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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have yoy ever had dreams of a love one who's passed away? If so what happened in the dream ? Did it happen more than once?

My Grandmother passed away in my teenage years. We were really close. Many years later when my husband and I were trying for kids I started praying to her to help me gave kids. I don't know why i prayed as I'm not a big believer in the afterlife but about 6 months later I started to have dreams of my grandmother. I couldn't always remember what happened during them. The dreams became regular and about 2 months after they started happening I found out I was pregnant. After this the dreams stopped.

I now only occasionally have dream of her and mostly just when I need her. Brings me comfort though.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Both my parents died in 2020. I've had some really vivid and intense dreams with them in.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Often yes one in particular was very strange x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of but she hadnt died just gone away and it drove me to insanity the way the dreams had me worried and tormented it was the hardest couple years of my life and proberbly helped cement the loss too

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Yes, occasionally. Sometimes it's really random, but usually around anniversaries.

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By *ovingSussexLifeMan
over a year ago

West Sussex

I was incredibly close to my nan. Still dream about her, and she still gives me advice in a strange sort of way.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I have dreams that my mother is still with us .. the funniest part to me is the fact she left me every thing as an only child , but she comes back still living in her own home etc with no income obviously .

Wakes me up in a bit of a flap thinking I should give it all back ..

Bless her, I miss her , been gone 16 years the dream is fairly frequent too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dream about 3 relatives and a friend that died. One of my relatives I dream about seems to have some sort of pattern 3 or 4 times a week for a month, then nothing for a month. The pattern has been happening since he died in 2020. The others seem to show up when they feel like it all completely random dreams and different every time.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Weirdly, I haven't dreamt about my deceased family, not even my Grandparents who I adored and spent so much of my time with.

I have dreams with colleagues in, teammates from basketball, my husband, but actually I don't have vivid dreams that often.

Mr KC reports never having had a dream that he remembers at all, ever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have dreams that my mother is still with us .. the funniest part to me is the fact she left me every thing as an only child , but she comes back still living in her own home etc with no income obviously .

Wakes me up in a bit of a flap thinking I should give it all back ..

Bless her, I miss her , been gone 16 years the dream is fairly frequent too . "

Is it a reoccurring dream ? I have a dream at least twice a week and always basically the same thing. It's nothing to do with a loved one. Its more a memory from when I was younger. Not a good one either. I'm not sure if it actually happened but freaks me out all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have dreams with my late husband in, I have nightmares. He's always angry with me in them, as he was in life. X

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"I have dreams that my mother is still with us .. the funniest part to me is the fact she left me every thing as an only child , but she comes back still living in her own home etc with no income obviously .

Wakes me up in a bit of a flap thinking I should give it all back ..

Bless her, I miss her , been gone 16 years the dream is fairly frequent too .

Is it a reoccurring dream ? I have a dream at least twice a week and always basically the same thing. It's nothing to do with a loved one. Its more a memory from when I was younger. Not a good one either. I'm not sure if it actually happened but freaks me out all the same."

Yes pretty much on a similar vein. I think perhaps when I am particularly upset or stressed as it was only the two of us , she was very clingy .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Weirdly, I haven't dreamt about my deceased family, not even my Grandparents who I adored and spent so much of my time with.

I have dreams with colleagues in, teammates from basketball, my husband, but actually I don't have vivid dreams that often.

Mr KC reports never having had a dream that he remembers at all, ever."

I can't imagine never remembering a dream but there quite a few people who say thay never recalled having one.

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By *astandtheCurious2Couple
over a year ago

letchworth

Strangely I’m always dreaming of being at my nans house but not necessarily about her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Dad passed away 8 years ago and I have very vivid dreams about him frequently none that make any sense at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was incredibly close to my nan. Still dream about her, and she still gives me advice in a strange sort of way. "

That must be a nice feeling

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have dreams that my mother is still with us .. the funniest part to me is the fact she left me every thing as an only child , but she comes back still living in her own home etc with no income obviously .

Wakes me up in a bit of a flap thinking I should give it all back ..

Bless her, I miss her , been gone 16 years the dream is fairly frequent too .

Is it a reoccurring dream ? I have a dream at least twice a week and always basically the same thing. It's nothing to do with a loved one. Its more a memory from when I was younger. Not a good one either. I'm not sure if it actually happened but freaks me out all the same.

