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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’ve done this before, and it can be informative.

What are the reasons you don’t reply…..

Please keep it kind

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Coz you're all lesbians innit

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Because my hands are always full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just to many messages and guys that are out my age range

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I do reply to 99% the 1% I don't is because they sent a cock pic.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the people that messages completely disregard the fact that I’m not meeting at the moment

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"We’ve done this before, and it can be informative.

What are the reasons you don’t reply…..

Please keep it kind "

According to some you’re all up yourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply because i don't want to. if I have no interest in chatting to the person or meeting them from looking at their profile and possibly reading the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


" "

He knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of reasons.

1. I’m not meeting so don’t see the point.

2. They don’t read my profile so don’t title the message correctly.

3. They don’t have public photos/profile picture.

When I was interested in meeting I also wouldn’t respond to:

- messages that told me “what they wanted to do to me.”

- cock pics

- no sign or interest in getting to know me as a person

And also simply because I just don’t want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coz you're all lesbians innit "

How’d you know?! Who told him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I’m a naughty little tease.

But also a myriad of reasons. Dirty mirrors, being one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Hows U

Wanna suck and go

Hey sexy I’m into big birds wanna meet now

Would you reply?

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

between your legs


"just to many messages and guys that are out my age range "

Wow

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I reckon they all really want too but their fingers are worn out and hurt and then they just forget

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"just to many messages and guys that are out my age range "

Just set your filter so that guys outside your preferred range cant message you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi Hows U

Wanna suck and go

Hey sexy I’m into big birds wanna meet now

Would you reply? "

Adding ‘lemme fuck’ to that list

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By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"Simply because i don't want to. if I have no interest in chatting to the person or meeting them from looking at their profile and possibly reading the message."

This is my reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No replies to anything we have already said no to on our profile:

- dick pics

- ‘hey’ (or any other unimaginative one liner)

- offers of payment

- married or otherwise attached ‘singles’

- super hairy people

- offers of watersports as a first approach

- being told what someone WILL do to me/us

Other than that we will reply.

But … the other day I replied to someone in (what I thought was) a positive fashion. I think my words were something like ‘ you’re not my usual type but I am intrigued and absolutely could be tempted’ and he told me that I should put my preferences on our profile. I said I had. He got shitty saying that I was clearly a woman who ‘got off on rejecting men.’

So if someone seems to have a chip on their shoulder they won’t get a reply either!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Generally because I can’t be bothered

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"Generally because I can’t be bothered "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had to bulk delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because my hands are always full "

What that mouth do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I'm doing something wrong because, I don't send dick pics and I also read profiles and try and add that in my message. So will be interesting to see these comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because 99% of men don't read my profile and aren't what I'm looking for

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Cause I'm ugly

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Because I Get hi messages and messages from men that clearly have not read my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bulk deleted by accident oppsie

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Million one reasons but the most common two reasons: they sound like an idiot who would just be a timewaster or I really don't find them physically attractive

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

I reply to 90% of messages, it's just good manners as they have taken the time to contact me/us.

If they haven't taken the time to read our profile then I won't take the time to reply and that cuts the 90% of people who would get a reply to about 10%.

Think that sounds fair, don't you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A few of mine - A long story about what they’re going to do to me, in a first message

Low/no effort

Assumption/presumption

Arrogance

I’m not interested based on their profile.

They haven’t read my profile.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Hi Hows U

Wanna suck and go

Hey sexy I’m into big birds wanna meet now

Would you reply?

Adding ‘lemme fuck’ to that list "

And men wonder why they can't get meets. It's not rocket science. Just common courtesy to treat the person like a normal human being. Fab is not free prostitution but men believe it is. They put 0.1% effort in and expect their cock to be sucked.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I don't need an explanation, it's simple, no reply means not interested. It's all part of the filtering process.

Although this has only happened to me twice, I loved it when I met someone in a club and realised I'd message them and they'd not replied, it felt so good to politely say "thanks but no thanks' when they invited me to play with them.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Y here. Generally uninspiring "hey! How are you guys?" message coupled with sparse, uninformative profiles with obscure pictures..

