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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Nothing...that is to say she left without me ever knowing why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your brother Ricky Machado has a better man peen organ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She didn’t love me anymore

So packed my bags left house

Byyyeee

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

"You ruin everything."

We were 17 and he was an arsehole having a tantrum about something I don't even remember now. But those words stung, and have always stayed with me.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

After 16 years.....I don't love you anymore

Then ot being able to say why.....but then having an affair, new tits, new car, plastic surgery, teeth whitening etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

Well, he sounds like a right twat

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I love you, see you in a minute...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I still get along with my ex's so I've been super lucky with that as much as I'm aware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

Well, he sounds like a right twat

Only took me 13 years to realise that. Emotional abuse fucks you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

Well, he sounds like a right twat

Only took me 13 years to realise that. Emotional abuse fucks you up. "

I really hope you've met enough decent people since then to know he was a bag of shit, that is awful x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

Well, he sounds like a right twat

Only took me 13 years to realise that. Emotional abuse fucks you up. "

Quite. You don't realise until afterwards though

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Never had it from a ex thankfully

No one ever taught us as kids that a parent shouldn't say evil shit to us on a daily basis though unfortunately

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

I dearly hope the Karma Train crashes through his living room - the utter cnut!!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

When he gave me a list of my inadequacies that were apparently the reasons he cheated on me. I know he was just trying to shift the blame but I still have hang ups about some of them now.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I must be lucky I don't think an ex has said anything bad to me, I've generally parted on good terms, even the cheating ones.

Mrs

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By *Jones19Man
over a year ago

Evesham, Worcester, Pershore

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x"

Had a big conversation just after the break-up where they told me they lied about almost everything I asked them to be honest about while we were together. It's painful to watch someone blankly admitt all that with no regret or apology yet still persist you were the reason the relationship ended and you werent good enough for them.

We Live and Learn dont we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When he gave me a list of my inadequacies that were apparently the reasons he cheated on me. I know he was just trying to shift the blame but I still have hang ups about some of them now. "

Oh sweetie

that’s awful. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When he gave me a list of my inadequacies that were apparently the reasons he cheated on me. I know he was just trying to shift the blame but I still have hang ups about some of them now. "

Same as my ex husband, all the reasons why he cheated on me. Just to tell everyone I was the one leaving and cheating on him once I met another person.

Another ex felt the need to tell me All the reasons why I wasn’t good enough to have a public relationship with me (he forgot to include the main one though: another woman)

List can go on and on…

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your so fat and ugly your lucky I'm with you as no-one else would want you

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

After knowing her for 30 years and her cheating going off for someone else....

"I wish I'd never met you but since I did, I now wish you were dead"

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x"
I'll take you back

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

That I was 2 old and didn't love me x

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

"There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

Well, he sounds like a right twat

Only took me 13 years to realise that. Emotional abuse fucks you up.

I really hope you've met enough decent people since then to know he was a bag of shit, that is awful x"

Well shot of him sound like a right cunt

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

You were in the gutter and nothing when I met you without me you wouldn’t be where you are.

And

You’ve outgrown my intelligence, where can I get another 27 year old? I was 27 when I met him. He was 18 yrs my senior.

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By *ack and MiriCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

An ex girlfriend told me as we were breaking up that she loved me and saw herself marrying me just now right now.

Like I was going hang around and wait for her while she dates other people.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

My kids dad told me that I’d ruined his life by having his kids. He also told me, when I had not long had a miscarriage, that I was cold hearted, and left me stranded in the rain, crying, in an unfamiliar town.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"My kids dad told me that I’d ruined his life by having his kids. He also told me, when I had not long had a miscarriage, that I was cold hearted, and left me stranded in the rain, crying, in an unfamiliar town.

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cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish I'd never met you but since I did, I now wish you were dead""

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

reading these threads some people are fuckin vile,

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"When he gave me a list of my inadequacies that were apparently the reasons he cheated on me. I know he was just trying to shift the blame but I still have hang ups about some of them now.

Oh sweetie

that’s awful. X"

It is what it is. He's since harrassed me for 6 years saying he misses me. The contact has been entirely one way since a few months after we broke up. Some people are just a head fuck.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"When he gave me a list of my inadequacies that were apparently the reasons he cheated on me. I know he was just trying to shift the blame but I still have hang ups about some of them now.

Same as my ex husband, all the reasons why he cheated on me. Just to tell everyone I was the one leaving and cheating on him once I met another person.

