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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honestly a regular kind of thing that seems to happen, obviously if the family situation is genuine then i hope all is okay, but the best is to just move on and hope to find someone genuine that wants to meet

good luck x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts? "

To me, i would assume she changed her mind and used a plausible excuse then blocked you so there's no come back. I know it was heartless act but that's people for you. We been given the technology to be ruthless with eachother. But would it been more painful her telling you face to face. I think i rather be blocked and ghosted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts?

To me, i would assume she changed her mind and used a plausible excuse then blocked you so there's no come back. I know it was heartless act but that's people for you. We been given the technology to be ruthless with eachother. But would it been more painful her telling you face to face. I think i rather be blocked and ghosted

"

Possibly - but why give the mobile phone number out? Could've just blocked at the point of face picture exchange. This was a good 2/3 days later of chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts?

To me, i would assume she changed her mind and used a plausible excuse then blocked you so there's no come back. I know it was heartless act but that's people for you. We been given the technology to be ruthless with eachother. But would it been more painful her telling you face to face. I think i rather be blocked and ghosted

Possibly - but why give the mobile phone number out? Could've just blocked at the point of face picture exchange. This was a good 2/3 days later of chatting. "

maybe it was just the state of nerves getting to her and she didn’t know how else to do it or handle it if that makes sense.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts?

To me, i would assume she changed her mind and used a plausible excuse then blocked you so there's no come back. I know it was heartless act but that's people for you. We been given the technology to be ruthless with eachother. But would it been more painful her telling you face to face. I think i rather be blocked and ghosted

Possibly - but why give the mobile phone number out? Could've just blocked at the point of face picture exchange. This was a good 2/3 days later of chatting. "

Sometimes it takes time to know if you like someone or not. Like i exchanged loads of conversation and videos with one guy. Phone calls etc. Then one evening he pissed me off saying something annoying and totally turned off by him. That was end of that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts?

To me, i would assume she changed her mind and used a plausible excuse then blocked you so there's no come back. I know it was heartless act but that's people for you. We been given the technology to be ruthless with eachother. But would it been more painful her telling you face to face. I think i rather be blocked and ghosted

Possibly - but why give the mobile phone number out? Could've just blocked at the point of face picture exchange. This was a good 2/3 days later of chatting.

maybe it was just the state of nerves getting to her and she didn’t know how else to do it or handle it if that makes sense."

Yeah good point. She's fully verified though including an actual meet. Who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people always have doubts or second thoughts about certain things.

I’m sorry it’s happened but life goes on, I wouldn’t worry about this and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts?

To me, i would assume she changed her mind and used a plausible excuse then blocked you so there's no come back. I know it was heartless act but that's people for you. We been given the technology to be ruthless with eachother. But would it been more painful her telling you face to face. I think i rather be blocked and ghosted

Possibly - but why give the mobile phone number out? Could've just blocked at the point of face picture exchange. This was a good 2/3 days later of chatting.

Sometimes it takes time to know if you like someone or not. Like i exchanged loads of conversation and videos with one guy. Phone calls etc. Then one evening he pissed me off saying something annoying and totally turned off by him. That was end of that. "

Fair one - I guess my perception of going well might differ to the other persons.

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By *Jones19Man
over a year ago

Evesham, Worcester, Pershore

Chalk it up to an experience. Myself and im sure others, male and female, have had similar experiences. Sometimes people get cold feet and don't know how to handle it/backout. Maybe they received a "better offer". Maybe they had a bad feeling about your meet. Either way I'm sure like me you'd prefer honesty but in the social media age, ghosting is much more common.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

I'm gutted but I understand and wish her and her family good health. A few days pass and I text to ask if all is well and if she still wants that coffee - no response. I pop back on here and notice she is no longer on my friends list. I then click her profile and find out I'm blocked.

I can't make any sense out of it. Anyone got any thoughts?

To me, i would assume she changed her mind and used a plausible excuse then blocked you so there's no come back. I know it was heartless act but that's people for you. We been given the technology to be ruthless with eachother. But would it been more painful her telling you face to face. I think i rather be blocked and ghosted

Possibly - but why give the mobile phone number out? Could've just blocked at the point of face picture exchange. This was a good 2/3 days later of chatting.

maybe it was just the state of nerves getting to her and she didn’t know how else to do it or handle it if that makes sense.

