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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they lost what they could have had

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's kind of a consolation prize for the rejected person. I find it deeply patronising

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Yeah not really their loss if they've already moved on and aren't even thinking about it

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

It's a coping mechanism for their bruised ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "

Hi,

Probably struck a raw nerve with someone (rejection)?……is this what you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's kind of a consolation prize for the rejected person. I find it deeply patronising "

Deeply patronising lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's kind of a consolation prize for the rejected person. I find it deeply patronising

Deeply patronising lol. "

I didn't say anybody else would, just me. Why are you laughing at me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I made this post it would cause chaos

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"If I made this post it would cause chaos "

This one probably will end that way lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If I made this post it would cause chaos "

But if it didn't whose loss would it be?

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I was told it was my loss yesterday when I said no thanks to an offer of recreating one of my sex videos with this person. He said it was my loss, he just offered as I am old and average.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

To protect ones fragile ego

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "

It is copium for the rejected party

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Why would I think that someone had lost out, just because they didn't want to meet me? If they thought that, then they would have met me and to them, their opinion is the one that counts, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I made this post it would cause chaos

But if it didn't whose loss would it be? "

I’m not here to cause chaos. I want people (women) to get along so we can fuck

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Well for me if they block or ignore me it is their loss I’m bloody fantastic although I must admit in my early attempts at messaging on fab and often rebuffed I’d send them the “your loss” my how I’ve learnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a coping mechanism for some.

Just don't let it bother you OP.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "

"It's not you, it's them."

Yeah. OK.........

A

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Just a coping mechanism for some.

Just don't let it bother you OP."

Absolutely not bothered ..I'm just in an inquisitive mood x

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Rejection can be difficult - reframing it so that “you don’t know what you’re missing out on” protects the ego to an extent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is always there loss as to miss out on the greatest fuck in the universe(me) is a devastating unrecoverable wound theres no coming back from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like people who say 'that's a pity' or 'that's a shame' when you say you are not interested.

It's not a pity and it's not a shame - it is what it is we are not interested. We don't feel as if we are missing out on anything to be honest.

In fact when people respond with that nonsense we say wise choice....

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've been told it's my loss when someone who doesn't tick any boxes on my profile and I tick none of theirs messages with instructions or demands and are politely told to remove themselves forthwith.

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By *rivatedreamsMan
over a year ago

carlisle


"It's a coping mechanism for their bruised ego. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have. "

Fair enough but we were not talking about guys looking for friendship... they are typically the sort who ask to meet within a couple of messages ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like people who say 'that's a pity' or 'that's a shame' when you say you are not interested.

It's not a pity and it's not a shame - it is what it is we are not interested. We don't feel as if we are missing out on anything to be honest.

In fact when people respond with that nonsense we say wise choice.... "
the pitty i feel is always for them that they missed the cut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have.

Fair enough but we were not talking about guys looking for friendship... they are typically the sort who ask to meet within a couple of messages ...."

Oh right. They're just people who misinterpret the site. People think because it's a swinging site everyone is easy when in fact it's harder to get a date on here than a nunnery

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"the pitty i feel is always for them that they missed the cut "

This

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


" harder to get a date on here than a nunnery "

Yes but they’re dirty feckers

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


" harder to get a date on here than a nunnery

Yes but they’re dirty feckers"

Now where did I leave my wimple

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By *musedforlifeMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I just laugh when people say that, of course it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" harder to get a date on here than a nunnery

Yes but they’re dirty feckers

Now where did I leave my wimple "

I bet they are lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "

There loss is far more irritating

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By *musedforlifeMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Just a coping mechanism for some.

Just don't let it bother you OP.

Absolutely not bothered ..I'm just in an inquisitive mood x"

I like inquisitive, I also like chaos

I get turned down quite often, no point in resorting to insults. Just wish them well and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like people who say 'that's a pity' or 'that's a shame' when you say you are not interested.

It's not a pity and it's not a shame - it is what it is we are not interested. We don't feel as if we are missing out on anything to be honest.

In fact when people respond with that nonsense we say wise choice.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Single” men by any chance?

Had a few “single” men contact us who can’t accommodate because their housemate (wife) will be home.

The your loss usually comes at message 3-5 after you’ve said no she doesn’t meet alone.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


" Now where did I leave my wimple "

Sorry, I think I’m sat on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have.

Fair enough but we were not talking about guys looking for friendship... they are typically the sort who ask to meet within a couple of messages ....