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London


"Hi Hows U

Wanna suck and go

Hey sexy I’m into big birds wanna meet now

Would you reply?

Adding ‘lemme fuck’ to that list

And men wonder why they can't get meets. It's not rocket science. Just common courtesy to treat the person like a normal human being. Fab is not free prostitution but men believe it is. They put 0.1% effort in and expect their cock to be sucked. "

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I pretty much only respond to message that are funny/interesting.

Someone could be a modern Adonis but if there’s dead chat I’m happy to stick with the bottom drawer of my bedside table

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I’m a naughty little tease.

But also a myriad of reasons. Dirty mirrors, being one "

And because APPARENTLY you don't appreciate the collection of crows...I mean you really are tough work lady!

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By *ee-LiteWoman
over a year ago

northampton

I don’t reply if a guy hasn’t bothered reading my profile…. a lack of interest in the groundwork doesn’t bode well for any further action !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they are busy, and they can’t do two things at once.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I don't need an explanation, it's simple, no reply means not interested. It's all part of the filtering process.

Although this has only happened to me twice, I loved it when I met someone in a club and realised I'd message them and they'd not replied, it felt so good to politely say "thanks but no thanks' when they invited me to play with them."

So you lost out or met other people to play with? As sometimes is women get way too many messages so some nice men can slip through the net. So don't take no response as it's personal. As some people may change their mind in the future. So it's just really bad attitude to throw a tantrum when a woman rejects.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They've not read my profile and smoke/are attached or after a sub.

They're miles away ,not likely to go anywhere.

They've sent a really graphic message or attached cock pics in a message.

They've cheated my filters by changing age or adding a pic then deleting it.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Coz you're all lesbians innit

How’d you know?! Who told him!! "

I did

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Oh also no public pics or loads of cock/action shots.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I don’t reply if a guy hasn’t bothered reading my profile…. a lack of interest in the groundwork doesn’t bode well for any further action !!! "

I think that's the most popular reason. I think 99% of my messages haven't read my profile otherwise they wouldn't written to me. I don't like wasting people's time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No attraction

No pics or just cock pics

No verifications or photo verified

A ‘hi’ or ‘I could lick you for hours’ message

Blank profile or ‘will fill in later’

Jeez the list goes on and on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t reply if a guy hasn’t bothered reading my profile…. a lack of interest in the groundwork doesn’t bode well for any further action !!!

I think that's the most popular reason. I think 99% of my messages haven't read my profile otherwise they wouldn't written to me. I don't like wasting people's time"

And that's why us men have to accept it when you do delete and it irks me when guys make threads about women being pains. You have alot of criteria you want BUT look so damn good so people are gonna take their chances but my god should not take it personally when you reject!

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By *ernminiMan
over a year ago

darlington


"We’ve done this before, and it can be informative.

What are the reasons you don’t reply…..

Please keep it kind

According to some you’re all up yourselves "

Some most definitely are…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely believe sometimes, no response will he given if a message is received when someone isn't in the mood for it? Maybe they've had a bad day, something bad has happened, not feeling well ect.. that goes for everyone not just women. It's not personal; it just a thing.

Unless it's me, then it's personal and they hate me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No attraction

No pics or just cock pics

No verifications or photo verified

A ‘hi’ or ‘I could lick you for hours’ message

Blank profile or ‘will fill in later’

Jeez the list goes on and on

"

Oh yes! A couple more there that I’d forgotten - especially the ‘lick you for hours’ chestnut! Hours?!! I struggle to watch a long film … give me a multi plot box set any day!

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I don't need an explanation, it's simple, no reply means not interested. It's all part of the filtering process.

Although this has only happened to me twice, I loved it when I met someone in a club and realised I'd message them and they'd not replied, it felt so good to politely say "thanks but no thanks' when they invited me to play with them.

