FabSwingers.com forum: A Real Dilemma...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm staying at a mates house and he has a 'friend' over from UK. I say 'friend' as he met her while he was in UK for 2 weeks last month and he was seeing this other girl and he's still talking to this other girl. Anyway, I only met her the other day. We went for a walk today while my mate was at work and we have a lot in common. Her childhood similar to mine and I have more in common with her than my mate. So we got on well,I took her for food and walked more she was flirting getting close. Touching my arm etc. Proper flirting.

I know my mate is fucking around as he's a player and he tells me, he's a always got a few on the go sort of guy. I know this girl doesn't mean anything to him. She's going back to UK in 2 weeks and they'll be the end of it probably? Also I'm leaving here on Sunday and I may come back next summer but who knows?

So what do I do? Ask my mate if it's ok? Do it behind his back? Something I'm not comfortable doing... She's hot but shes 19 and I'm 44 so it's very tempting. We're going for another long walk together today so I'll ask her if she can keep a secret.

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm staying at a mates house and he has a 'friend' over from UK. I say 'friend' as he met her while he was in UK for 2 weeks last month and he was seeing this other girl and he's still talking to this other girl. Anyway, I only met her the other day. We went for a walk today while my mate was at work and we have a lot in common. Her childhood similar to mine and I have more in common with her than my mate. So we got on well,I took her for food and walked more she was flirting getting close. Touching my arm etc. Proper flirting.

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest? "

Sounds as though you’ve already justified it in your head and you just want somebody else to say they’d do it too.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I'd be more concerned about the age than anything else. But you've clearly justified it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter what situation is happening, friends 'partners' are off limits.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest? "
Do it what's the worst that can happen, you lose your mate the girls fine for a few weeks months then she moves on or you live happily ever after or you just say to your mate...... "can I"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No dilemma, is it worth a friendship really? he's sharing his house, not his women, you can't justify being sneaky just because he is.

Mrs

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

So touching an arm is flirting now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So touching an arm is flirting now?"

Wasn't just touching my arm, I know what flirting is.

Some are saying friends partners are off limits but trust me, my mate is a player and I'm sure he's seeing other women. They're not in a serious relationship they're just seeing each other. I'll see how this walk goes today and ask her.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

You have already justified fucking her in your head so you're probably going to do it anyhow. You just want people to tell you it's a great idea on here. But in my eyes regardless of how he is with women he has been good enough to let you stay in his home (the point that you are leaving on Sunday is irrelevant you still stayed at his home and call him a mate ) he obviously trusts you but you have no qualms about fucking someone he has over from the UK because you fancy her.It says a lot more about you than anything you have said about him on here. But that's just my opinion which means nothing at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd be more concerned about the age than anything else. But you've clearly justified it

She's 19, the minimum age on here is 18. I'm pretty sure she'll be into it as she's been known to mess around too. They're as bad as each other to be fair. She's only been here 4 days and they're arguing already lol. It's not serious between them they're just seeing each other. Not a full blown relationship. Maybe I'll just ask if it's ok? I'm 95% sure he'll say it's ok. I'll have a chat with him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have already justified fucking her in your head so you're probably going to do it anyhow. You just want people to tell you it's a great idea on here. But in my eyes regardless of how he is with women he has been good enough to let you stay in his home (the point that you are leaving on Sunday is irrelevant you still stayed at his home and call him a mate ) he obviously trusts you but you have no qualms about fucking someone he has over from the UK because you fancy her.It says a lot more about you than anything you have said about him on here. But that's just my opinion which means nothing at the end of the day. "

I'm not staying here for free I'm doing work here. Gardening, painting and tidying up the house in exchange. What do you mean no qualms? Why do you think I did this thread? I'm pretty sure if he found out he's just shrug it off. Maybe I'll just ask

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

That's the ticket..... Ask..... Good boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't fuck her.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just curious, regardless of age differences and the fact he is your mate, what happens after you fuck her?

Do you have similar dilemnas with every woman you fuck?

You claim your mate is a player but you are considering fucking a young woman you've just met and moving on swiftly after. Is that not exactly what your mate is doing ?

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Never mind the fact that you’d be shagging your mate’s Mrs, while staying under his roof. She is literally young enough to be your daughter! Whether you think she’s flirting or not (my money is on a creepy old man’s ego misinterpreting friendliness, but whatever) that kind of an age gap should make you stop and think!

Ask yourself this: if some ropey old fart with no job, home of his own or moral compass tried to shag your daughter, would you be OK with it?"

Everyone dismisses me when I bring up age, I'm glad someone else sees it from that point of view!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just curious, regardless of age differences and the fact he is your mate, what happens after you fuck her?

Do you have similar dilemnas with every woman you fuck?

You claim your mate is a player but you are considering fucking a young woman you've just met and moving on swiftly after. Is that not exactly what your mate is doing ?"

It's the age that's tempting me. How often do you get an opportunity do be with someone 25 years younger. I was with someone in Norway for 2 months and she was 21 (me 41), I don't think the age difference is bad as long as 2 people get on. We had an instant connection as we have lots in common. She smiles and laughs when we talk and she gets very close to me, flirty close.

What happens after I fuck her? Carry on as normal for the rest of the week I suppose. How would I have similar dilemma with other women I see? I don't normally sleep with women who are seeing other people. I wouldn't have done this thread otherwise.

No it's not the same as I'm single and not seeing anyone so I'm not cheating. They're just fuck buddies more than anything and the other day I asked her why doensnt she stay for the full 3 months she's allowed and my mates face dropped and his eyes widened and he shook his head at me as to say 'don't say shit like that!' So she means nothing to him.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

You have got to clear it with your mate before you even try to make a move.

