FabSwingers.com forum: Demands

By *ndiii OP Man
over a year ago

Paisley Scotland

Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah fuck it at least they know what they want! Better than stringing along

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

demands ??

you mean preference and you get pissed off because they make you not suitable ??

there are no demands no one demands they are just looking for a match to what they want .... its that simple really

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn garden city

No point in judging, each to their own

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Or you could just think to yourself "well, they ain't for me" and that be that?

They're not doing anything offensive by stating the kind of person they wish to engage with.

They're not being bad humans.

I appreciate it must get frustrating realising you're incompatible with a profile, but by giving you the info needed to make an informed decision regarding compatibility can only be a good thing surely?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some profiles do have a list of requirements expressed quite forcefully. The good thing about this is that none of us have to give in the these 'requirements '

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

On a profile?

Nope it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

In a message?

Then it's got feck all to do with preferences and they can move along.

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By *eff4000Man
over a year ago

Camberley

Whenever I see a profile like that I think they must be an 'old hand' and have seen it all.

I've only been on here like a month so I probably have the doe eyed innocence on my profile and haven't been worn down by other people's relentless arseholery.

Either that or people are just different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t say people have ‘demands’ it’s more ‘preferences’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have demands, i have preferences which enables me to meet guys that interest me and not just any guy.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

It's to save both parties time and effort. If people read profiles, they wouldn't of wasted their time messaging the person to just find out they're not what they're looking for. Logic way of working to me

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I get told my profile is far too demanding.

At no point does it ask them to message me.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

They aren’t proper demands unless THEY WRITE IN CAPITALS!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find them pretty good actually tells me if I’m for them or not

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!"

Or perhaps... Just move on to the next.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I demand a recount!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find them pretty good actually tells me if I’m for them or not

This is it

Most people don't bother reading them any way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The long profile texts are always entertaining, one way or another. Best part of any site like this. An education

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like a profile with "demands" as you put it, which let's be honest are actually just preferences.

1 it let's me know if I am what they are looking for and 2 if we would be compatible

Saves so much time going back and forth to find out 10 messages later that we aren't after or into the same things

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

They’re just preferences and saves anyone wasting their time.

I also think that people usually only have an issue with such profiles when they discover that they don’t meet said demands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They’re just preferences and saves anyone wasting their time.

I also think that people usually only have an issue with such profiles when they discover that they don’t meet said demands. "

Yeah I agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be arsed reading those long profiles so I have no opinion on this matter.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Maybe requests become more forceful when it becomes apparent that too many people assume that things don't apply to them.

My profile states only seeking women. Yet I still get multiple daily messages from guys trying thier luck.

I state I'm not looking to peg guys. Many messages from guys asking me to peg them.

And people wonder why some profiles seem forceful or demanding.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Maybe requests become more forceful when it becomes apparent that too many people assume that things don't apply to them.

My profile states only seeking women. Yet I still get multiple daily messages from guys trying thier luck.

I state I'm not looking to peg guys. Many messages from guys asking me to peg them.

And people wonder why some profiles seem forceful or demanding."

Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?"

Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.

I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No ,I think they probably do their job and stop contact from people they're not interested in.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

My long, demanding profile is simply to cut out those I'm not interested in... they still don't read it

Then I get vile messages when I point it out.... the joys of the internet

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Some demands I can completely understand.

There are some demands I see on a profile and I think “well, you’re coming across as a bit of a bellend”

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

So soon as I see the list of do’s and don’t. It’s a no from me, don’t understand why anyone would want to make themselves look like a bellend.

The mr

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By *old HoopsWoman
over a year ago

Near Chester

"I quite like a profile with "demands" as you put it, which let's be honest are actually just preferences.

1 it let's me know if I am what they are looking for and 2 if we would be compatible

Saves so much time going back and forth to find out 10 messages later that we aren't after or into the same things"

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!"
Hey look they gets lots of messages that don't fit profile requirements so they list what they want clearly, so theirs no mistaking what they want, only a few do this so just avoid the ones that do, it's quite simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?

Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.

I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders. "

But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.

Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's easy to avoid profiles that don't appeal.

People are quick to defend their own profile as preferences rather than demands which is as it should be.

