FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type "

I’m single so can’t speak for couples but, I’m in the mood to be brutally honest. Would that help?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Again, I’m a single lady, not a couple but you have no profile pic and only one public pic of your dick. That’s your biggest issue before even looking at your bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

I’m single so can’t speak for couples but, I’m in the mood to be brutally honest. Would that help?

Oh oh do me do me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

I’m single so can’t speak for couples but, I’m in the mood to be brutally honest. Would that help?

Oh oh do me do me"

Steady on haha

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type "
you only have one pic and it's your todger the profile reads OK I guess it's just you're a guy amongst many so you need to stand out more with the profile and when you message be different, funny, articulate, vivacious, refer to the profile which you've read obviously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

As everyone will say - you have only one public pic and that's a generic cock pic.

Why not add pics that show you as a person? Pics that make you look interesting and someone people want to spend time with?

Also saying you may be too kinky for this site isn't a challenge, but instead many people will probably not want to be involved, as they will worry that you will turn up with a bucket of custard and a hopeful expression on your face. You can introduce this after getting to know them.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

I’m single so can’t speak for couples but, I’m in the mood to be brutally honest. Would that help?

Oh yeah, I'm in the mood to get my profile roasted too ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type "

Nobody knows if your an oil paining or not cause at the moment your a silhouette.

When a message goes to an inbox that little thumbnail image is what's gonna decide if the person getting it checks your profile out, opens the message or replies.

You have to have something to garner interest.

After that think about the rest of your profile does it give a good account of who you are and why you are here while portraying all that in the best light possible

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"As everyone will say - you have only one public pic and that's a generic cock pic.

Why not add pics that show you as a person? Pics that make you look interesting and someone people want to spend time with?

Tina, it was fun seeing you on Saturday on Bunny Night, I was Butler Bunny. Might see you again at the Xmas do, if I'm not watching Miss give JP a naked massage in the Dungeon tap me for a drink.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Send us a message that you'd usually send a couple, and we'll give feedback. It's hard to give advice when messages in our experience tend to be what let them down.

So let's see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Added a body pic

Hopefully that will help me with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

I’m single so can’t speak for couples but, I’m in the mood to be brutally honest. Would that help?

Oh yeah, I'm in the mood to get my profile roasted too ?? "

Oh, I walked right into this, haven’t I?!

Will get back to you tonight haha!

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By *istressCandyFUCKSTV/TS
over a year ago

Salford

Well you’ve only been on for 5 months?? Maybe the couples feel you’re not genuine enough???

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type "

go to a club or social and make contact in person.. couples get swamped my messages off single males so they arent always going to take time and reply..

Get out and about is the only way... worked for me over 5 years of being here

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Tina, it was fun seeing you on Saturday on Bunny Night, I was Butler Bunny. Might see you again at the Xmas do, if I'm not watching Miss give JP a naked massage in the Dungeon tap me for a drink."

I thought I saw you, but wasn't sure! Apologies for not saying hello and offering you a jelly baby.

I'll be at work for that

but will be back there in January, though

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

No profile pic - only a dick pic.

No different to 50,000 other guys.

Your status makes you sound strange - it’s a sex site, everyone has kinks.

Doesn’t matter how detailed your bio is, a pic of your dick just lobbed out isn’t going to get much interest.

People will just move on to a profile of a single guy with more about them and explains things better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please "

- search your local club in the forum and attend one of the upcoming events.

- join the pre-event chat group - ask the host how to do this

- get to know people a bit before hand, in the chat, so you feel comfortable chatting on the night.

- get a few genuine verifications from meeting in person.

- expect nothing. Enjoy the social. It’s a night down the pub, with the option of clothes.

- get rid of your dick pic!! If people want to see it, they’ll ask.

- always send 1 or 2 clear and recent face pics with your first message to anyone, for a higher chance of a response

- cut your profile down, it’s a bit waffly!

If someone’s interested in your face pics and have mutual interests, you can share this info over a video call.

- confidence is sexy. Woe is me is unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your last thread was pretty confusing.

