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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The why DON’T you reply made me think of reasons that I do reply. They’re not just the opposite of why I don’t so thought it might be a useful post.

- 100% if the person makes me laugh

- Definitely if they have clearly made an effort reading our profile

- Usually if they’re talking to both of us

- 100% if I/we are instantly attracted to the person’s pics

- Definitely if displayed veris show someone we have met and had a successful social (or more) with

- Always when I’ve put up a status with a time slot on that I’ll reply to all messages.

- From time to time when I’m on the wind up and it’s an obvious fake.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

if i tickle your feet will it make you laugh,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to messages I like and nice pics, if someone takes the time to string a few sentences I’m happy to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's clearly read my profile. Is what I'm looking for. And its a decent message

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Because they sent a well worded message, didn't include a photo of their cock or were just generally complimentary.

That and I feel bad if I don't.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if i tickle your feet will it make you laugh,,"

Nooooo! There’s only two men on this planet who I will let touch my feet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has engaged their brain, read my profile and has sent a face picture that I'm interested in then yes I will absolutely reply.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Hopefully, it's because I'm pleasant, and they don't think I resemble shrek

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because they sent a well worded message, didn't include a photo of their cock or were just generally complimentary.

That and I feel bad if I don't.

Mrs "

I’m with you on all of that. If it’s got the right tone then even if the person/people are not for us then I feel really bad not to reply. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s a well worded message, they include a face pic, it’s clear that they have read my profile, and if they are local enough, and I like the look of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they sent a well worded message, didn't include a photo of their cock or were just generally complimentary.

That and I feel bad if I don't.

Mrs

I’m with you on all of that. If it’s got the right tone then even if the person/people are not for us then I feel really bad not to reply. x "

Can I ask why?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If someone has a profile that I find interesting I will reply I look at a profile before I answer any message on here.

If they have read my profile and you can tell from the message.

If it's a nice or a message I find interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you make me laugh.

If I fancy you.

If your message was something a little bit different.

If I like you.

If I am feeling argumentative. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will always reply to anyone who gets my attention with being engaging. It’s that simple.

Disclaimer- A reply does not indicate I want to sleep with them… unless they’re hot and sexy, and then I probably do.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I’ll always reply if messages are funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you make me laugh.

If I fancy you.

If your message was something a little bit different.

If I like you.

If I am feeling argumentative. X

"

All of the above AND their username is not off-putting and photos are interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply even if it's just to say no thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's such a positive twist OP.

Because they came across tactile, witty and genuinely interested in person rather than a body or set of mutual interests.

T

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Because I CAN be bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will always reply to anyone who gets my attention with being engaging. It’s that simple.

Disclaimer- A reply does not indicate I want to sleep with them… unless they’re hot and sexy, and then I probably do.

"

Sorry. Just realised. I’m not a woman and I replied to this thread. Sorry op.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I will reply to a well worded message if:

Its funny

They take the time to read my profile

They may be friends with people I have met before

I also reply if they message me without reading my profile, especially the part where I say I am not bi & have no interest in your other half's pussy & no she won't help me change my mind

Lmp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always reply even if it's just to say no thank you x"

See that’s lovely and although I’ve never messaged you I’m going to say thank you. It’s so much better than being left hanging. For people with bad self confidence like me a No is usually better than just being ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will always reply to anyone who gets my attention with being engaging. It’s that simple.

Disclaimer- A reply does not indicate I want to sleep with them… unless they’re hot and sexy, and then I probably do.

Sorry. Just realised. I’m not a woman and I replied to this thread. Sorry op. "

It was noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically be hot and funny and you'll be fine.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Basically be hot and funny and you'll be fine. "

Why do you talk to me then, amigo?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbf there aren't many I don't reply too. A well constructed message with something personal to me always gets a reply with or without face pics, because I'm not superficial, personality and humour are just as important and make up the whole package.

I just think if someone has made an effort then it's nice to be nice, chatting doesn't mean it will lead anywhere and I don't assume that guys who message automatically want to fuck me. Like me they are gauging and interacting.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I am in the process of noting down all the points raised and putting the data into my spreadsheet and formatting the perfect message template

OK I’m not

I always try to address a profile and pertinent points

I try to be original and add some humour as well.

Then they look at my profile where I don’t hide who I am, if there’s anything there I like to think I can hold s conversation on more than I what I’d like to do to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Basically be hot and funny and you'll be fine.