Never ever ever do the dirty on your mates

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford

Never mind the fact that you’d be shagging your mate’s Mrs, while staying under his roof. She is literally young enough to be your daughter! Whether you think she’s flirting or not (my money is on a creepy old man’s ego misinterpreting friendliness, but whatever) that kind of an age gap should make you stop and think!

Ask yourself this: if some ropey old fart with no job, home of his own or moral compass tried to shag your daughter, would you be OK with it?

On top of that, your plan to bring this off, is to take a young naive woman, in an unfamiliar country where she has limited friends/family or support network, out to remote location, and ask her for sex. You do realise that there’s a high chance she’ll only say yes because she’ll think that a No will just add an assault to the sex crimes and murder that you are going to commit on her anyway, don’t you?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"They're just fuck buddies more than anything and the other day I asked her why doensnt she stay for the full 3 months she's allowed and my mates face dropped and his eyes widened and he shook his head at me as to say 'don't say shit like that!' So she means nothing to him. "

Even if I was having a relationship with someone I wouldn't want to live with them for 90 days

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"You have got to clear it with your mate before you even try to make a move.

Never ever ever do the dirty on your mates "

This makes the young woman sound like a toy they take turns playing with

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I never said you are staying for free and it doesn't matter if you are doing jobs or not you are staying at his house and he is meant to be a mate. And you have already justified doing it in your head your post makes that very clear.

And while you have done a thread every single answer you have given is how you think it's fine and he will be grand about it. Maybe he will maybe he won't,maybe he will say he is but think you're not someone he will let stay again. The fact you are willing to even do this still says more about you than anything else. Like I said that's just my opinion and my opinion doesn't matter a bit at the end of the day. But I think a real friendship is not worth losing over a fuck with someone you will probably never see again after this week.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"You have got to clear it with your mate before you even try to make a move.

Never ever ever do the dirty on your mates

This makes the young woman sound like a toy they take turns playing with "

Yep. I shudder to think of older guys thinking of me like this when I was 19

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

So you're just box ticking because of the age difference.

What age is your mate?

It sounds as though she's a 19 year old in another country where that is being used as a reason to fuck her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I'm not nice to men because any little thing and they think you're flirting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest? "

Part of me says never cross the doing dirty on your mate rule

However she’s flirting she’s 19 imagine that body n fresh vagina

Go for it but make sure she knows it’s casual

No texts then you can do denial lol

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Ask your mate

Then take her out for a dinner date, she's not just a fuck as apparently your mate is treating her, she deserves more.

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

So you are staying at his house and you also want to have sex with his partner ? Are there any other stuff he might not want in your opinion that you want to take ?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"This is why I'm not nice to men because any little thing and they think you're flirting "

Literally. All these threads where a smile or a conversation is seen as an invitation to fuck!!

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

Part of me says never cross the doing dirty on your mate rule

However she’s flirting she’s 19 imagine that body n fresh vagina

Go for it but make sure she knows it’s casual

No texts then you can do denial lol "

This is vile

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Even if I was having a relationship with someone I wouldn't want to live with them for 90 days"
lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ask yourself this: if some ropey old fart with no job, home of his own or moral compass tried to shag your daughter, would you be OK with it?

Everyone dismisses me when I bring up age, I'm glad someone else sees it from that point of view!"

That was Ned was it then he deleted his comment. Ropey old fart? Creepy old man? I'm 3 years older than you! And no I'm not misinterpreting anything I know when someone flirts. And she's not his Mrs they're just seeing each other.

The fact that I live like this excited her and she loved what I'm doing. You think owning a house, having a full time job is being successful? Well I don't unless it's the life you want to have. No, success is having the balls to live the life you want regardless of what people think. This life is my choice, to be free and travel. I'm not homeless I'm a backpacker, big difference. I'm more successful than most in this world. I don't have a house I can't afford or have a job I hate just because 'society' says that's what I got to do to be a successful person. I do have a moral compass as I'm having this dilemma. It wouldn't be just a fuck and fuck off we would stay in touch. I don't have a daughter and never will so can't answer that. But I'm sure if I met me then I'd be ok with It. I'm not a creepy guy and people respond well to me. I've made loads of friends here and I've been in a few relationships while backpacking. I'm clean and presentable, I shower 3 times a day mostly. I'm cleaner than the average person, just because I live in a tent down at mean I have long hair and beard, tatty clothes and smelly. I'm just like everyone else just sleep in a tent. The fact that I live like this is interesting to some women and I've had partners stay in my tent a few times.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

This has red flags all Over it

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

Sounds like this girl is better off getting away from both of you, you both only want her there to fuck her and you only want to do it because her age is tempting… so wrong

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

This woman is an actual person. She's not a man's property or a dilemma to be solved.

I really hope she thinks of you two men in the same way you're thinking of her.

If your primary concern is really whether it's wrong to fuck a woman because she's also fucking your mate rather than the woman herself don't do it.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

"This is why I'm not nice to men because any little thing and they think you're flirting "

Not entirely true!

Some of us have the intelligence to see a nice personality over sexual body language or innuendo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be more concerned about the age than anything else. But you've clearly justified it

She's over the age of consent. Not really seeking an issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ask yourself this: if some ropey old fart with no job, home of his own or moral compass tried to shag your daughter, would you be OK with it?

You're a dick lol. Comments like this just show what's going through your head not mine! It's you who sounds creepy! Sex crimes and murder wtf you going on about? Remote location? I didn't say that, we're going to Mojacar playa, lots of people around.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't have a daughter and never will so can't answer that. "

19 year olds are very fertile. What if you got her pregnant ?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I'd be more concerned about the age than anything else. But you've clearly justified it

She's over the age of consent. Not really seeking an issue.