But eventually you stated your kinks. And as plenty of people said, they arent that kinky at all. In fact, its fair to say, quite bog standard on here. Very run of the mill.

So you need to change your profile status....because you clearly arent too kinky for FAB.

And not sure why you are complaining. Your profile says you had a MMF meet this month.

Read through the Threads history, you will see an incredible amount of posts from single guys asking what are they doing wrong/why wont anyone reply/how can i get more responses...etc etc..??

Im sure everyone will give you the same advice:

Be patient

Make an effort.

Women/couples can receive 100's of messages a day

Try to be original

Post some decent pics, not just a lone dick pic.

Read peoples profiles carefully and see if you match what they are looking for.

Dont keep messaging the same person if they don't reply

If someone/a couple do reply, then stop replying...they may have changed their mind, or your message may have been lost in the multitude of other messages received. Be patient

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

Nobody knows if your an oil paining or not cause at the moment your a silhouette.

When a message goes to an inbox that little thumbnail image is what's gonna decide if the person getting it checks your profile out, opens the message or replies.

You have to have something to garner interest.

After that think about the rest of your profile does it give a good account of who you are and why you are here while portraying all that in the best light possible "

This

We're a couple (your target audience) and here's how we work.

A message comes in and the first thing we look at is the username and the profile picture. If either or neither interest us or one or the other put us off then it gets deleted without being read.

Then we look at the profile. Again if the text is bland or the imagery is offputting and uninteresting, is cock heavy and doesn't give an idea of body shape then we delete.

If we've got any interest at all after that we'll open the message. If the content is basic such as a 'Hi' or superficial, asskissing flattery then yep - it's destined for the bin.

We don't expect or want war and peace length messages but it has to generate interest and potentially amusement.

Simple as that.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Tina, it was fun seeing you on Saturday on Bunny Night, I was Butler Bunny. Might see you again at the Xmas do, if I'm not watching Miss give JP a naked massage in the Dungeon tap me for a drink.

I thought I saw you, but wasn't sure! Apologies for not saying hello and offering you a jelly baby.

I'll be at work for that

but will be back there in January, though

I so would have gone for a jelly baby, but 2023 is going to be an amazing year. I'm sure we'll bump into each other.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Oh yeah, I'm in the mood to get my profile roasted too ??

Oh, I walked right into this, haven’t I?!

Will get back to you tonight haha!"

If you are putting in prep time, I'm going to get pulled to pieces, I better get a box of tissues ready. And I mean to have good cry and not a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah, I'm in the mood to get my profile roasted too ??

Oh, I walked right into this, haven’t I?!

Will get back to you tonight haha!

If you are putting in prep time, I'm going to get pulled to pieces, I better get a box of tissues ready. And I mean to have good cry and not a wank

I can usually fit both in together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah, I'm in the mood to get my profile roasted too ??

Oh, I walked right into this, haven’t I?!

Will get back to you tonight haha!

If you are putting in prep time, I'm going to get pulled to pieces, I better get a box of tissues ready. And I mean to have good cry and not a wank

I can usually fit both in together "

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread..."

What was your last thread about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given how many replies in so little time I’m assuming this isn’t going well. The blunt answer is you. There are better options. Harsh but true. Just be use you’re eager and available doesn’t mean success is even likely much less guaranteed

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By *onn46Man
over a year ago

swadlincote

I feel you! I don’t get any replies from women or couples either

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Oh yeah, I'm in the mood to get my profile roasted too ??

Oh, I walked right into this, haven’t I?!

Will get back to you tonight haha!

If you are putting in prep time, I'm going to get pulled to pieces, I better get a box of tissues ready. And I mean to have good cry and not a wank

I can usually fit both in together "

That reminds me, coming out of a club I was mugged by two men.

I managed to knock one out.

Not the most appropriate time for a wank, I'll admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Mrs of the couple here, I'd pass you by because of the cock pic and lack of others.

Your bio actually reads well I'd just improve the pics.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No profile picture would put a lot off.

