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"Their preference "I'd guessed it would be at least three comments in before that appeared...... 
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"To be fair for the examples you give those answers are straight answers. The repetition of questions asked on here where the answer is some do some don't is more annoying than the vagueness of the answers. " Which examples out of interest? None of the ones I used tell anyone anything. A | |||
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"What irritates me is when someone posts a question such as "do you prefer shaven or bushy" and someone replies "I prefer cake"" In fairness if you shave a cake shape on your pubes I'll give you a fab | |||
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"To be fair for the examples you give those answers are straight answers. The repetition of questions asked on here where the answer is some do some don't is more annoying than the vagueness of the answers. Which examples out of interest? None of the ones I used tell anyone anything. A" why people choose certain photos to use, why people look to meet certain types of people over others, or any subject relating to personal preferences, choices, tastes or filters used on Fab These. Sometimes there just isn't a deeper meaning than the answers you also gave examples of | |||
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"To be fair for the examples you give those answers are straight answers. The repetition of questions asked on here where the answer is some do some don't is more annoying than the vagueness of the answers. Which examples out of interest? None of the ones I used tell anyone anything. A why people choose certain photos to use, why people look to meet certain types of people over others, or any subject relating to personal preferences, choices, tastes or filters used on Fab These. Sometimes there just isn't a deeper meaning than the answers you also gave examples of" A deeper meaning? No, not always. But there will always be a reason why people make decisions and have preferences. Otherwise why would they choose certain photos or people they look to meet. Nobody makes a choice based on 'just because'.
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"What irritates me is when someone posts a question such as "do you prefer shaven or bushy" and someone replies "I prefer cake"" Oh god yawn. Reminds me of the LOLZ RANDOM crowd circa 2009  | |||
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"Off the back of another thread...... Is it just me that gets frustrated by vague answers given when a question is asked on a forum thread? Whether it's a question on why people choose certain photos to use, why people look to meet certain types of people over others, or any subject relating to personal preferences, choices, tastes or filters used on Fab - there's a tendency for people to simply respond with answers along the lines of 'because they can', 'it's their choice', 'why not?' etc. Of course all those things are true. Everyone has the right to make their own choices. Everyone has the right to their own preferences. And nobody is ever owed an explanation or any kind of justification. But those vague answers don't really help anyone asking a question. They don't give them a means of understanding other people's viewpoints or opinions. They don't offer an insight as to why someone thinks or feels the way they do. They don't actually give someone asking a question an answer, so is there much point in wasting expensive internet ink and paper typing a response that says nothing? When people do give more detailed and relevant answers, no matter how much detail that actually is, it helps people learn, understand and recognise a viewpoint and potentially helps them on their Fab and swinging journey. It may also help them become a more educated and informed individual. So I guess my real question is why are some people so averse to giving a straight answer? A" That was a little vague…. Could you expand further?  | |||
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"Because it's their choice if they give vague or comedic answers. This is forum chat which people are free to comment on in whichever way they choose. It's not Question Time!" Must admit I agree with this. If it’s a friend or a private conversation I might go into more detail but on the forum I’d rather not. | |||
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"Because it's their choice if they give vague or comedic answers. This is forum chat which people are free to comment on in whichever way they choose. It's not Question Time!" Of course it is. Of course they can. But people often wonder why such a small percentage of site users ever venture into the forums and I suspect that your answer explains why. Sometimes people do actually want to learn more to help them. Sometimes giving a decent response helps both the person who asked the question AND the person giving a decent, straight, detailed answer. It might actually lead somewhere for them to. And it sure as hell would help reduce the common perception of any forum clique that dominate threads just to amuse themselves. A | |||
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""Why do people do X?" "Because they can" OK, close the forums. No discussion allowed " I always think they must be a joy to talk with in real life | |||
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"People can use fab however they want. Stop discussing things. Stop having opinions. Stop thinking. EXCEPTIONAL MALES ONLY "Imagine being arrogant enough to be like, well that's me! And than that person being desirable. Fab you silly goose | |||
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"Just because could be the straight answer. Personally I don't post pics for fabs and I've made the decision to have dick pics so on all the dick pic threads when people ask why men post them, my reason is that I have one so why wouldn't I? There is literally nothing more than that. If it was to get lots of fabs or have women salivating over my knob or in competition with other men I would say that but none of those are true. The straight answer is that I post them because I can. I can't on Facebook therefore I don't. " Thanks. Whether I agree with any of your comments on threads or not, you're one of the few who never seems afraid to give a straight answer on most subjects and isn't worried about giving a personal opinion on things. 