So you lost out or met other people to play with? As sometimes is women get way too many messages so some nice men can slip through the net. So don't take no response as it's personal. As some people may change their mind in the future. So it's just really bad attitude to throw a tantrum when a woman rejects. "

He didnt throw a tantrum. He just said no to her in the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I genuinely believe sometimes, no response will he given if a message is received when someone isn't in the mood for it? Maybe they've had a bad day, something bad has happened, not feeling well ect.. that goes for everyone not just women. It's not personal; it just a thing.

Unless it's me, then it's personal and they hate me "

This! Absolutely 100%. Sometimes I am really not feeling this place and I’ll just delete anyone that doesn’t at the very least make me laugh.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I genuinely believe sometimes, no response will he given if a message is received when someone isn't in the mood for it? Maybe they've had a bad day, something bad has happened, not feeling well ect.. that goes for everyone not just women. It's not personal; it just a thing.

Unless it's me, then it's personal and they hate me "

Would they be on fab if they were in a rubbish place mentally? I only go on fab for entertainment

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I don't need an explanation, it's simple, no reply means not interested. It's all part of the filtering process.

Although this has only happened to me twice, I loved it when I met someone in a club and realised I'd message them and they'd not replied, it felt so good to politely say "thanks but no thanks' when they invited me to play with them.

So you lost out or met other people to play with? As sometimes is women get way too many messages so some nice men can slip through the net. So don't take no response as it's personal. As some people may change their mind in the future. So it's just really bad attitude to throw a tantrum when a woman rejects.

He didnt throw a tantrum. He just said no to her in the club"

Not that guy. I'm saying on fab, some men throw tantrums, they can't take rejection well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No attraction

No pics or just cock pics

No verifications or photo verified

A ‘hi’ or ‘I could lick you for hours’ message

Blank profile or ‘will fill in later’

Jeez the list goes on and on

Oh yes! A couple more there that I’d forgotten - especially the ‘lick you for hours’ chestnut! Hours?!! I struggle to watch a long film … give me a multi plot box set any day! "

my thoughts also as that ‘for hours’ bores me

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm busy breast-feeding the postman.

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's just bad timing. I'd have replied to them on another day but maybe I'm already really into another chat and don't want to start any more.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I reply to all messages I open! So am very selective In which I do open x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

end of the day its the ladies choice who they reply too and who they want to meet,, end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I genuinely believe sometimes, no response will he given if a message is received when someone isn't in the mood for it? Maybe they've had a bad day, something bad has happened, not feeling well ect.. that goes for everyone not just women. It's not personal; it just a thing.

Unless it's me, then it's personal and they hate me

Would they be on fab if they were in a rubbish place mentally? I only go on fab for entertainment "

Just passing time? Talking to friends, using the forums? Any number of reasons. I'm not saying all the other reasons given aren't true, just this might be an extra one to add to the conversation

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Not interested/Not our type.

Not read the profile and address me only or want to meet me only.

Sometimes the messages make me feel ick.

Sometimes I just can't be bothered

Tg x

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"end of the day its the ladies choice who they reply too and who they want to meet,, end of"

Really?? What other hot takes do you have to bring to the party?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because that’s the option you have afforded to you as a human being…and a lot of blokes who fire out random mails on here and who complain about not replying are tits

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

just saying as it is,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I don't look at my in box.

Sometimes I just don't want to reply.

Sometimes I'm just that way out and think nope.

Sometimes all I want to do here is just post a pic and dick about in the forum.

A long time ago I did try and read and reply to all messages. That didn't last long.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Sometimes I don't look at my in box.

Sometimes I just don't want to reply.

Sometimes I'm just that way out and think nope.

Sometimes all I want to do here is just post a pic and dick about in the forum.

A long time ago I did try and read and reply to all messages. That didn't last long. "

Can I look in your box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I don't look at my in box.

Sometimes I just don't want to reply.

Sometimes I'm just that way out and think nope.

Sometimes all I want to do here is just post a pic and dick about in the forum.

A long time ago I did try and read and reply to all messages. That didn't last long.

Can I look in your box "

Again????