First picture they see is your cock, that wouldn’t interest many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I click on the profile first , if it doesn’t stand out or interest me then I probably won’t reply. Ones without a profile picture I usually just delete.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Mrs of the couple here, I'd pass you by because of the cock pic and lack of others.

Your bio actually reads well I'd just improve the pics.

Mrs "

To be fair, the standard of your pictures put everyone on the site to shame. Pretty sure you've got David Bailey on retainer.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Most messages we get from single men are just awful and don't deserve anything but being binned. What are your messages like, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably being in a head state that's not really conducive to this environment

Having just read another thread where you asked a question but didn't actually ask it - I'd ask you if really you thought that you were ready to take on the dynamic that is a couple? We are demanding and we know what we want. Performance is top of the list! Competition is very high.

Take a moment and have a think about that sir.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type "

Supply and demand.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Most messages we get from single men are just awful and don't deserve anything but being binned. What are your messages like, OP? "

I got him to send us one, and gave him feedback. We've seen much worse, he just needs a bit of fine tuning we think.

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Don't bother trying to get a meet off this site if your a single male..not going to happen... Go to a club instead and actually meet people.... That actually might work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way your hold your phone is ambiguous

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Keep plugging away you'll get there in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like we have another one who thinks that there's some magic formula or silver bullet to getting replies or meets.

There isn't.

There is no secret message that will guarantee you get a reply.

Anyone you message will most likely check out your profile before they even think about reading what you've sent them. If they're unimpressed with what they find there - for whatever reason, be it a lack of pictures, profile text or simply that they don't fancy you, the chances are they'll either ignore your message or delete it. Some might open it out of sheer curiosity as to what you've written, but more often than not, they won't.

Now try to think of things from a recipients point of view.

They haven't asked you to message them.

They are under no obligation to read your message or to respond.

Fab is just like the real world in that it's not just about what you want or who you fancy. They have to like you too.

And, just like the real world, that narrows down the field immensely.

There will likely only be a handful of people that fit that criteria.

Stop worrying about it. It'll happen when the time is right. When you find the right people.

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By *oubleTrouble666Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Added a body pic

Hopefully that will help me with"

You have a hand dryer in your toilet, brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

Nobody knows if your an oil paining or not cause at the moment your a silhouette.

When a message goes to an inbox that little thumbnail image is what's gonna decide if the person getting it checks your profile out, opens the message or replies.

You have to have something to garner interest.

After that think about the rest of your profile does it give a good account of who you are and why you are here while portraying all that in the best light possible

This

We're a couple (your target audience) and here's how we work.

A message comes in and the first thing we look at is the username and the profile picture. If either or neither interest us or one or the other put us off then it gets deleted without being read.

Then we look at the profile. Again if the text is bland or the imagery is offputting and uninteresting, is cock heavy and doesn't give an idea of body shape then we delete.

If we've got any interest at all after that we'll open the message. If the content is basic such as a 'Hi' or superficial, asskissing flattery then yep - it's destined for the bin.

We don't expect or want war and peace length messages but it has to generate interest and potentially amusement.

Simple as that.

Can’t disagree with this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just sent you a message

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Just sent you a message

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me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most messages we get from single men are just awful and don't deserve anything but being binned. What are your messages like, OP? "

Sorry this is who I replied to...

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

The meet with the older couple, are they on Fab? There’s no veri.

There isn’t a magic formula to getting what you want from Fab. Blank profile photos are usually an automatic delete for folk on here, they certainly are for us.

Enjoy the social side of things first

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? "

Because you have a silhouette instead of a profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average."

Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average.

Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ? "

OK maybe mine ain't perverted lol

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average.

Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ? "

Not everyone wants to be duct taped to a table, with a wand tied to her thigh, fisted up to the elbow, and used as a bukkake target all at the same time Midnight

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average.

Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ?

Not everyone wants to be duct taped to a table, with a wand tied to her thigh, fisted up to the elbow, and used as a bukkake target all at the same time Midnight

LvM"

Lol... Yes my kinks are definitely tame then lol!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average.

Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ?