I'm just speaking as a woman and know how much growing up happens between 19 and the age I am now. I'll always be wary of this sort of thing and won't change

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Ask yourself this: if some ropey old fart with no job, home of his own or moral compass tried to shag your daughter, would you be OK with it?

Everyone dismisses me when I bring up age, I'm glad someone else sees it from that point of view!

So if you already have all the answers what's the dilemma?

You're a nice guy and kind enough to start this thread to let us know you can shag a 19 year old whenever you want? Got it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have got to clear it with your mate before you even try to make a move.

Never ever ever do the dirty on your mates

This makes the young woman sound like a toy they take turns playing with

Yep. I shudder to think of older guys thinking of me like this when I was 19

Its not like that at all. There's no disrespect, on my part anyway. Like I said we have more of a connection and we get on great. I just think it's funny I get negative comments on something like this but when I call a cheating husband a twat then I get banned for 5 days!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have got to clear it with your mate before you even try to make a move.

Never ever ever do the dirty on your mates "

Yeah that's what I'm thinking. I'm pretty sure he'll be ok with it.

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By *annabarberaCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

Wake up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's 19 and she's staying with your friend. Maybe older guys are her thing. Comments on here make her sound like a babes in the woods. Do you not remember being 19????

If its not a serious relationship I'd ask my mate. If he says no then just leave it. But who knows, Maybe she'd be up for a threesome.

Comments on this thread make me think we are on mums net or some shit. I'm 50 and regularly play with younger men. When I was in my teens and 20s I played with a lot older. No one was exploring or using Mr. It was consensual sex.

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By *allguynowMan
over a year ago

durham

My advice would be don't go there. You have your mate to consider and everyone knows you don't make a play for a mates partner/wife/girlfriend. Also the age gap is huge. It has no future. Why don't you concentrate on finding someone your own age and treat this young woman as if she was your daughter. You'll find you'll feel better in yourself doing this plus your conscience will be clear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you're just box ticking because of the age difference.

What age is your mate?

It sounds as though she's a 19 year old in another country where that is being used as a reason to fuck her. "

He's 34 and it's not like that at all. It's just 2 people who have met, gets on really well, have lots in common and there's definite chemistry. We would keep in touch obviously.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I'll make an account on Mumsnet now then

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"You have got to clear it with your mate before you even try to make a move.

Never ever ever do the dirty on your mates

This makes the young woman sound like a toy they take turns playing with

Yep. I shudder to think of older guys thinking of me like this when I was 19

The irony of that comment .So someone who is a on here and admits they are married and you call them is a twat probably not knowing anything about their situation just a quick nope they are a twat. But you wanting to fuck your mates young friend who is over staying with him is fine because he is a player you say. No issues there at all that's all okay so.

Amazing how people twist their moral high grounds to suit themselves and see similar situations as completely different as long as it suits what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you don't want opinions just validation.

You and your mate are as bad as each other from what I can see. You both want to use her for your own means

Legally it's OK, but morally I'd say not.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"We would keep in touch obviously. "

What would be the point ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would Jesus do ?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"What would Jesus do ?"

How old was Mary Magdalene ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We would keep in touch obviously.

What would be the point ?"

Because we get on really well. We've talked a lot and she's had shitty partners in the past. I wouldn't just fuck and leave her. It's be more than just a fuck, I'd treat her better than what's she's been treated so far. She's never had a massage from a partner!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Sounds like this girl is better off getting away from both of you, you both only want her there to fuck her and you only want to do it because her age is tempting… so wrong

Mrs"

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest? "

No 1 - friends partners are off limits

No 2 - she’s 19

No 3 - the fact you’ve put this on here you’ve already justified it in your own head and are looking for agreement from others tells us all that your gonna do it anyway.

Ps 19 year old girls are naturally flirty so maybe it’s not you and maybe it’s just her personality

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By *ervice2000Man
over a year ago

derby

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

No 1 - friends partners are off limits

No 2 - she’s 19

No 3 - the fact you’ve put this on here you’ve already justified it in your own head and are looking for agreement from others tells us all that your gonna do it anyway.

Ps 19 year old girls are naturally flirty so maybe it’s not you and maybe it’s just her personality

Totally agree with the above comment! X

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"You have got to clear it with your mate before you even try to make a move.

Never ever ever do the dirty on your mates

This makes the young woman sound like a toy they take turns playing with

Yep. I shudder to think of older guys thinking of me like this when I was 19

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

No 1 - friends partners are off limits

No 2 - she’s 19

No 3 - the fact you’ve put this on here you’ve already justified it in your own head and are looking for agreement from others tells us all that your gonna do it anyway.

Ps 19 year old girls are naturally flirty so maybe it’s not you and maybe it’s just her personality

Totally agree with the above comment! X"

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?"

Looking like a 0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44"

Again with the 19 thing. I have a photo on my profile when I was 19. I was living in an Edwardian semi detached house in a London suburb, in a stable relationship, was running my own business.

My shit was more together than it is now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure if this is a real question (as the OP already seems to have made up his mind) or a humble brag about pulling a 19 year old

Anyway .. Fill your boots my friend. I’m sure getting your dick wet is worth going behind a friends back (even if he is a “player”) when he’s been good enough to let you stay in his house

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?"
yes but you wouldn't take advice from this lot either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?yes but you wouldn't take advice from this lot either lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My take on it is this.

Imagine you're 19, staying at a friend's house and having a casual fling with them. Another person who you get on well with is staying there. Who do you want to decide if you're going to fuck?

