FabSwingers.com forum: How to be successful on fab...help needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please help haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you think Swinging is? What do you mean 'successful'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect anything until it happens in real life

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Is it the false promise of easy sex on tap that led you here, or a genuine interest in swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Totally untrue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Well both those statements are completely wrong

Also clubs are a single guys best friend

Go to socials and clubs build a report and doors will open

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Totally untrue."

Yep, you need tits...

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

It's an excuse of the lazy, not gonna lie. The more effort you put in the more you'll get out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Some call me black dynamite

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Answer the following things:

- What do YOU classify as swinging

- What is your measure of success?

- What kinds of people are you (primarily) looking to meet?

- What is your USP (unique selling point)?

Answers to those will help you craft your basic profile. Spending more time on the site, and the forums, will help you observe dynamics, and get a better understanding of things you can do to help you stand out.

Getting yourself to a local social is a great way to meet more folks, and potential playmates.

Ultimately, be yourself, be honest, and put your best foot forward.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Totally untrue."

Ya look at this poor fucker OP he can't get any action

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Totally untrue."

Thought that was Cammo commenting for a second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the 4 years you’ve been on, have you ever attended clubs or socials?

What does successful mean to you OP?

You get out what you put in on here. Make your profile the best it can be and perhaps change your approach if it hasn’t been working for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure why soany people are asking about swinging so many of us here aren't swingers.

OP the easiest way to increase meet rate here is to get yourself involved in the social side of things.

Group coffee meets and work up to parties.

If its strictly one on one stuff your looking for then you need a profile that really sells yourself.

You don't need a 10pack or a massive dong but you do need to look like you put more than 5mins of effort into your profile one day you were horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was you I’d change your username screams desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the 4 years you’ve been on, have you ever attended clubs or socials?

What does successful mean to you OP?

You get out what you put in on here. Make your profile the best it can be and perhaps change your approach if it hasn’t been working for you.

Need to disagree with you get in what you put out that stament is total bs

Sorry but that’s the truth as I put in more effort than anyone

It should be if you conserve and your face fits and you suck up to the right people

And don’t go against what they say

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I'm neither and do ok.

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Totally untrue."

Completely agree- you should maybe write a bit more about yourself on your profile. After four years of being on here , it could be a bit longer.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I am precisely zero of those things and I attribute any "success" if you can call it that to going to the clubs and just being myself and talking to people like a real person. I use fab to say hi to people I like, the forums and if someone takes my fancy maybe invite them to go to a club night. If they ever do attend there is no guarantee they will even see me, but if they do and say hi then as far as I'm concerned that is success. Meeting and being friendly. Anything else beyond that is chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure why soany people are asking about swinging so many of us here aren't swingers.

OP the easiest way to increase meet rate here is to get yourself involved in the social side of things.

Group coffee meets and work up to parties.

If its strictly one on one stuff your looking for then you need a profile that really sells yourself.

You don't need a 10pack or a massive dong but you do need to look like you put more than 5mins of effort into your profile one day you were horny"

What do you think swinging is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I'm neither and do ok.

Totally untrue

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

You should think of your profile as a shop window (most women like to shop)

Would you be enticed to meet you going by your profile??

Very bland and unimaginative x

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

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"In the 4 years you’ve been on, have you ever attended clubs or socials?

What does successful mean to you OP?

You get out what you put in on here. Make your profile the best it can be and perhaps change your approach if it hasn’t been working for you.

Absolutely this

It's all about how you act in the real world

Take me I'm not a muscular Adonis

I haven't got a full head of hair I wear glasses ( I'm selling myself well here

)...I'm more geek than a Brad Pitt ...but what I do have in bucket loads is Charisma,charm and the ability to get out there and talk to people in a normal way.

Don't expect this site to get you a meet if your not prepared to put the leg work in get out to socials,clubs,parties what ever and speak face to face with people

Do all of that and you might just get a toe hold in this bonkers world we all seem to gravitate around

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Are you definitely 40? You come across a bit like a sniggering adolescent

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Successful on fab?

Explain please...

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

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"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man"

YOU asked though

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

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"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

No my friend your bang on the money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

After seeing his reply you can add childish attitude to the list of enticing attributes

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

After seeing his reply you can add childish attitude to the list of enticing attributes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

You could be less of a dick about it though

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

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Go to clubs for success at shagging if that's what you view as success or if you want success at charming women's knickers off you have to be charming and your username fukme30 kinda says what you want lol

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

You could be less of a dick about it though"

I agree. I was just in a one of those moods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

You could be less of a dick about it though

I agree. I was just in a one of those moods "

Ah well that's fine then

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Totally agree with all of this! OP - you get out what you put in on Fab. You’ve put in zero… so guess what you’re going to get out of it?

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By *escourtesMan
over a year ago

hereford

The usual mistake guys make on this site is assuming that if you just message a lady and ask for sex she will say yes. Well the response will be the same as if you walked up to someone in a pub and posed the same question, and we all know what the answer would be!...You need to socialise, either online or in person...

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

It's an excuse of the lazy, not gonna lie. The more effort you put in the more you'll get out."

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

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"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

You could be less of a dick about it though"

Why is he being a dick about it ?

The forum's are full of threads from guys moaning about not getting meets

There tons of advice on these forums about how to improve your profile

And yet we get more of the same boring threads

If your not getting meets your profile and approach are CRAP end of.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

That's your first mistaje

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man"

Perhaps the answer is closer to home…

You asked and from what I can see nobody has said anything to warrant you calling the posters above a “bunch of bell ends”

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man"

How didvyou cinclude that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apologies I’m in one of those moods again so it’s brutal. Shit profile name, shit photo and rubbish bio. Plus last verification was 4 years ago??? What do you expect?