Not everyone wants to be duct taped to a table, with a wand tied to her thigh, fisted up to the elbow, and used as a bukkake target all at the same time Midnight

LvM"

**midnight reels in shock **

Gasps.. Really!! Are you sure?!

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average."

...but enough to get the thread deleted?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

For me, it be lack of photos. Your bio is ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me, it be lack of photos. Your bio is ok"

I have added a few more... Will add more over next couple of days but thank you so much for your advice rather than mocking it!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average.

...but enough to get the thread deleted?"

There were seven kinks :

Gangbang

Being watched

Over the bonnet

Fuck in truck

Woman 20+ years older

I can't remember the other two

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread...

What was your last thread about?

Its been deleted by Admin, im assuming.

But it was very confusing...he was asking a question and wanted to chat with others about it...but no one could work out what the question was!!

Eventually he said he was worried people would think he was too kinky...and finally listed his kinks. Which, in fairness, were pretty average.

Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ?

Not everyone wants to be duct taped to a table, with a wand tied to her thigh, fisted up to the elbow, and used as a bukkake target all at the same time Midnight

LvM

Lol... Yes my kinks are definitely tame then lol!!!! "

Personally i don't think it's to do with kinks. I mean I met men who not interested in my kinks. I had fun with them. But personally prefer a guy who is into my kinks.Shouldnt stop you from meeting. Just a numbers game. just keep trying until someone says yes

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ?

Not everyone wants to be duct taped to a table, with a wand tied to her thigh, fisted up to the elbow, and used as a bukkake target all at the same time Midnight

LvM

**midnight reels in shock **

Gasps.. Really!! Are you sure?!

Don't worry though, there's still a corner at the Manchester event for you to do that

LvM

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Also saying you may be too kinky for this site isn't a challenge"

In our experience, it tends to suggest that they aren't kinky at all, would be well out of their depth on FL and have probably seen 50 Shades one too many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type "

Ok.. You've added a profile pic...personally i find the cartoon heads a complete turn off .. I'd rather see a headless, cropped photo. But it's better than a silhouette

Then I imagine implying that any couples not in their 30's are not genuine would be a turn off... Personally I'd delete that bit

Otherwise the rest looks ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well a kink is a kink.. What makes it average lol?

Wearing latex and a gas mask, tied up, having your hair brushed with a cow prod kinda kink average ?

Not everyone wants to be duct taped to a table, with a wand tied to her thigh, fisted up to the elbow, and used as a bukkake target all at the same time Midnight

LvM

**midnight reels in shock **

Gasps.. Really!! Are you sure?!

Don't worry though, there's still a corner at the Manchester event for you to do that

LvM"

We can't go to MAN

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Right so I'm probably gonna get shot down / slagges off now because of my last thread....

I have to ask... Why is it so hard to get a reply from a couple? Or they reply once saying they interested then just stop all communications...

I really don't get it... I know I'm no oil painting BUT surely Im someone's type

Ok.. You've added a profile pic...personally i find the cartoon heads a complete turn off .. I'd rather see a headless, cropped photo. But it's better than a silhouette - ***JUST REDONE THE PHOTO WITHOUT THE CARTOON HEAD ***

Next.. I think it says you are straight but you want / have had and enjoyed an MMF?? So either your letters are mixed up or you need to update preferences, as a non-bi couple would perhaps pass you by based on this. *** SORRY DON'T GET THIS PART? I MEAN A MMF WHERE THE FEMALE IS THE CENTRE OF ATTENTION (SHARING) (NOT THE NICEST WAY TO PUT THAT)

Then I imagine implying that any couples not in their 30's are not genuine would be a turn off... Personally I'd delete that bit *** THIS HAS NOW BEEN REMOVED ***

Otherwise the rest looks ok"

Thanks for your advice

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" ***JUST REDONE THE PHOTO WITHOUT THE CARTOON HEAD ***

Your profile pic still has the cartoon head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So... You are describing an MFM.. A female plays with both men, but the men don't play together (or make eye contact

) (teasing with that bit)