1. The two friends?

2. People on the internet who don't know you?

3. You and the other person ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44

Again with the 19 thing. I have a photo on my profile when I was 19. I was living in an Edwardian semi detached house in a London suburb, in a stable relationship, was running my own business.

My shit was more together than it is now.

She's been through a lot for just a 19yo. Same as me when I was that age that's why we get on so well. There is no disrespecting her on my part but my mate is disrespecting her. She said she's love to do what I'm doing and she admires me for doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My take on it is this.

Imagine you're 19, staying at a friend's house and having a casual fling with them. Another person who you get on well with is staying there. Who do you want to decide if you're going to fuck?

1. The two friends?

2. People on the internet who don't know you?

3. You and the other person ?

Option 3 of course, we talked a lot yesterday and we will talk more today. Obviously I'll make sure I'm not misreading her signals.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44

Again with the 19 thing. I have a photo on my profile when I was 19. I was living in an Edwardian semi detached house in a London suburb, in a stable relationship, was running my own business.

My shit was more together than it is now.

How does she view the relationship between her and your mate? That's the important thing here

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44

Again with the 19 thing. I have a photo on my profile when I was 19. I was living in an Edwardian semi detached house in a London suburb, in a stable relationship, was running my own business.

My shit was more together than it is now.

Doesn't that make her vulnerable then?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

“The age is what’s tempting me” was the comment that really showed what the OP is like

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"My take on it is this.

Imagine you're 19, staying at a friend's house and having a casual fling with them. Another person who you get on well with is staying there. Who do you want to decide if you're going to fuck?

1. The two friends?

2. People on the internet who don't know you?

3. You and the other person ?

Option 3 of course, we talked a lot yesterday and we will talk more today. Obviously I'll make sure I'm not misreading her signals. "

Ok well the decision is entire between the two of you. Your friend will obviously need to know what you decide do he can make his mind up whether to continue or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?yes but you wouldn't take advice from this lot either lol

No not really. Most just comment whatever the most popular thought is. People in here are scared to speak their actual mind as it may affect their chances of meets. Everyone

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44

Again with the 19 thing. I have a photo on my profile when I was 19. I was living in an Edwardian semi detached house in a London suburb, in a stable relationship, was running my own business.

My shit was more together than it is now.

Perhaps she just wants a friend.

She's 19 been through a lot as you said.

Maybe you make her feel safe?

Leave it be fella, plenty more fish in the sea without all the possible grief and heartache that could come as a result.

Just be a friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My take on it is this.

Imagine you're 19, staying at a friend's house and having a casual fling with them. Another person who you get on well with is staying there. Who do you want to decide if you're going to fuck?

1. The two friends?

2. People on the internet who don't know you?

3. You and the other person ?

Option 3 of course, we talked a lot yesterday and we will talk more today. Obviously I'll make sure I'm not misreading her signals.

Ok well the decision is entire between the two of you. Your friend will obviously need to know what you decide do he can make his mind up whether to continue or not."

Yeah

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?yes but you wouldn't take advice from this lot either lol

No not really. Most just comment whatever the most popular thought is. People in here are scared to speak their actual mind as it may affect their chances of meets. Everyone "

Why do you want our opinion then?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest? "

Give your head a wobble. Too much sun's got to you. If and when they split up maybe. Until then value his friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“The age is what’s tempting me” was the comment that really showed what the OP is like "

Yes indeed and also his other threads.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

You aren't here to get opinions it's more for bragging rights.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

Part of me says never cross the doing dirty on your mate rule

However she’s flirting she’s 19 imagine that body n fresh vagina

Go for it but make sure she knows it’s casual

No texts then you can do denial lol

This is vile

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?yes but you wouldn't take advice from this lot either lol

No not really. Most just comment whatever the most popular thought is. People in here are scared to speak their actual mind as it may affect their chances of meets. Everyone "

I can assure you that you don't want my actual thoughts

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

Part of me says never cross the doing dirty on your mate rule

However she’s flirting she’s 19 imagine that body n fresh vagina

Go for it but make sure she knows it’s casual

No texts then you can do denial lol "

Vile. Have you heard yourself.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"“The age is what’s tempting me” was the comment that really showed what the OP is like

Yes indeed and also his other threads.

His comment on the French.

"The people are obnoxious. It is beautiful but they let the place down".

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

Part of me says never cross the doing dirty on your mate rule

However she’s flirting she’s 19 imagine that body n fresh vagina

Go for it but make sure she knows it’s casual

No texts then you can do denial lol "

Jesus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You aren't here to get opinions it's more for bragging rights."

It sounds like it and had already justified it in his head.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

Part of me says never cross the doing dirty on your mate rule

However she’s flirting she’s 19 imagine that body n fresh vagina

Go for it but make sure she knows it’s casual

No texts then you can do denial lol

Jesus

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Shame I can't see who wrote that....would be a good filter

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

A teenager and your age. Give your head a wobble. Gross. I don’t care if it’s legal. Still gross.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have already made your mind up OP

But I'd say just dont go there he's supposed to be your mate doesn't that count for something? And she's way to young so use your brain instead of your dick

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44

Again with the 19 thing. I have a photo on my profile when I was 19. I was living in an Edwardian semi detached house in a London suburb, in a stable relationship, was running my own business.

My shit was more together than it is now.

Perhaps you should be a friend instead of seeing her as someone who messes around and is an easy fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" She's never had a massage from a partner!

She's only 19 so there will be lots of things she hasn't done compared to you age 44

Again with the 19 thing. I have a photo on my profile when I was 19. I was living in an Edwardian semi detached house in a London suburb, in a stable relationship, was running my own business.

My shit was more together than it is now.