G'won then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- ‘hey’ (or any other unimaginative one liner)

I’ve had this from women!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Gents, remember, you own the penis. Take control back of your own destiny on here

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

At the moment I'm not doing new meets I say it on my profile so if they ask for meet I won't reply.

If I have no interest in their profile chances are I won't reply because it opens the chat and they can keep messaging even after I say no thanks.

And it depends on my mood and how tired I am or how busy my life is outside of here sometimes I just pop on for a few minutes at a time and I don't always check my messages either when I am on.

Now I don't get too many messages like I said before on here and that suits the way I do fab even when I am meeting new people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of messages to keep up with not being rude xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of messages to keep up with not being rude xx "

I can well imagine you get quite a few messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why people don't untick everything on the 'Looking for' for list if they're not meeting.

It takes them off the searches and saves wasting people's time who *are* looking to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sheer supply and demand

If you get one message a month then chances are you are going to respond to it no matter how dire it is.

If you get hundreds a day you have to filter them as you just dont have time to deal with them. Inevitably messages you'd actually like to respond to will end up caught in the filter. That's just life.

Some days the filters will be one criteria and other days different ones - after all people are moody.

We've got enough going on in our lives that we don't really need to be instigating messaging any new people.

Generally though if some effort has been put into a literate message to us we will reply even if it's with a polite but for the avoidance of doubt no thanks. We don't get millions a week mind.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Gents, remember, you own the penis. Take control back of your own destiny on here "

Too few men realise that, and instead just think with it instead

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

• They have no profile pic, their profile pic is a close up dick pic or it’s clear from their profile pic that I wouldn’t be attracted to them, so I just delete the message without opening

• Their message subject is something rude or obnoxious, so again, will delete without opening

If I do open the message, my reasons for not replying include:

• They don’t even say hello (eg “Meet tonight?” “Nice tits” “wanna fuck”), bad manners, text speak or offensive messages

• Dirty talk in first message - will instantly block

• Mentioning payment / gifts to meet

• If they’ve attached close up dick pics - instant delete

• They say they’re married or attached and are on Fab in secret

• If I look at their profile and aren’t physically attracted to them

• If they have no public pics

• If their bio mentions things I’m really not into sexually

• If their bio states they want to meet people 18-99

• If they’ve messaged multiple times previously (will usually then block if they persist)

To name a few lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Refuse to reply when my profile states everything including what I am looking for and it is quite apparent that you haven't read my profile. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gents, remember, you own the penis. Take control back of your own destiny on here

Too few men realise that, and instead just think with it instead"

I type my messages with mine but it doesn't seem to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they're too far away

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Either:

Too many messages

Message is vulgar or disgusting

No photos or info

Hi, wanna fuck

Hey

Hi

How are you

Cut and paste erotic stories

Request to meet

Disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people don't untick everything on the 'Looking for' for list if they're not meeting.

It takes them off the searches and saves wasting people's time who *are* looking to meet.

"

It’s not that simple.

I am looking to meet, and occasionally I get a message that’s interesting and I take it further.

It’s a shame I get lots of uninteresting/uninspiring dross, and have to trawl through those.

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Reason 1 - I ain't seen anything (seen enough/ seen anything I'd wanna 'do')

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

They didn't read the profile

They smoke

They're bald

They have a beard

They're over 300 miles away

They were crass

They didn't send a face pic

They're just not what I'm looking for!

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Because I don’t want to

Because I don’t have to

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Because the site faq said my lack of reply should be considered a no and tbh it’s not a conversation I want to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they aren't for me.

Because their message/username/profile don't flow- for example, great message, but rubbish profile. Or great profile but pictures full of other women and just their cock..

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Mainly because they haven't read my profile and are 'trying their luck'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mainly because they haven't read my profile and are 'trying their luck'."

I’ve read your profile over and over and over and over. …. One day, you’ll get lucky.

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By *rettyflamingoCouple
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"Simply because i don't want to. if I have no interest in chatting to the person or meeting them from looking at their profile and possibly reading the message.

