FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosted

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

You'd best ask them.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"You'd best ask them."

How can he? They’re ignoring him!

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"You'd best ask them.

How can he? They’re ignoring him!"

What a bamboozlement OP has found themselves in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

This isn't limited to just women.

Both men and women stop conversations for various reasons but I'd say the most common reasons are:

-Loss of interest or excitement in the convo

-Loss of horn (mostly men this one)

-Start talking to someone else and its easier to ghost a stranger than to explain and be truthful with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You'd best ask them.

How can he? They’re ignoring him!"

Exactly

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Sometimes it just peters out, more often I find if they aren’t that local to you and a social / meet involves travel on both parts. It happens, most people chat to others in parallel and sometimes it happens… don’t sweat it.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

just because someone stops talking dont mean you've been ghosted ...

the reason they stop talking would suggest many things with the main one being they changed their mind about talking .. nobody is owed anything on this site that includes chat ..

ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication: ... ie to ghost someone is to be someone whos a friend /or partner not someone who chatting in a casual way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just because someone stops talking dont mean you've been ghosted ...

the reason they stop talking would suggest many things with the main one being they changed their mind about talking .. nobody is owed anything on this site that includes chat ..

I agree!

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

St Austell

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

Surely the text conversation is going to end sooner or later anyway - I mean you're not going to keep texting until one of you dies are you....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The Fab terms are that no reply or further interaction = no interestm it's a time honoured tradition here and reasonable to assume that users continue with it, when they branch out, to offsite messaging.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people and it will typ take several interactions before this becomes clear. When it's a dead end, you need to reorient yourself and move on.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

OP. That really isn’t ghosting…

If a brief text convo has stopped maybe try to start it up again. If that doesn’t work then just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

Simply because they can ..and do.. without any explanation, not only on fab but in real life too.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

All sorts of reasons, mine is i got bored of the conversation, too busy in their off fab life, they said something off putting/indicate red flags or found a better offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't waste my time worrying about it if I were you OP, plenty more people on here to talk to who you might have a better chance with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number of reasons. People nowadays think the grass is always greener, they want lots of attention and think they are the best human going or the interest has gone elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There could be a million and one reasons. Why even bother overthinking it, just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There could be a million and one reasons. Why even bother overthinking it, just move on"

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they don’t see you as worth taking into consideration.

It is not like you have feelings you know

So instead of taking your feelings and emotions into account when triggered by theirs, they just act like you aren’t good enough to deserve an explanation.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

If it’s an exchange of a few fab messages then that has just fizzled out naturally I would say. I wouldn’t call it ghosting.

If there’s a connection and lots of talking then I think ghosting someone is pretty cruel actually. It doesn’t take much to drop a message and explain why they would rather leave it there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s very simple OP.

When a lady stops replying suddenly to a man it’s because it’s her prerogative, she owes you nothing, move on and stop whinging.

When a man stops replying suddenly to a woman, it’s because he’s clearly a cu*t, it’s his loss, and you look FABULOUS, Hun, he must be crazy!!!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Because they don’t see you as worth taking into consideration.

It is not like you have feelings you know

So instead of taking your feelings and emotions into account when triggered by theirs, they just act like you aren’t good enough to deserve an explanation. "

This...and because some people simply just don't care about their behaviour to others, block and move on OP. Sometimes you just cannot get the closure you want/need, but you can protect yourself from more hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they don’t see you as worth taking into consideration.

It is not like you have feelings you know

So instead of taking your feelings and emotions into account when triggered by theirs, they just act like you aren’t good enough to deserve an explanation.

He's not in a relationship with the whoever is ghosting him.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"
you said something she didn't like or you were boring or she dropped her phone down toilet or she was a guy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Sometimes it's a necessary evil if one person is carrying the conversation while the other is nonchalant, inexpressive and lacking in conversation skills.

It's not ghosting if you stop entertaining mediocrity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they don’t see you as worth taking into consideration.

