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Can you read people well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How good are you at it?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Very good at reading people x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively "

Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.

I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awesome.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I like to think I am a good judge of people but in reality I have no idea what they are really thinking. I don’t think anyone can truly read a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How good are you at it? "

People are as fake as they come when they want something. Ask many questions about why they left their last home. Get references from their employer or last landlord.even then the references can be flawed but it's all you have for now. It can be hit and miss whether you get a good one or not. Ask them questions about how they would expect a house mate to behave and take your time in choosing. Good luck.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

Very good. Can tell the TWS and talkers

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By *onesome swingerMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I would say that I can read people well. The eyes are the windows to their soul and non verbal communication tells a lot about a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's dangerous to think you can read people too well, its often just projecting your existing biases onto them. Let people show themselves and then decide, particularly their actions rather than words.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It all depends on the person and how invested I am.

I like to think that I read them correctly most of the time but I'm not infallible.

I have read a few people as being friendly and approachable initially only for them to drop the mask sometime later. In fairness it's difficult to hold the mask and the knife at the same time.

On the flip side though, those I immediately recognise as manipulative and despicable never let me down and my initial assessment is always correct.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"How good are you at it? "

Really good, I often point out spelling errors on tattoos in the street, I'm dead popular, hope this comment doesn't have any spelling errors for people to point out, that would suck for me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How good are you at it?

Really good, I often point out spelling errors on tattoos in the street, I'm dead popular, hope this comment doesn't have any spelling errors for people to point out, that would suck for me!

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I “read people” for a living and I’m highly trained to do so. You observe and read what people show you. If you have someone who is a very good actor, then you may think you’re reading the shit out of them when you really aren’t.

As someone said above, it’s dangerous to feel so certain in your ability to “read” someone. Stay curious, remember you may be wrong, and think of your initial assumptions of a person as hypotheses to be tested out!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I can read them well enough to have mostly positive social interactions when required.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I form first impressions but they're not always correct.

I met a woman yesterday who I knew I wouldn't get on with after a fifteen minute conversation, she's surely got some very positive qualities but she showed me herself in a way that immediately made me aware that I wouldn't like her (I'm sure the feeling was mutual). However I've known many people in my life who I have grown to like after forming a poor first impression and vice versa.

Good luck in your search may all your future housemates be tidy, quiet and attractive young women

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

It depends what font the words are in. 16 point Ariel is very legible, but not a hope in hell with Lucida Handwriting below 10 point.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

First impressions last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively

Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.

I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more? "

Think you should consider carefully and set house rules. Get references too. People are only going to show you the side they think will fit the role of the perfect housemate. Do your vetting, look in share websites for advice etc and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read people extremely well - usually give them the benefit of the doubt if they've given an *off* first impression. If they follow through on that first impression it's goodbye

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Yes.

Although I do get accused of reading people wrong when I point out their behaviour or decisions before they vocalise them, especially if they feel guilty or ashamed of them.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

My hubby is a qualified journalist, and he has the ability to read people, and go digging when someone "pings his radar", as he puts it.

One person's "bi-curious" on this site has often turned out to be "flat-out bisexual and into bareback" on other others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be great at it but now i dont trust my instincts after they failed me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm pretty damn good at it yeah. There are some people on here who I cannot work out for the life of me though.

I always wonder how we all got to being so kinky. I think there's always a reason and some people I couldn't even fathom a guess

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not at all, I don't understand people, most just annoy me.

Humans are complicated.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

Although I do get accused of reading people wrong when I point out their behaviour or decisions before they vocalise them, especially if they feel guilty or ashamed of them.

"

Straight men sucking cock

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I am terrible at realising people are coming on to me

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively

Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.

I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more? "

I can tell very quickly and ask lots of questions to be sure. People who are a bit dodgy or guarded for the wring reasons avoid eye contact and answering personal questions without seeming uncomfortable

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Depends, outside the scene I have xray vision and can see everything.

