FabSwingers.com forum: How easy is it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So for the last couple of weeks I’ve thrown out some last minute invites for going out-out to friends in real life and even on FAB (Socials etc, and even sexy fab meetings.)

And I’ve got a feeling tonight I’m going to be sat on a sofa alone again

I have friends and acquaintances, so why so hard?

So please answer. How easy do you guys find it to arrange a quick hook up or a get together with people you already know?

Or if your in sites like this for that reason, is it just as hard/easy?

*or is it a woman v men thing?

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By *eff4000Man
over a year ago

Camberley

Arranging anything quick with anyone past their twenties is always going to be tricky mate. On here and anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people I am friendly with are in relationships, seems harder for them to be open to spontaneity... I guess?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

In real life, easy. Fancy a day out shopping and lunch ? Rarely fails to attract company for a few hours

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

In real life I struggle getting out and about, everything takes planned with little ones around and dates don't always match up, childcare is difficulty to come across so general weekend outings are very rare.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This is untested but theoretically we could arrange many last minute hook ups on fab, social and sexy. I suspect practically it wouldn't be so easy.

Outside of fab everyone seems to require weeks of warning to meet for anything

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It's quite easy for me generally. I'm not sure if it's vag power but I think it's more I know who'd be up for stuff. Like I knew a fab friend was localish tomorrow so I'm going to have coffee with him. Arranged a hour ago. Easily.

If you've got a busy work life/other commitments it's not as easy. And this time of year people are more homebodies.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So for the last couple of weeks I’ve thrown out some last minute invites for going out-out to friends in real life and even on FAB (Socials etc, and even sexy fab meetings.)

And I’ve got a feeling tonight I’m going to be sat on a sofa alone again

I have friends and acquaintances, so why so hard?

So please answer. How easy do you guys find it to arrange a quick hook up or a get together with people you already know?

Or if your in sites like this for that reason, is it just as hard/easy?

*or is it a woman v men thing? "
Women like to stay at home (not all) men like to go out

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"So for the last couple of weeks I’ve thrown out some last minute invites for going out-out to friends in real life and even on FAB (Socials etc, and even sexy fab meetings.)

And I’ve got a feeling tonight I’m going to be sat on a sofa alone again

I have friends and acquaintances, so why so hard?

So please answer. How easy do you guys find it to arrange a quick hook up or a get together with people you already know?

Or if your in sites like this for that reason, is it just as hard/easy?

*or is it a woman v men thing? "

Don't know about a hookup... But getting folks out for a pint has proved impossible. I've even been solo for a pint a few times but that was a struggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to like to look forward to things, and have a bit of chat and build up, so I’m not a prolific short notice arranger, for sex.

Friends and family - totally different story - if I can, I go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I am a tv/ts

I could fly the meet now flag and if I wasn’t fussy

I could have a guy over within about 5-10 minutes

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Out out ? Not easy …

If I suggest “ in “ at mine and I’m cooking I get inundated, literally .

In fact friends are suggesting “in” at mine even when I’m not planning to .

So there you go , get yourself a load of scrounging friend and get your apron out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In real life, easy. Fancy a day out shopping and lunch ? Rarely fails to attract company for a few hours

Nothing seems to attract anyone for a couple of hours here.

I’ve not tried offering to go fishing yet though, I might try that next.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I am a tv/ts

I could fly the meet now flag and if I wasn’t fussy

I could have a guy over within about 5-10 minutes "

Nobody likes a shoe off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I am a tv/ts

I could fly the meet now flag and if I wasn’t fussy

I could have a guy over within about 5-10 minutes

Nobody likes a shoe off.

^i am leaving that. Because it’s true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to like to look forward to things, and have a bit of chat and build up, so I’m not a prolific short notice arranger, for sex.

…."

Same, but I have done the ‘let’s do it! And it’s worked out with good intuition.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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Don't know about a hookup... But getting folks out for a pint has proved impossible. I've even been solo for a pint a few times but that was a struggle. "

I’m tempted to go the pub on my own. What’s the worst that could happen?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The people I am friendly with are in relationships, seems harder for them to be open to spontaneity... I guess? "

I Might offer to babysit for them. .. oh wait.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m very much a schedule & calendar person so each week there’s 3-4 nights taken socialising with people I know plus new socials, hookups ,out with non local friends etc are booked well in advance. I do get and make the odd booty call but it’s rare, generally if I’m sat on the sofa alone it’s because I want to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that easy on a Monday night!

