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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer women

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

Of course it is, but thats fine. Human beings by their very nature recognise the differences between races, sex, nationality, creed etc. Its ingrained in us all. We just shouldn't be a dick about it. That's all really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue. "

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

In terms of a sexual partner it is preference.

People are allowed to be picky about who they have sex with and if it doesn't affect you then I wouldn't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the issue boils down to whether or not you believe sexual attraction (or lack or it) counts as discriminatory. Every human being has prejudice - we are programmed to learn from our experiences and make judgments rather than applying infallible logic to every decision.

To my mind, the moral question balances 'opportunity irrespective of skin colour' vs 'freedom to choose sexual partners'. I agree that eliminating a certain group of people based on skin colour does fit the dictionary definition of racist, but then lots of people only want 8"+/smaller/bbw/skinny/brunette/blonde/etc. Sexual attraction is what it is.

On the flip side, I remember reading a forum post by a black guy who was quite passionately against white QoS type couples since he argued it effectively reduced blackness to a white fetish.

It's a complicated world out there folks, Id try not to think too much about it!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

Yes and no.

There's a huge difference between a sexual preference and a life view.

A preference for BBC, or black men is just that - a preference, no different to someone wanting to meet BBW's, older people, younger people, redheads, guys with small dicks, or any other physical characteristic. Sure, it's objectifying someone based on their visual appearance but not in any way racist.

Blanket statements such as 'no blacks, Asians, foreginers' etc are a different kettle of fish, because they're not stating a factor that is desired, simply throwing all who fall into that category into the same bucket as if the were identical.

Strangely (not) those that are excluded by such preferences (normally white men) are usually the most vocal to start shouting racism and unfairness. Almost as if it's because they don't fit the preferences of someone they've viewed.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are of course certain ways to express their preference although for me I don't see why it needs to be put on a profile when you can just delete/block those who you don't want to fornicate with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race? "

You cant say that you're not attracted to a whole race of people lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"There are of course certain ways to express their preference although for me I don't see why it needs to be put on a profile when you can just delete/block those who you don't want to fornicate with "

To cut down mail traffic?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For the people who think it's just a preference...what's your definition of racism?

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race?

You cant say that you're not attracted to a whole race of people lol "

Of course you can. Who wrote the rule saying you cant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't conflate physical attraction with worth.

No racism.

Simple.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

Op your straight does that mean your homophobic??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race? "

You are saying that they are unworthy though... that the aren't attractive and don't deserve your time purely because of ethnicity.

That's how I see it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are of course certain ways to express their preference although for me I don't see why it needs to be put on a profile when you can just delete/block those who you don't want to fornicate with

To cut down mail traffic? "

Most men don't read profiles so I'm pretty sure it doesn't cut down the amount of mail people receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the people who think it's just a preference...what's your definition of racism?"

I'm curious why you've started this topic

Did you read a profile that had a preference that wasn't you and its made you upset?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are of course certain ways to express their preference although for me I don't see why it needs to be put on a profile when you can just delete/block those who you don't want to fornicate with "

We agree with that it's easier to just say no thanks or not respond to someone who is not to your preference rather than putting lists of preferences on your bio.

Everyone though does it their way and we don't get offended by what other people have written on their profiles as preferences.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race?

You are saying that they are unworthy though... that the aren't attractive and don't deserve your time purely because of ethnicity.

That's how I see it anyway. "

So whats the alternative then? Fuck someone youre not attracted to so they feel worthy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race?

You cant say that you're not attracted to a whole race of people lol

Of course you can. Who wrote the rule saying you cant? "

A whole race of people where every single person looks different?

You would say you're not attractive to every single person within that ethnicity?

That doesn't even make sense

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"There are of course certain ways to express their preference although for me I don't see why it needs to be put on a profile when you can just delete/block those who you don't want to fornicate with

To cut down mail traffic?

Most men don't read profiles so I'm pretty sure it doesn't cut down the amount of mail people receive "

Ok but they can still hope that it will work by doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are of course certain ways to express their preference although for me I don't see why it needs to be put on a profile when you can just delete/block those who you don't want to fornicate with

We agree with that it's easier to just say no thanks or not respond to someone who is not to your preference rather than putting lists of preferences on your bio.

Everyone though does it their way and we don't get offended by what other people have written on their profiles as preferences. "

I don't get offended when I see profiles looking for exclusively white women

Why would i?

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race?

You cant say that you're not attracted to a whole race of people lol

Of course you can. Who wrote the rule saying you cant?

A whole race of people where every single person looks different?

You would say you're not attractive to every single person within that ethnicity?

That doesn't even make sense "

Human beings arent necessarily driven by sense when it comes to sexual activity. They are driven by attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, you're right. It's racism. Fab is full of people who think it's ok to dismiss an entire race as unworthy purely because of the colour of their skin. But then they say it's preference. I'm not sure I will ever agree. But you'll find many on here who somehow do not see the issue.

Who said anything about being unworthy?

Presumably, they're just not attracted to that race?

You cant say that you're not attracted to a whole race of people lol

Of course you can. Who wrote the rule saying you cant?

A whole race of people where every single person looks different?

You would say you're not attractive to every single person within that ethnicity?

That doesn't even make sense

Human beings arent necessarily driven by sense when it comes to sexual activity. They are driven by attraction"

Ok buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As I said in my first post...already getting trolled and getting hate messages...I know its a sensitive topic but the textbook definition of racism stands same i.e. treating someone differently then others on basis of skin color or ethnicity...peace out

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

Textbook racism is the belief you are superior to someone purely based upon the colour of your skin

C

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

There's definitely racism in certain white dominated clubs too

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"As I said in my first post...already getting trolled and getting hate messages...I know its a sensitive topic but the textbook definition of racism stands same i.e. treating someone differently then others on basis of skin color or ethnicity...peace out"

Whos messaging you the hate? Name and shame

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

Textbook racism is the belief you are superior to someone purely based upon the colour of your skin

C"

Yes that's how I felt in a swingers club. The white people didn't want to know you, and i felt it was because of my skin colour

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

A lot depends on how it is presented "my preference is for white men" and "i won't meet blacks or Asians, I'm not a racist it's just my preference" are exactly the same thing but come across very differently.

