FabSwingers.com forum: Women v Females

By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

I Mr usually refer to "females" as birds

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why? "

Oh for the love of christ

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I use woman, ladies, females. I've never really thought much as about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use women. Don't like the term female either. Men are rarely referred to as males.

Pxx

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why? "
bint it infers she's older and bint there

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We both use ladies.

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By *liceinwanderlust101Woman
over a year ago

Cambridge/London

It’s a throwback from Friday Night Dinner no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm genuinely not bothered by it unless it's said in a way to purposely demean me.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

As a tgirl and as I'm married I'm sensitive as to how to address someone without insulting anyone.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It doesn't bother me if I'm honest. And I have never really thought about it either as to what I call others. Probably women I would think. But no having someone say the word female would not make me jump to the conclusion they are an incel.That is a pretty big leap because they use one word.I would judge people more by the tone of what they say rather than one word alone.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why? "

Yep, it's grim and, if not a red flag, at least I've always found it a useful indicator of someone I won't like.

What's wrong with 'women'? Or, most of the time, trying to avoid such general terms altogether?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the majority of people mean any harm when they say females. However it is a turn off due to the way incels and misogynistic men use it. They use it to dehumanize women.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

It's something that's only come to my attention recently as I never realised the term "female" could be seen as dehumanising but it is now something I've been conscious about when typing or reading.

Personally, I don't see the difference between the words, but ultimately it's up to others to decide what terms are and aren't acceptable.

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"It doesn't bother me if I'm honest. And I have never really thought about it either as to what I call others. Probably women I would think. But no having someone say the word female would not make me jump to the conclusion they are an incel.That is a pretty big leap because they use one word.I would judge people more by the tone of what they say rather than one word alone. "

Oh yeah definitely, and I’m not saying people who use “female” are incel. Just people who are incel don’t seem to use the word woman. Like I said, it’s an amber flag for me - like to be aware - not a red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree with what you.

Men get such shite over the simplest things sometimes. Can't even use the word female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 'woman' used in a more dehumanising way than female. I don't see that word as someone potentially being a problem... it's all about context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would rather just call them wonderful and beautiful

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"I've had 'woman' used in a more dehumanising way than female. I don't see that word as someone potentially being a problem... it's all about context."

I kind of get what you mean. Even I don't like using "woman" sometimes. For example, directing someone and saying "ask that woman over there" just sounds rude to me for some reason

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I really don’t lose any sleep over it.

Not keen on being referred to as ‘a female’ but I’d get over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it what ever people are labelled an issue, polarisation of gender caused Rome, Constantinople and the Akkadian empire fell partly because of this, history teaches us nothing

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

It wouldn't raise any flags for me as such.

Granted, I'd find it unusual. Maybe English isn't their 1st language.

I'd probably more likely to judge them on the context of a whole interaction rather than the use of just one word

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I prefer to use the term split arse personally

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I prefer to use the term split arse personally "

Funnily enough that doesn't surprise me

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I prefer to use the term split arse personally

Funnily enough that doesn't surprise me

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I use the term "women" or "woman". I don't think I've knowingly or wittingly used the term "female" on this site.

With that said I'm more than happy to be humbly advised on any suitable synonym that would be deemed acceptable or non-offensive.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Depends on the context I suppose but female does have an animal kingdom/David Attenborough vibe to it

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Reminds me of Friday Night Dinner.

"So......met any females?"

Pmsl

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why? "

I think sluts work well of all occasions.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I prefer to use the term split arse personally

Funnily enough that doesn't surprise me

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Why is it what ever people are labelled an issue, polarisation of gender caused Rome, Constantinople and the Akkadian empire fell partly because of this, history teaches us nothing"

Oh ok

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I call the ladies ..ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it what ever people are labelled an issue, polarisation of gender caused Rome, Constantinople and the Akkadian empire fell partly because of this, history teaches us nothing

Oh ok

Yes, we knew that

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I call the ladies ..ladies

I ain't no lady but I'm all woman

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Why is it what ever people are labelled an issue, polarisation of gender caused Rome, Constantinople and the Akkadian empire fell partly because of this, history teaches us nothing

Oh ok

Yes, we knew that

Yes .. didn't we just

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

And yet couples use it all the time in forum posts and pm's. They either introduce themselves or sign off as the female half.