Yeah good point. She's fully verified though including an actual meet. Who knows. "

Personally less likely to be nerves. I get super nervous before meets but if i really want to meet them i just man up and go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chalk it up to an experience. Myself and im sure others, male and female, have had similar experiences. Sometimes people get cold feet and don't know how to handle it/backout. Maybe they received a "better offer". Maybe they had a bad feeling about your meet. Either way I'm sure like me you'd prefer honesty but in the social media age, ghosting is much more common. "

Yeah honesty would've been great. Thanks for your reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think alot of us guys at least have experienced similar to whatever degree, just move on. Some people are just not what we expect in terms of decency as we would like!

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

She might have had second thoughts and that's just how it goes im afraid.

Just chalk it up to their circumstances changing. Don't stress or get upset about it chap.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

For me it be a better offer as us ladies get tons more messages than men and if her free time is precious. Then its quite easy to cancel and see the person you like the best. It's cowardly behaviour. Just take it on the chin and move on i advise. We all been ghosted and this behaviour will never stop happening. You the only one that can control your feelings. So help yourself by accepting what happened and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me it be a better offer as us ladies get tons more messages than men and if her free time is precious. Then its quite easy to cancel and see the person you like the best. It's cowardly behaviour. Just take it on the chin and move on i advise. We all been ghosted and this behaviour will never stop happening. You the only one that can control your feelings. So help yourself by accepting what happened and move on "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She might have had second thoughts and that's just how it goes im afraid.

Just chalk it up to their circumstances changing. Don't stress or get upset about it chap."

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By *kmale201633Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Feel for you, keep chin up - onwards and upwards.

Also - now have How Bizarre, 90s classic by OMC as an ear worm!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

There's nowt as queer as folk.

This is a life lesson. Fab ain't always fab.

Keep your chin up and after a quick preen of your feathers, come back and try again.

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By *akeanyoneMan
over a year ago

LH

It's a common theme in today's dating world. Don't take it personally. No matter how well you think you might be getting on when online, it's all bullshit until you meet in person.

Saved numbers in a phone can automatically sync contacts on social media, maybe she spotted mutual friends and got scared.

Suggestion....if someone cancells a meet / date, cut all contact until they offer an alternative.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You don't need to know or understand the reasons for people changing their mind, you just must accept it. Then move on.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP it happens. Don’t over think it. Move on.

Maybe she got cold feet. Maybe she wasn’t who “she” said she was. Maybe she had a better offer or decided that she didn’t want to meet because she didn’t like you. Whatever the reason it has happened and you won’t find out why. Counter block, delete the mail thread and block her phone number.

Onwards and upwards!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I would take that as a complete change of mind! Cowards way to do it though! Onwards and upwards op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused could anyone shed some light. Speaking to a lady off here, it's all going well, face pictures exchanged and then after a few more days of talking mobile numbers exchanged. Arrange to meet for a social and she seems keen throughout the day of the meet, it gets to an hour before meeting and a family emergency has happened and she asks to rearrange.

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Welcome to fab.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"

Sometimes it takes time to know if you like someone or not. Like i exchanged loads of conversation and videos with one guy. Phone calls etc. Then one evening he pissed me off saying something annoying and totally turned off by him. That was end of that. "

My reaction when I get called 'Babes'!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"

Sometimes it takes time to know if you like someone or not. Like i exchanged loads of conversation and videos with one guy. Phone calls etc. Then one evening he pissed me off saying something annoying and totally turned off by him. That was end of that.

My reaction when I get called 'Babes'!"

Ohh hun! X

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"

Sometimes it takes time to know if you like someone or not. Like i exchanged loads of conversation and videos with one guy. Phone calls etc. Then one evening he pissed me off saying something annoying and totally turned off by him. That was end of that.

My reaction when I get called 'Babes'!

Ohh hun! X"

Don't I even qualify for a capital H? !!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've been sent face pics that are not the person I'm speaking to. A live chat is the only way of knowing for sure who you're talking to.

Could have been a man or someone not as attractive, and not able to actually meet up.

Did you do lots of fantasy chatting?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"

Sometimes it takes time to know if you like someone or not. Like i exchanged loads of conversation and videos with one guy. Phone calls etc. Then one evening he pissed me off saying something annoying and totally turned off by him. That was end of that.

My reaction when I get called 'Babes'!

Ohh hun! X

Don't I even qualify for a capital H? !!!"

Pmsl!!! X

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