I think without a doubt some preferences reflect a prejudice while some are just nothing more than a preference.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is "

I know what you mean but I point you to a recent judgement that says calling someone bald is sexual harrassment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a big difference between preference of what one is looking 4 then being racist same as large or thin in body structure in my mind

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I dunno but I’m pretty fly for a white guy

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

Textbook racism is the belief you are superior to someone purely based upon the colour of your skin

C

Yes that's how I felt in a swingers club. The white people didn't want to know you, and i felt it was because of my skin colour "

Did you ever ask someone? Horrible feeling for you. I look white but the looks I get when I bring up my heritage are astounding.

C

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I won't meet Asian men, I find them attractive, I've had relationships of sort with them but, I've been treated badly and have seen others treated badly by them. Some of their attitudes towards female sexuality and women in general are not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are of course certain ways to express their preference although for me I don't see why it needs to be put on a profile when you can just delete/block those who you don't want to fornicate with

We agree with that it's easier to just say no thanks or not respond to someone who is not to your preference rather than putting lists of preferences on your bio.

Everyone though does it their way and we don't get offended by what other people have written on their profiles as preferences.

I don't get offended when I see profiles looking for exclusively white women

Why would i? "

Exactly people chose to get offended

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Defamation of character, but still a preference a choice which everyone has an entitlement to. Some people don't have a choice does that make them any different nope as it is there choice without it being negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet Asian men, I find them attractive, I've had relationships of sort with them but, I've been treated badly and have seen others treated badly by them. Some of their attitudes towards female sexuality and women in general are not for me."

This is an example of racism and not preference. In case anyone was needing clarification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's definitely racism in certain white dominated clubs too"

Which ones?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I never buy into the 'preference' argument.

I am attracted to men with darker skin and black hair but that doesn't mean I don't find blondes or pale skinned men attractive at times. Certain ruddy cheeked red heads are sexually attractive ( not ed sheeran or keith lemon though - maybe keith lemon cos there's something about him I like , but def not ed sheeran )

I don't ask for a certain race only.

Maybe some people are clumsy and ask for a certain race instead of certain features.

Those that say 'no ******** ' are being racist whether they recognise that they are or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So is it sexist I'm only interested in women?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I won't meet Asian men, I find them attractive, I've had relationships of sort with them but, I've been treated badly and have seen others treated badly by them. Some of their attitudes towards female sexuality and women in general are not for me.

This is an example of racism and not preference. In case anyone was needing clarification "

Certainly is.

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By *ennylewis2016Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

People have preferences and not everyone wants other races or colours. It’s nothing to do with racism, it’s just preference. We get sick of people jumping to conclusions that we’re racist just because we turn them down. They just can’t handle rejection. We might be their preference but they’re not ours. We get lots of messages from BBCs but it’s not really our thing. Then quite often we get that we’re just white trash and we don’t know real sex because we don’t BBC. It’s reactions like this that don’t help matters. People should just respect everyone’s wishes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never buy into the 'preference' argument.

I am attracted to men with darker skin and black hair but that doesn't mean I don't find blondes or pale skinned men attractive at times. Certain ruddy cheeked red heads are sexually attractive ( not ed sheeran or keith lemon though - maybe keith lemon cos there's something about him I like , but def not ed sheeran )

I don't ask for a certain race only.

Maybe some people are clumsy and ask for a certain race instead of certain features.

Those that say 'no ******** ' are being racist whether they recognise that they are or not. "

Well said

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"As I said in my first post...already getting trolled and getting hate messages...I know its a sensitive topic but the textbook definition of racism stands same i.e. treating someone differently then others on basis of skin color or ethnicity...peace out"

The key phrase here is 'treating someone differently'. Not wanting to fuck someone because they lack a particular physical charachteristic doesn't mean you don't value them as a person or feel they are in any way inferior.

Would you say the same about age? Or size? Or hair length? Or any other physical trait?

A

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is it sexist I'm only interested in women? "

To find that out make a new thread

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

I agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

Yes it’s called denial. Putting “I’m not racist” doesn’t change that you are racist.

Also putting “preference” doesn’t change that either. A preference is about what you LIKE, aka what you prefer. It’s not about what you dislike.

Definitely weird to say you’re automatically not attracted to billions of people you’ve never seen, purely because of their skin colour.

I get that people have their own tastes but it’s bizzarre when you feel the need to publicly state it.

There’s plenty of types I don’t like, in fact I’m hardly attracted to anyone. But I wouldn’t list out my dislikes, because who knows maybe someone will change my mind about those things, and also I wouldn’t want to offend anyone.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs "

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?"

Then have fish and chips

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?

Then have fish and chips "

But isn’t that pizza’ist?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If only we were blind. Maybe then we could see.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

To my mind, a preference is where you prefer to meet people with a certain aspect, but are open to meeting others that don't match that.

It becomes racism where no matter how attractive or sexy you find someone, if their colour is wrong, then it's not going to happen.

Do some people hide their racism behind claiming a preference? Yes. Do other people use preference as a shorthand to cut down on messages from people? Yes.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Its just a preference

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

Yes it’s called denial. Putting “I’m not racist” doesn’t change that you are racist.

Also putting “preference” doesn’t change that either. A preference is about what you LIKE, aka what you prefer. It’s not about what you dislike.

Definitely weird to say you’re automatically not attracted to billions of people you’ve never seen, purely because of their skin colour.

I get that people have their own tastes but it’s bizzarre when you feel the need to publicly state it.

There’s plenty of types I don’t like, in fact I’m hardly attracted to anyone. But I wouldn’t list out my dislikes, because who knows maybe someone will change my mind about those things, and also I wouldn’t want to offend anyone."

You expressed much better then me...respect

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?

Then have fish and chips

But isn’t that pizza’ist?"

No. Other forms of fast food are available. they are just not written off completely because I like pizza and garlic bread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i asked "do you have a type" some will say yes, some say no.

Those that say yes may not date exclusively within their type and may be open and have dated ppl outside.