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"Because it's their choice if they give vague or comedic answers. This is forum chat which people are free to comment on in whichever way they choose. It's not Question Time! Of course it is. Of course they can. But people often wonder why such a small percentage of site users ever venture into the forums and I suspect that your answer explains why. Sometimes people do actually want to learn more to help them. Sometimes giving a decent response helps both the person who asked the question AND the person giving a decent, straight, detailed answer. It might actually lead somewhere for them to. And it sure as hell would help reduce the common perception of any forum clique that dominate threads just to amuse themselves. A" Totally agree! Sometimes an open question deserves an answer. I’m perhaps not as candid in a forum response as I’d be in dm but try to be honest. It’s how we understand people | |||
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"Off the back of another thread...... Is it just me that gets frustrated by vague answers given when a question is asked on a forum thread? Whether it's a question on why people choose certain photos to use, why people look to meet certain types of people over others, or any subject relating to personal preferences, choices, tastes or filters used on Fab - there's a tendency for people to simply respond with answers along the lines of 'because they can', 'it's their choice', 'why not?' etc. Of course all those things are true. Everyone has the right to make their own choices. Everyone has the right to their own preferences. And nobody is ever owed an explanation or any kind of justification. But those vague answers don't really help anyone asking a question. They don't give them a means of understanding other people's viewpoints or opinions. They don't offer an insight as to why someone thinks or feels the way they do. They don't actually give someone asking a question an answer, so is there much point in wasting expensive internet ink and paper typing a response that says nothing? When people do give more detailed and relevant answers, no matter how much detail that actually is, it helps people learn, understand and recognise a viewpoint and potentially helps them on their Fab and swinging journey. It may also help them become a more educated and informed individual. So I guess my real question is why are some people so averse to giving a straight answer? A" I’ll give an answer to your question… or my opinion which could be framed as an answer at least…. A lot of the time the question is framed in such a way that it’s far too easy to reply vaguely or with a brief answer…. Yes or no? This or that?… often there is no asking why? When the question does ask for a viewpoint WITH a reason why, then you’re more likely to get a reasoned response, but you will also get vague answers… mostly because quite frankly a lot of people are generally lazy and would rather put a quick and flippant response. For some it’s more about putting a response than putting thought into a response | |||
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"Off the back of another thread...... Is it just me that gets frustrated by vague answers given when a question is asked on a forum thread? Whether it's a question on why people choose certain photos to use, why people look to meet certain types of people over others, or any subject relating to personal preferences, choices, tastes or filters used on Fab - there's a tendency for people to simply respond with answers along the lines of 'because they can', 'it's their choice', 'why not?' etc. Of course all those things are true. Everyone has the right to make their own choices. Everyone has the right to their own preferences. And nobody is ever owed an explanation or any kind of justification. But those vague answers don't really help anyone asking a question. They don't give them a means of understanding other people's viewpoints or opinions. They don't offer an insight as to why someone thinks or feels the way they do. They don't actually give someone asking a question an answer, so is there much point in wasting expensive internet ink and paper typing a response that says nothing? When people do give more detailed and relevant answers, no matter how much detail that actually is, it helps people learn, understand and recognise a viewpoint and potentially helps them on their Fab and swinging journey. It may also help them become a more educated and informed individual. So I guess my real question is why are some people so averse to giving a straight answer? A" The answers given in your examples are as straight as can be … because it is their personal choice : To get any straighter you’d have to ask the “people” themselves … Good luck asking (Lickmyminge2022) why she’s only looking to meet: straight/BBC/single/tattoed/bi/local/Viking like blah blah blah guys. As we know she doesn’t have to justify her preferences 
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""Why do people do X?" "Because they can" OK, close the forums. No discussion allowed " We can do anything we want to, but why bother? What's the point? | |||
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"Just because could be the straight answer. Personally I don't post pics for fabs and I've made the decision to have dick pics so on all the dick pic threads when people ask why men post them, my reason is that I have one so why wouldn't I? There is literally nothing more than that. If it was to get lots of fabs or have women salivating over my knob or in competition with other men I would say that but none of those are true. The straight answer is that I post them because I can. I can't on Facebook therefore I don't. Thanks. Whether I agree with any of your comments on threads or not, you're one of the few who never seems afraid to give a straight answer on most subjects and isn't worried about giving a personal opinion on things.
