second ive walked in.

Im ok with either to be honest.

You’re lucky. Most meets I’ve had I’ve been told to “get out” the second I’ve walked in! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to say I chat a lot beforehand.

If I'm meeting you for a drink I'm 90% sure I want more.

Yep… what she said ^^

"

I think that's alot more people than care to admit it.

Social first is one of those automatic responses cause it sounds like the right thing to say

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We might secretly look at them and just want to fuck but we always do a social first.

We only meet bi couples so we are looking for that 4 way connection which is very hard to come by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to say I chat a lot beforehand.

If I'm meeting you for a drink I'm 90% sure I want more. "

Basically this

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Social 1st if that happens to lead to more then so be it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to say I chat a lot beforehand.

If I'm meeting you for a drink I'm 90% sure I want more.

Basically this "

Drink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how long we’ve been talking and comfortable with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I'd rather have a social. Sometimes chemistry is just there and it might lead to more but a zero expectations social is more enjoyable. Relaxed. Fun.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We always set out to just social…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would always insist on a social first, its best for everyone involved. And we want to make sure they will actually turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just social always! If it's about jus fuck than no need to b on here you can find suitable fuckers anywhere

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"We always set out to just social… "

You're just sluts though.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I think its really hard to tell until you meet face to face, i'm inclined to go for a 'social'...and see what happens from there, how you get on, chemistry, fancying, flirting etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…"

This is me. I have chatted with some lovely men, liked their pics but when we've met in person the chemistry wasn't there.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"We always set out to just social…

You're just sluts though. "

Bit rich… yo-yo knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes always a social chat/drinks/break the ice/see if we click meet first, then arrange another meet if all goes well.....that's if the person(s) turn up in the first place!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Social first

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By *helamontsCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Social meet first for us here ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…"

Voice notes or quick video chat on telegram

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Voice notes or quick video chat on telegram"

Video chat helps, but voicenotes and phone calls still don’t sort the chemistry side. I’d never plan for sex on a first meeting, based on seeing a few pics and hearing someone’s voice..

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I prefer a social first, although I am sometimes happy to break my own rule. I tend to go with my gut these days and it’s working well

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Social first always as in our opinion until your speaking to someone in person in the same room as you you can't always tell if there are suitable sparks or not

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Social first in a public place like a bar. No kisses but a hug to say goodbye at end of meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…"

Tell me about it right?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually think voice notes help a lot if it's back and forth. Or a phone call obviously. But by the time I've commited to meeting the person I'm usually pretty sure I would go through with it even if it's not as dreamy as I had hoped.

We are all flawed fuckers who present the best versions of ourselves online so that's a given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how can you ever tell for sure if the chemistry will be there, face to face? Just because the photos look good, and people seem great from online messages…

Tell me about it right?! "

I know, I know if I get on with someone by talking ( I mean actual talking on the phone, video call). I know if I fancy someone by doing that

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

I've done a few social straight into meets

Once the chemistry has been recognised then I'm happy to let passion take over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not happened and not likely to

No one wants wonko

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

As we don't have much time off for fun, we prefer not to have a social and enjoy meeting up for sex. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a social and then arrange a play meet. Have played on first meet before though but it was after chatting for a while x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to reply again but on these new points.

Yeah I mean imagine going through too much work effort and hassle chatting, essentially going on dates, to then set up a sex meet and for that sex to be fucking terrible.

To quote that meme 'aint nobody got time for that!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell me about it right?! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m not fingering her under the table after 1/2hr then it’s a bad meet for me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"If I’m not fingering her under the table after 1/2hr then it’s a bad meet for me "

If I’d have known that I’d have moved a bit closer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just used to get straight in the bedroom after a few pleasantries A good few weeks of chat before that and the swapping of a grainy face pic or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell me about it right?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social. But once she goes to the toilets I’ll go to fuck her car exhaust pipe in secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just used to get straight in the bedroom after a few pleasantries A good few weeks of chat before that and the swapping of a grainy face pic or two "

I read this as granny face pic and was alarmed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just used to get straight in the bedroom after a few pleasantries A good few weeks of chat before that and the swapping of a grainy face pic or two

I read this as granny face pic and was alarmed "

If granny gets approval away we go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just used to get straight in the bedroom after a few pleasantries A good few weeks of chat before that and the swapping of a grainy face pic or two

I read this as granny face pic and was alarmed

If granny gets approval away we go "

Pahaha. The guys all the red flags if he's disappointed when you show up after those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I’m not fingering her under the table after 1/2hr then it’s a bad meet for me