A MMF implies the men are bi and play with each other and the female

I might not have described very well.. But the order is important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ***JUST REDONE THE PHOTO WITHOUT THE CARTOON HEAD ***

Your profile pic still has the cartoon head"

He's probably waiting for it to be approved, give him 5

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" ***JUST REDONE THE PHOTO WITHOUT THE CARTOON HEAD ***

Your profile pic still has the cartoon head

He's probably waiting for it to be approved, give him 5

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" ***JUST REDONE THE PHOTO WITHOUT THE CARTOON HEAD ***

Your profile pic still has the cartoon head

He's probably waiting for it to be approved, give him 5

PHOTO HAS NOW CHANGED

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR HELP I REALLY DO MEAN IT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ***JUST REDONE THE PHOTO WITHOUT THE CARTOON HEAD ***

Your profile pic still has the cartoon head

He's probably waiting for it to be approved, give him 5

PHOTO HAS NOW CHANGED

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR HELP I REALLY DO MEAN IT

It's so much better IMO

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By *iss Boot LoverTV/TS
over a year ago

Tetbury

A bucket of custard and a hopeful expression on your face

Actually lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" ***JUST REDONE THE PHOTO WITHOUT THE CARTOON HEAD ***

Your profile pic still has the cartoon head

He's probably waiting for it to be approved, give him 5

*** I'M JUST GLAD YOU GUYS HAVE ADVISED ME AND THAT IT'S STARTING TO TAKE SHAPE PLEASE DO FEEL FREE TO GIVE ANY ADVICE I WON'T TAKE ANYTHING TO HEART JUST WANNA MAKE MY PROFILE A BIT BETTER

***

It's so much better IMO"

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Still waiting for QueenOfHearts to rip my profile to shreds, maybe it's mercy, or pity

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Most messages we get from single men are just awful and don't deserve anything but being binned. What are your messages like, OP?

Sorry this is who I replied to... "

I read your message. It's OK. Not amazing but not terrible. I've seen way worse.

It may be because you sent us an example message rather than what you might send to us specifically, but I noticed that there was nothing in the message showing that you were engaging with us personally. You could copy and paste exactly that message to yen thousand people without changing a word. We would want to see some comment that showed you had read our profile and liked something about us. Maybe a comment on a photo or profile text, or a question.

Spam is rife on Fab and we'd like some way of distinguishing this from a message to us and a message to anybody who will bite.

Imagine printing leaflets saying somebody looks nice and they would like to go out with them, then doing a mail-drop around the neighbourhood. How many dates do you think you'd get?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most messages we get from single men are just awful and don't deserve anything but being binned. What are your messages like, OP?

Sorry this is who I replied to...

I read your message. It's OK. Not amazing but not terrible. I've seen way worse.

Spam is rife on Fab and we'd like some way of distinguishing this from a message to us and a message to anybody who will bite.

Imagine printing leaflets saying somebody looks nice and they would like to go out with them, then doing a mail-drop around the neighbourhood. How many dates do you think you'd get? "

Thanks currently talking to a couple who is assisting me to up my game hopefully.... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos you got 2 people to please not one

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Mrs of the couple here, I'd pass you by because of the cock pic and lack of others.

Your bio actually reads well I'd just improve the pics.

Mrs

To be fair, the standard of your pictures put everyone on the site to shame. Pretty sure you've got David Bailey on retainer."

Haha thank you, goes to Google David Bailey

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Well, it's been a while but thanks to the couple that decided to PM and abuse me. I know I said roast my profile, but honestly thought I would just get called fat & bald. To everyone else, thank you for being so kind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well, it's been a while but thanks to the couple that decided to PM and abuse me. I know I said roast my profile, but honestly thought I would just get called fat & bald. To everyone else, thank you for being so kind."

Mate... Don't let it get you down.... Water of a duck's back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate... Don't let it get you down.... Water of a duck's back! "

That’s not nice to hear. We’re all just a random person, behind a keyboard, with our own insecurities and faults.

Imagine they’re a bowling ball, and throw them off a cliff!

Helps me!

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