Or there's always the other issue that many women complain about being referred to as girls while so many others consistently talk about girlpower.

Some women prefer to be called ladies while I've seen comments on here saying they find that patronising.

It's a verbal minefield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And yet couples use it all the time in forum posts and pm's. They either introduce themselves or sign off as the female half.

Or there's always the other issue that many women complain about being referred to as girls while so many others consistently talk about girlpower.

Some women prefer to be called ladies while I've seen comments on here saying they find that patronising.

It's a verbal minefield."

I agree

NBVN x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"And yet couples use it all the time in forum posts and pm's. They either introduce themselves or sign off as the female half.

Or there's always the other issue that many women complain about being referred to as girls while so many others consistently talk about girlpower.

Some women prefer to be called ladies while I've seen comments on here saying they find that patronising.

It's a verbal minefield."

I suppose if couples signed off with woman half, well, it just doesn't sound right.

And girl power, to me that's all encompassing if ages, so works.

And ladies, I have no object to that, except that I'm not one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why? "

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Kind of interested how you make the leap from female to incel and misogynist? Would you mind explaining that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And yet couples use it all the time in forum posts and pm's. They either introduce themselves or sign off as the female half.

Or there's always the other issue that many women complain about being referred to as girls while so many others consistently talk about girlpower.

Some women prefer to be called ladies while I've seen comments on here saying they find that patronising.

It's a verbal minefield."

I generally don’t take offence to being called female/woman/girl/ etc…unless someone is being deliberately rude

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs"

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I call the ladies ..ladies

I ain't no lady but I'm all woman

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"Kind of interested how you make the leap from female to incel and misogynist? Would you mind explaining that? "

Sure, I don’t say that anyone who says “female” is an incel.

Calling women, “female” feels dehumanising to me. It can feel that I am being reduced to an animal or object status - a resource rather than a person with integral worth.

I repeat, I am not saying this applies to everyone but it definitely seems to be a thing in incel culture, where “females” are commodities.

I posted my question to see what everyone else thinks, to see if my thinking withstands the challenge or even whether there’s a general trend supporting my inference.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"I call the ladies ..ladies

Apparently that's not correct any more unless they are married to a Lord!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?"
also a place where you don't have to comment if you have nothing worth saying

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

A female what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why? "

Hate it when people call men males it’s just true so deal with it.

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By *reemindCoolMan
over a year ago

between Barnsley and Wakefield

i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?also a place where you don't have to comment if you have nothing worth saying

I thought it was worth saying as the OP is just nonsense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had 'woman' used in a more dehumanising way than female. I don't see that word as someone potentially being a problem... it's all about context.

I kind of get what you mean. Even I don't like using "woman" sometimes. For example, directing someone and saying "ask that woman over there" just sounds rude to me for some reason

Does ask that man over there sound rude?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Kind of interested how you make the leap from female to incel and misogynist? Would you mind explaining that?

Sure, I don’t say that anyone who says “female” is an incel.

Calling women, “female” feels dehumanising to me. It can feel that I am being reduced to an animal or object status - a resource rather than a person with integral worth.

I repeat, I am not saying this applies to everyone but it definitely seems to be a thing in incel culture, where “females” are commodities.

I posted my question to see what everyone else thinks, to see if my thinking withstands the challenge or even whether there’s a general trend supporting my inference. "

Incel culture?...off to Google it. Never heard of it.

Though I think I can gather the meaning.

Everyday is a school day.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Depends on the context I suppose but female does have an animal kingdom/David Attenborough vibe to it"

Exactly, female could be anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might have said this before. Female/females sounds wrong and weird because it's an adjective. A female what?

Also it's creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something that would bother me, depending on how it's said, even the sweetest thing can be used in a derogatory way.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"A female what?"

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me"

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might have said this before. Female/females sounds wrong and weird because it's an adjective. A female what?

Also it's creepy "

Female can also be a noun and if I've understood correctly the OP doesn't like its use as a noun rather than woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly."

A female homosapien

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?"