I get tho, that on fab, people may afvertise for their type only. It saves the fabmin. Be it height body shape, cock size, voting preferences or race.

Thats different to saying I ONLY date xzy (which makes me wonder why) or WOULD NEVER date xyz.

I also see how you say it as being important. Although it is sometimes hard to tell intent as we read our own narrative intoo others words

I also would throw out there that when one sees many profiles that exclude them, even if done for legitimate reasons, and in a polite way, it adds up. I don't like the word micro aggression as it puts intent in the doer. But it can start to fall under this drip torture.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

Yes it’s called denial. Putting “I’m not racist” doesn’t change that you are racist.

Also putting “preference” doesn’t change that either. A preference is about what you LIKE, aka what you prefer. It’s not about what you dislike.

Definitely weird to say you’re automatically not attracted to billions of people you’ve never seen, purely because of their skin colour.

I get that people have their own tastes but it’s bizzarre when you feel the need to publicly state it.

There’s plenty of types I don’t like, in fact I’m hardly attracted to anyone. But I wouldn’t list out my dislikes, because who knows maybe someone will change my mind about those things, and also I wouldn’t want to offend anyone."

So what youre saying then is that its the stating of these preferences that makes them racist?

Youre not racist though because you dont state it, even though you still think it?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?

Then have fish and chips

But isn’t that pizza’ist?

No. Other forms of fast food are available. they are just not written off completely because I like pizza and garlic bread "

But the pizzas are left out. There are loads of different types of pizza, why write off a whole food type just because you don’t like it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes think the context in which certain preferences are portrayed are unintentionally disparaging.

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

It’s definitely not preference… when you see a profile that states.. “no blacks and no asians” or when the profile says… “sorry English only”

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By *BW TV JadaTV/TS
over a year ago

North West

It seems the problem is that racism is generally not a conscious belief and it's difficult to just throw those long held views away - it takes a lot of work to remove biases so it's easier just to say it is a preference rather than confront something uncomfortable. I don't think anybody would choose to be racist but we all suffer from some kinds of prejudice, in my opinion.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There may be some racism behind some peoples' choices but you'd not want to meet such people.

Fab is full of thousands of people, so focus your attention on those who do match.

If you see inappropriate behaviour, such as racism, report it to Admin. But just accept the preferences for sex partners that others have.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?

Then have fish and chips

But isn’t that pizza’ist?

No. Other forms of fast food are available. they are just not written off completely because I like pizza and garlic bread

But the pizzas are left out. There are loads of different types of pizza, why write off a whole food type just because you don’t like it?"

I’m genuinely confused about what you are getting at. I like pizza. It can be my favourite. It doesn’t mean I don’t eat fish and chips, or a cheeky maccies once in a while. I might even go through a period where I eat it more than pizza.

If someone offers me a gourmet burger, I don’t say ‘nah sorry mate. I only eat pizza.’

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

I think you're probably right. I think its probably in the "yeah but" part of the definition.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?

Then have fish and chips

But isn’t that pizza’ist?

No. Other forms of fast food are available. they are just not written off completely because I like pizza and garlic bread

But the pizzas are left out. There are loads of different types of pizza, why write off a whole food type just because you don’t like it?

I’m genuinely confused about what you are getting at. I like pizza. It can be my favourite. It doesn’t mean I don’t eat fish and chips, or a cheeky maccies once in a while. I might even go through a period where I eat it more than pizza.

If someone offers me a gourmet burger, I don’t say ‘nah sorry mate. I only eat pizza.’"

It’s just analogy comparing food preferences to sexual preferences. One seems fine and the other is deemed racist.

No person wants a sex meet with someone that they aren’t attracted to, no matter how you look at it, in the same way that no one will eat pizza, no matter which chain it comes from if they don’t like pizza.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is "

100%

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"The preference part to support a flat out rejection, I find interesting.

I mean prefer Pizza Hut, but I’ll still eat Dominoes. Other times, Papa Johns garlic cheese sticks are just what my body needs

How about if you don’t like pizza or garlic cheese sticks?

Then have fish and chips

But isn’t that pizza’ist?

No. Other forms of fast food are available. they are just not written off completely because I like pizza and garlic bread

But the pizzas are left out. There are loads of different types of pizza, why write off a whole food type just because you don’t like it?

I’m genuinely confused about what you are getting at. I like pizza. It can be my favourite. It doesn’t mean I don’t eat fish and chips, or a cheeky maccies once in a while. I might even go through a period where I eat it more than pizza.

If someone offers me a gourmet burger, I don’t say ‘nah sorry mate. I only eat pizza.’

It’s just analogy comparing food preferences to sexual preferences. One seems fine and the other is deemed racist.

No person wants a sex meet with someone that they aren’t attracted to, no matter how you look at it, in the same way that no one will eat pizza, no matter which chain it comes from if they don’t like pizza.

"

True.. And if you found a hamburger and chip down there it would be well off putting... (for some anyway)

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Oh crumbs

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is

100%"

But it is though. There's no legal definition for being baldist. There is for race and that's what makes it different.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is "

This .

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Oh crumbs "

I just spat my tea out.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"It’s definitely not preference… when you see a profile that states.. “no blacks and no asians” or when the profile says… “sorry English only” "

Never seen that on anyones profile

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is

100%

But it is though. There's no legal definition for being baldist. There is for race and that's what makes it different. "

I’m pretty sure the legislation doesn’t apply to sexual partner choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call it racism or preference but and the end of the day surely it’s up to the individual who decides who they will and won’t have sex with. I’m not homophobic but would never sex with another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s definitely not preference… when you see a profile that states.. “no blacks and no asians” or when the profile says… “sorry English only”

Never seen that on anyones profile "

I have. Wouldn't say it's uncommon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

Would you just pass by without thinking twice if that sounds racist or not?"