A"The vast majority of my comments are based on personal experience. I rarely if ever offer an opinion on a topic that hasn't directly affected me. Another thing that comes to mind on this subject though is that many men aren't used to being asked questions about why they do certain things. On a site such as this and especially in private messages the burden of conversation is often on the shoulders of the single men.Women and couples can be reluctant to expand on various subjects or to enquire about the man. That can carry over into the forum where a lot of comments are made reactively and in response to perceived snide comments from others. Some people when challenged will go off on a rant while others take the "what business of yours is it?" attitude. | |||
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"Because it's their choice if they give vague or comedic answers. This is forum chat which people are free to comment on in whichever way they choose. It's not Question Time! Of course it is. Of course they can. But people often wonder why such a small percentage of site users ever venture into the forums and I suspect that your answer explains why. Sometimes people do actually want to learn more to help them. Sometimes giving a decent response helps both the person who asked the question AND the person giving a decent, straight, detailed answer. It might actually lead somewhere for them to. And it sure as hell would help reduce the common perception of any forum clique that dominate threads just to amuse themselves. A" Well I wouldn't know about forum cliques as I'm not in one. I dip in and out as the mood takes me. I do wonder though if people are looking for deep and meaningful answers whether fab forum is the best place for that. | |||
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" For some it’s more about putting a response than putting thought into a response" I think you've made a bloody good point there - thanks! I've been accused many times over the years of being opinionated and unaccepting of others views in forum threads. But I'll always stand by my views, give my reasons as to why I have them, be specific when required but also perfectly happy to accept the opinions of others. It's often bloody hard to do that though when that opinion is 'because we can' without any explanation at all. People can and are entitled to do all sorts of things. Understanding why they want to is the difference between someone knowing why a choice is made and someone making an assumption, probably for completely the wrong reason. A | |||
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" For some it’s more about putting a response than putting thought into a response I think you've made a bloody good point there - thanks! I've been accused many times over the years of being opinionated and unaccepting of others views in forum threads. But I'll always stand by my views, give my reasons as to why I have them, be specific when required but also perfectly happy to accept the opinions of others. It's often bloody hard to do that though when that opinion is 'because we can' without any explanation at all. People can and are entitled to do all sorts of things. Understanding why they want to is the difference between someone knowing why a choice is made and someone making an assumption, probably for completely the wrong reason. A" Indeed… and this is the crux of the problem with ANY sort of debate on the internet, it’s far too easy for people to give thoughtless responses with no reasoning behind it… often because their reasons either don’t stand up to scrutiny, or they’re not actually interested in the topic and more interested in “being involved” | |||
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"I don't know OP, I guess everyone is free to post what they want aren't they? It's their choice at the end of the day - they might prefer to stay on the fence because they don't have energy to expend on a thread but want to say something. Or they're bored. Quite closed and don't want to say much. I guess posting style just comes down to... Preference. " Yep. And of course a sense of self preservation. Not giving detailed opinions means they don't run the risk of putting people off talking to/meeting them. A vague answer will reduce the risk of someone deciding they no longer appear as desirable. Much easier to appeal to the masses that way, as every MP is taught from day one in the job. Don't give too much away and you can then switch stances without having to look like you're doing one of Bojo's famous U-turns......