Or for members to have/start a conversation in whatever subject they like, and without others being rude about it!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Kind of interested how you make the leap from female to incel and misogynist? Would you mind explaining that?

Sure, I don’t say that anyone who says “female” is an incel.

Calling women, “female” feels dehumanising to me. It can feel that I am being reduced to an animal or object status - a resource rather than a person with integral worth.

I repeat, I am not saying this applies to everyone but it definitely seems to be a thing in incel culture, where “females” are commodities.

I posted my question to see what everyone else thinks, to see if my thinking withstands the challenge or even whether there’s a general trend supporting my inference. "

I don't know anything about incel culture. But I rarely if ever use either term. If we were in communication I'd most likely use your name or however you wanted me to greet you. Language can be very powerful but can't help thinking it's being weaponised by some folks and that is being accommodated by others.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"I've had 'woman' used in a more dehumanising way than female. I don't see that word as someone potentially being a problem... it's all about context.

I kind of get what you mean. Even I don't like using "woman" sometimes. For example, directing someone and saying "ask that woman over there" just sounds rude to me for some reason

Does ask that man over there sound rude? "

To be fair, it does. "That guy" or "that lad" may be better. Maybe I'm just being weird and overthinking it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?

Or for members to have/start a conversation in whatever subject they like, and without others being rude about it!"

Spot on and it is getting ridiculous at the moment. Nobody is allowed to say anything some don't like something without People saying it's not a problem for them so they don't see why it should be a problem for others.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien "

And where do we see that written, day to day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had 'woman' used in a more dehumanising way than female. I don't see that word as someone potentially being a problem... it's all about context.

I kind of get what you mean. Even I don't like using "woman" sometimes. For example, directing someone and saying "ask that woman over there" just sounds rude to me for some reason

Does ask that man over there sound rude?

To be fair, it does. "That guy" or "that lad" may be better. Maybe I'm just being weird and overthinking it though

I would say saying that lad over there about a fully grown man would be rude as well as using the word guy. I don't think there's anything rude about the 2 examples given as long as it's not said in a rude or derogatory way.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?"

Maybe we can have a picture of a silhouette with a dress and heels on...? Or is that offensive?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?

Or for members to have/start a conversation in whatever subject they like, and without others being rude about it!

I haven't been around much but I certainly haven't missed this trend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not something that would bother me, depending on how it's said, even the sweetest thing can be used in a derogatory way."

Like Love, darling and sweetheart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day? "

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is "no tail" ok?

I can't keep up with this stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?

Maybe we can have a picture of a silhouette with a dress and heels on...? Or is that offensive?

Why would you need a picture of a woman in a dress and heels? Isn't it normally just a stick figure with a triangle to depict a skirt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs......."

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

In a scenario where one’s pesky kids are messing about, I like to say ‘stop it, the lady’s watching’

Feels right to say lady

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?

Maybe we can have a picture of a silhouette with a dress and heels on...? Or is that offensive?

Honestly, I find it tiresome that the "image" of a woman is always a skirt/dress and heels. Just my personal view though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places. "

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?

Maybe we can have a picture of a silhouette with a dress and heels on...? Or is that offensive?

Honestly, I find it tiresome that the "image" of a woman is always a skirt/dress and heels. Just my personal view though. "

I can sort of see why the triangle for a skirt as it's a very clear universal image of a woman. Not everyone can read or speak English but most people would know the difference between the male and female symbols used for toilets and gender specific facilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?"

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?

Maybe we can have a picture of a silhouette with a dress and heels on...? Or is that offensive?

Why would you need a picture of a woman in a dress and heels? Isn't it normally just a stick figure with a triangle to depict a skirt? "

Isn't that the same thing but different words? I mean what's a silhouette of a dress look like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Play nice ladies, us males is ungood using grammer right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!"

If it has I would welcome an explanation as to why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?

Maybe we can have a picture of a silhouette with a dress and heels on...? Or is that offensive?

Why would you need a picture of a woman in a dress and heels? Isn't it normally just a stick figure with a triangle to depict a skirt?

Isn't that the same thing but different words? I mean what's a silhouette of a dress look like? "

No as they don't normally have high heels.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs......."