Why do you talk to me then, amigo?! "

She says that with a straight face showing that black velvet cleavage!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Basically be hot and funny and you'll be fine.

Why do you talk to me then, amigo?!

She says that with a straight face showing that black velvet cleavage! "

Ahhhhhhhh las tetas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was meeting:

- Making me laugh

- A face pic attached that attracted me as much as the body.

- Being articulate

- Being polite/a gentleman

Now I’m not meeting:

- A friend from the forums

- A forum game

That’s pretty much it.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Profiles with nice face pics

Something that stands out in first few words

Local ish x

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm fickle...there's no formula

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Instant attraction

Well thought out message

Made me laugh

Piqued my interest

Grammar, punctuation, intelligence

Is a part of a forum game

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If they give the impression they can hold a conversation about something other than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fickle...there's no formula "

Nothing like honesty

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I find them attractive

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

For me can be for several reasons, but usually I check the following:

They read my profile and the message doesn’t have questions that are already answered there

It’s unassuming and sweet

Lives within a reasonable distance (15-20 miles max)

Has pics, both full body and cock - yes I’m here for a reason and like to see the goods

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"If you make me laugh.

If I fancy you.

If your message was something a little bit different.

If I like you.

If I am feeling argumentative. X

"

Shame I only scored on the last point, but a win is a win

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

If they’ve clearly read my profile and make conversation from it, and not about sex.

Or if I’m in a bad mood and someone send a photo of their little sausage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do tend to see alot of lovely ladies talk about well written messages and great grammar and spelling, however I'm dyslexic as hell but without blowing my own trumpet I'm a hoot and I did mean hoot and not hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do tend to see alot of lovely ladies talk about well written messages and great grammar and spelling, however I'm dyslexic as hell but without blowing my own trumpet I'm a hoot and I did mean hoot and not hot "

So you could be missing out on great people because of spelling

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Because he replied, so I reply

...unless it dries up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do tend to see alot of lovely ladies talk about well written messages and great grammar and spelling, however I'm dyslexic as hell but without blowing my own trumpet I'm a hoot and I did mean hoot and not hot

So you could be missing out on great people because of spelling "

Your status made me laugh , that's the kind of thing that makes me reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do tend to see alot of lovely ladies talk about well written messages and great grammar and spelling, however I'm dyslexic as hell but without blowing my own trumpet I'm a hoot and I did mean hoot and not hot

So you could be missing out on great people because of spelling

Your status made me laugh , that's the kind of thing that makes me reply. "
thank you

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here


"I do tend to see alot of lovely ladies talk about well written messages and great grammar and spelling, however I'm dyslexic as hell but without blowing my own trumpet I'm a hoot and I did mean hoot and not hot

So you could be missing out on great people because of spelling "

I always keep in mind that spelling and grammar may be a barrier to some people. However, if it’s lazy spelling such as “plz” or “wuu2” I will instantly delete

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"The why DON’T you reply made me think of reasons that I do reply. They’re not just the opposite of why I don’t so thought it might be a useful post.

- 100% if the person makes me laugh

- Definitely if they have clearly made an effort reading our profile

- Usually if they’re talking to both of us

- 100% if I/we are instantly attracted to the person’s pics

- Definitely if displayed veris show someone we have met and had a successful social (or more) with

- Always when I’ve put up a status with a time slot on that I’ll reply to all messages.

- From time to time when I’m on the wind up and it’s an obvious fake.

"

As you stated if they have read our profile and understand what we are looking for and they are exactly that we always reply. But to be fair we have had quite a few straight cpls message us lately who clearly had not read our profile at all. Jo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do tend to see alot of lovely ladies talk about well written messages and great grammar and spelling, however I'm dyslexic as hell but without blowing my own trumpet I'm a hoot and I did mean hoot and not hot

So you could be missing out on great people because of spelling

I always keep in mind that spelling and grammar may be a barrier to some people. However, if it’s lazy spelling such as “plz” or “wuu2” I will instantly delete "
that makes sense

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I read their profile before I read their message. If it piques my interest I'll reply if their message also interests me.

An interesting profile will have either decent text or interesting/witty pictures, or the holy grail of both.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

If they have read my profile; are polite and have made an effort to write something personal that isn't a cut and shunt I will always try to reply - even if it is my standard 'thanks but no thanks'. Profiles that catch my eye also have decent pics; don't have a truckload of BB pics unless they are a couple; provided a face pic; are physically attractive to me; have a well written (ideally humerus) bio and great veris. It can be hard to sort the wheat from the chaff due to volume of messages that just aren't worthy of a response.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I’ll reply if I think they look & sound like my type (after reading their bio) and/or they’ve sent a genuine, funny or lovely message that makes me smile

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

I've read them on the fora.

