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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I have just been called this by a complete stranger. If the word ethical had been used before it I wouldn’t have been so offended.

Ladies would this of caused offence or do you like being called it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh?

What was the context?

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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"Eh?

What was the context? "

Just slut, I’d use all your holes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Eh?

What was the context?

Just slut, I’d use all your holes lol "

A stranger passing you by on the street?

Someone in the club?

Was that first sentence spoken to you?

Just curious.

Either way, no not welcome from a stranger.

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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"Eh?

What was the context?

Just slut, I’d use all your holes lol

A stranger passing you by on the street?

Someone in the club?

Was that first sentence spoken to you?

Just curious.

Either way, no not welcome from a stranger. "

It was here and his first message to me we’d not spoken before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bookmarking…. For a possible slut.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Sexy Liberated Unique Talented

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Eh?

What was the context?

Just slut, I’d use all your holes lol

A stranger passing you by on the street?

Someone in the club?

Was that first sentence spoken to you?

Just curious.

Either way, no not welcome from a stranger.

It was here and his first message to me we’d not spoken before "

Ahhh I see.

That's some rough opening

No, not fun, unless your profile says please please I'd love to be humiliated by randomly sent messages on here and it's my kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a complete stranger with no consent, it really pisses me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only by certain guys.

The ones I actually want to get slutty with.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Eh?

What was the context?

Just slut, I’d use all your holes lol

A stranger passing you by on the street?

Someone in the club?

Was that first sentence spoken to you?

Just curious.

Either way, no not welcome from a stranger.

It was here and his first message to me we’d not spoken before "

It's certainly a strong opening salvo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find it offensive in a first message...even if I prove to be one after first contact!

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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"From a complete stranger with no consent, it really pisses me off. "

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Only ever used it in a jokey way in the bedroom

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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"Only ever used it in a jokey way in the bedroom "

And totally fine when you know the person

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicester

First messages that call me a slut or a bitch in the opening sentence get an immediate block

Respect doesn’t cost anything regardless of how horny someone is - that’s just being a dick

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

Context is everything. As an opening gambit, we’d consider it completely unacceptable, resulting in an instant block. If we’re in the throes of passion, it’d be different (but even then, context is everything).

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By *eff4000Man
over a year ago

Camberley

Sounds like a completely failed attempt at trying to establish dominance from the get go

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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"Sounds like a completely failed attempt at trying to establish dominance from the get go"

It sure was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it as a compliment given that I do happen to carry out sexual attendances aquatinted with SLUT like behaviour...!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Never used it never would

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

It is my Doms pet name for me but was something we discussed prior to him using it.

From a stranger on here in a first message..... instant delete.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I don't take it as a derogatory term so it wouldn't bother me, also I wouldn't get offended by some random person's comments about me. Don't feed the trolls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being called it in the bedroom as part of fun, not by a random stranger in the street. Also depends on time if voice x

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

It’s offensive.

Would you really approach a woman in a bar like this? What would you think her reaction would be?

Same thing with “wanna fuck all your holes hard” type of messages. Just no and I know it’s supposedly sex site but maybe I’m just old fashioned and don’t really belong here.

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By *eff4000Man
over a year ago

Camberley


"Sounds like a completely failed attempt at trying to establish dominance from the get go

It sure was "

Just read your profile, boy did they get it wrong lol.

I can see it being a risky but potentially acceptable first message if the profile in question leads it that way but unless it's fairly clear it's a completely unacceptable first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like one of those moments when you think 'whatever' as you reach for the delete button.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I would call a complete stranger, what a total moron he must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It sounds like one of those moments when you think 'whatever' as you reach for the delete button.

NBVN x"

Exactly this, possibly the block button too

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Judgemental, disrespectful, entitled... Shall I go on?

Block. Delete.

C

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

I've been asked a few times to call women that, in the bedroom or private chats, the guy calling the OP that was bang out of order quite simply.