We don't see female homosapien written anywhere outside of academic research.

Almost all the toilets I see have "gents/ladies or men/women" written on the signs.

I personally always use the gender neutral toilet anyway, even the picture that represents me is gender neutral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!

If it has I would welcome an explanation as to why?"

What has saying you don't see female homosapien written everywhere got to do with men being in a female changing room?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

We don't see female homosapien written anywhere outside of academic research.

Almost all the toilets I see have "gents/ladies or men/women" written on the signs.

I personally always use the gender neutral toilet anyway, even the picture that represents me is gender neutral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?"
Bros. Nobros.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"i agree with you

when females is used like that it sounds aggressive to me

So a WC sign saying female is aggressive?

Maybe we can have a picture of a silhouette with a dress and heels on...? Or is that offensive?

Honestly, I find it tiresome that the "image" of a woman is always a skirt/dress and heels. Just my personal view though.

When I've been abroad, lots of toilets don't have pictures on the door, but have something like "mujeres/caballeros" or whatever the local language is. People still seem to manage, but yes, I suppose. I abhorred wearing skirts/dresses as a younger person and was actually very keen NOT to be seen wearing one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!

If it has I would welcome an explanation as to why?

What has saying you don't see female homosapien written everywhere got to do with men being in a female changing room? "

You are being ridiculous now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?

Or for members to have/start a conversation in whatever subject they like, and without others being rude about it!

I haven't been around much but I certainly haven't missed this trend

Ignore him. He's just one of those people that likes to criticise. He could've read the topic, thought not for me, and scrolled past.

Instead, he insults the theme of the thread, saying its a stupid question and the forum is full of them.

But then continues to read and post comments in the aforementioned 'stupid thread'??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!

If it has I would welcome an explanation as to why?

What has saying you don't see female homosapien written everywhere got to do with men being in a female changing room?

You are being ridiculous now."

No I'm really not. You said in response to me saying you don't see female homosapien written anywhere you stated that you do.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Play nice ladies, us males is ungood using grammer right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

We don't see female homosapien written anywhere outside of academic research.

Almost all the toilets I see have "gents/ladies or men/women" written on the signs.

I personally always use the gender neutral toilet anyway, even the picture that represents me is gender neutral

Yes gender neutral.........forgot about that!

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

"And yet couples use it all the time in forum posts and pm's. They either introduce themselves or sign off as the female half.

Or there's always the other issue that many women complain about being referred to as girls while so many others consistently talk about girlpower.

Some women prefer to be called ladies while I've seen comments on here saying they find that patronising.

It's a verbal minefield.

I suppose if couples signed off with woman half, well, it just doesn't sound right.

And girl power, to me that's all encompassing if ages, so works.

And ladies, I have no object to that, except that I'm not one

As an adjective it’s fine.

As a noun to describe humans in a non-scientific context, it’s definitely a bit off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!

If it has I would welcome an explanation as to why?

What has saying you don't see female homosapien written everywhere got to do with men being in a female changing room?

You are being ridiculous now.

No I'm really not. You said in response to me saying you don't see female homosapien written anywhere you stated that you do.

Really? You’re arguably being obtuse but the next time I see sign that identifies the female description I will take picture and e mail it to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

We don't see female homosapien written anywhere outside of academic research.

Almost all the toilets I see have "gents/ladies or men/women" written on the signs.

I personally always use the gender neutral toilet anyway, even the picture that represents me is gender neutral

Yes gender neutral.........forgot about that!"

Most disabled toilets are gender neutral, so is the sign that depicts them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!

If it has I would welcome an explanation as to why?

What has saying you don't see female homosapien written everywhere got to do with men being in a female changing room?

You are being ridiculous now.

No I'm really not. You said in response to me saying you don't see female homosapien written anywhere you stated that you do.

Really? You’re arguably being obtuse but the next time I see sign that identifies the female description I will take picture and e mail it to you."

OK you're not making any sense anymore and I think you should read back what you have been quoting on.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the word “female” all the time, I must be an incel.

It’s never crossed my mind.

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?

Or for members to have/start a conversation in whatever subject they like, and without others being rude about it!