If I didn’t like the sound of the owner, I’d move on to an owner who was more compatible with me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I said in my first post...already getting trolled and getting hate messages...I know its a sensitive topic but the textbook definition of racism stands same i.e. treating someone differently then others on basis of skin color or ethnicity...peace out

Whos messaging you the hate? Name and shame "

Don't name +shame as you'll get a ban - report the message /profile instead

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"As I said in my first post...already getting trolled and getting hate messages...I know its a sensitive topic but the textbook definition of racism stands same i.e. treating someone differently then others on basis of skin color or ethnicity...peace out

Whos messaging you the hate? Name and shame

Don't name +shame as you'll get a ban - report the message /profile instead "

Itll be worth the ban for him

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Call it racism or preference but and the end of the day surely it’s up to the individual who decides who they will and won’t have sex with. I’m not homophobic but would never sex with another man. "
This .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

"

Didn't Pontins have a list of Irish surnames theo staff were told not allow book stays?

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

"

It’s their preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The original post asked if someone stating they had a preference for a particular ethnicity was racist.

It's not.

There are many gray areas and tangents this thread have highlighted. But the original post made no reference to rejecting all other races because of the preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

"

What about them?

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread "

Why does that matter? It clearly interests people which is really all that matters

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

It’s their preference. "

This .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So what youre saying then is that it’s the stating of these preferences that makes them racist?

Youre not racist though because you dont state it, even though you still think it? "

Me? I don’t have any preferences around race or ethnicity.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

It’s their preference. "

As it’s a preference for white women who only date white guys or black guys

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is

100%

But it is though. There's no legal definition for being baldist. There is for race and that's what makes it different.

I’m pretty sure the legislation doesn’t apply to sexual partner choice."

Sure at the end of the day... It doesnt... I think it's a surprisingly balanced so far discussion on if its OK or racist to write such in your profile....

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer women"

nicely put, this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread "

Its exactly the same...about someone's preference...and the thread is for healthy discussion cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer womennicely put, this "

Badly put. Because a woman and man are different genders. Totally different.

Are you saying having different skin tone is the same as being a different gender? Eek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread

Its exactly the same...about someone's preference...and the thread is for healthy discussion cx"

Its not the same at all

I prefer to stick to my own but that doesn't mean I have an issue conversing or interacting with those who are different

By your logic everyone should have sex with everyone who'd asks at a risk of being labelled some form of -ist

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer womennicely put, this

Badly put. Because a woman and man are different genders. Totally different.

Are you saying having different skin tone is the same as being a different gender? Eek"

No i dont believe he said that at all.

He gave it as an example of another preference

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread

Its exactly the same...about someone's preference...and the thread is for healthy discussion cx

Its not the same at all

I prefer to stick to my own but that doesn't mean I have an issue conversing or interacting with those who are different

By your logic everyone should have sex with everyone who'd asks at a risk of being labelled some form of -ist "

Has the OP made that statement though? From what i can see so far, hes only posed questions

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I won't meet Asian men, I find them attractive, I've had relationships of sort with them but, I've been treated badly and have seen others treated badly by them. Some of their attitudes towards female sexuality and women in general are not for me.

This is an example of racism and not preference. In case anyone was needing clarification "

A result of Experience and abuse.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Preference to me suggests that it is the persons preferred choice but not to the exclusion of all others. In my view it's easy to hide behind that word to exclude others. I prefer to meet black men but not exclusively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip get over yourself it’s called preference and if you don’t understand that you need to get off this site in any other site it has preferences Jesus Christ I’m sick and tired of the racism card card

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer womennicely put, this

Badly put. Because a woman and man are different genders. Totally different.

Are you saying having different skin tone is the same as being a different gender? Eek

No i dont believe he said that at all.

He gave it as an example of another preference"

To make a comparison between preferring certain skin colours he said “ Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer women”

So yes he did make out that gender and race are comparable things. They aren’t even close.

You seem very keen to argue against me. Hmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to me if anybody has a preference if anybody prefer something more than something else whatever that might be in life then they are racist it’s pathetic and to be honest with you I’m sick of hearing about it everybody in this world black white skinny fat man or woman have preferences it’s the way of the world it’s the way it’s always been that’s what makes individuals those people who pull the racism card need to get a life

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer womennicely put, this

Badly put. Because a woman and man are different genders. Totally different.

Are you saying having different skin tone is the same as being a different gender? Eek

No i dont believe he said that at all.

He gave it as an example of another preference

To make a comparison between preferring certain skin colours he said “ Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer women”

So yes he did make out that gender and race are comparable things. They aren’t even close.

You seem very keen to argue against me. Hmm."

I dont see it that way at all.

I think youre stretching in trying to suggest hes indicating comparisons

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer womennicely put, this

Badly put. Because a woman and man are different genders. Totally different.

Are you saying having different skin tone is the same as being a different gender? Eek

No i dont believe he said that at all.

He gave it as an example of another preference

To make a comparison between preferring certain skin colours he said “ Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer women”

So yes he did make out that gender and race are comparable things. They aren’t even close.

You seem very keen to argue against me. Hmm."

Why not, we’re all human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

What about them?"

Well is that a form of racism?

Or a personal preference?

The flip side to the coin, so to speak.

The thread is asking if its racist or not for whites to state on their profiles they dont want to meet a certain race/ethnicity.

But on the other side of this argument, there are black women and men who only date whites!!

My best friend of 47yrs (black) has never dated a black women.

He simply states he has zero attraction to them.

So, if some think people think its a form of racism to not date people of colour, what are their thoughts of people who wont date others from there own ethnicity??

Be it white, black, asian, middle eastern, far Eastern.

For me, it comes down to their reasoning.

If it purely just a preference of attraction, fair enough.

Or...is it more to do with some form stigma/narrow mindedness??

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"It’s definitely not preference… when you see a profile that states.. “no blacks and no asians” or when the profile says… “sorry English only”

Never seen that on anyones profile "

I have. Told me all I needed to know about them.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread

Its exactly the same...about someone's preference...and the thread is for healthy discussion cx

Its not the same at all

I prefer to stick to my own but that doesn't mean I have an issue conversing or interacting with those who are different

By your logic everyone should have sex with everyone who'd asks at a risk of being labelled some form of -ist "

Good for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

It's just preference, some women may not want me because I'm less than 6ft, i wouldn't call it heightism it's just what they prefer. Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer womennicely put, this

Badly put. Because a woman and man are different genders. Totally different.

