FabSwingers.com forum: Ice breaker messages

By *uryBiker77 OP Man
over a year ago

Bury

I would love to hear peoples opinions on what an ice breaker message from a single male to a couple or female should include...

Of course it's tough to get going on here, the more veris etc the more interest, kind of a snowball effect I suppose.

What would grab your attention and make you want to message back?

Cheers

Liam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just show ya penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself, if you’re original then that in itself will grab their attention

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Ask them how much a fat polar bear weighs.

I’m not sure myself but it breaks the ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself unless your name is Mac Foster then all you can do is be the best version of yourself

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Don't bother..single bloke, your waisting your time

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Ask if they like cake.

Ask if they would like some of your cake.

Wait for the sheer avalanche of moist minge to roll in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them if they like cats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask them if they like cats

I like cats!

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By *eff4000Man
over a year ago

Camberley

"Just show ya penis "

You are wise beyond your years

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

"Just show ya penis "

This is failsafe advice. But on the improbable chance it doesn't work, just be yourself, OP. I don't think you should set out to "get attention" as it might easily come across as false or generic.

There is no magic formula that I know of, but if you find it, remember that with great power comes great responsibility.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

To be honest op ,if I didn't find the profile appealing,then the message wouldn't be either I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just show ya penis

You are wise beyond your years"

My grandfather was a wise man and warned me of what's to come, offering me sage like philosophy for any adult encounters to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest op ,if I didn't find the profile appealing,then the message wouldn't be either I'm afraid.

^exactly this.

Most women and couples will check out your profile before they even consider opening any message you've sent them

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I’d write a poem / rap song about the person you’re messaging. That would grab their attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d write a poem / rap song about the person you’re messaging. That would grab their attention. "

Yo yo yo check this one two

I wanna bang you

I'm actually gonna use this sometime and see how it fails

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"I’d write a poem / rap song about the person you’re messaging. That would grab their attention.

Yo yo yo check this one two

I wanna bang you

I'm actually gonna use this sometime and see how it fails

It works every time except for 20% of the time…

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I’d write a poem / rap song about the person you’re messaging. That would grab their attention.

Yo yo yo check this one two

I wanna bang you

I'm actually gonna use this sometime and see how it fails

^^ this would work

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

From our perspective, somebody needs to give an indication that they can hold a conversation and talk about something other than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d write a poem / rap song about the person you’re messaging. That would grab their attention. "

Your looks and style,

I could not pass.

But do you take it

Up the arse ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d write a poem / rap song about the person you’re messaging. That would grab their attention.

Yo yo yo check this one two

I wanna bang you

I'm actually gonna use this sometime and see how it fails

^^ this would work

Bless you but I think your love for me is distracting your judgement here

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Hey bbe

Wanna fuck maybe?

You so class

Wanna cum in ur ass

[Composite of most of my inbox]

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

What works for one person might not work for the next read their profile and take it from there, there might be something in it that points you in the right direction.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Find something on their profile, and ask about it. It does 2 things; shows you've taken an interest beyond profile pictures, and gives the recipient something other than "hi" to answer.

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"Find something on their profile, and ask about it. It does 2 things; shows you've taken an interest beyond profile pictures, and gives the recipient something other than "hi" to answer."
Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I bet her arsehole smell's like vanilla"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Actually read the profile and then respond accordingly. Plus if you get the big warning sign that says this person isn’t looking for you, take the hint.

The mr

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Find something on their profile, and ask about it. It does 2 things; shows you've taken an interest beyond profile pictures, and gives the recipient something other than "hi" to answer."

Wish many men would. They don't care. They just see it as a quick hook up site where little effort is required because we all meant to be swingers here who fuck anyone just because we are feeling horny.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I would love to hear peoples opinions on what an ice breaker message from a single male to a couple or female should include...

Of course it's tough to get going on here, the more veris etc the more interest, kind of a snowball effect I suppose.

What would grab your attention and make you want to message back?

Cheers

Liam"
Hello darling you look fucking ravishing wanna see my dick

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Charm, humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually don't care if they read my profile or not.

Messages that get my attention have humour, confidence, no sex talk!!!

But must also be accompanied by a good profile pic, username and bio. They tell me if you're my type or not.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"To be honest op ,if I didn't find the profile appealing,then the message wouldn't be either I'm afraid.

This.

First thing we'll see is the username. If that's off-putting we'll probably not even bother looking at the profile.

Then it's straight to the visuals to check the photos. Cock heavy, bland, or just not attractive to us and we'll give up at that point.

If the visuals are good then we'll read the profile text. Any 'red flags' in there or mentions of activities that put us off and we'll probably not even read the message.

If there's enough in the photos and text to spark any interest at all then, and only then, will we read the message.

And if it's just a 'Hi' or 'When are you looking to meet' then it goes straight in the bin.

People put far too much importance on the specific content of an opening message when they should be concentrating on making sure their profile and photos are good enough to make someone want to open it in the first place.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"To be honest op ,if I didn't find the profile appealing,then the message wouldn't be either I'm afraid.

This.

First thing we'll see is the username. If that's off-putting we'll probably not even bother looking at the profile.

Then it's straight to the visuals to check the photos. Cock heavy, bland, or just not attractive to us and we'll give up at that point.

If the visuals are good then we'll read the profile text. Any 'red flags' in there or mentions of activities that put us off and we'll probably not even read the message.

If there's enough in the photos and text to spark any interest at all then, and only then, will we read the message.

And if it's just a 'Hi' or 'When are you looking to meet' then it goes straight in the bin.

^^ absolutely spot on!

I don’t care what the message says as long as it’s friendly

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I prefer if they mention something about my profile to show common interest, they're polite and chilled.

Instant sex talk for me is massive turn off.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Ice Breaker is a surprisingly affordable yet quaffable pale ale from Greene King.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I don't send many - none for a fortnight or so. I hate being rejected more than I like being responded to, so I err on the side of caution.

But when I do, it's usually because interaction through the Forums means I'm not entirely a random stranger, and it's usually a continuation of a conversation there. I NEVER message an entirely unknown person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

101 questions from peeps who haven’t bothered to take time to read my profile beforehand...!

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

There is the classic “FAF”.

People just say this doesn’t work as they don’t want you to seduce every woman on fab. In reality it pretty much guarantees a reply of “Yes, meet now?”

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Ask them how much a fat polar bear weighs.

I’m not sure myself but it breaks the ice.

does it work?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey bbe

Wanna fuck maybe?

You so class

Wanna cum in ur ass

[Composite of most of my inbox]"

Let's get jiggy,

I'll ride ya like a piggy

In and out,

I'll thrash it all about,

You be moaning, I be groaning,

Pump it again and heaven descends

(Drops mic)

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I actually don't care if they read my profile or not.

Messages that get my attention have humour, confidence, no sex talk!!!

But must also be accompanied by a good profile pic, username and bio. They tell me if you're my type or not. "

This^^

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