But, I get cock blind in the clubs, my radar is shot.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Yes.

Although I do get accused of reading people wrong when I point out their behaviour or decisions before they vocalise them, especially if they feel guilty or ashamed of them.

Straight men sucking cock "

They can't handle the truth!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

Apparently so, we’d a new forklift driver start two weeks ago I said “He’s going to be useless” after his first day.

I was told to pipe down, the next day he drove the forklift through ducting across the factory, the day after that he smashed something else and today he drove the forklift through a roller door

If only someone had raised a concern

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee

I think so, and the older I get the better I get at it. Can spot a dickhead a mile away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am terrible at realising people are coming on to me"

Same here....you pretty much have to be 'twat me round the head' obvious for me to realise.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"How good are you at it? "

Yes I've just spent all morning talking with a catfish . really enjoying the chat then of course they shut down .profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not at all

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I do the tea leaves reading

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I can read people over a period of time, I look at deeds over words and notice tells. It's completely useless if a quick desicion on someone's character is required and one of the reasons I struggle with the idea that a 'connection' is required for casual sex, I emphasise that this is just me as a lot of people can achieve that in a brief period of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the weather but usually I am better at it during summer time

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Not through texts...but when I meet I need only few mins...

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I am terrible at realising people are coming on to me

Same here....you pretty much have to be 'twat me round the head' obvious for me to realise. "

I can't promise to twat you round the head, but this is as obvious as it gets. You are hot and we *all* want to fuck you.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

I think I'm pretty good at spotting fakeness. Not because I have any intuitive understanding of people (I don't), I'm just very analytical.

I tend to believe most people will fuck each other over if it suits them and try to stay guarded and reserved to avoid it.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m good at reading the braille around a ladies nips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean take this forum. I know all the women want me, but they're going about it in such different and sometimes really mysterious ways...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m good at reading the braille around a ladies nips "

What does it say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m good at reading the braille around a ladies nips

What does it say?"

Wrong book,now take your hands off my testicles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremely well , never failed yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m good at reading the braille around a ladies nips

What does it say?

Wrong book,now take your hands off my testicles"

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’m good at reading the braille around a ladies nips

What does it say?"

Usually says ‘get your hands off pervert’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m good at reading the braille around a ladies nips

What does it say?

Usually says ‘get your hands off pervert’ "

Mine says ‘suck ‘em and see’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so but I am always prepared to change my mind about a person. It takes a bit of watching/talking to truly figure someone out but I do think I am good at it.

I wouldnt like to have to make a quick ish decision to have someone move in though, that would be hard.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Rubbish but that fits with not recognising flirting signals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am really bad at it and often find myself doing a 180!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Face to Face very well

Online I am pants

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Pretty well. Especially fab profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really good at it in my job as security officer look people directly in the eye

Online it’s different and difficult to gauge an opinion but of this I know couple of lady’s that are totally genuine

And a couple of nice gents as well

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’m good at reading the braille around a ladies nips

What does it say?

Usually says ‘get your hands off pervert’

Mine says ‘suck ‘em and see’ "

I’m on my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's dangerous to think you can read people too well, its often just projecting your existing biases onto them. Let people show themselves and then decide, particularly their actions rather than words."

This. But I few times regretted not trusting my initial intuition.

T

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

Diafuckinbolical.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I'm so good at it, I look into their eyes and I know instinctively

Do you? The reason I ask is I’m not sure, I think I can get along with most people, but that’s me and not really them.

I’m currently looking for a new house share (can’t afford my own place just yet) but when I speak to people I immediately think, am I going to want to bury you in the back yard after a few week? People can give great first impressions, but how often do you see their true character show after you get to know them more? "

That's why I'm trying to avoid having to go that route for as long as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In person yes I can

Online it’s not always as instant. Especially when how they are isn’t consistent, it can take a while to read them.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Hmmm, not so well. Just when i think i've got a really good grasp of someone, i'm often proved wrong...i think i need to trust my gut instinct a bit more

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