Are you saying having different skin tone is the same as being a different gender? Eek

No i dont believe he said that at all.

He gave it as an example of another preference

To make a comparison between preferring certain skin colours he said “ Some men offer me BJ's I'm not homophobic I just prefer women”

So yes he did make out that gender and race are comparable things. They aren’t even close.

You seem very keen to argue against me. Hmm.

Why not, we’re all human."

Born to make mistakes?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It seems to me if anybody has a preference if anybody prefer something more than something else whatever that might be in life then they are racist it’s pathetic and to be honest with you I’m sick of hearing about it everybody in this world black white skinny fat man or woman have preferences it’s the way of the world it’s the way it’s always been that’s what makes individuals those people who pull the racism card need to get a life"

Engage your brain.

No two people of one race have the same hair , are the same height, are the same colour , have the same genitals, lips, eyes, nose or smile.... or six pack or barrel belly ...... They are not produced in factories like Sindy Dolls.

It is a preference is you like or a rejection if you prefer and that preference is based on race alone and is therefore racism.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread "

Going to have a guess.. Because he chose to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems to me if anybody has a preference if anybody prefer something more than something else whatever that might be in life then they are racist it’s pathetic and to be honest with you I’m sick of hearing about it everybody in this world black white skinny fat man or woman have preferences it’s the way of the world it’s the way it’s always been that’s what makes individuals those people who pull the racism card need to get a life"

The OP is not even a POC obviously just woke up and decided to start a controversial topic for the crack of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

What about them?

Well is that a form of racism?

Or a personal preference?

The flip side to the coin, so to speak.

The thread is asking if its racist or not for whites to state on their profiles they dont want to meet a certain race/ethnicity.

But on the other side of this argument, there are black women and men who only date whites!!

My best friend of 47yrs (black) has never dated a black women.

He simply states he has zero attraction to them.

So, if some think people think its a form of racism to not date people of colour, what are their thoughts of people who wont date others from there own ethnicity??

Be it white, black, asian, middle eastern, far Eastern.

For me, it comes down to their reasoning.

If it purely just a preference of attraction, fair enough.

Or...is it more to do with some form stigma/narrow mindedness??

"

"The thread is asking if its racist or not for whites to state on their profiles they dont want to meet a certain race/ethnicity."

This is not what the thread is saying at all

Try reading the original post again

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over a year ago

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

If the reason for only meeting black/white/asian men is, for example that men of said race are generally perceived to be better at sex. That is racism.

As regardless of whether the statement is positive or negative to assume that someone possesses a certain quality or attribute purely because or their ethnicity is the definition of racism.

Everyone has preferences though and some people will always prefer one type over another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It seems to me if anybody has a preference if anybody prefer something more than something else whatever that might be in life then they are racist it’s pathetic and to be honest with you I’m sick of hearing about it everybody in this world black white skinny fat man or woman have preferences it’s the way of the world it’s the way it’s always been that’s what makes individuals those people who pull the racism card need to get a life

The OP is not even a POC obviously just woke up and decided to start a controversial topic for the crack of it"

Wow...May I please know what made you conclude if I a POC or not?

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

It is fully on racist and fab allows it.

Imagine if this was a shop and it allowed customers with a sign that said I dont want blacks to talk to us no blacks.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"It seems to me if anybody has a preference if anybody prefer something more than something else whatever that might be in life then they are racist it’s pathetic and to be honest with you I’m sick of hearing about it everybody in this world black white skinny fat man or woman have preferences it’s the way of the world it’s the way it’s always been that’s what makes individuals those people who pull the racism card need to get a life

Engage your brain.

No two people of one race have the same hair , are the same height, are the same colour , have the same genitals, lips, eyes, nose or smile.... or six pack or barrel belly ...... They are not produced in factories like Sindy Dolls.

It is a preference is you like or a rejection if you prefer and that preference is based on race alone and is therefore racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

What about them?

Well is that a form of racism?

Or a personal preference?

The flip side to the coin, so to speak.

The thread is asking if its racist or not for whites to state on their profiles they dont want to meet a certain race/ethnicity.

But on the other side of this argument, there are black women and men who only date whites!!

My best friend of 47yrs (black) has never dated a black women.

He simply states he has zero attraction to them.

So, if some think people think its a form of racism to not date people of colour, what are their thoughts of people who wont date others from there own ethnicity??

Be it white, black, asian, middle eastern, far Eastern.

For me, it comes down to their reasoning.

If it purely just a preference of attraction, fair enough.

Or...is it more to do with some form stigma/narrow mindedness??

"The thread is asking if its racist or not for whites to state on their profiles they dont want to meet a certain race/ethnicity."

This is not what the thread is saying at all

Try reading the original post again "

Oops, you are correct. It is people in general, not white. My mistake.

But interesting that in my quite detailed and thought provoking message, that's what you pick up on.

Not the actual point being made.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I never believe in name and shame but no need to get personal in messages...

Peace

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Magherafelt

There are racist people and there are those who genuinely don’t feel comfortable with other races.

If you grew up in a very white environment then you have less exposure to get comfortable with other races.

In the same way, many of us don’t eat horse meat because we were brought up in a environment that eats horse meat. If we were born in a place that eats horse meat, then we would be eating horse meat.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"There are racist people and there are those who genuinely don’t feel comfortable with other races.

If you grew up in a very white environment then you have less exposure to get comfortable with other races.

In the same way, many of us don’t eat horse meat because we were brought up in a environment that eats horse meat. If we were born in a place that eats horse meat, then we would be eating horse meat."

The pizza analogy works for horse meat as well.

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Magherafelt

What pizza analogy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What pizza analogy?"

It’s a discussion about preferences for pineapples on pizza......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"What pizza analogy?"

The one up there ^

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"There are racist people and there are those who genuinely don’t feel comfortable with other races.

If you grew up in a very white environment then you have less exposure to get comfortable with other races.

In the same way, many of us don’t eat horse meat because we were brought up in a environment that eats horse meat. If we were born in a place that eats horse meat, then we would be eating horse meat."

