FabSwingers.com forum: FWB vs FB - do people mix them up alot?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So my understanding has always been that a FB is someone you meet up with as and when and you have some naughty fun. I have had fb's in the past and always enjoyed it.

A FWB is someone you can have sex with, but you also have the social side. So going out for food, messaging to just chat shit etc. No strings, just a good connection and good sex as and when.

I honestly believe the sex can be better with a fwb, as you know each other that bit better. An understanding of each other is formed, and you can be completely relaxed around them.

I am noticing on here though that a lot say they are looking for a fwb, when infact they just want a fb. Someone regular to have sex with.

So, is my understanding of the 2 things wrong, or do people not realise the differences so confuse them?

Genuine question

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I'm with you OP there's a definite difference and confusion can reign! So communication is key?!

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

"So my understanding has always been that a FB is someone you meet up with as and when and you have some naughty fun. I have had fb's in the past and always enjoyed it.

A FWB is someone you can have sex with, but you also have the social side. So going out for food, messaging to just chat shit etc. No strings, just a good connection and good sex as and when.

I honestly believe the sex can be better with a fwb, as you know each other that bit better. An understanding of each other is formed, and you can be completely relaxed around them.

I am noticing on here though that a lot say they are looking for a fwb, when infact they just want a fb. Someone regular to have sex with.

So, is my understanding of the 2 things wrong, or do people not realise the differences so confuse them?

Genuine question "

Totally agree with you on it. Much prefer FWB for the reasons you posted.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

Completely agree with you on the difference between fb and fwb.

A lot of people on here claim they are looking for a fwb,but at the end of the day I think it's just another thing that gets said to get the leg over. Very few actually want a regular arrangement.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

That's exactly how I understand it. I've never had a fb and it's not a dynamic I'm interested in.

Much better with a fwb where there is equal emphasis on the friendship as there is on the benefits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's exactly how I understand it. I've never had a fb and it's not a dynamic I'm interested in.

Much better with a fwb where there is equal emphasis on the friendship as there is on the benefits. "

Exactly. I was recently chatting with someone over the course of 12 weeks. We had one social meet and got along great. She said she was looking for a FWB but her understanding was mixed uo, because when I pointed out that it isnt just about sex with a fwb she said she was only interested in the sex. Now her profile still says she is looking for a fwb, but has enough friends and is here purely for the sex.

Made me question if I was mixing things up myself, but clearly not

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Completely agree with your definition. I am on the lookout for a Fwb and it's obvious that a lot of the men contacting me just want sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t know there was a difference so thank you for posting this! I’ve still so much to learn!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yep. Dictionary perfect definitions.

I've had both over the years. The FB's I just met for sex with the occasional club trip. The FWB's? Went for drinks, introduced them to other Fab members and occasionally just popped in for coffee. A definite difference.

Then I introduced a whole new category - BFWBFL - best friend with benefits for life, and put a ring on my last FWB.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I've got myself one that's a bit of both. Video call each other just to talk rubbish, really good connection, socialise to home, just having drink and cuddle, listen to music etc, mind-blowing sex whenever we can {, but don't go out together to socialise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep. Dictionary perfect definitions.

Then I introduced a whole new category - BFWBFL - best friend with benefits for life, and put a ring on my last FWB.

I like the new category

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Yes that's about right

There are different layers to fwb dynamics as well.

Mine are fwb romantic relationships with emotional content. We will always be great friends, but will not necessarily always celebrate our friendship with sexual intimacy

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

That would be my definition of both as well.I have had both on here and while fb's can be fun I much prefer having a true fwb. With as much emphasis on the friends as the benefits part.

But the most important thing is proper communication so you are both on the same page with what you both want.Having a fwb I find evolves over time it's not something that happens over night. But it is so worth it when it happens and I consider myself very lucky to have found a great friend with great benefits as well

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"That would be my definition of both as well.I have had both on here and while fb's can be fun I much prefer having a true fwb. With as much emphasis on the friends as the benefits part.

Faf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah totally agree. There’s a big difference. For me, I can’t just meet up with strangers, fuck, go home and never see again. There needs to be that social aspect to it too. Granted, sometimes you’re not gunna wanna see them again (if sex wasn’t great, something wasn’t right etc) but a guy has more chance with me, either on here or elsewhere, by actually trying to get to know me instead of asking for pictures or try to dirty talk.

Each to their own of course, this is just my opinion

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

I just do the adult thing.

If we want sex we have sex. I don't tend to label myself because I have sex.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

One just wants it up the bum, the other wants it up the bum but then expects you to sit and watch an episode of ‘Friends’ afterwards

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"That would be my definition of both as well.I have had both on here and while fb's can be fun I much prefer having a true fwb. With as much emphasis on the friends as the benefits part.

Faf?

Yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes that's about right

There are different layers to fwb dynamics as well.

Mine are fwb romantic relationships with emotional content. We will always be great friends, but will not necessarily always celebrate our friendship with sexual intimacy "

A romantic emotional relationship with no sex? Sounds like my ideal partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So my understanding has always been that a FB is someone you meet up with as and when and you have some naughty fun. I have had fb's in the past and always enjoyed it.

A FWB is someone you can have sex with, but you also have the social side. So going out for food, messaging to just chat shit etc. No strings, just a good connection and good sex as and when.

I honestly believe the sex can be better with a fwb, as you know each other that bit better. An understanding of each other is formed, and you can be completely relaxed around them.

I am noticing on here though that a lot say they are looking for a fwb, when infact they just want a fb. Someone regular to have sex with.

So, is my understanding of the 2 things wrong, or do people not realise the differences so confuse them?

Genuine question "

I agree with your descriptions.