This is my reason"

Totally this, I always read the profile before messaging but sometimes due to their message it’s obvious they’ve not read my profile, so I then can’t be bothered to reply if they can’t take the time to read my profile

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Simply because i don't want to. if I have no interest in chatting to the person or meeting them from looking at their profile and possibly reading the message.

This is my reason

Totally this, I always read the profile before messaging but sometimes due to their message it’s obvious they’ve not read my profile, so I then can’t be bothered to reply if they can’t take the time to read my profile "

Your profile is too long. Its a pass from me

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I don't reply coz im either not interested or they tell me in the 1st message what they think i need, or cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either:

Too many messages

Message is vulgar or disgusting

No photos or info

Hi, wanna fuck

Hey

Hi

How are you

Cut and paste erotic stories

Request to meet

Disrespectful

"

I appreciated your reply!

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By *asmine xxxWoman
over a year ago

Cornwall, Bristol

I’d need to hire a PA xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The persons profile doesn’t stand out from others

The same generic message we’ve had hundreds of times before

No pictures on profile

Graphic first messages

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Because I didn't message,and they are too shy to approach.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Sometimes I don't look at my in box.

Sometimes I just don't want to reply.

Sometimes I'm just that way out and think nope.

Sometimes all I want to do here is just post a pic and dick about in the forum.

A long time ago I did try and read and reply to all messages. That didn't last long.

Can I look in your box

Again????

G'won then "

Yay

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

Subject title - meet. Delete.

Subject title - fun. Delete.

Sillouette profile - Delete.

Blank biog - Delete.

Hey you're sexy/hot/fuckable - this is a couples profile. Delete.

Hi, I see you're close by, wanna meet? - *checks profile. We're 1780 miles away. Delete.

Hi, I love your profile, we have so much in common, wanna meet? - Checks profile. We have nothing in common. Delete.

Hi, are you free tonight? *Checks diary, it's a weekday. Delete.

Hi, saw you online, what you up to? *Checks clock, 3AM. I got up for a shit, just done the paperwork, what about you?

Hi, what you doing this morning? *Checks diary. Monday. *Checks time. 7.30AM. I'm on my way to work, what about you?

Great, I'm in London too, off today, fancy meeting up for some fun?

What was it about "on my way to work" and our profile that confused you?

And my all time favourite from a chap offering us his big black cock....

"I'm sorry, you're not what we're looking for, I don't think you've read our profile.

Winston"

"Winston? WINSTON????? Who the fuck are you calling Winston you fucking racist cunt!!!!!!!!"

As I said, "I don't think you've read our profile". *block

Winston

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By *ongleannmeanMan
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

I don't think the first reply matters at all but if they asked to see a pic, a no thanks is all that's needed. No one likes being rejected in a rude manner. Blocking someone or saying no is better than just ignoring them.

Communication is obvious a very important but I'm not going to write a masterpiece message only for it to be ignored

Also time consuming just like reading messages.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

I won’t reply if

I don’t have time

It’s clear they didn’t read my profile or prefer to ignore it

There are no public pics

It’s a straight invite for now: hey I’m around the corner, meet me now… clearly didn’t read my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think the first reply matters at all but if they asked to see a pic, a no thanks is all that's needed. No one likes being rejected in a rude manner. Blocking someone or saying no is better than just ignoring them.

**Communication is obvious a very important but I'm not going to write a masterpiece message only for it to be ignored

Also time consuming just like reading messages.**"

**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people don't untick everything on the 'Looking for' for list if they're not meeting.

It takes them off the searches and saves wasting people's time who *are* looking to meet.

It’s not that simple.

I am looking to meet, and occasionally I get a message that’s interesting and I take it further.

It’s a shame I get lots of uninteresting/uninspiring dross, and have to trawl through those. "

I mean people who aren't looking to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people don't untick everything on the 'Looking for' for list if they're not meeting.

It takes them off the searches and saves wasting people's time who *are* looking to meet.