Even a weekend, could be tricky, people have families and responsibilities outside of my friendship...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m very much a schedule & calendar person so each week there’s 3-4 nights taken socialising with people I know plus new socials, hookups ,out with non local friends etc are booked well in advance. I do get and make the odd booty call but it’s rare, generally if I’m sat on the sofa alone it’s because I want to be "

Im a calendar person, I only really have a Saturday night free. So that’s normally always taken, so when there’s a cancel or another night free, I try to fill it because the working week is long etc. and this is why I try the last minute thing lately, because I’m not normally in the mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I am a tv/ts

I could fly the meet now flag and if I wasn’t fussy

I could have a guy over within about 5-10 minutes

Nobody likes a shoe off.

Ha ha not like I am popular anyway

So can say what I like how I like

They still be a line around the block off guys

Just others ruin they own chances with me that’s all

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Completely depends. I have had some fantastic spur of the moment meets on Sundays usually...both having a leisurely start and on Fab looking for someone to do that day. That said, it is unusual for me for to be looking for a same day meet with someone I haven't met before as I prefer to build a connection with someone first

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I don't find it easy whatsoever. It's attributed to my personal constraints: I don't seek immediate 'hook ups' because I wish to create some affinity as a prelude, and most, if not all, of my contacts are sooo far away (frustratingly). Planning becomes a dark art.

Also, something within me has recently sparked a desire to date: 'romantic' interludes over dinner (but without the romance!). Crazy huh?

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Friendships off here very easy for last minute socials, on here non existent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do short notice, I need months of planning to make sure I'm free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do short notice, I need months of planning to make sure I'm free.

FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really ask for last minute meets as I just assume they have other things on and I worry about how being that forward would be perceived. If I did find myself free on a Saturday night then I'd just head to my local club and try to chat to people there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do short notice, I need months of planning to make sure I'm free.

FAF?

8pm good?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m free for the next 30mins only, but I’m not willing to travel more than 30 miles.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"How easy do you guys find it to arrange a quick hook up or a get together with people you already know?

Or if your in sites like this for that reason, is it just as hard/easy?

It borders on the impossible for me, I could probably arrange a hook up with some random dude without much issue, but that is so not what I'm looking for...

People I already know live far away, so there's nothing quick happening there.

It is how it is.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Unfortunately I need advance notice for anything.

1. To sort my kids out

2. To sort my kids out

3. To get myself in the mindset to WANT to go outside

4. To sort my mum out.

Sometimes, it just feels like too much effort.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Unfortunately I need advance notice for anything.

1. To sort my kids out

2. To sort my kids out

3. To get myself in the mindset to WANT to go outside

4. To sort my mum out.

Sometimes, it just feels like too much effort."

2. Should be sort my dogs out!

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By *ornyHumpyMan95Man
over a year ago

Prestatyn

It's hard man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do short notice, I need months of planning to make sure I'm free.

FAF?

8pm good? "

Sounds good to me, quick shower and shave upstairs and downstairs and I'm there

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Really easy. But the want needs to be there or I end up on my own by procrastination

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really easy. But the want needs to be there or I end up on my own by procrastination "

Yep. And that why I’ve said sometimes the last minute ‘do you fancy it?’ Can turn into a ‘hell yeh, gimme five mins I’ll be ready!’

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

With my close friends it's difficult to all get together at the same time.

On here I've flown the meet today flag 4 times and all where successes but I quit that while I was ahead

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I’m free for the next 30mins only, but I’m not willing to travel more than 30 miles. "

Not free now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do short notice, I need months of planning to make sure I'm free.

FAF?

8pm good?

Sounds good to me, quick shower and shave upstairs and downstairs and I'm there

Cool.

I'm not shaving though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do short notice, I need months of planning to make sure I'm free.

FAF?

8pm good?

Sounds good to me, quick shower and shave upstairs and downstairs and I'm there

Cool.

I'm not shaving though. "

Even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am never able to arrange anything in real life, either im too busy or they are too busy or nobody really wants to do it.

It geta depressing after a while so you just atop asking.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

If it were my friends then I could probably go out, depending on which night it was, and leave the husband to sort out the kids. But with fab we only meet as a couple, so meeting quickly isn't going to work as we can't organise childcare that fast.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

My brain can’t cope with last minute. I need notice. Plus we have to arrange childcare

J x

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Many comments have already covered the reasons why it's hard for individuals to meet last minute. On top of all of that, let's say someone was ready right now, you then have the time wasters to deal with! If someone has 3-4 hours free you can easily have people waste 1-2 hours of that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arranging anything quick with anyone past their twenties is always going to be tricky mate. On here and anywhere else."

Takes me a week to resemble a human.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Really life I am so bad like time to myself, and often dodge people.