The issue arises though when,for example, a profile with a preference for clean shaven men sends an introductory message telling the recipient to lose their beard and they might be interested.

A profile with a preference for bi men only makes contact with a straight man to say they would consider meeting him if he agrees to play bi.

That's when they are no longer preferences and become demands and I often wonder how they would react if roles were reversed and someone offered to meet them as long as they shaved their pussy first?

Would they see that as the senders preference or would they tell them to fuck off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!"

They saved you time. You immediately know you're not compatible so no time wasted messaging them.

Why so angry!!!!!!!

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?

Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.

I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders.

But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.

Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.

Point being, I don't mind people contacting me to chat. What I have an issue with is people ignoring my profile then contacting me and pushing thier luck.

If a simple no thanks, not interested is accepted, then fine. It's when that isn't respected I have issues.

I'm currently having a great conversation with a few people following a forum post. I wouldn't have had that if I'd blocked men from initial contact.

And as I said, why should the minority spoil it.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?

Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.

I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders.

But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.

Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining. "

It's the fun that never starts!

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"It's easy to avoid profiles that don't appeal.

People are quick to defend their own profile as preferences rather than demands which is as it should be.

The issue arises though when,for example, a profile with a preference for clean shaven men sends an introductory message telling the recipient to lose their beard and they might be interested.

A profile with a preference for bi men only makes contact with a straight man to say they would consider meeting him if he agrees to play bi.

That's when they are no longer preferences and become demands and I often wonder how they would react if roles were reversed and someone offered to meet them as long as they shaved their pussy first?

Would they see that as the senders preference or would they tell them to fuck off? "
they are in the position to change the rules though and we aren't lol and many of them know it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiosity, why haven't you blocked guys?

Because I shouldn't need to. Why should the minority spoil it for the rest.

I have many male friends on the site who I chat with. I enjoy making new online friends of all genders.

But you can still chat to your male friends if your filter stops men making contact with you.

Once you've messaged them they can reply. The filter is one way, just stops men making initial contact.

Point being, I don't mind people contacting me to chat. What I have an issue with is people ignoring my profile then contacting me and pushing thier luck.

If a simple no thanks, not interested is accepted, then fine. It's when that isn't respected I have issues.

I'm currently having a great conversation with a few people following a forum post. I wouldn't have had that if I'd blocked men from initial contact.

And as I said, why should the minority spoil it."

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

It's the fun that never starts!"

Its a perpetual non-starter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess that rules me out...!

Had to put dislikes due to fed up of saying no to peeps with their requests to fulfil their fetishes...!

Have boundaries, sorry.

Also, shouldn’t have to tell peeps to be clean but given some aren’t able to do basics, then they shouldn’t be surprised if I turn up & walk away from a meet if they are not clean...!

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

It's the fun that never starts!

Its a perpetual non-starter. "

And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I demand people have no demands

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

It's the fun that never starts!

Its a perpetual non-starter.

And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab."

Here endeth the Lesson!!

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

It's the fun that never starts!

Its a perpetual non-starter.

And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.

Here endeth the Lesson!! "

Thanks be to Dog.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

It's the fun that never starts!

Its a perpetual non-starter.

And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.

Here endeth the Lesson!! "

Surely it can't end yet, it hadn't been mansplained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

It's the fun that never starts!

Its a perpetual non-starter.

And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.

Here endeth the Lesson!! "

You can't end the lesson.. your a woman... silly

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

Came for the cock, stayed for the mansplaining.

It's the fun that never starts!

Its a perpetual non-starter.

And yet keeps being started, ad infinitum, world without end. It is the Law of Fab.

Here endeth the Lesson!!

You can't end the lesson.. your a woman... silly"

You're*

And don't you start!!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!"

I love specifics.

It saves time when browsing and gives a pretty much instant idea of compatibility.

There's a massive gulf between preferences and demands that some fail to comprehend.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

But now you're making demands about people making demands.

I demand that you stop making demands about people making demands.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"It's easy to avoid profiles that don't appeal.

People are quick to defend their own profile as preferences rather than demands which is as it should be.