Nothing better than straight to the point answers ...

Am I wrong??

You could be less of a dick about it though

Why is he being a dick about it ?

He is being a dick because of his own mood apparently.

Ya there are plenty of posts like this. But you can still reply to them with a little bit of civility or just ignore the topic

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man

How didvyou cinclude that?"

Looked at my pictures and thought. That’s a bunch of bellends

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man"

So you ask a question and don't like the replies so everyone who gave you advice you didn't like is a bell end.

Ah well enough said so. Continue to enjoy your journey your way so or not as the case may be.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man

Perhaps the answer is closer to home…

You asked and from what I can see nobody has said anything to warrant you calling the posters above a “bunch of bell ends”

Can see why he gets no meets

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I look more like a horse if that counts ...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya, I'm thinking maybe don't come here asking this sort of question. Do a forum search there's loads of info. Look at other guys profiles, look how the 'successful' one present themselves and don't lose patience in here. Some folk get fed up seeing these threads and respond accordingly. Paddle your own canoe, good luck

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

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"Hiya, I'm thinking maybe don't come here asking this sort of question. Do a forum search there's loads of info. Look at other guys profiles, look how the 'successful' one present themselves and don't lose patience in here. Some folk get fed up seeing these threads and respond accordingly. Paddle your own canoe, good luck

Here we go the perfect answer

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man"

You know best then

Take some of really good advice from the comments, best of luck

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

OP a friendly word of advice, the room has turned, best back out and cool down. Relax, chill, go to a club and just chat to people. I totally get the frustration, but antagonising the forum is counterproductive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Step 1: have cock profile pic

Step 2: message hot profile

Step 3: ?

Step 4: profit

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Honestly what a bunch of bell ends...egos man"

Don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question. It's this attitude which is why you aren't 'successful'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I look more like a horse if that counts ...x"

Horses are lovely, we can pat their noses and plait their tails and polish their hooves....

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I apologise to the OP for being rather blunt

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"Please help haha"

More profiles like yours here,OP, more chances for mine to catch someone’s eye.

Thanks OP!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Who was the OP?

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

"Who was the OP?

Not sure but in UNLOS we have a name

His name is Robert Paulson

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please help haha"

^ wasn’t very successful

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

"Who was the OP?

Has he gone already.....lol...

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I look more like a horse if that counts ...x

Horses are lovely, we can pat their noses and plait their tails and polish their hooves.... "

Dont 4get feed them suger lumps and ride them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who was the OP?

Has he gone already.....lol...

Not sure why that would amuse you tbh

Yes I get folk are fed up with this kinda thread but no one puts a gun to anyone's head making them read it, it's obvious from the title what it is.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Treat fab as a social club op. Join in with chat on various topics. Good luck!

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Treat fab as a social club op. Join in with chat on various topics. Good luck!"

Shame this can't be pinned. This is simple, great advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how would someone gauge "success" for me I think just making friends on here is a good start to a successful experience on here. Anything more than that is just bonuses.

this site has given me a lot of Information about swingers clubs/events that I had no clue about, which I can honestly say has been very helpful and given me more of a confidence about being able to attend (which is what I originally signed up to the site for)

if you have an ignorant approach to what this site is for then you are not going to have a successful experience.

thats just my opinion anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want someone to explain what being successful on Fab means!

I’m sorry for the op, sounds like this place didn’t work out for him, and there’s that note of jealousy that’s hard to shake off when you enter here.

Lots of verifications popping up on local updates. Your hotlist sharing statuses of what they’re upto. Some guy is ripped to fuck stating ‘it’s working out for me! Etc could make people who are unsure feel a little miffed and left out of a group that looks cool.

The best advice I would have given the Op is, don’t expect anything from fab, and your never disappointed. Anything more, like some strangers becoming almost friends is a lovely surprise.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

They lasted long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gone quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't delete your account is step 1

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

Thats not true at all.

Although this site does have its downsides, but there is so much it can offer as well.. great friendships can be forged, new things to be learned and most importantly, it allows everyone to be their true naughty self without having anyone judge them. I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sticking in the fight helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I actually couldn't disagree with this more if I tried, especially since its had several threads in forums, I must admit the first time I saw a thread asking the lovely ladies of fab what they thought about men with big choppers and average ones, there was way more comments saying they prefer average over hung

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's hard on here if your single...unless your hung like a horse or look absolute dynamite

I agree. But I think that's more of me trying to live up to societal standards and being really judgmental of myself.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I think this thread has come to a logical end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this thread has come to a logical end "

But what did we learn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think was waiting for that have you met Ted moment

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"What do you think Swinging is? What do you mean 'successful'?"

He/Him, She/Her/They/Them were successful in finding the Unlos button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this thread has come to a logical end

But what did we learn? "

That if you have a fragile ego, don’t ask the mob for criticism. Also, FAB wasn’t for the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this thread has come to a logical end

But what did we learn?

That if you have a fragile ego, don’t ask the mob for criticism. Also, FAB wasn’t for the OP"

Who’s the mob and are they hot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this thread has come to a logical end

But what did we learn?

That if you have a fragile ego, don’t ask the mob for criticism. Also, FAB wasn’t for the OP

Who’s the mob and are they hot?"

Everyone in the lounge, and yes we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this thread has come to a logical end

But what did we learn?

That if you have a fragile ego, don’t ask the mob for criticism. Also, FAB wasn’t for the OP

Who’s the mob and are they hot?

Everyone in the lounge, and yes we are"

Wait!…..I’m in the lounge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did the guy ask and leave a day later?

That's how you're unsuccessful on fab am I right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did the guy ask and leave a day later?

That's how you're unsuccessful on fab am I right?"

Yep.

How long do we think it'll be until he's back on with a new profile?

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