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"Because they have nothing constructive to say but want to be included. Start a thread asking who loves anal, and you'll get 30 people saying not me. Why bother? The question was who does like it." This is interesting though, those threads are not ever titled "I like anal" are they, but who else, does anyone else, etc. These are questions, and assuming the OP is a YES (it Always is), that doesn't mean it's only open to other YES answers. And, frankly, there are always an equal number of "yes" and "love it" replies that are equally not really constructive anyway. This style of thread is like Betteridges Law of Headlines, "Any headline that ends in a question mark can be answered by the word no." but any thread that asks a question the OP is looking for Yes. If the OP wants agreement, he should be prepared to just state it as an assertion, by presenting it as a question they are removing accountability for their own opinion and opening it up to disagreement. | |||
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"Because they have nothing constructive to say but want to be included. Start a thread asking who loves anal, and you'll get 30 people saying not me. Why bother? The question was who does like it. This is interesting though, those threads are not ever titled "I like anal" are they, but who else, does anyone else, etc. These are questions, and assuming the OP is a YES (it Always is), that doesn't mean it's only open to other YES answers. And, frankly, there are always an equal number of "yes" and "love it" replies that are equally not really constructive anyway. This style of thread is like Betteridges Law of Headlines, "Any headline that ends in a question mark can be answered by the word no." but any thread that asks a question the OP is looking for Yes. If the OP wants agreement, he should be prepared to just state it as an assertion, by presenting it as a question they are removing accountability for their own opinion and opening it up to disagreement." There's a massive difference between a closed yes/no question and an open one though. One gives little opportunity to elaborate and the other an abundance. But people choose not to elaborate. Their choice of course. But as helpful as a cookbook written in Chinese to Stevie Wonder. A | |||
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"I don't know OP, I guess everyone is free to post what they want aren't they? It's their choice at the end of the day - they might prefer to stay on the fence because they don't have energy to expend on a thread but want to say something. Or they're bored. Quite closed and don't want to say much. I guess posting style just comes down to... Preference. Yep. And of course a sense of self preservation. Not giving detailed opinions means they don't run the risk of putting people off talking to/meeting them. A vague answer will reduce the risk of someone deciding they no longer appear as desirable. Much easier to appeal to the masses that way, as every MP is taught from day one in the job. Don't give too much away and you can then switch stances without having to look like you're doing one of Bojo's famous U-turns......
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"Because they have nothing constructive to say but want to be included. Start a thread asking who loves anal, and you'll get 30 people saying not me. Why bother? The question was who does like it. This is interesting though, those threads are not ever titled "I like anal" are they, but who else, does anyone else, etc. These are questions, and assuming the OP is a YES (it Always is), that doesn't mean it's only open to other YES answers. And, frankly, there are always an equal number of "yes" and "love it" replies that are equally not really constructive anyway. This style of thread is like Betteridges Law of Headlines, "Any headline that ends in a question mark can be answered by the word no." but any thread that asks a question the OP is looking for Yes. If the OP wants agreement, he should be prepared to just state it as an assertion, by presenting it as a question they are removing accountability for their own opinion and opening it up to disagreement. There's a massive difference between a closed yes/no question and an open one though. One gives little opportunity to elaborate and the other an abundance. But people choose not to elaborate. Their choice of course. But as helpful as a cookbook written in Chinese to Stevie Wonder. A" Not everyone can elaborate as eloquently as you, not everyone can evaluate, some like to just say yes or no, bottom line is you wouldn't take advice from most people on here so what difference does it make really..... A faceless cock or a faceless fanny.  | |||
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"What irritates me is when someone posts a question such as "do you prefer shaven or bushy" and someone replies "I prefer cake"" God yes, very annoying | |||
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"Off the back of another thread...... Is it just me that gets frustrated by vague answers given when a question is asked on a forum thread? Whether it's a question on why people choose certain photos to use, why people look to meet certain types of people over others, or any subject relating to personal preferences, choices, tastes or filters used on Fab - there's a tendency for people to simply respond with answers along the lines of 'because they can', 'it's their choice', 'why not?' etc. Of course all those things are true. Everyone has the right to make their own choices. Everyone has the right to their own preferences. And nobody is ever owed an explanation or any kind of justification. But those vague answers don't really help anyone asking a question. They don't give them a means of understanding other people's