I think this is an interesting point. Certainly there is evidence that parties like UKIP and even Britain First and fears around immigration can be unexpectedly high in predominantly white British areas.

I'd argue a fear of the unknown or unusual is to a degree racist though? That fear is surely based on stereotypes, prejudice and assumption?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"What pizza analogy?

It’s a discussion about preferences for pineapples on pizza......"

yes I prefer pineapple on a Hawaiian pizza

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"There are racist people and there are those who genuinely don’t feel comfortable with other races.

If you grew up in a very white environment then you have less exposure to get comfortable with other races.

In the same way, many of us don’t eat horse meat because we were brought up in a environment that eats horse meat. If we were born in a place that eats horse meat, then we would be eating horse meat.

I think this is an interesting point. Certainly there is evidence that parties like UKIP and even Britain First and fears around immigration can be unexpectedly high in predominantly white British areas.

I'd argue a fear of the unknown or unusual is to a degree racist though? That fear is surely based on stereotypes, prejudice and assumption?"

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"What pizza analogy?

It’s a discussion about preferences for pineapples on pizza......yes I prefer pineapple on a Hawaiian pizza "

Heathen….

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"What pizza analogy?

It’s a discussion about preferences for pineapples on pizza......yes I prefer pineapple on a Hawaiian pizza

Heathen…."

lol how very dare you

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

I guess not many of us here are old enough to remember the signs outside rentable flats or property during the 50s and 60s which clearly stated "No Blacks, No Asians, No Irish, No Dogs", or words to that effect.

Preference? On what grounds?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh this old can of worms...

It's tricky and I don't know if there's a right answer. Yes, by definition it can be interpreted as racist because...well let's just say I could and would never have a preference on an ethnicity here and rule out all overs. Sexy people come in all sexy shapes, sizes, and ethnicities and I will never understand not being able to be attracted to someone based on their skin colour personally.

But people are entitled to be attracted to what they like I guess. This site has white women only want black men, women who won't consider anyone under 5'11, and even a much older woman message me out of the blue to say I'm too fat for her

So it's just what it is this crazy place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What pizza analogy?

It’s a discussion about preferences for pineapples on pizza......yes I prefer pineapple on a Hawaiian pizza

Heathen…."

Heathenist...........

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"I guess not many of us here are old enough to remember the signs outside rentable flats or property during the 50s and 60s which clearly stated "No Blacks, No Asians, No Irish, No Dogs", or words to that effect.

Preference? On what grounds?"

You’d have no chance if you were a black Irish wolf hound.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess not many of us here are old enough to remember the signs outside rentable flats or property during the 50s and 60s which clearly stated "No Blacks, No Asians, No Irish, No Dogs", or words to that effect.

Preference? On what grounds?"

On the grounds that I am not homophobic because I am not gay. Or something like that. I don't like pizza and I don't like garlic bread. See? I'm not racist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx

Yes and no.

There's a huge difference between a sexual preference and a life view.

A preference for BBC, or black men is just that - a preference, no different to someone wanting to meet BBW's, older people, younger people, redheads, guys with small dicks, or any other physical characteristic. Sure, it's objectifying someone based on their visual appearance but not in any way racist.

Blanket statements such as 'no blacks, Asians, foreginers' etc are a different kettle of fish, because they're not stating a factor that is desired, simply throwing all who fall into that category into the same bucket as if the were identical.

Strangely (not) those that are excluded by such preferences (normally white men) are usually the most vocal to start shouting racism and unfairness. Almost as if it's because they don't fit the preferences of someone they've viewed.......

A"

Bingo. One and done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family. "

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Problem is, anyone can discriminate to the nth degree on who they will or won't have sex with. It could smokers, blue eyes, Bisexual, bald, hairy, under 5'11" and you just have to accept it. But the second someone says "not black" or "not asian" you get racism thrown in. Fine, call them that, but they aren't going to relax their preferences through fear of being called out. Anyone has the right to say no.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Thing is, if you really don't want to meet people of colour or other races, do you really have to be rude enough to state it on your profile? Why not just block, or politely refuse anyone who doesn't fit your criteria, whether they be black, white, brown, fat, thin, redhead etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family. "

When you say you're only really attracted to white men though, does that mean you would never consider getting whatever with a man your own ethnicity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very interesting views and comments in this thread. And some very balanced arguments.

But to throw a bit of a curveball into the discussion...what about black women who only date white guys??

"

Exactly.

A lot of people never take into consideration those of us who are black and like white men…

How does the “racism” label work then I wonder…

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Problem is, anyone can discriminate to the nth degree on who they will or won't have sex with. It could smokers, blue eyes, Bisexual, bald, hairy, under 5'11" and you just have to accept it. But the second someone says "not black" or "not asian" you get racism thrown in. Fine, call them that, but they aren't going to relax their preferences through fear of being called out. Anyone has the right to say no. "

Please read that back to yourself I will read it again when i've stopped chortlin' .....

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By *xotictemptations4uCouple
over a year ago

LONDON


"I see a lot of people saying on their profile that they prefer someone from a particular ethnicity or with a specific skin colour. At the same time they also say that they are not racist its just their preference.

Isn't that the textbook definition of racism though i.e. treating someone different then others just on the basis of their skin colour or ethnicity.

I know I am going to get trolled here but truly believe that is the truth xx"

OP you are absolutely correct, there is no rational reason for you to get trolled, only irrational people will attempt to do so.

Preference refers to a greater liking for one thing over another for example liking peas better than carrots, it can apply to anything. Despite the greater liking for one there is not a dislike for the other.

Therefore if a profile stated, our preference is such and such (hence the greater liking) however we are still not opposed to other than that would not amount to discriminatory behaviour.

Where the problem lies is when the word "preference" is being misused and entire groups of people are being sidelined irrespective of their singular individuality. There exists attractive people from all races and genders.

Take this example: Once we were messaged by a couple who had met many couples and even more single men all of whom were the same race to themselves and different to us. On their profile there was a statement of preference regarding race similar to your original post.