I haven't been around much but I certainly haven't missed this trend

Ignore him. He's just one of those people that likes to criticise. He could've read the topic, thought not for me, and scrolled past.

Instead, he insults the theme of the thread, saying its a stupid question and the forum is full of them.

But then continues to read and post comments in the aforementioned 'stupid thread'??

Yes, at first I found him laughable but now I think he might be learning disabled so I just don’t respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

We don't see female homosapien written anywhere outside of academic research.

Almost all the toilets I see have "gents/ladies or men/women" written on the signs.

I personally always use the gender neutral toilet anyway, even the picture that represents me is gender neutral

Yes gender neutral.........forgot about that!

I never, ever go in the ladies toilet. In fact, in most buildings, it's completely important for me to do so. So yes, I use a gender neutral toilet with a gender neutral picture on door. Can you guess what it is yet?"

Oh sorry I gave the game away above.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

We don't see female homosapien written anywhere outside of academic research.

Almost all the toilets I see have "gents/ladies or men/women" written on the signs.

I personally always use the gender neutral toilet anyway, even the picture that represents me is gender neutral

Yes gender neutral.........forgot about that!"

I never, ever go in the ladies toilet. In fact, in most buildings, it's completely impossible for me to do so. So yes, I use a gender neutral toilet with a gender neutral picture on door. Can you guess what it is yet?

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"I use the word “female” all the time, I must be an incel.

It’s never crossed my mind. "

That’s it! Blocking you!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Woman and women

The other term that's often used, with a lot of cringe, is 'lady'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate when people call women, “females”. To me it’s a total amber flag warning me that this person could well be a total knob, or even an incel.

Which word do you choose to use for women/females? And why?

I’ll be perfectly honest and say I have never given this a second thought until now…

Mrs

The topics of conversation in the forum are officially bollocks. A place for members to ask stupid questions?

Or for members to have/start a conversation in whatever subject they like, and without others being rude about it!

I haven't been around much but I certainly haven't missed this trend

Ignore him. He's just one of those people that likes to criticise. He could've read the topic, thought not for me, and scrolled past.

Instead, he insults the theme of the thread, saying its a stupid question and the forum is full of them.

But then continues to read and post comments in the aforementioned 'stupid thread'??

Yes, at first I found him laughable but now I think he might be learning disabled so I just don’t respond"

Wow! Some of us have learning difficulties but we still deserve to be responded to, Somebody saying something you don't agree with is not the same as being learning disabled.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I think it's all about context. About what term works best within the situation being spoken or written about. All of woman, lady, female, girl, fem, femme, hun, hinny (geordie dialect for those who don't know), lass (yorkshire/lancashire) and many others can be used in a respectful manner or a derogatory manner.

We need to listen less to the specific words being used, and listen harder to the intent behind the words.

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By *rixie_Blonde OP Woman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

We don't see female homosapien written anywhere outside of academic research.

Almost all the toilets I see have "gents/ladies or men/women" written on the signs.

I personally always use the gender neutral toilet anyway, even the picture that represents me is gender neutral

Yes gender neutral.........forgot about that!

This is it, I think he might be learning disabled rather than a troll. So I just don’t engage, it’s not fair on him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A female what?

Exactly.

A female homosapien

And where do we see that written, day to day?

Female, in hospitals, gyms, and WCs.......

Don't think I've ever seen female homosapien written in any of these places.

Ok you go to the gym would you be happy to let males, men blokes or guys into the changing area?

It's gone right over your head hasn't it!

If it has I would welcome an explanation as to why?

What has saying you don't see female homosapien written everywhere got to do with men being in a female changing room?

You are being ridiculous now.

No I'm really not. You said in response to me saying you don't see female homosapien written anywhere you stated that you do.

Really? You’re arguably being obtuse but the next time I see sign that identifies the female description I will take picture and e mail it to you.

OK you're not making any sense anymore and I think you should read back what you have been quoting on. "

Ok I did say that the use of the term female was used was used in hospitals. My last GUM check up was in the male clinic of the hospital. The sign said male there was also a sign saying female. I dare say nobody gave a second thought to being aggressed or encumbered by those terms.