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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all I've been on this site for a while now trying to make friends and potentially meet someone for a social or more now I'm an easy going guy and always polite and courteous, I'm also pretty open minded and can also accept that I may not be everyone's cup of tea, we all have different tastes. I also understand that the ladies here get a fair few messages some of which I know from my ex partner who was also on here can be very rude and obnoxious, but even when I send a polite message trying to start a conversation it just gets ignored every time it's getting to the point that I'm planning on giving up on the site. If anyone can give me any pointers on what I may be doing wrong please let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all I've been on this site for a while now trying to make friends and potentially meet someone for a social or more now I'm an easy going guy and always polite and courteous, I'm also pretty open minded and can also accept that I may not be everyone's cup of tea, we all have different tastes. I also understand that the ladies here get a fair few messages some of which I know from my ex partner who was also on here can be very rude and obnoxious, but even when I send a polite message trying to start a conversation it just gets ignored every time it's getting to the point that I'm planning on giving up on the site. If anyone can give me any pointers on what I may be doing wrong please let me know "

It's fab and there's no point in saying other wise but it's a jungle, you're not the first or certainly won't be the last to send messages here and not get a reply, the main thing is that you don't let not getting a reply bother you one little bit ,that's fierce important , if a person wants to reply they will , if they don't they won't , l have it written in my on my updated status , never chase anyone ,the ratio here is unbalanced anyway but it's so important not to take things seriously here , enjoy yourself here don't let things like not getting a reply worry you or take the fun out of it for you .

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Negative profiles don't really encourage people to get in touch.

What they look for is photos that attract and generate interest and profile text that tells them about someone and gives a clear idea of what they're looking for.

If those aren't good enough then any message content is potentially irrelevant as most will view a profile before opening a message.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Could you approach anyone you met on here with your ex-partner to give you a verification ?

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I’d say take a breath in the bio. It’s hard work to read and negative.

I think there’s only one photo of you too. If ropes are your thing, maybe include more detail about that.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Hi all I've been on this site for a while now trying to make friends and potentially meet someone for a social or more now I'm an easy going guy and always polite and courteous, I'm also pretty open minded and can also accept that I may not be everyone's cup of tea, we all have different tastes. I also understand that the ladies here get a fair few messages some of which I know from my ex partner who was also on here can be very rude and obnoxious, but even when I send a polite message trying to start a conversation it just gets ignored every time it's getting to the point that I'm planning on giving up on the site. If anyone can give me any pointers on what I may be doing wrong please let me know "
try comedy eg I've got a small dick do you think it'll tickle yer fancy

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If single guy approach is not working invest time and effort in finding a partner, fab is much better with a couples dynamic.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"If single guy approach is not working invest time and effort in finding a partner, fab is much better with a couples dynamic."
he is trying to find a partner here, we are all real people

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"If single guy approach is not working invest time and effort in finding a partner, fab is much better with a couples dynamic."

Not really great advice for someone who wants to stay single though.

It's perfectly possible to be a successful single male on here. It just takes time, effort, awareness of how best to portray yourself and interact with others and using the site tools as best you can to make life on here as easy as possible.

Many do.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Hi all I've been on this site for a while now trying to make friends and potentially meet someone for a social or more now I'm an easy going guy and always polite and courteous, I'm also pretty open minded and can also accept that I may not be everyone's cup of tea, we all have different tastes. I also understand that the ladies here get a fair few messages some of which I know from my ex partner who was also on here can be very rude and obnoxious, but even when I send a polite message trying to start a conversation it just gets ignored every time it's getting to the point that I'm planning on giving up on the site. If anyone can give me any pointers on what I may be doing wrong please let me know "

Nothing exciting about your profile it’s very negative too

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Hi all I've been on this site for a while now trying to make friends and potentially meet someone for a social or more now I'm an easy going guy and always polite and courteous, I'm also pretty open minded and can also accept that I may not be everyone's cup of tea, we all have different tastes. I also understand that the ladies here get a fair few messages some of which I know from my ex partner who was also on here can be very rude and obnoxious, but even when I send a polite message trying to start a conversation it just gets ignored every time it's getting to the point that I'm planning on giving up on the site. If anyone can give me any pointers on what I may be doing wrong please let me know

Nothing exciting about your profile it’s very negative too"

This is good advice. If I click on a ladies profile, and there's loads of do's and dont's in the team today, or there's vast swathes of text about what they think about men, it's not going to worth my time, and spool past. Old adage; clubs. Go and meet and get known

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Don't take it personally I'm sure it's often not a case of being ignored! Just the sheer volume of messages women get! Clubs or group pub socials are a good way to meet hang on in there and good luck x

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Take Obi_Fox's advice. Wise words

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Turn the clock back a century so that the women HAVE to do as the male expects.....

What ? They never have ? Ah .... yes I was thinking legalities again.

Oh well ...

Fred Flintstone had a club I think ... not the Hacienda .... a long club with a bobble on the end.

Men can wave the club in the air and grunt and things.

Hope this helps ..... genuinely.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Many more men than women op. Also on a site such as this you will be instantly judged on pictures. Maybe join in with forum/cam room chat and treat fab like a social club.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Maybe try the clubs, even if all you do is socialise and soak up the atmosphere you'll have a great time. If you strike up a good conversation maybe pass them your Fab details. Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you so much everyone for the positive feedback going to have a serious think about what to put on my profile ??

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Do you read their profile first and pick something from it to start a conversation?

Also think about the timing of your message, if you're messaging when people are most likely to be busy they might not see yours between the other ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i do make a point of reading profiles yes i like to try and make sure that i am someone they may be looking for as for timing im not sure how im going to be able to do that but i do bare it in mind that they may be busy or may be over run

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

now updated my profile blurb lol

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

A nice female? Female what? Dog?

The user name alone would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A nice female? Female what? Dog?

The user name alone would put me off."

Oh ok as far as I knew there where only human females on here guess I need to get with the times huh? As for the username there's not much I can do about that now that it's already set

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"A nice female? Female what? Dog?

The user name alone would put me off.

Oh ok as far as I knew there where only human females on here guess I need to get with the times huh? As for the username there's not much I can do about that now that it's already set "

You can actually change your profile name of you wanted too

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