Perhaps you should be a friend instead of seeing her as someone who messes around and is an easy fuck.

Well said

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

Part of me says never cross the doing dirty on your mate rule

However she’s flirting she’s 19 imagine that body n fresh vagina

Go for it but make sure she knows it’s casual

No texts then you can do denial lol "

Fresh vagina?? This is literally disgusting

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?yes but you wouldn't take advice from this lot either lol

No not really. Most just comment whatever the most popular thought is. People in here are scared to speak their actual mind as it may affect their chances of meets. Everyone "

I'm not looking for new meets at present and even when I am I still say what I think.I do edit my posts a bit as people are not worth a ban over. But you keep telling yourself that's why people are not agreeing with you.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest? "

I've just realised that the OPs dilemma isn't if he should fuck her or not. It's if he should tell his friend or not.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

What would you do? Be honest or dishonest?

I've just realised that the OPs dilemma isn't if he should fuck her or not. It's if he should tell his friend or not."

Yep. Rather revealing

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

You said she’s been through a lot, sounds like she needs a friend more than anything else, especially if she’s been fcked round by your mate like you say.

You’ve said ‘how often do you get the opportunity to be with someone 25 years younger’ and it’s the age that’s tempting you - she’s not someone to tick off the list!

- 19 year old, done!

She’s here for two weeks and all she has is two men trying to fuck her. Nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"“The age is what’s tempting me” was the comment that really showed what the OP is like

Yes indeed and also his other threads.

His comment on the French.

"The people are obnoxious. It is beautiful but they let the place down"."

What's wrong with that? It's what I experienced, they definitely don't like British backpackers! I did meet a few nice people there who I still keep in touch with.

Ok I'll do nice threads and comments for all the snowflakes lol. Supposed to be an adult site! I like to design threads that provoke a reaction its more fun. And i like reading all the comments from people who think they're so perfect and do fuck all wrong. At least I have the balls to say what I think regardless of what others think instead of thinking of threads that others would like. You all go on about morals and treating people with respect then you make and comment on threads like Kiss, Fuck, avoid. Those threads give people self confidence issues. As most people comment avoid unless it's a female above.

Must be so nice being perfect living perfect lives doing nothing wrong. Boring if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s with the “Touching my arm etc. Proper flirting.” How is touching your arm a sign of flirting…

I find it quite concerning how many view things like that as flirting

If I was her I’d run. I feel sorry for her, 19 and vulnerable being used as a fuck. You said you know she doesn’t mean anything to him (your friend). And you’re asking should you fuck her, if you get the opportunity…

Think about how wrong it all sounds and then you make your mind up.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"OP what percentage of replies on this thread agree with you fucking her ?yes but you wouldn't take advice from this lot either lol

No not really. Most just comment whatever the most popular thought is. People in here are scared to speak their actual mind as it may affect their chances of meets. Everyone "

Or maybe it’s because most people replying just have the same thoughts on the situation?

If posting my opinion on this made someone not want to shag me, then good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, I’m in the minority I guess but I reckon you go ahead and nail her.

Come back and let us know if she’s a screamer, how wet she got and how much she loved it

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

OP you asked a question and got answers.

They may not be the answers you wanted but answers all the same.

Outrage,fake Outrage.

Morals no morals.

Honesty, dishonesty.

Welcome to fabs.

I am just waiting for this thread to disappear.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Anyway, I’m in the minority I guess but I reckon you go ahead and nail her.

Come back and let us know if she’s a screamer, how wet she got and how much she loved it

Oh Mr Willy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I'm not nice to men because any little thing and they think you're flirting "

Agreed

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"This is why I'm not nice to men because any little thing and they think you're flirting

Agreed"

Yeah agree I'm not nice to women for same reason as they may think as I'm nice I want to fuck them.

So I am grumpy and offish.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Just curious, regardless of age differences and the fact he is your mate, what happens after you fuck her?

Do you have similar dilemnas with every woman you fuck?

You claim your mate is a player but you are considering fucking a young woman you've just met and moving on swiftly after. Is that not exactly what your mate is doing ?

Sounds horrible, no way for both of you supposedly mature men to behave to a young person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What’s with the “Touching my arm etc. Proper flirting.” How is touching your arm a sign of flirting…

I find it quite concerning how many view things like that as flirting

Think about how wrong it all sounds and then you make your mind up.

You're all just seeing this as me trying to fuck her. What if it's then other way around? It wasn't just touching my arm I'm not that stupid, I'm 44 I know when someone is flirting with me. I did just see her as a friend until we spent the day together and what we talked about. She was flirting with me not me with her. So I'll have a chat with her today and see if she was really flirting. I'm pretty sure she was, but I'll confirm. If she was then where's the problem? She's a consenting adult and she's single just got a fwbs. That's all it is. So if you met someone on here and they've got a fwbs then they're off limits? You can't have multiple fwbs? For a bunch of swingers you have very high morals when it comes to sex. It's just sex that's it and we are friends and will continue to be friends. Unlike most people here who are just looking for a fuck and that's it. I have a connection with her and we talked so much in 1 day. I know what flirting signals are like. It'll be stated that it's just a fling without commitment. You say she's being taken advantage of but she's out here on holiday looking for a good time. Did you not do that at 19? All these women saying it's wrong when they probably was fucking a lot in their late teens.

There's threads on here about sticking stuff up your arse, farting in people's faces, some disturbing stuff but this winds you all up? Get a grip! This is a swinging site where sex is just sex. We all have high sex drives or we wouldn't be on here. You say it's 2 men just looking to shag her, all the women on here have 100s of men trying to fuck you! That's what this site is. Fuck and that's it basically. I have found a friend in her and we will continue to be friend whether we fuck or not.