viewpoints or opinions. They don't offer an insight as to why someone thinks or feels the way they do. They don't actually give someone asking a question an answer, so is there much point in wasting expensive internet ink and paper typing a response that says nothing? When people do give more detailed and relevant answers, no matter how much detail that actually is, it helps people learn, understand and recognise a viewpoint and potentially helps them on their Fab and swinging journey. It may also help them become a more educated and informed individual. So I guess my real question is why are some people so averse to giving a straight answer? A" Probably because they couldn't be bothered, some people think it's an honour for you to be talking to them or that they'd given you airtime, so l just leave them off to do their own thing , if they can't be bothered making a genuine effort to chat or talk neither can l | |||
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"If they are giving vague answers to your specific, yet simple and innocent questions, this should be a clear sign to you they are not interested. Forgive my analogy, but why beat a dead horse? Move on to those who show interest, ask questions without prompting, chat with those who don't throw a fit, but also make sure your topics are something worth talking about too. Sometimes people become uncomfortable and become vague to avoid embarrassment. Other times it's just sheer boredom, so check yourself. It could be you. Then again, people are tired and have a lot on their mind and don't want to be bothered. That's alright. Just need to let people be who they are, as there are plenty more. Don't take it personally though. Just take it as a que…they don't want to be bothered." It wasn't a question about my posts or PM's. It was an observation on replies to forum posts posted by people seeking help, advice and info and the common theme of people posting two or three word generic 'non-answers' that don't give any insight or offer a real answer to the question asked. Or the usual forum regulars derailing threads for their own amusement. It's one of the reasons people feel the forums are uninclusive and not worth bothering with. A | |||
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"Because the large majority of “questions” in the forum boil down to “why aren’t I getting laid”, and the long answer to that is quite personal and liable to cause offence. If it isn’t a “why aren’t I getting laid” question, then it falls into the “why won’t people behave the way I want them too”, again the long answer to that is liable to lead to upset. I mean the answer to both boiled down questions is “Because your not everyone’s cup of tea” Or “Because free will” " Yep. Those kind of questions when asked are often looking to put the blame anywhere but with the person asking the question, so it's easier for people to give less detailed answers - but not impossible. But there are still plenty of 'why' questions asked that aren't related to individuals. General questions that are seeking guidance, advice and most importantly opinions, that have plagued with 'because people can' responses. That kind of reply isn't an opinion. It's a statement. It explains nothing, informs nobody and is as much use as a chocolate fireguard. Is people are asking questions for entertainment purposes, cheap thrills and idle chit chat then I don't think anyone gives a toss what answers are given. But when a question is asked that could potentially benefit the wider community through more informative and detailed replies then it's at times frustrating when people fill up a thread with pointless responses. Everyone knows people have personal preferences. Everyone knows people can do what they wish, with whoever they want, whenever they want. So answering a question saying just that is pretty much a complete waste of time and energy. A | |||
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"What irritates me is when someone posts a question such as "do you prefer shaven or bushy" and someone replies "I prefer cake"" I'm so fed up of the cake comments. It's in an in joke that's way past it's use by date. Gbat | |||
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"What irritates me is when someone posts a question such as "do you prefer shaven or bushy" and someone replies "I prefer cake" I'm so fed up of the cake comments. It's in an in joke that's way past it's use by date. Gbat" I prefer a flan | |||
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"C'est l'histoire d'un homme qui tombe d'un immeuble de cinquante étages. Le mec, au fur et à mesure de sa chute se répète sans cesse pour se rassurer : jusqu'ici tout va bien, jusqu'ici tout va bien, jusqu'ici tout va bien. Mais l'important c'est pas la chute, c'est l'atterrissage" lol hey far too vague | |||
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"C'est l'histoire d'un homme qui tombe d'un immeuble de cinquante étages. Le mec, au fur et à mesure de sa chute se répète sans cesse pour se rassurer : jusqu'ici tout va bien, jusqu'ici tout va bien, jusqu'ici tout va bien. Mais l'important c'est pas la chute, c'est l'atterrissagelol hey far too vague "J’essaie | |||
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"Just because could be the straight answer. Personally I don't post pics for fabs and I've made the decision to have dick pics so on all the dick pic threads when people ask why men post them, my reason is that I have one so why wouldn't I? There is literally nothing more than that. If it was to get lots of fabs or have women salivating over my knob or in competition with other men I would say that but none of those are true. The straight answer is that I post them because I can. I can't on Facebook therefore I don't. " Just because Is the worst answer it’s as bad as when asked about preferences and people get defensive and say ‘because I can’. That’s not a reason. It implies you make choices based on all the available options to you and randomly pick one of them. Why did you get up today ? Because I can Why do drink coffee not tea? Because I can Why did you fuck a goat? Because I can Just best not answer if you do not know | |||