Fab just go to a club too hard arranging a private meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm rubbish.. It just seems like too much effort to look half decent and leave the house after an exhausting day at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take the positive approach.

"If they don't want to meet then they are not worthy of your awesomeness"

Works for me

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Somebody I know invited me to go out the other night but I was asleep lol

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Invited out yesterday and going out today. Just saying . I know right !!! This never happens I’m actually riding the high.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No idea on here because I don't arrange last minute meets.

Ten years ago there were 60 in our hiking group and without fail 20-25 of those would turn up with a weeks notice.

Five years ago there were still 30 in the group and 15 could be there every week.

Now due to long covid issues,multiple illnesses, family losses and job changes we get less than 5 unless it has been planned a month in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I find last minute meets easier to arrange. When we chat to someone for ages something usually comes up and the meet never happens.

In real life I’ve got 2 groups of friends. One would never go for a last minute pint and the other still go out every weekend so I just tag along if I fancy a drink.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

If you aren't bothered about quality it is easy yo arrange a last minute meet.

Not my thing.

I prefer quality. But have had some last minute quality meets on a number of occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So for the last couple of weeks I’ve thrown out some last minute invites for going out-out to friends in real life and even on FAB (Socials etc, and even sexy fab meetings.)

And I’ve got a feeling tonight I’m going to be sat on a sofa alone again

I have friends and acquaintances, so why so hard?

So please answer. How easy do you guys find it to arrange a quick hook up or a get together with people you already know?

Or if your in sites like this for that reason, is it just as hard/easy?

*or is it a woman v men thing? "

We both have kids with our previous partners, work, hobbies, life stuff...any kind of social activity requires A LOT of planning for time off, childcare etc. So last minute invitations will almost always have to be politely declined. And it's nothing personal, it's just a time thing

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out solo, somewhere new. Your world gets bigger, you meet new people. Since being unceremoniously dumped by a “friend” of several years I’ve been going solo. And enjoying it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I occasionally socialise last minute but generally not.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Fuck going out.

My sofa is always there for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuck going out.

My sofa is always there for me.

It even encourages me to put my feet up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go out solo, somewhere new. Your world gets bigger, you meet new people. Since being unceremoniously dumped by a “friend” of several years I’ve been going solo. And enjoying it. "

But the world is so much more enjoyable with company and someone to share it with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like spontaneous meets with anyone. I need to give my brain notice to prepare for socialising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go out solo, somewhere new. Your world gets bigger, you meet new people. Since being unceremoniously dumped by a “friend” of several years I’ve been going solo. And enjoying it.

But the world is so much more enjoyable with company and someone to share it with.

Of course. Your ideal woman could be sat in that bar you’ve never been to.

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By *J5551959Man
over a year ago

Alford

In reality I think you'll find that couples and single ladies aren't just sitting waiting for us single men to send out an invite.

They have lives, families, jobs.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"I don't like spontaneous meets with anyone. I need to give my brain notice to prepare for socialising."

This is me. Plus I work very long, often late, not always predictable hours (that's why I used to put 'professional' on my profile, though it seems to be such a boo word on here I removed it), and am de facto a single parent with no family nearby to help. And live in a village, with no car.

It's amazing I ever leave the house at all! Spontaneous is just not going to happen.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Pretty much impossible, most people I know either on or off here have other commitments.

If I've got the energy, I'm usually up for last minute plans though

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Pretty much impossible, most people I know either on or off here have other commitments.

If I've got the energy, I'm usually up for last minute plans though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go out solo, somewhere new. Your world gets bigger, you meet new people. Since being unceremoniously dumped by a “friend” of several years I’ve been going solo. And enjoying it.

But the world is so much more enjoyable with company and someone to share it with.

Of course. Your ideal woman could be sat in that bar you’ve never been to. "

*gest out a list of ALL the bars!!

your right though, many people are out there and they’re missing out of meeting me.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Go out solo, somewhere new. Your world gets bigger, you meet new people. Since being unceremoniously dumped by a “friend” of several years I’ve been going solo. And enjoying it.

But the world is so much more enjoyable with company and someone to share it with.

Of course. Your ideal woman could be sat in that bar you’ve never been to. "

If nobody goes in the bar, does it really exist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go out solo, somewhere new. Your world gets bigger, you meet new people. Since being unceremoniously dumped by a “friend” of several years I’ve been going solo. And enjoying it.

But the world is so much more enjoyable with company and someone to share it with.

Of course. Your ideal woman could be sat in that bar you’ve never been to.

*gest out a list of ALL the bars!!

your right though, many people are out there and they’re missing out of meeting me.

I’m right quite a lot. Don’t like to point they out though

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