Makes me laugh sometimes this site does.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

It looks a bit iffy if it's as you describe it OP, she's been hurt before and I get the impression you think because she's travelled and is staying with your friend she's fair game I mean come on she touched your arm so yeah gagging eh..

Despite her saying she's been treated badly before, you've ignored that as what you've planned in your head at least is different..?

Is it that she's been treated badly before that does it for you?

Not a good look, even if this thread is some sort of fantasy ..

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Or maybe…

Why not be a gent and show her that not every guy sees her as a sex object and that she can just be friends with them and that might change her life a little in the future…make her think that there are guys looking out for her and see her as a human being…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Must be so nice being perfect living perfect lives doing nothing wrong. Boring if you ask me

You’re right, it is boring treating people like individuals with thoughts and feelings, instead of like objects to be passed between mates… oh…wait

This thread is grim. That poor woman. I hope she slipped out in the night and left both of you behind

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I’m 47 and I have no idea when someone is flirting with me, but what I do have is younger female colleagues who confide in me as they view me as “safe”, they may occasionally, smile, touch my arm, flick their hair, I view all of this body language as “I feel safe in your company” not a “would you mind awfully if we slept together”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why ask for opinions if you're going to get aggy and argue with everyone expressing one?

Maybe you didn't want opinions maybe you just wanted people to cheer you on?

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Women on here will have 100s trying to fuck them like you say - but this woman isn’t on a swinging site. The two guys she knows are both trying to fuck her

You ask for opinions and when people disagree with you, you just slag people off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It looks a bit iffy if it's as you describe it OP, she's been hurt before and I get the impression you think because she's travelled and is staying with your friend she's fair game I mean come on she touched your arm so yeah gagging eh..

Despite her saying she's been treated badly before, you've ignored that as what you've planned in your head at least is different..?

Is it that she's been treated badly before that does it for you?

Not a good look, even if this thread is some sort of fantasy .."

Like I said I know the difference between someone being nice and flirting. Its the way she acted with me that gave me the thoughts. It's not fantasy or me getting the wrong impression. She was getting very close, I was showing her some photos in my phone and she was rubbing her chest against my arm, getting very close, closer than she needed to be. So yeah the impression I got is that she was flirting.

It's ok for people to be in here looking for casual sex, even with married people when the wife/husband doesn't know about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m 47 and I have no idea when someone is flirting with me, but what I do have is younger female colleagues who confide in me as they view me as “safe”, they may occasionally, smile, touch my arm, flick their hair, I view all of this body language as “I feel safe in your company” not a “would you mind awfully if we slept together”

I do this with older colleagues male and female, while at work as I see them as my seniors and some of them are kind of like a 'safe space' for me

I would cry if I found out that they thought me being kind and affectionate towards them was flirting when I'm just respecting my elders

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"“The age is what’s tempting me” was the comment that really showed what the OP is like

Yes indeed and also his other threads.

His comment on the French.

"The people are obnoxious. It is beautiful but they let the place down".

What's wrong with that? It's what I experienced, they definitely don't like British backpackers! I did meet a few nice people there who I still keep in touch with.

Must be so nice being perfect living perfect lives doing nothing wrong. Boring if you ask me

Apologies op. I didn't realise you were just trolling and looking for a reaction.

I actually thought this young woman really existed .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has gone exactly as it should lol.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No.

Stay in touch, potentially for the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has gone exactly as it should lol. "

Love your pink hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s with the “Touching my arm etc. Proper flirting.” How is touching your arm a sign of flirting…

I find it quite concerning how many view things like that as flirting

Think about how wrong it all sounds and then you make your mind up.

Makes me laugh sometimes this site does. "

Yes we are all seeing it as you wanting to fuck her as that is what you’ve wrote in your original post. You’re not sure if you should fuck her behind your mates back or not.

Clearly you don’t know otherwise you wouldn’t have put your “dilemma” on the forum?

Why are you comparing your scenario, to those who are on a swingers site. Is the 19 year old on a swingers site? The difference is that…

Also - “Unlike most people here who are just looking for a fuck and that's it. I have a connection with her and we talked so much in 1 day.”

^ That’s untrue the majority on here actually look for connections and friends. Not just a fuck…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"“The age is what’s tempting me” was the comment that really showed what the OP is like

Yes indeed and also his other threads.

His comment on the French.

"The people are obnoxious. It is beautiful but they let the place down".

What's wrong with that? It's what I experienced, they definitely don't like British backpackers! I did meet a few nice people there who I still keep in touch with.

Must be so nice being perfect living perfect lives doing nothing wrong. Boring if you ask me

Apologies op. I didn't realise you were just trolling and looking for a reaction.

I actually thought this young woman really existed .

Lmao

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Despite her saying she's been treated badly before, you've ignored that as what you've planned in your head at least is different..?

Is it that she's been treated badly before that does it for you?

Not a good look, even if this thread is some sort of fantasy ..

It's ok for people to be in here looking for casual sex, even with married people when the wife/husband doesn't know about it."

If your using other peoples behaviour which you disagree with to justify your own potential behaviour then that's strange?

You presented a situation and asked a question, sometime we don't always get the answer we want or the validation for our own behaviour we need perhaps to excuse something we know deep down is iffy..

Lashing out at others isn't the best reaction..

Be honest with yourself if she was your own daughter and you know of how she's been treated and where she is now and what she thinks might happen, what would be your honest advice to her?

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

From age 18 till you die your learning. At her age, her hormones are probably all over the place and she's probably as horny as fuck. She has 2 available men. If neither one appears remotely interested in her. Wtf is that going to to, to her self confidence.