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"Just because could be the straight answer. Personally I don't post pics for fabs and I've made the decision to have dick pics so on all the dick pic threads when people ask why men post them, my reason is that I have one so why wouldn't I? There is literally nothing more than that. If it was to get lots of fabs or have women salivating over my knob or in competition with other men I would say that but none of those are true. The straight answer is that I post them because I can. I can't on Facebook therefore I don't. Just because Is the worst answer it’s as bad as when asked about preferences and people get defensive and say ‘because I can’. That’s not a reason. It implies you make choices based on all the available options to you and randomly pick one of them. Why did you get up today ? Because I can Why do drink coffee not tea? Because I can Why did you fuck a goat? Because I can Just best not answer if you do not know " Sometimes it's dependent on who's asking. Sometimes it's one-upmanship. Sometimes it's done deliberately to antagonise. In the scenario I suggested above it's simply a direct answer whether people like it or not or choose not to accept it. Why do I post dick pics? Because it's a site that allows me to do so if I wish. In shorthand..... Because I can. It's not an answer that is going to inform the masses or make them change their approach but it's the truth and doesn't need any further extrapolation. | |||
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"Off the back of another thread...... Is it just me that gets frustrated by vague answers given when a question is asked on a forum thread? Whether it's a question on why people choose certain photos to use, why people look to meet certain types of people over others, or any subject relating to personal preferences, choices, tastes or filters used on Fab - there's a tendency for people to simply respond with answers along the lines of 'because they can', 'it's their choice', 'why not?' etc. Of course all those things are true. Everyone has the right to make their own choices. Everyone has the right to their own preferences. And nobody is ever owed an explanation or any kind of justification. But those vague answers don't really help anyone asking a question. They don't give them a means of understanding other people's viewpoints or opinions. They don't offer an insight as to why someone thinks or feels the way they do. They don't actually give someone asking a question an answer, so is there much point in wasting expensive internet ink and paper typing a response that says nothing? When people do give more detailed and relevant answers, no matter how much detail that actually is, it helps people learn, understand and recognise a viewpoint and potentially helps them on their Fab and swinging journey. It may also help them become a more educated and informed individual. So I guess my real question is why are some people so averse to giving a straight answer? A" Have you ever started to type out a response and a few lines down, something happens around you, either during a break at work or another phone rings etc and you think I just can’t be arsed, so just send a quick response. | |||
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"I’m guilty of having given some vague responses to those types of questions in the past. Part of it lies in the fact that I’ve been using forums on the internet for YEARS, and one of the universal forum rules is for users to use the site/forum search function to see if their question has already been asked (and answered) prior to starting a new thread. That so many repeat threads on the same topics pop up almost daily, with users clearly not using the search function, just chaps my ass probably more thsn it should, and accounts for some of the responses as a result." I feel you. On another forum I use threads are merged or deleted if repetitive, with advice to use the search tool. I guess this one is used more for amusement by most than anything serious or informative, hence few seem to care if people positively contribute or not. As for the post above saying they've never seen a thread benefit the 'wider community'? There's been plenty. Supportive threads to those in need sharing personal experiences. Advice. Guidance. Tips. Maybe they go over some peoples heads..... 
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"I’m guilty of having given some vague responses to those types of questions in the past. Part of it lies in the fact that I’ve been using forums on the internet for YEARS, and one of the universal forum rules is for users to use the site/forum search function to see if their question has already been asked (and answered) prior to starting a new thread. That so many repeat threads on the same topics pop up almost daily, with users clearly not using the search function, just chaps my ass probably more thsn it should, and accounts for some of the responses as a result. I feel you. On another forum I use threads are merged or deleted if repetitive, with advice to use the search tool. I guess this one is used more for amusement by most than anything serious or informative, hence few seem to care if people positively contribute or not. As for the post above saying they've never seen a thread benefit the 'wider community'? There's been plenty. Supportive threads to those in need sharing personal experiences. Advice. Guidance. Tips. Maybe they go over some peoples heads.....