Yes pretty much on a similar vein. I think perhaps when I am particularly upset or stressed as it was only the two of us , she was very clingy . "

It's weired how dreams work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't have dreams with my late husband in, I have nightmares. He's always angry with me in them, as he was in life. X"

Sorry to here that. There are trick that you can do to help get rid of the nightmares. It takes a bit work but does work.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i have dreams fighting and arguing with my dad,, i loved my dad and he loved me,, so it doesnt make sense

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

I was very fond of my first boyfriend's dad, a really lovely man who fell ill and died far too young. I was out of their lives by the time he passed, and this was years ago, but I've had a couple of dreams involving him since, where we were hanging out and talking. It's nice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have dreams fighting and arguing with my dad,, i loved my dad and he loved me,, so it doesnt make sense"

Yah it's a strange one

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By *ttmcdguyTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Not so much of a dream more of a prescribed drug hallucination

Several years back I had a bout of severe headaches due to a defective valve in my brain

I was prescribed tramadol

I over cooked them 1 evening and sat in my garden talking to the bush that was my grandad who had died 10 years before

The weirder thing was the following evening same situation but the bush was my best mate who died the 9 years previous

That was the last time I took tramadol and the last time I had any issues with my brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel lucky to have had my beloved Grandpa visit me in my dreams recently. He was feeding my cat who I recently lost and in the dream it was a completely normal thing, despite him never having done that before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not so much of a dream more of a prescribed drug hallucination

Several years back I had a bout of severe headaches due to a defective valve in my brain

I was prescribed tramadol

I over cooked them 1 evening and sat in my garden talking to the bush that was my grandad who had died 10 years before

The weirder thing was the following evening same situation but the bush was my best mate who died the 9 years previous

That was the last time I took tramadol and the last time I had any issues with my brain

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Yikes that's scary

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

I had several dreams after a particularly traumatic bereavement. In one dream I was trying to find him in this huge building, and eventually saw him frantically banging against a window and sobbing but we couldn't get to each other. In another dream about the same person it was like we were in a parallel universe where the accident had been a near-miss and he was shaken up but ok.

I've also had several dreams that predicted deaths - including the person I had those other dreams about.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I've never dreamed about a loved one who has died. I'm lucky in that I've been able to spend time with them while I knew they were dying and we were able to conclude our business with each other (not as cold hearted as it sounds). I have dreamed about someone I didn't know too well but was involved in a complicated situation I was part of, I dreamed they sat on my bed and told me everything was alright. I think that was my subconscious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had several dreams after a particularly traumatic bereavement. In one dream I was trying to find him in this huge building, and eventually saw him frantically banging against a window and sobbing but we couldn't get to each other. In another dream about the same person it was like we were in a parallel universe where the accident had been a near-miss and he was shaken up but ok.

I've also had several dreams that predicted deaths - including the person I had those other dreams about."

I'm intrigued! I find dreams fascinating, especially when they appear to be premonitions. Apparently we don't all dream in the same way, not everyone sees the facial features of the people in their dreams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have dreams with my late husband in, I have nightmares. He's always angry with me in them, as he was in life. X"

Your in charge in your dreams and can basically do anything you ever wanted to do

So if you like you could stop him saying anything and tell him exactly how you feel and make him "bugger off"

Might help you when you next see him in your dreams

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Both my parents died in 2020. I've had some really vivid and intense dreams with them in."

Both my parents died in 2020 as well. I was there when my mum died and remember seeing her on the floor and all i wanted to do was lay next to her and her and give me one last hug...a couple of days after i had a dream my mum was hugging me tightly..i could feel her hair on my cheek, i could smell her. We spoke and i was begging her not to leave me...i was heart broken but i got my last hug.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had several dreams after a particularly traumatic bereavement. In one dream I was trying to find him in this huge building, and eventually saw him frantically banging against a window and sobbing but we couldn't get to each other. In another dream about the same person it was like we were in a parallel universe where the accident had been a near-miss and he was shaken up but ok.

I've also had several dreams that predicted deaths - including the person I had those other dreams about."

Wow that would probably freak me out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't have dreams with my late husband in, I have nightmares. He's always angry with me in them, as he was in life. X

Your in charge in your dreams and can basically do anything you ever wanted to do

So if you like you could stop him saying anything and tell him exactly how you feel and make him "bugger off"

Might help you when you next see him in your dreams"

I wish this were true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Both my parents died in 2020. I've had some really vivid and intense dreams with them in.

Both my parents died in 2020 as well. I was there when my mum died and remember seeing her on the floor and all i wanted to do was lay next to her and her and give me one last hug...a couple of days after i had a dream my mum was hugging me tightly..i could feel her hair on my cheek, i could smell her. We spoke and i was begging her not to leave me...i was heart broken but i got my last hug."

Sorry to here this. Can't imagine how hard it must be to loose your mother x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often dream about my wife who died 11 years ago. Mostly about us playing with my 2 youngest grandchildren who never knew her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often dream about my wife who died 11 years ago. Mostly about us playing with my 2 youngest grandchildren who never knew her."