Another ex felt the need to tell me All the reasons why I wasn’t good enough to have a public relationship with me (he forgot to include the main one though: another woman)

List can go on and on…"

Yep same here. He started telling my friends I cheated on him and that was the final straw for me and I've never spoken to him since. I'm sorry you went through that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When he gave me a list of my inadequacies that were apparently the reasons he cheated on me. I know he was just trying to shift the blame but I still have hang ups about some of them now.

Oh sweetie

that’s awful. X

It is what it is. He's since harrassed me for 6 years saying he misses me. The contact has been entirely one way since a few months after we broke up. Some people are just a head fuck. "

Yup, my other ex partner has been gaslighting me and mentally abusing me for the las 7 years when we weren’t even in a relationship anymore… people is sometimes the worst

Honestly sorry you’ve gone through similar things, happy for you to dm if you ever need to talk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x"

I was told "I could kill you and nobody would even notice you were missing"

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

That I was a useless cunt, although I found it amusing coming from a alcoholic that done nothing but drink all day and night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm just not worth staying faithful for.

Probably true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This should be called list of knobheads who don’t deserve oxygen, my ex still gets on with me as I was an adult about it all, paid maintenance on time, always saw my kids, made sure she had enough money for Xmas etc cos that’s what adults do, I don’t regret anything, my kids are fucking awesome but there are some real twats out there, I got lucky

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

When I was pregnant with our daughter: ‘you know I’ll never touch you like that, it makes me sick’

He was a real charmer

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"When I was pregnant with our daughter: ‘you know I’ll never touch you like that, it makes me sick’

He was a real charmer "

I don't get it. You create something together and then he says that

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"When I was pregnant with our daughter: ‘you know I’ll never touch you like that, it makes me sick’

He was a real charmer

I don't get it. You create something together and then he says that

Yes, but in his defence, he did say further down the line ‘you don’t look as bad as I thought you would’

that was a compliment from him!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was deployed.. my x husband was using my income to finance his lonely ambitions. Proceeded to tell me I was worthless.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"When I was pregnant with our daughter: ‘you know I’ll never touch you like that, it makes me sick’

He was a real charmer

I don't get it. You create something together and then he says that

Yes, but in his defence, he did say further down the line ‘you don’t look as bad as I thought you would’

that was a compliment from him!! "

He obviously had myopia. Never mind your fella appreciates you, and so do us admirers from afar

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

My ex said a lot of vicious and horrible things to me.

None of them hurt.

Him telling me I'm the perfect wife, and he still cheated on me, was hurtful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one?

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Sad to read and see how people can be so cruel to those they once loved .

Hope you all have recovered from the hurt with no long term effects xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just one? "

The thing with my ex is, she doesn’t know the throw away comments or the things she thinks isn’t important are the ones that hurt the most.

But I’m sure I’ve done the same, this is why I keep my mouth shut when we talk now.

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x"

That my cock was too big for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That i was/am a crap mother.

He also said i'm to fat for anyone to be attracted to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That she had finally broke her toy

That I was so ugly that I will be lonely for the rest off my life

That no one will have me

The words still ring in my head 10 years later

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

"There are a couple that will always stand out in my mind.

“When I imagine you, I imagine the fit girl I fell in love with. So when I see you now I’m disappointed.”

“We’re not getting married until you’re skinny enough to look good in a wedding dress.”

“It’s hard to love someone who cries all the time.” (I was badly depressed)

Well, he sounds like a right twat

Only took me 13 years to realise that. Emotional abuse fucks you up. "

I hope he went on to have the lovely he obviously deserved. A very very short one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sad to read and see how people can be so cruel to those they once loved .

Hope you all have recovered from the hurt with no long term effects xx

For me unfortunately no, I am still recovering and suffering from PTSD

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

That I was a crap mum.

That I was fat and useless

That noone will want me so I may as well just deal with his cheating.

When I had an accident and fractured my shoulders and injured my leg on a day out how my fat useless ass always spoils everything for him.

I could go on and on....

Tg x

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"That I was a crap mum.

That I was fat and useless

That noone will want me so I may as well just deal with his cheating.

When I had an accident and fractured my shoulders and injured my leg on a day out how my fat useless ass always spoils everything for him.

I could go on and on....

Tg x"

Nice curves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x"

Lots of things I won't repeat cause I'm easily triggered

Also I don't want anyone to tell me off for staying with him even after he had said some horrendous things to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your so fat and ugly your lucky I'm with you as no-one else would want you"

I had this one!!