The couple expressed a wish to meet me only which led to a discussion of why not the both of us and the whole preference argument came out. As the discussion progressed they became more frustrated and boldly stated that "We don't consider men of other races no matter how fit they are lol."

So in their case they were not making an assertion of "preference" but were instead "intentionally misusing" the word in order to camouflage what was actually occurring which was in fact "discrimination."

What they said was in fact prejudicial and discriminatory towards certain groups of people belonging to certain races, it's "racism."

People need to remember that such statements as the OP has referred to are highly offensive to people belonging to other races and also the non-discriminatory people of the same race.

On an end note the funny thing about this story was that everything they claimed to dislike I claimed to like and whatever they liked I claimed to dislike and when it was turned around on them they felt marginalised and were appalled. So lessons ought to be learned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is fully on racist and fab allows it.

Imagine if this was a shop and it allowed customers with a sign that said I dont want blacks to talk to us no blacks.

"

You’re comparing a shop, that is open to the public to an individual and their consent to sex.

It’s completely different, you cannot force someone to have sex with someone they’re not attracted to because you deem it “racist”. The two aren’t remotely comparable. Sex is personal, buying products in a shop isn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems "

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

When you say you're only really attracted to white men though, does that mean you would never consider getting whatever with a man your own ethnicity?"

I’d pick a white man I’m attracted to over a black man I consider good looking, so pretty much, I state my preference on my profile.

Of course, there’s people of all races I find physically attractive, maybe it would be different if I was born in another country..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race… "

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference?

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Problem is, anyone can discriminate to the nth degree on who they will or won't have sex with. It could smokers, blue eyes, Bisexual, bald, hairy, under 5'11" and you just have to accept it. But the second someone says "not black" or "not asian" you get racism thrown in. Fine, call them that, but they aren't going to relax their preferences through fear of being called out. Anyone has the right to say no.

Please read that back to yourself I will read it again when i've stopped chortlin' ..... "

I threw a lot of myself in there on purpose, but I don't smoke and I'm not hairy I don't mind poking fun at myself, I'm an endless resource of hilarity for some

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I’ve “no men” on my profile, Am I sexist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference? "

But it is a preference…

As I said, I state on my profile I’m seeking white men so technically I’m writing every other man of every race off, that doesn’t mean they’re unattractive or unworthy or below me.

Of course I could take that part off my profile but it cuts down the messages from those I’m not wanting to meet, just like my age filter does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve “no men” on my profile, Am I sexist?

"

Just in denial

Joking! The point is you don't like penis and that's fair enough. But if you were attracted to penises, would you flat out refuse one just because it's a darker skin tone?

Not saying it is racist, but there's something about it I find abit off. Again, if you'd consider it but don't like it as much as lighter penises, fine, but if you FLAT OUT refuse...I just won't ever understand it personally

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By *ickewbitsantha!!Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Exactly,you can like what you like,everyone has preferences. Politically correct clap trap rubbish.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I’ve “no men” on my profile, Am I sexist?

Just in denial

Joking! The point is you don't like penis and that's fair enough. But if you were attracted to penises, would you flat out refuse one just because it's a darker skin tone?

Not saying it is racist, but there's something about it I find abit off. Again, if you'd consider it but don't like it as much as lighter penises, fine, but if you FLAT OUT refuse...I just won't ever understand it personally "

Penisism, discrimination against penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve “no men” on my profile, Am I sexist?

Just in denial

Joking! The point is you don't like penis and that's fair enough. But if you were attracted to penises, would you flat out refuse one just because it's a darker skin tone?

Not saying it is racist, but there's something about it I find abit off. Again, if you'd consider it but don't like it as much as lighter penises, fine, but if you FLAT OUT refuse...I just won't ever understand it personally

Penisism, discrimination against penis "

That's fine though because despite being heterosexual I can appreciate a good looking penis. And there's some ugly fuckers out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly,you can like what you like,everyone has preferences. Politically correct clap trap rubbish. "

I agree.

I always find (in my experience) it’s white people, who are hardly ever excluded who seem to have the biggest problem with preferences that are racial, whilst the rest of us simply get on with it.

I wonder why though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference? "

In what world just having a preferred type mean that you find all other type unattractive or unworthy. To me it sounds like trying to make trouble when there is none, but of course, that is just my opinion

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference?

In what world just having a preferred type mean that you find all other type unattractive or unworthy. To me it sounds like trying to make trouble when there is none, but of course, that is just my opinion "

Trouble-ist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference?

In what world just having a preferred type mean that you find all other type unattractive or unworthy. To me it sounds like trying to make trouble when there is none, but of course, that is just my opinion

Trouble-ist "

Oh no, I've been caught

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly,you can like what you like,everyone has preferences. Politically correct clap trap rubbish.

I agree.

I always find (in my experience) it’s white people, who are hardly ever excluded who seem to have the biggest problem with preferences that are racial, whilst the rest of us simply get on with it.

I wonder why though? "

This is gonna be different for everyone, and I know what my answer is but it's gonna sound like such bollocks and 'golden boy' that I'm not gonna write it here haha.

Ultimately though I think it's fine for people to have preferences so am not debating. I just personally can't understand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference?

In what world just having a preferred type mean that you find all other type unattractive or unworthy. To me it sounds like trying to make trouble when there is none, but of course, that is just my opinion "

Ok, to use an example... people on here have stated no Asians because they are simply could never be attracted to someone who is Asian. I've seen it hundreds of times over the years, on profiles and in the forums.

If you want to take that as me making trouble where this is no problem, that's fine with me. But I see it as racist.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus


"I’ve “no men” on my profile, Am I sexist?

Just in denial

Joking! The point is you don't like penis and that's fair enough. But if you were attracted to penises, would you flat out refuse one just because it's a darker skin tone?

Not saying it is racist, but there's something about it I find abit off. Again, if you'd consider it but don't like it as much as lighter penises, fine, but if you FLAT OUT refuse...I just won't ever understand it personally

Penisism, discrimination against penis "

I’m quite attached to my penis if I’m honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its no different to saying they dont want soneone thats bald. Or wanting someone to be shaved. Or wanting soneone to be female not male.