That's a lovely dream to have.

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By *im67Man
over a year ago

London

I don't usually remember my dreams but I was very close to my mother and I'll often have a dreams of her on occasions such as close to her birthday Christmas .

The one's at Christmas are usually sad one's I cooked her a Christmas dinner on Christmas day she was moved to a hospice on boxing day and passed away 10 days later.

I really used to enjoy Christmas but ever since it's one of the times of year I dread.

Sorry if I have come across as a doom and gloom merchant I do have happy dreams as well but I have Christmas in my head as its not far off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time , I have lots of dreams about my sons mom who passed away , and I guess it mainly the same dream where she is always guiding me and pushing me to do more than my best as I do believe that's the level I have to live at now, I know it's just dreams but I do take it as reality and push even harder in life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't usually remember my dreams but I was very close to my mother and I'll often have a dreams of her on occasions such as close to her birthday Christmas .

The one's at Christmas are usually sad one's I cooked her a Christmas dinner on Christmas day she was moved to a hospice on boxing day and passed away 10 days later.

I really used to enjoy Christmas but ever since it's one of the times of year I dread.

Sorry if I have come across as a doom and gloom merchant I do have happy dreams as well but I have Christmas in my head as its not far off "

No need to be sorry x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the time , I have lots of dreams about my sons mom who passed away , and I guess it mainly the same dream where she is always guiding me and pushing me to do more than my best as I do believe that's the level I have to live at now, I know it's just dreams but I do take it as reality and push even harder in life"

Once you don't push yourself to far x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was very fond of my first boyfriend's dad, a really lovely man who fell ill and died far too young. I was out of their lives by the time he passed, and this was years ago, but I've had a couple of dreams involving him since, where we were hanging out and talking. It's nice.

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Sounds lovely

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Unfortunately for me I have not seen my parents in a dream. My father passed away when I was 5 so have very little memories. Would love to meet up with him just for a day and hear his voice

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By *arkcrystalMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Dreams about my parents and time travelling back to when they were alive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unfortunately for me I have not seen my parents in a dream. My father passed away when I was 5 so have very little memories. Would love to meet up with him just for a day and hear his voice "

Oh sorry to here this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dreams about my parents and time travelling back to when they were alive"

Sounds nice

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

My wife died in 2005. A few years later I dreamt she walked back into the house as if nothing had happened. She told she faked her own death and was back now. She said it like it was of no importance. I thought of my grief and that of my 9 kids grief. I got so angry i chucked her out. I then woke up, very weird dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my partner died in 2015 I had a recurring dream that he was still alive and his daughters wouldn't let me see him. Weird because I am very close to his daughters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My wife died in 2005. A few years later I dreamt she walked back into the house as if nothing had happened. She told she faked her own death and was back now. She said it like it was of no importance. I thought of my grief and that of my 9 kids grief. I got so angry i chucked her out. I then woke up, very weird dream"

Sounds like a strange dream alright.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel lucky to have had my beloved Grandpa visit me in my dreams recently. He was feeding my cat who I recently lost and in the dream it was a completely normal thing, despite him never having done that before.

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This sounds really lovely

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By *arkcrystalMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Dreams about my parents and time travelling back to when they were alive

Sounds nice "

Have to use a portal through a painting in a church but is nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dreams about my parents and time travelling back to when they were alive

Sounds nice

Have to use a portal through a painting in a church but is nice "

Oh I thought maybe you used a car or horse and rode into the future

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I’ve lost a baby, both parents and my best friend and at various points I have had dreams about them all. Whenever I dream about my Dad I always wake myself up with laughing but I can never remember what the dream was other than I was with my Dad and we were having a great time

I have also woken up crying. Maybe I’m a deep thinker, who knows

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"When my partner died in 2015 I had a recurring dream that he was still alive and his daughters wouldn't let me see him. Weird because I am very close to his daughters."

Thankfully my dream only happened the once.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"My wife died in 2005. A few years later I dreamt she walked back into the house as if nothing had happened. She told she faked her own death and was back now. She said it like it was of no importance. I thought of my grief and that of my 9 kids grief. I got so angry i chucked her out. I then woke up, very weird dream

Sounds like a strange dream alright."