I'm bored/horny/touched by the sincerity of the message.

They seem to have something about them that makes me think, actually, you're my sort of person. I want to find out more about you. Not even in a sexual way, just as a person.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"The why DON’T you reply made me think of reasons that I do reply. They’re not just the opposite of why I don’t so thought it might be a useful post.

- 100% if the person makes me laugh

- Definitely if they have clearly made an effort reading our profile

- Usually if they’re talking to both of us

- 100% if I/we are instantly attracted to the person’s pics

- Definitely if displayed veris show someone we have met and had a successful social (or more) with

- Always when I’ve put up a status with a time slot on that I’ll reply to all messages.

- From time to time when I’m on the wind up and it’s an obvious fake.

"

Basically the same reasons here. If a single guy messages and it makes me laugh, he’s defo getting a reply!

C x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The why DON’T you reply made me think of reasons that I do reply. They’re not just the opposite of why I don’t so thought it might be a useful post.

- 100% if the person makes me laugh

- Definitely if they have clearly made an effort reading our profile

- Usually if they’re talking to both of us

- 100% if I/we are instantly attracted to the person’s pics

- Definitely if displayed veris show someone we have met and had a successful social (or more) with

- Always when I’ve put up a status with a time slot on that I’ll reply to all messages.

- From time to time when I’m on the wind up and it’s an obvious fake.

Basically the same reasons here. If a single guy messages and it makes me laugh, he’s defo getting a reply!

C x"

But in advertising that we sometimes then get ‘knock knock’ jokes! lol!

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By *rsmith21zMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"The why DON’T you reply made me think of reasons that I do reply. They’re not just the opposite of why I don’t so thought it might be a useful post.

- 100% if the person makes me laugh

- Definitely if they have clearly made an effort reading our profile

- Usually if they’re talking to both of us

- 100% if I/we are instantly attracted to the person’s pics

- Definitely if displayed veris show someone we have met and had a successful social (or more) with

- Always when I’ve put up a status with a time slot on that I’ll reply to all messages.

- From time to time when I’m on the wind up and it’s an obvious fake.

Basically the same reasons here. If a single guy messages and it makes me laugh, he’s defo getting a reply!

C x

But in advertising that we sometimes then get ‘knock knock’ jokes! lol! "

Lol

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Because they sent a well worded message, didn't include a photo of their cock or were just generally complimentary.

That and I feel bad if I don't.

Mrs

I’m with you on all of that. If it’s got the right tone then even if the person/people are not for us then I feel really bad not to reply. x

Can I ask why?"

For me I'm too soft it just feels not polite although I'm becoming a lot tougher, the Mr's teaching me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they sent a well worded message, didn't include a photo of their cock or were just generally complimentary.

That and I feel bad if I don't.

Mrs

I’m with you on all of that. If it’s got the right tone then even if the person/people are not for us then I feel really bad not to reply. x

Can I ask why?

For me I'm too soft it just feels not polite although I'm becoming a lot tougher, the Mr's teaching me "

I was like that, but I’ve learnt that I have to priority myself. I started with not apologising for taking up space, in places I was entitled to be, it’s a similar thing for me

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

If it's someone I recognise from the forums and don't despise.

That's pretty much my reply criteria.

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By *rsmith21zMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"If it's someone I recognise from the forums and don't despise.

That's pretty much my reply criteria."

Cool hello

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"The why DON’T you reply made me think of reasons that I do reply. They’re not just the opposite of why I don’t so thought it might be a useful post.

- 100% if the person makes me laugh

- Definitely if they have clearly made an effort reading our profile

- Usually if they’re talking to both of us

- 100% if I/we are instantly attracted to the person’s pics

- Definitely if displayed veris show someone we have met and had a successful social (or more) with

- Always when I’ve put up a status with a time slot on that I’ll reply to all messages.

- From time to time when I’m on the wind up and it’s an obvious fake.

Basically the same reasons here. If a single guy messages and it makes me laugh, he’s defo getting a reply!

C x

But in advertising that we sometimes then get ‘knock knock’ jokes! lol! "

I’m use to a good dad joke anyway haha!

C x

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