If I’d have known that I’d have moved a bit closer! "

You got the main course. Of course

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

My last fab meet was a nice drink, chat and a snog

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london


"My last fab meet was a nice drink, chat and a snog "

Sounds like a great meet to be fair, nice and chilled

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My last fab meet was a nice drink, chat and a snog "

Lucky man or woman x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"My last fab meet was a nice drink, chat and a snog

Lucky man or woman x"

The second and third meet was much better. Very hot and steamy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol "

We’re not really that sociable to be honest, just want to fuck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My last fab meet was a nice drink, chat and a snog

Lucky man or woman x

The second and third meet was much better. Very hot and steamy "

Steamy sounds fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My last fab meet was a nice drink, chat and a snog "

Ending on a snog first meet is still pretty decent to be fair. I take those as a win!

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Social first and see where it goes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

when I first used to meet I went straight into a sex meet then I changed tactics and always had a social first. Now I don't meet at all. I used to also meet in clubs which was purely based on sex

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Always a social. You might not click so nothing is guaranteed even at a social meet.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Only the former

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"Sorry to reply again but on these new points.

Yeah I mean imagine going through too much work effort and hassle chatting, essentially going on dates, to then set up a sex meet and for that sex to be fucking terrible.

To quote that meme 'aint nobody got time for that!'"

Yeah I mean imagine getting your sexiest underwear on, makeup etc. Then have the hassle and effort of meeting someone that’s expecting sex but you fancy them as much as a piece of raw tripe. Imagine feeling that you have to give them a blow job just so that you can escape!

Ain’t nobody got time for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to reply again but on these new points.

Yeah I mean imagine going through too much work effort and hassle chatting, essentially going on dates, to then set up a sex meet and for that sex to be fucking terrible.

To quote that meme 'aint nobody got time for that!'

Yeah I mean imagine getting your sexiest underwear on, makeup etc. Then have the hassle and effort of meeting someone that’s expecting sex but you fancy them as much as a piece of raw tripe. Imagine feeling that you have to give them a blow job just so that you can escape!

Ain’t nobody got time for that!"

Oh damn well I mean IT being consensual is always a pretty damn essential part for starters...

It's each to their own, I think prepare for the best, expect the worst

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The furthest my first meets go is a kiss..never have and never will fuck on the first meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never more than a social on a first meet x

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Just a coffee and a chat, maybe a kiss if I fancy them.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I prefer social first, they usually ghost me afterwards anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck first, no exceptions, I don’t just drink coffee with anybody

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Social we all have to get on before getting it on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wine, rum, more rum, sex, breakfast, coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer social first, they usually ghost me afterwards anyway."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs,that way if we don't get on etc, bin it off and have a look around luckily we've done ok so far!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

For myself it's how in-depth we've spoken. here and off here, because the meeting is like pre planned we know what's happening it's normally at that point we've already grown a really great connection.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I really enjoy the social side of things

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"The furthest my first meets go is a kiss..never have and never will fuck on the first meet x"

Bummer saved some traveling expenses x

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

It has to be a no pressure, no expectations 1st meet for me, which i make clear beforehand. Someone expecting me to be intimate with them is a big turn off x

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

That's why we used to like going to the attic that's how we got into swinging go there we would aim to play together in a room and if we felt a bit frisky or the Mrs liked a guy we'd play with them no pressure..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my socials ended with a few of there rules broken and at minimum a blowie in the car

Funny how that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer social first, they usually ghost me afterwards anyway."

Yup, what she said

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol "

No fucking on coffee meet... first is to meet and see if there is attraction.maybe snog...to make sure they can kiss

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"The furthest my first meets go is a kiss..never have and never will fuck on the first meet x

Bummer saved some traveling expenses x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol

No fucking on coffee meet... first is to meet and see if there is attraction.maybe snog...to make sure they can kiss "
funny how you all say these things

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"The furthest my first meets go is a kiss..never have and never will fuck on the first meet x

Bummer saved some traveling expenses x

"

But I'm guessing theirs room for those that need a delicate touch

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol

No fucking on coffee meet... first is to meet and see if there is attraction.maybe snog...to make sure they can kiss funny how you all say these things "

Why funny though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol

No fucking on coffee meet... first is to meet and see if there is attraction.maybe snog...to make sure they can kiss funny how you all say these things

Why funny though? "
most women iv known see it as more of a guideline than a hard rule

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol

No fucking on coffee meet... first is to meet and see if there is attraction.maybe snog...to make sure they can kiss funny how you all say these things

Why funny though? most women iv known see it as more of a guideline than a hard rule "

Sure we are all different some like shagging straight away and not wasting any time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social. If I feel we like each other enough I’ll ask for a smooch, you get to them know if the passion and some kind of spark is there if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why we used to like going to the attic that's how we got into swinging go there we would aim to play together in a room and if we felt a bit frisky or the Mrs liked a guy we'd play with them no pressure.."