Thankfully only dreamt it the once. I've had other dreams about her but they were pleasant ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to when it first happened. Used to have crazy dreams that seemed real. Not anymore

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Often and sometimes with a few members of family (and my dog) who have passed away in the same dream, some dreams are just seeing them with nothing happening and some that make no sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve lost a baby, both parents and my best friend and at various points I have had dreams about them all. Whenever I dream about my Dad I always wake myself up with laughing but I can never remember what the dream was other than I was with my Dad and we were having a great time

I have also woken up crying. Maybe I’m a deep thinker, who knows "

I like the idea of waking up laughing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Often and sometimes with a few members of family (and my dog) who have passed away in the same dream, some dreams are just seeing them with nothing happening and some that make no sense. "

Most of mine make no sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My wife died in 2005. A few years later I dreamt she walked back into the house as if nothing had happened. She told she faked her own death and was back now. She said it like it was of no importance. I thought of my grief and that of my 9 kids grief. I got so angry i chucked her out. I then woke up, very weird dream

Sounds like a strange dream alright.

Thankfully only dreamt it the once. I've had other dreams about her but they were pleasant ones"

Well that's good at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a few about my husband, searching for him in a dream and saying phew I’ve found you! You gave me a fright there (when he was in hospital)

Also had one where it was a week after he had died and we were talking, but in the dream I had the realisation that it couldn’t be real, and how could he be breathing when he’d died the week before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had loads of dreams about people I have lost... but only two vivid ones that felt so lifelike.

I hope those kind of dreams mean something... and they could be our loved ones coming back to us in a way. I don't know. But seeing them again, hearing their voice is always so bittersweet.

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By *issalignedTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer in 2018. I was travelling to see him but missed him by a half a day. That night i slept in his room, next to the bed he passed away in. I found his prayer book under his pillow, the small Bertie basset i had sent him weeks previously for Father’s Day. That night I was sure I’d see him, an apparition or something. It never happened nor has ever.

When we hope, we just think it might.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve had a few about my husband, searching for him in a dream and saying phew I’ve found you! You gave me a fright there (when he was in hospital)

Also had one where it was a week after he had died and we were talking, but in the dream I had the realisation that it couldn’t be real, and how could he be breathing when he’d died the week before? "

That sounds like a tough dream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?"

I don’t think die has ever become unacceptable it’s just passed away is a softer term to use. Some folk are sensitive and/or spiritual and prefer to use terms like ‘passed on’. Absolutely nothing wrong with it from what I can see

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?

I don’t think die has ever become unacceptable it’s just passed away is a softer term to use. Some folk are sensitive and/or spiritual and prefer to use terms like ‘passed on’. Absolutely nothing wrong with it from what I can see "

100 percent what he said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?"

Check my first post, I said died but that's because I work in palliative/ end of life care. We are advised to say died/ dying to avoid jargon and confusion.

Some people are a matter of fact and are happy to say dying/dead and others can't bring themselves to use those words. Others don't put that much thought into it as it's what everyone says. Surely people can use whatever terminology they prefer though.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?"

because it's softer language and when you're talking about the most important people in your life dying sometimes it's too painful to use such cold language.

Too 'lazy' to say passed away? Jesus Christ...Get a grip.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I had a dream about my great auntie lizzie. In it she was knitting dolls clothes and putting them on the dolls and giving them to the neighbourhood children which she always did. In the same dream she took me shopping for a knitting pattern I used to knit alot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?

Check my first post, I said died but that's because I work in palliative/ end of life care. We are advised to say died/ dying to avoid jargon and confusion.

Some people are a matter of fact and are happy to say dying/dead and others can't bring themselves to use those words. Others don't put that much thought into it as it's what everyone says. Surely people can use whatever terminology they prefer though."

Yes I think they can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a dream about my great auntie lizzie. In it she was knitting dolls clothes and putting them on the dolls and giving them to the neighbourhood children which she always did. In the same dream she took me shopping for a knitting pattern I used to knit alot"

Would love to be able to knit

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?"

Passed away is certainly not new ive heard that term for years. Passed on is relatively new though. Does it really matter what term is used, everyone knows what it means? I don't think it's a matter of laziness it's a matter of what a person is comfortable with. I use the term die or died.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?

Passed away is certainly not new ive heard that term for years. Passed on is relatively new though. Does it really matter what term is used, everyone knows what it means? I don't think it's a matter of laziness it's a matter of what a person is comfortable with. I use the term die or died."

Have to agree with your comment. It's what ever the person is most comfortable saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My Dad passed away 8 years ago and I have very vivid dreams about him frequently none that make any sense at all"

Nice to dream of him all the same

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I've had dreams of my brother several times since he passed in January 2021.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had dreams of my brother several times since he passed in January 2021."