The issue arises though when,for example, a profile with a preference for clean shaven men sends an introductory message telling the recipient to lose their beard and they might be interested.

A profile with a preference for bi men only makes contact with a straight man to say they would consider meeting him if he agrees to play bi.

That's when they are no longer preferences and become demands and I often wonder how they would react if roles were reversed and someone offered to meet them as long as they shaved their pussy first?

Would they see that as the senders preference or would they tell them to fuck off? "

But if messages like that arrive its simple. Delete. Block.

Some people will always try their luck and you can't control that.

You can of course prevent them from asking twice........

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!"

Well you aren’t for us if you don’t message on the 3rd Tuesday of the month and it falls on an odd number, but only if that coincides with a new moon - that’s the important bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no, don't have a barr of those this and that people. I prefer the other

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!"

Worst still are the ones who make no effort then expect rewards

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I don't reply to any messages sent in living languages.

My list of desperate Sumerian and Etruscan correspondents grows ever longer, however, so I may have to introduce more filters. Curse these pretty, alluring eyes of mine. (Shakes puny fist.)

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Absoulutley! Can't believe some of them! But hey ho each to their own x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

With some profiles, they've basically eliminated all but 3 people on here through not wanting this, that, or the other. Good luck to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With some profiles, they've basically eliminated all but 3 people on here through not wanting this, that, or the other. Good luck to them.

It's like the fab hunger games! I'd watch it!

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

"With some profiles, they've basically eliminated all but 3 people on here through not wanting this, that, or the other. Good luck to them.

I just eliminate everyone by being a grumpy old bitch. Especially at 3am when I'm stuck in work.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I prefer people to be honest and say exactly what they are and aren’t looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get told my profile is far too demanding.

At no point does it ask them to message me."

I just read your profile with a smile on my face. I dont think it is demanding, it just shows you wont just settle for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect the long lists of dos and donts are counter productive. Plenty of timewasters will ignore them and message anyway while others who may be a good match will be put off by the humourless tone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The crappy men don't spoil it for the good ones!"

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"Block ALL men!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else can’t be fucked with a list of demands on a profile page.

If your this if your that dont do this don’t do that.

Must be this must be that

Mustn’t be this mustn’t be that!!!!!!

Just go and do one !!!!!"

Would you say this if you met their criteria to a tee and they were shit hot?

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

Some might find our profile demanding but from our point of view it cuts out most of the crap.

It's all very tongue in cheek and will therefore only attract those with a similar sense of humour.

It still hasn't prevented the odd cockwomble from wandering in full of praise for the bio and pics and then squealing foul play when we say thanks but no thanks.

Always hilarious that we were so amazing and wonderful just 2 messages ago and then become up our own hole and pretentious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer straight a straight to the point bio. Makes it easier to know if we would be a match or not.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

My one and only demand is people to read my damn profile.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"My one and only demand is people to read my damn profile."

Sorry I got distracted by tits

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"My one and only demand is people to read my damn profile.

Sorry I got distracted by tits

BLOCKING

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"My one and only demand is people to read my damn profile.

Sorry I got distracted by tits

BLOCKING

But they are nice

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Meh. You can easily move on past shouty profiles, especially as it seems they do a good job of screening folks who don’t fit their criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s tough for it *not* to end up a list of ‘demands’, really. It gets old fast saying the same old shit over and over. No, I don’t want a quick fuck as you pass through my area. No, I don’t want a lunchtime hookup when your wife is at work. Explaining how I am, 50 times a day, whether or not I have ginger pubes…I’m putting myself to sleep here

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Just block the ones that you don't fit their requirements...saves looking over and over again in searches

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"It’s tough for it *not* to end up a list of ‘demands’, really. It gets old fast saying the same old shit over and over. No, I don’t want a quick fuck as you pass through my area. No, I don’t want a lunchtime hookup when your wife is at work. Explaining how I am, 50 times a day, whether or not I have ginger pubes…I’m putting myself to sleep here

Okay but do the curtains match the carpet though?

/joke

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"My one and only demand is people to read my damn profile.

Sorry I got distracted by tits

BLOCKING

I’d better get a dick pic in before you get a chance. Might as well go out with a bang

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