It is not like you have feelings you know

So instead of taking your feelings and emotions into account when triggered by theirs, they just act like you aren’t good enough to deserve an explanation.

He's not in a relationship with the whoever is ghosting him. "

Oh yes maybe we read too much into it

If he was , it would be even worse.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Probably the same reason as anyone on here stops chatting to someone,they have lost interest in the chat.It could be any number of reasons. It's not ghosting to me it's just a chat fizzling out like so many do on here. I've done it before for several different reasons,and I have had it happen to me. It's not a big deal.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Life goes on and you have to as well

I speak from recent experience where I thought things were going well, from weekends together to even booking a holiday to being totally ghosted

You have to move on or it will eat you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you

Surely the text conversation is going to end sooner or later anyway - I mean you're not going to keep texting until one of you dies are you...."

Maybe they died!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message me instead lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you

Surely the text conversation is going to end sooner or later anyway - I mean you're not going to keep texting until one of you dies are you....

Maybe they died!!

I agree this comment has more impact now that the one you previously did

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By *anJXMan
over a year ago

Warrington

The nature of the site

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"Because they don’t see you as worth taking into consideration.

It is not like you have feelings you know

So instead of taking your feelings and emotions into account when triggered by theirs, they just act like you aren’t good enough to deserve an explanation.

He's not in a relationship with the whoever is ghosting him. "

Tbf it doesn't matter if he is in a relationship or a friendship, to be blatantly ignored by someone who you have been striking up a connection with without any explanation is really hurtful.

I know I have seriously increased my being used trust issues whenever it's happened to me.

A simple " I don't wish to take this any further" is all it costs.

If they then turn crazy the block button is your friend.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

Maybe they are bored with the conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

How long were you chatting for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can be a vary of reasons but at least they've showed theirselves before you waste anymore time. The ones that ghost you after sex are the worst ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can be a vary of reasons but at least they've showed theirselves before you waste anymore time. The ones that ghost you after sex are the worst ones."

Oh yes ! So pathetic and childish.

Or the ones that ghost you after so many years of talking as if you were a piss of shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

I do it right back now, when they ghost me I make sure I don’t message or call them too. That’ll teach em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they don’t see you as worth taking into consideration.

It is not like you have feelings you know

So instead of taking your feelings and emotions into account when triggered by theirs, they just act like you aren’t good enough to deserve an explanation.

He's not in a relationship with the whoever is ghosting him.

Tbf it doesn't matter if he is in a relationship or a friendship, to be blatantly ignored by someone who you have been striking up a connection with without any explanation is really hurtful.

I know I have seriously increased my being used trust issues whenever it's happened to me.

A simple " I don't wish to take this any further" is all it costs.

If they then turn crazy the block button is your friend."

It is not hurtful to ignore someone you have been chatting to on a casual sex site.

We don't know the other parties side of it.

And let's face it, they are now the subject of a forum thread. I would not be happy if someone I had chatted to started a thread because I ignored them.

So it looks like they were right to ignore the OP doesn't it.

I think I prefer to block before " they turn crazy"

A simple "I don't want to take this any further" will lead to being asked for an explanation.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Because they don’t see you as worth taking into consideration.

It is not like you have feelings you know

So instead of taking your feelings and emotions into account when triggered by theirs, they just act like you aren’t good enough to deserve an explanation.

He's not in a relationship with the whoever is ghosting him.

Tbf it doesn't matter if he is in a relationship or a friendship, to be blatantly ignored by someone who you have been striking up a connection with without any explanation is really hurtful.

I know I have seriously increased my being used trust issues whenever it's happened to me.

A simple " I don't wish to take this any further" is all it costs.

If they then turn crazy the block button is your friend.

It is not hurtful to ignore someone you have been chatting to on a casual sex site.

We don't know the other parties side of it.

And let's face it, they are now the subject of a forum thread. I would not be happy if someone I had chatted to started a thread because I ignored them.

So it looks like they were right to ignore the OP doesn't it.