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicester


"Sounds like a completely failed attempt at trying to establish dominance from the get go"

One can be dominant without incorporating vernacular vocabulary. It shows a lack of creativity which will be more apparent when the clothes come off

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I have just been called this by a complete stranger. If the word ethical had been used before it I wouldn’t have been so offended.

Ladies would this of caused offence or do you like being called it ?"

I (male) have been called this many times. Words only have the power ypu give them.

C

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I would be pissed off and be hitting the block button. I don’t mind if a partner calls me that in the right context, but not from a stranger in a first message… trying to sound sexy and missing the mark by a million miles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like it but if it’s on here , I don’t get offended or really take any notice. I just delete the message.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Just depends.

Random strangers saying I'm a slut, delete message and move on.

Someone asking if I'd like to be a slut at a party or private meet, different story.

I get very few nasty messages from single guys, if I get the odd one I don't engage, simples.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It’s the most unsexiest of words when spoken by someone who hasn’t even sampled my slutiness.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"It’s offensive.

Would you really approach a woman in a bar like this? What would you think her reaction would be?

Same thing with “wanna fuck all your holes hard” type of messages. Just no and I know it’s supposedly sex site but maybe I’m just old fashioned and don’t really belong here."

You belong. Respect costs nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s offensive.

Would you really approach a woman in a bar like this? What would you think her reaction would be?

Same thing with “wanna fuck all your holes hard” type of messages. Just no and I know it’s supposedly sex site but maybe I’m just old fashioned and don’t really belong here.

You belong. Respect costs nothing "

Love this response, Fife Ninja.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First messages that call me a slut or a bitch in the opening sentence get an immediate block

Respect doesn’t cost anything regardless of how horny someone is - that’s just being a dick "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally hit back with a good come back

It normally gose like this

Yip I am a slut and proud off it hi at least us sluts have all the fun but man it must be a really bad day when the slut will not even jump in to bed with you

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

People say the weirdest stuff when there's no risk of getting whacked in the throat

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s offensive.

Would you really approach a woman in a bar like this? What would you think her reaction would be?

Same thing with “wanna fuck all your holes hard” type of messages. Just no and I know it’s supposedly sex site but maybe I’m just old fashioned and don’t really belong here.

You belong. Respect costs nothing

Love this response, Fife Ninja."

Me too

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"People say the weirdest stuff when there's no risk of getting whacked in the throat

LvM"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just been called this by a complete stranger. If the word ethical had been used before it I wouldn’t have been so offended.

Ladies would this of caused offence or do you like being called it ?"

In a first message it saves me any time interacting with them as they are looking for something that I'm not.

Some women would love this abrupt first message.

I think some men try being nice and get no response so turn up the nasty/ outright sex chat as they assume that's what women want.

Don't take it personally.

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Somebody used this in an opening message to me this week. He had no veris and stated on his profile that it was difficult for men on here. I helpfully pointed out why he might be finding that the case but apparently some women like it, so I left him alone so he could message them instead!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"It’s offensive.

Would you really approach a woman in a bar like this? What would you think her reaction would be?

Same thing with “wanna fuck all your holes hard” type of messages. Just no and I know it’s supposedly sex site but maybe I’m just old fashioned and don’t really belong here.

You belong. Respect costs nothing "

Thank you

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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"I normally hit back with a good come back

It normally gose like this

Yip I am a slut and proud off it hi at least us sluts have all the fun but man it must be a really bad day when the slut will not even jump in to bed with you "

Can I plagiarise this, great reply ?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Somebody used this in an opening message to me this week. He had no veris and stated on his profile that it was difficult for men on here. I helpfully pointed out why he might be finding that the case but apparently some women like it, so I left him alone so he could message them instead!"

If he did that to a lady outside, on the street, he'd be quite likely getting a handbag around his chops. Just be polite, respect everyone and just be a normal human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally hit back with a good come back

It normally gose like this

Yip I am a slut and proud off it hi at least us sluts have all the fun but man it must be a really bad day when the slut will not even jump in to bed with you

Can I plagiarise this, great reply ?

"

Yes you can and your welcome anytime

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Eh?