Jus sayin.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I do this with older colleagues male and female, while at work as I see them as my seniors and some of them are kind of like a 'safe space' for me

I would cry if I found out that they thought me being kind and affectionate towards them was flirting when I'm just respecting my elders

“Elders”? Now I feel ancient! But seriously, I doubt those older people you confide in will think you are flirting, mostly we are just happy that people talk to us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin."

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Despite her saying she's been treated badly before, you've ignored that as what you've planned in your head at least is different..?

Is it that she's been treated badly before that does it for you?

Not a good look, even if this thread is some sort of fantasy ..

It's ok for people to be in here looking for casual sex, even with married people when the wife/husband doesn't know about it.

If your using other peoples behaviour which you disagree with to justify your own potential behaviour then that's strange?

You presented a situation and asked a question, sometime we don't always get the answer we want or the validation for our own behaviour we need perhaps to excuse something we know deep down is iffy..

Lashing out at others isn't the best reaction..

Be honest with yourself if she was your own daughter and you know of how she's been treated and where she is now and what she thinks might happen, what would be your honest advice to her?"

Parenting is hypothetical. You tell your kids 'Don't do that!' When the parent probably done the same things. At 19 I was a horny bastards shagging lots of women of different ages. The oldest was about 40 when I was 19.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different. "

Well that is certainly true. Imagine how the responses would go if it was a horny 40 year woman and ramon the sexy 19 year old gardener.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different.

Well that is certainly true. Imagine how the responses would go if it was a horny 40 year woman and ramon the sexy 19 year old gardener. "

Has Ramon had a terrible upbringing and in need of a friend? Is he sleeping around for some validation for his worthiness?

I'd offer him tapas and an ear.

I've met men from here in their early 20s, so I'm not against big age gaps. I wouldn't meet anyone who sounded vulnerable or insecure.

We're all guessing though, as we don't know her; just what we've been told about her.

She might be up for a 3 some for all we know.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different. "

I'm not vexed because of her age, your age or your friends age. In fact I'm not vexed. I just don't understand why *some* men feel it's up to them and their mate whether they fuck a woman or not. I also don't understand the tone from *some* men that if you and her do fuck it will be in her best interests or will help her self confidence.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different.

Well that is certainly true. Imagine how the responses would go if it was a horny 40 year woman and ramon the sexy 19 year old gardener. "

I agree the comments would be much different from men and women. I hope I'd have said exactly the same.

Also I hope Ramon's older lady friend would not ask her other friend if it was ok with her if they fucked.

Poor Ramon. I feel he's going to miss out.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I just wanted to say I've not seen the world "vexed" used since my Grandma. That's all.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different. "

Ah so she is looking for a good time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different.

Ah so she is looking for a good time

She might well be. I was when I was 19 and if I was 19 again I'd look for even more of a good time.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different.

Well that is certainly true. Imagine how the responses would go if it was a horny 40 year woman and ramon the sexy 19 year old gardener. "
lady chatterleys lover

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

I think it’s vile

I also think it’s the OP weekly post to cause a reaction

Last week Remembrance this week this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this with older colleagues male and female, while at work as I see them as my seniors and some of them are kind of like a 'safe space' for me

I would cry if I found out that they thought me being kind and affectionate towards them was flirting when I'm just respecting my elders

“Elders”? Now I feel ancient! But seriously, I doubt those older people you confide in will think you are flirting, mostly we are just happy that people talk to us.

Noooo I didn't mean you at 47, I meant people at work who are old enough to be my parents LOL

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Recipe for disaster, from too many angles imho but each to their own.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

What's needed here is some testicular fortitude.

I.E. grow a pair and ask him

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"What's needed here is some testicular fortitude.

I.E. grow a pair and ask him

"
Been said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it’s vile

I also think it’s the OP weekly post to cause a reaction

Last week Remembrance this week this

You wait until Christmas

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"What's needed here is some testicular fortitude.

I.E. grow a pair and ask him

Been said

But why does he have to ask him? Why not her? Then if she says yes they can tell the mutual friend, who by all accounts is just a casual partner and he can decide whether he wants to continue or not. If she says no, there is no dilemma.

Why is the op seeking another man's permission to approach a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd move out and then talk to your friend and her about it.

While under his roof it's unfair to put him that situation. Even if he's only enjoying the sexual relationship with her I'm sure you coming along and taking that away and fucking her in his home wouldnt go down so well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different.

Ah so she is looking for a good time

Then she needs to look elsewhere as I doubt he can provide it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! Just wow!

"Supposed to be an adult site!"

Then maybe you should start behaving like one and not a horny teenager.

Take a look at yourself for goodness sake.

You say she's been through a lot, had bad experiences in relationships etc. You have a lot in common and get on well, but at the moment, she sees you as a friend. Someone she can talk to. A shoulder to cry on.

So how do you think she's going to feel when she finds out that you want to get inside her knickers?

Let down, that's what.

Unbelieveable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Predator...

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"Wow! Just wow!

Supposed to be an adult site!

Then maybe you should start behaving like one and not a horny teenager.

Take a look at yourself for goodness sake.

So how do you think she's going to feel when she finds out that you want to get inside her knickers?

Let down, that's what.

Unbelieveable!"

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

"I also don't understand the tone from *some* men that if you and her do fuck it will be in her best interests or will help her self confidence. "

Probably shouldn't say this to a mod but LMAO especially when you look at your posting which said

"She might well be. I was when I was 19 and if I was 19 again I'd look for even more of a good time."

Which is basically what I said. The only difference it seems, is who is making the decision to fuck who?