All good dreams I hope.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was just telling Mr N that I dreamed about his mum and step father last night. Both have been dead for several years. We decided what I dreamed was very true and relevant

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over a year ago


"I was just telling Mr N that I dreamed about his mum and step father last night. Both have been dead for several years. We decided what I dreamed was very true and relevant "

Hope it was a nice dream

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"Have yoy ever had dreams of a love one who's passed away? If so what happened in the dream ? Did it happen more than once?

My Grandmother passed away in my teenage years. We were really close. Many years later when my husband and I were trying for kids I started praying to her to help me gave kids. I don't know why i prayed as I'm not a big believer in the afterlife but about 6 months later I started to have dreams of my grandmother. I couldn't always remember what happened during them. The dreams became regular and about 2 months after they started happening I found out I was pregnant. After this the dreams stopped.

I now only occasionally have dream of her and mostly just when I need her. Brings me comfort though."

This is literally exactly what happened to me! My Gran died in 08 when I was pregnant with my son, and she came into my dream the night before and said goodbye to me. Then in 2012 I started being really aware of her again - could intensely feel her. Then I fell pregnant with my daughter that summer. I had a lot of trouble conceiving, so it was a bit of a miracle. Grans rock x

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"Not wishing to appear unsensitive, when when did the term 'die' become unacceptable? Why have people started using the term 'passed away' and it seems people have become too lazy to say 'passed away' and now only use 'passed'?

Passed away is certainly not new ive heard that term for years. Passed on is relatively new though. Does it really matter what term is used, everyone knows what it means? I don't think it's a matter of laziness it's a matter of what a person is comfortable with. I use the term die or died."

I think it’sa way of people trying to soften the impact. Which can feel gentle to some, or invalidating or confusing to others. I tend to say died, but I’ve had a v close relative die recently and I’m used to being direct about it.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


"I've had dreams of my brother several times since he passed in January 2021.

All good dreams I hope."

Nothing bad, it's like he checks in to see how everyone is

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over a year ago


"I've had dreams of my brother several times since he passed in January 2021.

All good dreams I hope.

Nothing bad, it's like he checks in to see how everyone is "

That's a lovely way of thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have yoy ever had dreams of a love one who's passed away? If so what happened in the dream ? Did it happen more than once?

My Grandmother passed away in my teenage years. We were really close. Many years later when my husband and I were trying for kids I started praying to her to help me gave kids. I don't know why i prayed as I'm not a big believer in the afterlife but about 6 months later I started to have dreams of my grandmother. I couldn't always remember what happened during them. The dreams became regular and about 2 months after they started happening I found out I was pregnant. After this the dreams stopped.

I now only occasionally have dream of her and mostly just when I need her. Brings me comfort though.

This is literally exactly what happened to me! My Gran died in 08 when I was pregnant with my son, and she came into my dream the night before and said goodbye to me. Then in 2012 I started being really aware of her again - could intensely feel her. Then I fell pregnant with my daughter that summer. I had a lot of trouble conceiving, so it was a bit of a miracle. Grans rock x"

Oh that's lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had dreams of my brother several times since he passed in January 2021.

All good dreams I hope.

Nothing bad, it's like he checks in to see how everyone is

That's a lovely way of thinking about it "

Yah it is. Its nice to think our loved ones come back and visit us I'm our dreams x

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

When my dad died I had a recurring dream for about 2 years afterwards. Every 6 weeks or so I'd dream that he was still dead, but I was trying to dispose of his body and was trying to use my parents' hideous 1970s wardrobes with enormous orange door handles as a coffin, but it was too heavy so I had to get my mum's neighbours to help me lift the wardrobe with his body in down the stairs and into the hearse.

Oh yes, for some reason all the action took place in my mum's old house in spite of the fact she'd not lived there for decades and the two of them had divorced acrimoniously 11 years before he died.

I'd usually wake up before the makeshift coffin was halfway down the stairs.

I'm not sure it's a dream that is pregnant with meaning, but it is fairly representative of how difficult our relationship was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Dad died 28 years ago and I still dream every now and then usually about us being on holiday somewhere with me as a child

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over a year ago


"When my dad died I had a recurring dream for about 2 years afterwards. Every 6 weeks or so I'd dream that he was still dead, but I was trying to dispose of his body and was trying to use my parents' hideous 1970s wardrobes with enormous orange door handles as a coffin, but it was too heavy so I had to get my mum's neighbours to help me lift the wardrobe with his body in down the stairs and into the hearse.

Oh yes, for some reason all the action took place in my mum's old house in spite of the fact she'd not lived there for decades and the two of them had divorced acrimoniously 11 years before he died.

I'd usually wake up before the makeshift coffin was halfway down the stairs.

I'm not sure it's a dream that is pregnant with meaning, but it is fairly representative of how difficult our relationship was."

Wow that often

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