I think I prefer to block before " they turn crazy"

A simple "I don't want to take this any further" will lead to being asked for an explanation.

It can be hurtful to the person who has been ghosted though. It might be a casual sex site but not all interactions are casual, some go far beyond that.

If I was making that connection with someone I wouldn’t expect to be treated the same way you would treat a FAF message. That’s the point of building the connection, surely?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

Not only women do this.

To answer your question - cancel/swipe culture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They just wanted to sext and they’d finished flicking the bean?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you

Surely the text conversation is going to end sooner or later anyway - I mean you're not going to keep texting until one of you dies are you....

Maybe they died!!

I agree this comment has more impact now that the one you previously did

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yes they died of covid so poignant

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've deliberately ghosted someone I was chatting to for 18 months.

I had stupidly enabled her need for drama and obsession with what others were doing for long enough.

I found that despite disagreeing with her constantly and questioning her obsessions she continued to share other peoples personal details as a way of backing up her argument.

No matter how I walked away from those conversations I was always going to end up with a target on my back and have my details given to other acolytes so the best thing to do was just stop responding and life has been so much better ever since.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I've deliberately ghosted someone I was chatting to for 18 months.

I had stupidly enabled her need for drama and obsession with what others were doing for long enough.

I found that despite disagreeing with her constantly and questioning her obsessions she continued to share other peoples personal details as a way of backing up her argument.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it either feels the conversation has run its course or I'm getting red flags from something that's said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you

Not only women do this.

To answer your question - cancel/swipe culture.

I do think times are changing the way we are trying to be told this is how we are supposed to do things.

And this is why I get annoyed when someone on here say delete is ‘a polite no’. There’s nothing polite about it. Ghosting could be taken that way. It’s a polite way of saying I changed my mind about talking to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it’s an exchange of a few fab messages then that has just fizzled out naturally I would say. I wouldn’t call it ghosting.

If there’s a connection and lots of talking then I think ghosting someone is pretty cruel actually. It doesn’t take much to drop a message and explain why they would rather leave it there

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Absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some women just stop a text conversation and ghost you"

The type of person who does this is unlikely to explain themselves here.

How hard is it to send 1 more message saying thanks but no thanks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When dies it become ghosting instead of just the end of a conversation?

I mean, the conversation can naturally end without the need to say 'I'm not ghosting you, I still like you, I'll talk to you later' or whatever...

..that feels like there's some level of commitment or obligation..can't we just pick up where we left off at some point in time with no stress or expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are saying it's cruel and pathetic to ghost someone after sharing a connection with them. But it's easy to say that without knowing the full story. I've cut plenty of people out of my life who I've cared about for various reasons. Maybe I've had enough of them treating me like shit, maybe I've had enough of them feeding me bullshit and lies and never feeling good enough. Maybe I've had to walk away for my own sanity because it's an endless circle and a discussion you've already had multiple times.

You don't always owe someone a goodbye even if you did share something meaningful. Sometimes it's already painful enough without a goodbye conversation that will add more hurt, anger or questions.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Most of the time the agreeved person feels there is more of a connection or fears losing what the connection may signify.

Either way it’s just part of human nature that people will chose to focus their time on things they value as opposed to something they do not.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Halloween was so 2 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men do this to

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

its not ghosting jeeze come on ghosting is a term for people who know each other well friends/relationships so its a word that dont fit this argument ..

it getting sad that people expect a reaction or answer to everything its a very entitled view too its a swinging site a face book for swinger that sadly works better for women and couple than it does for men ... because of the % /ratio alot of men cling to everything ie a message or a chat is a hope rather than just a chat so thing cling to it hoping its there chance or something like that ... there nothing rude about it if the chat goes dead what is rude is those thinking they are owed more thats rude nobody male or female is owed anything not just on this site but life in general its how the world spins ...

those saying a simple thanks but no thanks would work ...?? your kidding right i could write a book on the reaction to that saying from why to full on abuse ...

its simple nobody owes you anything and that has zero to do with manners ...thats just your entitlement thoughts

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