A"They usually go over the heads of the people starting them. Hence why very few adjust their profile or behaviour and ignore most of the advice given. Often the advice is not consistent with the person offering it not practicing what they preach. Advice on how someone should be nice by a forumite with a documented history of being selectively nice or only being nice to certain individuals or in some cases just being a complete cnut doesn't benefit anyone. Often when people are distracted by images or personas they are gentle with their tips and advice but less so when not overcome with fanny blindness. | |||
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"As for the post above saying they've never seen a thread benefit the 'wider community'? There's been plenty. Supportive threads to those in need sharing personal experiences. Advice. Guidance. Tips. Maybe they go over some peoples heads.....
A"I agree. It may benefit specific individuals, but who is anyone to say what benefits the wider community. | |||
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"As for the post above saying they've never seen a thread benefit the 'wider community'? There's been plenty. Supportive threads to those in need sharing personal experiences. Advice. Guidance. Tips. Maybe they go over some peoples heads.....
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I agree. It may benefit specific individuals, but who is anyone to say what benefits the wider community. "Anyone who ventures in to read or post in the forums can be the wider community. Threads offering support and advice re health issues, mental or physical, may help.people who don't post on them. Profile tips can enhance people's experience on Fab. Advice for club first timers. Advice on sex toys. The list is pretty much endless. Just because people don't post doesn't mean they don't read threads. Hence pointless ' why not and 'because we can' posts offer zero benefit to anyone. Think 'bigger picture' rather than just considering the names you see popping up daily/hourly/every 5 minutes. Is it not better that new people are encouraged to contribute rather than be put off because they see people filling up threads with the same comments time after time? A | |||
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I agree. It may benefit specific individuals, but who is anyone to say what benefits the wider community.
Anyone who ventures in to read or post in the forums can be the wider community.
Threads offering support and advice re health issues, mental or physical, may help.people who don't post on them.
Profile tips can enhance people's experience on Fab.
Advice for club first timers.
Advice on sex toys.
The list is pretty much endless.
Just because people don't post doesn't mean they don't read threads. Hence pointless ' why not and 'because we can' posts offer zero benefit to anyone.
Think 'bigger picture' rather than just considering the names you see popping up daily/hourly/every 5 minutes.
Is it not better that new people are encouraged to contribute rather than be put off because they see people filling up threads with the same comments time after time?
A"Have you ever thought comedic banter and less indepth responses might actually help some people. A bit of light relief goes a long way to managing my mental health sometimes. There is no right or wrong way to respond on forums. I'm a definite outsider and it doesn't stop me from contributing when I've a mind to. | |||
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"As for the post above saying they've never seen a thread benefit the 'wider community'? There's been plenty. Supportive threads to those in need sharing personal experiences. Advice. Guidance. Tips. Maybe they go over some peoples heads.....
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I agree. It may benefit specific individuals, but who is anyone to say what benefits the wider community.
Anyone who ventures in to read or post in the forums can be the wider community.
Threads offering support and advice re health issues, mental or physical, may help.people who don't post on them.
Profile tips can enhance people's experience on Fab.
Advice for club first timers.
Advice on sex toys.
The list is pretty much endless.
Just because people don't post doesn't mean they don't read threads. Hence pointless ' why not and 'because we can' posts offer zero benefit to anyone.
Think 'bigger picture' rather than just considering the names you see popping up daily/hourly/every 5 minutes.
Is it not better that new people are encouraged to contribute rather than be put off because they see people filling up threads with the same comments time after time?
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Have you ever thought comedic banter and less indepth responses might actually help some people. A bit of light relief goes a long way to managing my mental health sometimes.
There is no right or wrong way to respond on forums.
I'm a definite outsider and it doesn't stop me from contributing when I've a mind to."Of course. The forums are full of comedic content, mundane musings and wit. But can there not be room for both? This thread wasn't relates to the comedy posts in any way shape or form. Does it benefit anyone when someone asks a serious question and the thread is derailed by (often the same people) posting unrelated 'in jokes' purely to amuse themselves and their buddies? Nobody is saying people can't post what they want. The question wasn't linked to that at all. A | |||
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"I only give detail if i like the way someones anus hair reminds me of the long grass a lion will hide in before she chases an antelope" That made me laugh | |||
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"I only give detail if i like the way someones anus hair reminds me of the long grass a lion will hide in before she chases an antelope That made me laugh "as long as you didnt cry no antelopes were harmed in the making of this comment | |||
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