Which in this day and age of wokedness, about sums everything up.....As such I stand by what I said the human race will die out if no one can make up their mind who is going to do what and to who.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"What's needed here is some testicular fortitude.

I.E. grow a pair and ask him

Been said

Why is the op seeking another man's permission to approach a woman?"

An element of ownership perhaps?

Not saying that's in any way right but that's how it looks..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably leave it...from that age difference perspective alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you've clarified later, there's no evidence she actually would fuck you anyway?

Jesus christ if I had slept with all the women that had 'flirted with me' touched my arm etc I'd have slept with hundreds.

Flirting is something people do even to people they don't want to rip the clothes off because it's fun, simple! Especially if your mates not being great to her, could be her way of knowing she COULD get better

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"What's needed here is some testicular fortitude.

I.E. grow a pair and ask him

Been said

Why is the op seeking another man's permission to approach a woman?

An element of ownership perhaps?

Not saying that's in any way right but that's how it looks.."

It's how it looks to me too.

It's a funny old world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your mate doesn't sound like a brilliant guy, really. Because he doesn't sound honest, going from how you described him. (I could have interpreted that incorrectly..)

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I think the human race is going to die out soon, with 99% of the comments above.

Jus sayin.

Yeah she's out here looking for a good time. People are vexed because of her age and the difference in age. If this was a woman posting the comments would be much different.

Ah so she is looking for a good time

She might well be. I was when I was 19 and if I was 19 again I'd look for even more of a good time. "

Well I wasn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"What's needed here is some testicular fortitude.

I.E. grow a pair and ask him

Been said

Why is the op seeking another man's permission to approach a woman?

An element of ownership perhaps?

Not saying that's in any way right but that's how it looks..

It's how it looks to me too.

It's a funny old world

Change takes time ..

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I can't wait for this thread to close

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I read all of the O.P. and about 10 responses.

Backpacker.

You want sex. So have sex.

What happens after that won't bother you one iota.

If you think it will bother you. Have a wank.

No point in getting into the s on ages and freindships ..... it's all legal and certainly within YOUR moral boundaries. Fill your boots.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No point in getting into the uueeds that said.... before someone nicked my w e e and d

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I can't wait for this thread to close

Why ? Should I read it all ?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

The OP stated it’s the age that’s tempting him.

He was asked what happens after, his reply “ Carry on as normal for the rest of the week”

He wants to fuck her for his own self confidence by the sounds of it, to say he nailed a 19yo then carry on as normal to brag about it!

If she was on a swingers site looking for sex then yeah that’s her choice but to have her 2 “mates” talking about who can fuck her? Wow that poor girl.

There to have a good time doesn’t mean she is there looking for sex!!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"The OP stated it’s the age that’s tempting him.

He was asked what happens after, his reply “ Carry on as normal for the rest of the week”

He wants to fuck her for his own self confidence by the sounds of it, to say he nailed a 19yo then carry on as normal to brag about it!

If she was on a swingers site looking for sex then yeah that’s her choice but to have her 2 “mates” talking about who can fuck her? Wow that poor girl.

There to have a good time doesn’t mean she is there looking for sex!! "

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

That would be an ecumenical matter

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I can't wait for this thread to close

Why ? Should I read it all ?"

It goes round in circles

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"That would be an ecumenical matter

FECK!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preach sis!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure, it might be legal but I always find it very unsettling when grown men are attracted to young women. And vice versa too, grown women fucking teenagers doesn't sit right with me.

I share many experiences with people older than me. It doesn't mean we have a special bond and we are destined to fuck. It's not her personality or life experience you're interested in. It's clear to see the only thing you want from this is her 'young fresh vagina'.

Ah, men.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Sure, it might be legal but I always find it very unsettling when grown men are attracted to young women. And vice versa too, grown women fucking teenagers doesn't sit right with me.

Ah, men.

No he doesn't LBC ..... he wants to empty his balls! He doesn't mind where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sure, it might be legal but I always find it very unsettling when grown men are attracted to young women. And vice versa too, grown women fucking teenagers doesn't sit right with me.

Ah, men.

Ain't we the best?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you'll open a can of shit for yourself mate. I'd be straight with her what you want and see what reaction you get , big age difference and is she mentally mature etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read all of the O.P. and about 10 responses.

Backpacker.

You want sex. So have sex.

What happens after that won't bother you one iota.

If you think it will bother you. Have a wank.

No point in getting into the s on ages and freindships ..... it's all legal and certainly within YOUR moral boundaries. Fill your boots. "

this is probably the best answer here so far. She’s legal. If you want a fuck and she’s open for it with no coercion or any urging like that then go for it.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd stay well away op ,friends should come first.

He may be a player ,but you could still upset him if you make a move on her behind his back .

If you really have to go for it ,speak to your mate first and think how you'd feel if it was the other way round.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

An awful lot of assumptions and prejudices being shown on here.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Sure, it might be legal but I always find it very unsettling when grown men are attracted to young women. And vice versa too, grown women fucking teenagers doesn't sit right with me.

Ah, men.

It's prejudiced for us to think this is a gross perspective of young women, apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“The age is what’s tempting me” was the comment that really showed what the OP is like "

What's wrong with wanting someone younger. I prefer younger as they are not as close minded and judgemental as some people mynown age.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

I'm very prejudiced towards what looks like pretty poor treatment of another, almost predatory..

Maybe that latter point is an assumption..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put him a cock cage and let him watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sure, it might be legal but I always find it very unsettling when grown men are attracted to young women. And vice versa too, grown women fucking teenagers doesn't sit right with me.

Ah, men.

It's prejudiced for us to think this is a gross perspective of young women, apparently

25 and willing to meet people up to the age of 50 - a tad bit hypocritical

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