It’s not that simple.

I am looking to meet, and occasionally I get a message that’s interesting and I take it further.

It’s a shame I get lots of uninteresting/uninspiring dross, and have to trawl through those.

I mean people who aren't looking to meet. "

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Mainly because they haven't read my profile and are 'trying their luck'.

I’ve read your profile over and over and over and over. …. One day, you’ll get lucky. "

I do hope so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply if they have pictures and I find the physically attractive and if they are what we are looking for at the time. We get lots of messages that unfortunately don't meet that requirement and our profile does mention I'm picky

Louisea

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Clearly this thread serves as an invaluable FAQ for •those who message women• and expect a reply.

It's unfortunate that it can't be pinned to the top of the Lounge in perpetuity.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A picture of a penis coming from a profile with little or no text.

A picture of a bare penis inserted in a woman from a profile with more pictures of women.

A subject title that suggests bareback and/or dominating me.

A message asking me to meet them at the hotel they are in that night for work.

"You're gorgeous" when they can't see my face.

I know I am not going to meet them.

My profile says I won't reply unless I want to. It doesn't stop some from rounding on me when I delete without replying.

I reply to about 40%.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Can't be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't be arsed "

You have filters up so I can’t send memes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't be arsed "

DM me when you can be yeah?

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I reply ... if he answers my initial message

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

[Removed by poster at 20/11/22 21:37:25]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reply ... if he answers my initial message "

I did but you didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't be arsed "

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Abuse stopped me. Saying nicely i was not looking or even not interested would result in more messages trying to get me to change my mind. Then they ended in abuse like "your a cock teasing slag" ect. Now we blocked all single guys and only go for bi cpls as i can get my new dick fix that way with cpls we want to meet up with. Joanne.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"I don't need an explanation, it's simple, no reply means not interested. It's all part of the filtering process.

Although this has only happened to me twice, I loved it when I met someone in a club and realised I'd message them and they'd not replied, it felt so good to politely say "thanks but no thanks' when they invited me to play with them.

So you lost out or met other people to play with? As sometimes is women get way too many messages so some nice men can slip through the net. So don't take no response as it's personal. As some people may change their mind in the future. So it's just really bad attitude to throw a tantrum when a woman rejects. "

That's a fair point, and yes, it does seem like I had a tantrum but, in these two cases, neither of them looked as young or as great in person as they did in their pictures plus, I just wasn't feeling it once I'd spoken to them for a while.

I'd rather not have sex at a club than to just go through the motions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abuse stopped me. Saying nicely i was not looking or even not interested would result in more messages trying to get me to change my mind. Then they ended in abuse like "your a cock teasing slag" ect. Now we blocked all single guys and only go for bi cpls as i can get my new dick fix that way with cpls we want to meet up with. Joanne."

People say that the crappy men don't ruin it for the good men, but they do. So many women and couples block all men or don't reply... to try and avoid the abusive men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Abuse stopped me. Saying nicely i was not looking or even not interested would result in more messages trying to get me to change my mind. Then they ended in abuse like "your a cock teasing slag" ect. Now we blocked all single guys and only go for bi cpls as i can get my new dick fix that way with cpls we want to meet up with. Joanne.

People say that the crappy men don't ruin it for the good men, but they do. So many women and couples block all men or don't reply... to try and avoid the abusive men."

This is true. Unfortunately this place has coloured the way I view men quite a lot. I know there are some lovely men on here, and out there, but there are a lot that are very not lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Don't read the profile

2. Unsolicited cock pics

3. oh let's not forget those that caution me that it's rude if I don't respond (definitely not responding)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly because I don't find them interesting or attractive, or they've said something that puts me off

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

It’s a form of Darwinism.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"1. Don't read the profile

2. Unsolicited cock pics

3. oh let's not forget those that caution me that it's rude if I don't respond (definitely not responding)"

Saying that will guarantee I won’t reply, ditto if that’s in their profile.

That’s a red flag for me.