It’s a shame there’s people like this in the world!!

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"You're more like your dad than you'll ever realise"

A particularly low dig

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x

Lots of things I won't repeat cause I'm easily triggered

Also I don't want anyone to tell me off for staying with him even after he had said some horrendous things to me

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x

Lots of things I won't repeat cause I'm easily triggered

Also I don't want anyone to tell me off for staying with him even after he had said some horrendous things to me

I did the same stayed far too long than I should have, no judgement here

Tg x

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

When finally I decided to leave the abusive relationship after 10 years, he told me I was so useless, fat and ugly nobody would ever want to be with me.

The most hurtful part is, after 5 years I can’t stop thinking about what if he was right.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"When finally I decided to leave the abusive relationship after 10 years, he told me I was so useless, fat and ugly nobody would ever want to be with me.

The most hurtful part is, after 5 years I can’t stop thinking about what if he was right."

He was wrong. What a smeg stain he was. Gorgeous bod

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By *ady and Mr MCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

you are so immature... I (female) was 14 and so was he!

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By *ttmcdguyTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I was in a toxic relationship and I’m not proud of it but I said some awful things in retaliation to her outbursts towards me

I moved out eventually but was still seeing her for sake of her children!

Knowing she was inviting round random guys whilst I wasn’t there

Our parting argument was she told me I would be alone because I was a fat ugly skint c@£t and she was going to sleep with my brother and mates

Cut a long story short I slept with what she thought was her bff

Her bff didn’t like her much either

20 years I was with the bff

I’ve not seen or spoken since the day she slammed the door as I left

But believe she has 5 children now all by different guys 3 failed marriages and lives alone as not even her kids want anything to do with her

There are some people who don’t deserve to be loved and some who get caught in the crossfire

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"When finally I decided to leave the abusive relationship after 10 years, he told me I was so useless, fat and ugly nobody would ever want to be with me.

The most hurtful part is, after 5 years I can’t stop thinking about what if he was right.

He was wrong. What a smeg stain he was. Gorgeous bod

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When finally I decided to leave the abusive relationship after 10 years, he told me I was so useless, fat and ugly nobody would ever want to be with me.

The most hurtful part is, after 5 years I can’t stop thinking about what if he was right.

He was wrong. What a smeg stain he was. Gorgeous bod

Thank you x"

He is very definitely wrong. X

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"When finally I decided to leave the abusive relationship after 10 years, he told me I was so useless, fat and ugly nobody would ever want to be with me.

The most hurtful part is, after 5 years I can’t stop thinking about what if he was right.

He was wrong. What a smeg stain he was. Gorgeous bod

Thank you x

He is very definitely wrong. X"

Thank you my lovely x

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I was told “I don’t think I ever loved you. I just loved this lifestyle.” After 10 years, three of them married.

Y’know what was more hurtful though? Finding out later that she’d been bullying my female workmates. Never forgave her for that.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

You'll never be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50% of everything my third proper g/f ever said to me. What a weapons grade **** she turned out to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't love you anymore.

After 28 years with no indication it's coming, that kinda hurts.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I don't love you anymore.

After 28 years with no indication it's coming, that kinda hurts.

He's an idiot. Flups away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That when we had sex he was thinking of Kate Moss every time. He's now my ex husband

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"That when we had sex he was thinking of Kate Moss every time. He's now my ex husband "

When he had a super model in bed? Clown

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

I’m leaving you, and I’m taking the dog , gutted

I never seen the dog again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sad to read and see how people can be so cruel to those they once loved .

Hope you all have recovered from the hurt with no long term effects xx

I’ll let you know when I finish c-ptsd therapy and get my eating disorder under control

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

"Sad to read and see how people can be so cruel to those they once loved .

Hope you all have recovered from the hurt with no long term effects xx

I’ll let you know when I finish c-ptsd therapy and get my eating disorder under control

Hope you’ll find a decent man that will look after you, and hope all your issues will be sorted out soon Xxx hugs and kisses xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No more pudding

-eer fuck off

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By *an de LyonMan
over a year ago

welling

"The most painful, hurtful thing an ex has ever said to you? x"

You were second choice when we got together and you were second choice while we were together

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Too many to mention, but most recently that my son never wants to see me or my wife again and we have no explanation why.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"No more pudding

-eer fuck off "

Instant divorce!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this sums up perfectly why we always need to remember what we might consider just words, or an outburst or banter can have serious effects on others. Whilst we are not responsible for how others respond and react we are responsible for what we say.

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