Its just a preference . Dont make it more than what it is "

How is that aliken to judgement of skin colour? Race?

You mentioned preference about being Bald! Male/female.

Dont make it more than it is.

Brush it all under the carpet?

Dont spray to take any bad smells away,after useing the loo??

Many aliments arise, ie health wise,what would you do?

This whole point raised, has very very deeper under currents of discrimination all over it!

Just because you may not face it at first hand,does not mean others dont face it,so they should shut up!!

dont get aggy! Lets talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly,you can like what you like,everyone has preferences. Politically correct clap trap rubbish.

I agree.

I always find (in my experience) it’s white people, who are hardly ever excluded who seem to have the biggest problem with preferences that are racial, whilst the rest of us simply get on with it.

I wonder why though?

This is gonna be different for everyone, and I know what my answer is but it's gonna sound like such bollocks and 'golden boy' that I'm not gonna write it here haha.

Ultimately though I think it's fine for people to have preferences so am not debating. I just personally can't understand it."

There’s things in this world that many of us can’t understand.

I can’t understand why any man would want to be financially dominated but I fully respect his right to like that and get what he wants to make him happy.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"It seems to me if anybody has a preference if anybody prefer something more than something else whatever that might be in life then they are racist it’s pathetic and to be honest with you I’m sick of hearing about it everybody in this world black white skinny fat man or woman have preferences it’s the way of the world it’s the way it’s always been that’s what makes individuals those people who pull the racism card need to get a life

The OP is not even a POC obviously just woke up and decided to start a controversial topic for the crack of it"

Only poc can discuss racism? I see. Interesting concept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference?

But it is a preference…

As I said, I state on my profile I’m seeking white men so technically I’m writing every other man of every race off, that doesn’t mean they’re unattractive or unworthy or below me.

Of course I could take that part off my profile but it cuts down the messages from those I’m not wanting to meet, just like my age filter does. "

Yes, that is preference. But there are people on here who do exactly as I said, dismiss entire races as unattractive and wouldn't ever consider someone if they didn't have white skin. And that is racist.

I'm terribly sorry you feel like I should just get on with it, and not express my views on racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly,you can like what you like,everyone has preferences. Politically correct clap trap rubbish.

I agree.

I always find (in my experience) it’s white people, who are hardly ever excluded who seem to have the biggest problem with preferences that are racial, whilst the rest of us simply get on with it.

I wonder why though?

This is gonna be different for everyone, and I know what my answer is but it's gonna sound like such bollocks and 'golden boy' that I'm not gonna write it here haha.

Ultimately though I think it's fine for people to have preferences so am not debating. I just personally can't understand it.

There’s things in this world that many of us can’t understand.

I can’t understand why any man would want to be financially dominated but I fully respect his right to like that and get what he wants to make him happy. "

Exactly that! And tell me about it on that note. I once interviewed a woman who makes her living meeting up with guys at cash points and as soon as they have handed it over she makes then crawl on the floor like a dog in public and punishes them.

She was fun (I wasn't a humiliated canine I swear!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not textbook racism. If they treat everyone the same in every other aspect of life then of course they’re not racist.

By that logic I must be racist to my own race, considering I’m only really attracted to white men.

Better tell my family.

I think they will be OK with you not being attracted to them.

Otherwise you have bigger problems

I meant the “racist” part… by the OP’s logic, me liking a different race of men must mean I’m racist to my own race…

There's nothing wrong with liking a different race of men. But would you completely dismiss and never consider a black man? Would you write off every man with black skin as unattractive and unworthy of your time? Because that's exactly what people do on here. And somehow that's a preference?

But it is a preference…

As I said, I state on my profile I’m seeking white men so technically I’m writing every other man of every race off, that doesn’t mean they’re unattractive or unworthy or below me.

Of course I could take that part off my profile but it cuts down the messages from those I’m not wanting to meet, just like my age filter does.

Yes, that is preference. But there are people on here who do exactly as I said, dismiss entire races as unattractive and wouldn't ever consider someone if they didn't have white skin. And that is racist.

I'm terribly sorry you feel like I should just get on with it, and not express my views on racism.

"

Where in my post did I state you should get on with it?

If those people treat people of another race the exact same in every other aspect of life how is it racism?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"I guess not many of us here are old enough to remember the signs outside rentable flats or property during the 50s and 60s which clearly stated "No Blacks, No Asians, No Irish, No Dogs", or words to that effect.

Preference? On what grounds?"

According to some on here... That's a preference and is fine.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"So is it sexist I'm only interested in women? "

I am neither racist nor sexist. I love black women.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"

That's fine though because despite being heterosexual I can appreciate a good looking penis. And there's some ugly fuckers out there "

Exactly!!

I might be Bi, but that doesn't mean I'll be gagging for every dick that presents itself.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Just a thought

What if you are somewhere and pass by a restaurant which says only people from a specific ethnicity or with a particular skin colour are allowed as it's the owners preference to mingle with them. The owner hasn't rejected you personally or anything like that here, they are just stating their personal "preference"

It's not the same though is it

Again asking you though why you decided to start this thread

Its exactly the same...about someone's preference...and the thread is for healthy discussion cx"

It's not the same at all and I suspect you know that.

Again. There is a fundamental difference in blanket banning someone from entering a restaurant based on ethnicity (illegal) and someone choosing to sleep with someone of another ethnicity. There are no laws that say anyone has to sleep with anyone.

Youemr example is completee false equivalence of the highest order!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My preference is women, does that mean I’m homophobic? Stop reading more into things, I like women over men, Turkey over chicken, tomato soup over fresh tomatoes, Mercedes over bmw or any other make, vw transporters over ford transits, shaven over natural and the list goes on!!! My PREFERENCES doesn’t mean I’m racist, homophobic, soupist, carist, vanist, haryist or any other descriptive. It makes me human with choices and preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt call a preference the same as attraction.

Attraction is a biochemical reaction where as a preference is a mental decision.

BBC is also regarded by many as a derogatory term reducing someone down to a single element of a body part which theybmay or may not have. Imaginenof peoplebstarted to ask for BTB (big tit blone).

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