What was the context?

Just slut, I’d use all your holes lol

A stranger passing you by on the street?

Someone in the club?

Was that first sentence spoken to you?

Just curious.

Either way, no not welcome from a stranger.

It was here and his first message to me we’d not spoken before "

Just a random guy wanking to pics online basically then. Don’t pay them attention

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I really need to work on my opening message

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

I know of these types of opening messages and would regularly get similar when I had a couples profile. I do wonder if it's ever actually worked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would find it offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

instant block if anyone said that to me

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By *dd_soxMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"I have just been called this by a complete stranger. If the word ethical had been used before it I wouldn’t have been so offended.

Ladies would this of caused offence or do you live being called it ?"

If it turns you on - it's okay.

It it offends you - not okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone understands seduction

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By *aka12345Couple
over a year ago

close by

It all depends on context

During play I love it, I love the verbal barriers being pushed etc really turns me on

If a guy just randomly said it to me in the street he’d find himself probably with a sore jaw or balls lol xx mrs k xx

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

Never call me a slut. I dislike the term in any situation.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

its a word i would never use,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had some pretty shocking stuff said to me in messages, but I never get offended - there are a fair few wronguns on this site that should be sectioned (Male and Female!)

Some people have their own agendas, and as wrong as it is, you just have to block them and forget it.

I hope it’s not upset you in any way x

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Instant block if anyone uses that word with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Instant block if anyone uses that word with me. "

Same here.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

For me slut stands for sexualy liberated unhibited temptress. But others use slut as a negative word

Hence a lot miss interpret the word but everyone have their own point of view .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It wouldn't offend me even though I don't like the word and it's not something I would tolerate being called by anyone I meet.

But getting called it from some random on here it just just make me roll my eyes and think what a twat and delete the message marked unread I'd probably make a note on their profile about it as well and delete any other messages they might send over time.I would only block if they became persistent in messaging.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

What about slag?

Can you be an ethical slag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why ethical in front of it would have been OK. What's an unethical slut.

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By *rettyflamingo OP   Woman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"I don't understand why ethical in front of it would have been OK. What's an unethical slut. "

Obviously not read the book,’The Ethical Slut” by Janet Hardy then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about slag?

Can you be an ethical slag?"

I'm going to be an ethical twat from now on. I'll still be a twat but will direct 10% of my twatishness towards good causes.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

To be honest I wouldn’t take offence because strangers opinions mean nothing to me. I’d just block and delete.

I would take offence if it was said in anger from someone I care about.

I find it quite hot when I’m in the bedroom and being treated as such

But I do understand what you’re saying OP. It’s not ok for people to just throw it about like that without knowing someone.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think "that incel training is working wonders.....cunt"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who calls Aurelia a good slut or whore get's blocked immediately.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"What about slag?

Can you be an ethical slag?

I'm going to be an ethical twat from now on. I'll still be a twat but will direct 10% of my twatishness towards good causes."

is that like fair trade coffee?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about slag?

Can you be an ethical slag?

I'm going to be an ethical twat from now on. I'll still be a twat but will direct 10% of my twatishness towards good causes.

is that like fair trade coffee?"

Yes, I'm getting the official logo tattooed on my ball bag so I can accept BJs as a charitable donation

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

I am intrigued what an ethical slut is... Unless its already been answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think "that incel training is working wonders.....cunt" "

I love your comments Princess Peach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When called it by a partner I just melt.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

I think this is one of those things where a lot of guys take the fact that this is a "sex site" as licence to forget basic manners, and forget how to act like a gentleman.

Now, there can be a time and a place for such things, and dirty talk and name-calling can be hot in the right context, which generally should be discussed and agreed upon beforehand (or maybe during).

But just straight off the bat and unsolicited? Nah. Same rule as dick pics. A quick and easy way to sort the gents from the boys.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Those kinds of messages make me laugh. Actually laugh.

They don't offend me.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I am intrigued what an ethical slut is... Unless its already been answered. "

A fancy name for a promiscuous woman

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