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Cmon why don't you

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"

People say that the crappy men don't ruin it for the good men, but they do. So many women and couples block all men or don't reply... to try and avoid the abusive men.

This is true. Unfortunately this place has coloured the way I view men quite a lot. I know there are some lovely men on here, and out there, but there are a lot that are very not lovely."

And THIS is why, even if they do not care about what is right for women, even if they are purely selfish, men must be feminists. Patriarchy and its effects warp human relations, set men and women at false odds, and stunt men AND women as people,on top of the appalling violence it engenders (sic).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abuse stopped me. Saying nicely i was not looking or even not interested would result in more messages trying to get me to change my mind. Then they ended in abuse like "your a cock teasing slag" ect. Now we blocked all single guys and only go for bi cpls as i can get my new dick fix that way with cpls we want to meet up with. Joanne.

People say that the crappy men don't ruin it for the good men, but they do. So many women and couples block all men or don't reply... to try and avoid the abusive men.

This is true. Unfortunately this place has coloured the way I view men quite a lot. I know there are some lovely men on here, and out there, but there are a lot that are very not lovely."

Sadly many men have had the same experiences with not so lovely women on here. The difference on the Forum at least is that women are rarely called out on their behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Abuse stopped me. Saying nicely i was not looking or even not interested would result in more messages trying to get me to change my mind. Then they ended in abuse like "your a cock teasing slag" ect. Now we blocked all single guys and only go for bi cpls as i can get my new dick fix that way with cpls we want to meet up with. Joanne.

People say that the crappy men don't ruin it for the good men, but they do. So many women and couples block all men or don't reply... to try and avoid the abusive men.

This is true. Unfortunately this place has coloured the way I view men quite a lot. I know there are some lovely men on here, and out there, but there are a lot that are very not lovely.

Sadly many men have had the same experiences with not so lovely women on here. The difference on the Forum at least is that women are rarely called out on their behaviour "

It shouldn’t happen either way

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Would you answer to cock pics or copy&paste texts...or simple hi,with hidden or empty profiles? if the don't bother to put any effort to their profile or use imagination or their wit through messages im not interested.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Would you answer to cock pics or copy&paste texts...or simple hi,with hidden or empty profiles? "

I get those too. From both men and women. But far, far more often from men.

I don’t want to just filter out all guys though. I want to know how bad it is out there. Forewarned is forearmed and all that …

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"

People say that the crappy men don't ruin it for the good men, but they do. So many women and couples block all men or don't reply... to try and avoid the abusive men.

This is true. Unfortunately this place has coloured the way I view men quite a lot. I know there are some lovely men on here, and out there, but there are a lot that are very not lovely.

And THIS is why, even if they do not care about what is right for women, even if they are purely selfish, men must be feminists. Patriarchy and its effects warp human relations, set men and women at false odds, and stunt men AND women as people,on top of the appalling violence it engenders (sic)."

Sorry thats just nonsense.

Im not a feminist and i never will be. Im also not a dick to women. Stop quoting meaningless buzzwords like 'patriarchy' and just focus on your own behaviour. Or if you really want, then call out poor behaviour in others, but you should do it equally against men and women. They are just as capable of shitty behaviour as each other

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Because my hands are always full "

I know right those big balls are heavy things always in hands right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im also not a dick to women … meaningless buzzwords like 'patriarchy'"

Saying patriarchy is meaningless? Makes you a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I just throw this out there

They don’t want to

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"

Sorry thats just nonsense.

Im not a feminist and i never will be. Im also not a dick to women. Stop quoting meaningless buzzwords like 'patriarchy' and just focus on your own behaviour. Or if you really want, then call out poor behaviour in others, but you should do it equally against men and women. They are just as capable of shitty behaviour as each other"

You aren't sorry. And I'm entirely unsurprised, given your other posts here, that you think patriarchy is a 'buzzword'.

It's very easy to ignore structural inequalities, be that racism, sexism, homophobic, etc, when they benefit you, or people like you. It is also unimaginative, unempathetic and, in the final analysis, rather stupid.

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