However men often say they want FWB but actually want a fuck on their terms. No chat, booty call when they want one but unavailable when the other person asks to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So my understanding has always been that a FB is someone you meet up with as and when and you have some naughty fun. I have had fb's in the past and always enjoyed it.

A FWB is someone you can have sex with, but you also have the social side. So going out for food, messaging to just chat shit etc. No strings, just a good connection and good sex as and when.

I honestly believe the sex can be better with a fwb, as you know each other that bit better. An understanding of each other is formed, and you can be completely relaxed around them.

I am noticing on here though that a lot say they are looking for a fwb, when infact they just want a fb. Someone regular to have sex with.

So, is my understanding of the 2 things wrong, or do people not realise the differences so confuse them?

Genuine question

I agree with your descriptions.

However men often say they want FWB but actually want a fuck on their terms. No chat, booty call when they want one but unavailable when the other person asks to meet.

I recently met a woman just like that too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your definition for both is spot on. I'd primarily like to find a FB+, but to meet on a fairly regular basis and to further explore some kinks. I do feel however that sharing such intermit moments, would result into a FWB relationship as well.

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By *picy mancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I didn’t know there was a difference so thank you for posting this! I’ve still so much to learn!

This

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Deff difference but yes some get them mixed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So my understanding has always been that a FB is someone you meet up with as and when and you have some naughty fun. I have had fb's in the past and always enjoyed it.

A FWB is someone you can have sex with, but you also have the social side. So going out for food, messaging to just chat shit etc. No strings, just a good connection and good sex as and when.

I honestly believe the sex can be better with a fwb, as you know each other that bit better. An understanding of each other is formed, and you can be completely relaxed around them.

I am noticing on here though that a lot say they are looking for a fwb, when infact they just want a fb. Someone regular to have sex with.

So, is my understanding of the 2 things wrong, or do people not realise the differences so confuse them?

Genuine question

I agree with your descriptions.

However men often say they want FWB but actually want a fuck on their terms. No chat, booty call when they want one but unavailable when the other person asks to meet.

I recently met a woman just like that too lol"

Eek! Could be the younger generation seeing it differently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree with your descriptions.

However men often say they want FWB but actually want a fuck on their terms. No chat, booty call when they want one but unavailable when the other person asks to meet.

I recently met a woman just like that too lol

Eek! Could be the younger generation seeing it differently.

She was a little older than me lol

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I must admit having never had either I didn't realise there was a difference, maybe others don't realise too.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

My preferred relationship is FWB. And sometimes that friendship is very deep and loving. Sometimes not. These are complex relationships I think. Hard to get right all the time. And they are not always permanent as other relationships come along and one gets let go. This is a risk I think.

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over a year ago

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

As I discovered in therapy, word have different meanings to other people. I could never understand this before therapy. Now I ask people exactly what they want and i explore exactly what I want and then see if our wants and needs are compatible.

The only way to know is to ask the individual person that you are interacting with.

I have 4 terms for sexual partners and in true Neurodivergent fashion i've basic parameters based on the relationship triangle of commitment, intimacy/emotion, passion/sexual bond.

Fuck buddys= sexual passion only.

Friends with benefits =someone who is a real friend that I've actually known for years and who I enjoy sex with and we emotionally support one another. We are not in a committed relationship because we know that we are incompatible relationship wise.

Lover=sex, intimacy and companionship but no emotional support or commitment.

Life partner= sex, friendship, passion, intimacy, companionship, emotional support, financial support, physical support, shared goals, dreams and values and a family unit.

Theses are not the only relationship types but those are the ones I particularly look for.

You have to define the boundaries between you and the person. People write a lot of stuff on lone that they don't t mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still yet to find both

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By *red333Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So my understanding has always been that a FB is someone you meet up with as and when and you have some naughty fun. I have had fb's in the past and always enjoyed it.

A FWB is someone you can have sex with, but you also have the social side. So going out for food, messaging to just chat shit etc. No strings, just a good connection and good sex as and when.

I honestly believe the sex can be better with a fwb, as you know each other that bit better. An understanding of each other is formed, and you can be completely relaxed around them.

I am noticing on here though that a lot say they are looking for a fwb, when infact they just want a fb. Someone regular to have sex with.

So, is my understanding of the 2 things wrong, or do people not realise the differences so confuse them?

Genuine question "
no I think you've nailed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I discovered in therapy, word have different meanings to other people. I could never understand this before therapy. Now I ask people exactly what they want and i explore exactly what I want and then see if our wants and needs are compatible.

The only way to know is to ask the individual person that you are interacting with.

I have 4 terms for sexual partners and in true Neurodivergent fashion i've basic parameters based on the relationship triangle of commitment, intimacy/emotion, passion/sexual bond.

Fuck buddys= sexual passion only.

Lover=sex, intimacy and companionship but no emotional support or commitment.

Life partner= sex, friendship, passion, intimacy, companionship, emotional support, financial support, physical support, shared goals, dreams and values and a family unit.

Theses are not the only relationship types but those are the ones I particularly look for.

You have to define the boundaries between you and the person. People write a lot of stuff on lone that they don't t mean. "

More people should do this. I think most just assume that their idea of X is the same as the other person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The only way to know is to ask the individual person that you are interacting with.

I have 4 terms for sexual partners and in true Neurodivergent fashion i've basic parameters based on the relationship triangle of commitment, intimacy/emotion, passion/sexual bond.

Fuck buddys= sexual passion only.

Lover=sex, intimacy and companionship but no emotional support or commitment.

Life partner= sex, friendship, passion, intimacy, companionship, emotional support, financial support, physical support, shared goals, dreams and values and a family unit.

Theses are not the only relationship types but those are the ones I particularly look for.

You have to define the boundaries between you and the person. People write a lot of stuff on lone that they don't t mean. "

Good advice

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Goldenhill

I think we should see other people.

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