Jet airplane to the Attic please

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present "

And you would be an amazing present.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present

And you would be an amazing present. "

But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present

And you would be an amazing present.

But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?"

Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.

But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).

It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A first what now?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present

And you would be an amazing present.

But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?

Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.

But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).

It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!! "

But most people like one nighters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck on the first meet if there's chemistry

I have very very little spare time and if I had to factor in an extra day for social first it would take forever to get to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present

And you would be an amazing present.

But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?

Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.

But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).

It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!

But most people like one nighters?"

I'm a repeat cummer...two nights??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hardly had any socials and the one's I did have ended with sex.

I always plan to meet for sex and it's always worked out.

I find socials more like dating which isn't what I'm here to do.

I would meet up for a social with a woman as I find those matches for me are harder to know for sure before you meet.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Do most of you like me rather meet for a social chat and kisses only on first meets or do you all just want to fuck lol "

We generally aim to be fucking within 3 minutes of meeting... if that goes OK, then we will probably consider talking to them.

Cal

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Fuck on the first meet if there's chemistry

I have very very little spare time and if I had to factor in an extra day for social first it would take forever to get to it!"

I'm the same...but only if I think we would get on. The fab meets I had when it purely was a social to begin with ended up with average sex that I didn't enjoy and never to see them again. I did find a common denominator with them meets...none of them had verifications. They were all handsome and lovely to chat to. But the sex was pretty dead. The best sex I had is with fabbers with lots of positive verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present

And you would be an amazing present.

But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?

Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.

But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).

It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!

But most people like one nighters?"

Do they? Maybe we do, but also most people like to see things get, dare I say better, if you see each other again.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Isn't it about what's most natural? If you both fancy eachother... there's nothing like the present

And you would be an amazing present.

But am I right about you should go with the flow? No point waiting again if you really fancy eachother?

Yes. No. Maybe. I mean, if the vibe is right, I’ve done it and it didn’t amount to anything afterwards, because it was just being with each other at the right time, and it was sexy and exciting.

But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).

It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!

But most people like one nighters?

Do they? Maybe we do, but also most people like to see things get, dare I say better, if you see each other again. "

Yes but difficult to find a good playmate. Much easier to find one nighters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I was on here (pre covid) I would only meet for sex. No social what so ever, but wasnt really getting much out of the meets because I prefer some sort of connection.

Now I do a lot of chatting and aim for a social first with no expectation of more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the vibe is right then I'm all in. I always say it's a social for the first meet as that just seems a lot of pressure to go straight into a play meet without meeting each other first.

But my meets usually do not stay social haha, I have had purely social meets but they never progressed further because the vibe wasn't right. It's easy finding one nighters. Regular play partners are a definitely more difficult to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"….

But, if Then there’s that anticipation of wanting after having a little taste. You know? That’s a build up to something much much more. (For me).

It also leaves the opportunity of nothing happening (also happens) which sucks, so I agree with you, JUMP ON THEM!!!

But most people like one nighters?

Do they? Maybe we do, but also most people like to see things get, dare I say better, if you see each other again.

Yes but difficult to find a good playmate. Much easier to find one nighters?"

And that’s where yours and my point of views will be coming from a different place maybe. A woman v a man’s experience.

I can’t say either way feels easy. It feels easy with what I want, but the reality is much different.

And to relate that to the op, no, my expectations of the woman I meet is, they might not find that first meeting sexy enough to want anything more than a social.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

We haven't had loads of meets... but we haven't had a social yet (unless you count meeting in a hotel bar first).

We tend to be quite spontaneous with meets, especially if we are meeting with single guys.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

We have had a few socials and I have had two solo meets with boys and had some kisses! But we never rush like to see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go with the flow tbh, see how the meet is progressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social is a good buffer zone isn't it?

If you get on really well and have time and accommodation available it can progress rapidly onto more - if you don't or haven't then it gives you time to make your mind up which isn't a bad thing.

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond

Always asocial first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Socials are a must I feel x

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