Oh right. They're just people who misinterpret the site. People think because it's a swinging site everyone is easy when in fact it's harder to get a date on here than a nunnery "

Yes it is a swinging site - and some will ask to meet within a few messages and you know what that's allowed. The point is how some of them deal with being told no thanks and the things they say.

You're also correct just because people are swingers it doesn't mean they just jump into bed with every tom dick and harry that comes along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have.

Fair enough but we were not talking about guys looking for friendship... they are typically the sort who ask to meet within a couple of messages ....

Oh right. They're just people who misinterpret the site. People think because it's a swinging site everyone is easy when in fact it's harder to get a date on here than a nunnery

Yes it is a swinging site - and some will ask to meet within a few messages and you know what that's allowed. The point is how some of them deal with being told no thanks and the things they say.

You're also correct just because people are swingers it doesn't mean they just jump into bed with every tom dick and harry that comes along "

I've never said to anyone their loss. Not directly anyway lol. I never hassle anyone when I know they're not interested. I won't send more than 2 consecutive messages.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

T’heir loss.

That’s what happens to people from my hometown up north when the go bald.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Your loss' is up there with 'you'll feel sorry if you don't'

Eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have.

Fair enough but we were not talking about guys looking for friendship... they are typically the sort who ask to meet within a couple of messages ....

Oh right. They're just people who misinterpret the site. People think because it's a swinging site everyone is easy when in fact it's harder to get a date on here than a nunnery

Yes it is a swinging site - and some will ask to meet within a few messages and you know what that's allowed. The point is how some of them deal with being told no thanks and the things they say.

You're also correct just because people are swingers it doesn't mean they just jump into bed with every tom dick and harry that comes along

I've never said to anyone their loss. Not directly anyway lol. I never hassle anyone when I know they're not interested. I won't send more than 2 consecutive messages. "

Yes it's pointless hassling anyone

It's not going to get them to have a lightbulb moment and say .....wow maybe I am missing out with this guy ...

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"T’heir loss.

That’s what happens to people from my hometown up north when the go bald. "

I tell thee

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "
Its a comforter, softens the blow when they say something that ends it all...... So their loss and move onto next without a blink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have.

Fair enough but we were not talking about guys looking for friendship... they are typically the sort who ask to meet within a couple of messages ....

Oh right. They're just people who misinterpret the site. People think because it's a swinging site everyone is easy when in fact it's harder to get a date on here than a nunnery

Yes it is a swinging site - and some will ask to meet within a few messages and you know what that's allowed. The point is how some of them deal with being told no thanks and the things they say.

You're also correct just because people are swingers it doesn't mean they just jump into bed with every tom dick and harry that comes along

I've never said to anyone their loss. Not directly anyway lol. I never hassle anyone when I know they're not interested. I won't send more than 2 consecutive messages.

Yes it's pointless hassling anyone

It's not going to get them to have a lightbulb moment and say .....wow maybe I am missing out with this guy ... "

Lol true. Anyway, those who have turned me down... you're loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

salty salty

usually to make you feel bad about turning them down but for me it reinforces my initial stance....I actually take note of guys who respectfully bow out when rebuffed so if by chance I fancy what they have offered at any time in the future I feel ok to reach out... the salty ones who can't take a no usually blocked with haste

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I never understand why or how but if it makes them feel just a little bit better obviously doesn't take much to fulfill their day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think it is their loss. You won't have the opportunity to be in touch with someone like me often. I'm good to chat too and I have lots of stories to tell. Ok I may not be local for meeting up but to have as a friend. I'm sure the people I chat too will tell you the same. Not being big headed just I know from past experience that I'm a great friend to have.

Fair enough but we were not talking about guys looking for friendship... they are typically the sort who ask to meet within a couple of messages ....

Oh right. They're just people who misinterpret the site. People think because it's a swinging site everyone is easy when in fact it's harder to get a date on here than a nunnery

Yes it is a swinging site - and some will ask to meet within a few messages and you know what that's allowed. The point is how some of them deal with being told no thanks and the things they say.

You're also correct just because people are swingers it doesn't mean they just jump into bed with every tom dick and harry that comes along

I've never said to anyone their loss. Not directly anyway lol. I never hassle anyone when I know they're not interested. I won't send more than 2 consecutive messages.

Yes it's pointless hassling anyone

It's not going to get them to have a lightbulb moment and say .....wow maybe I am missing out with this guy ...

Lol true. Anyway, those who have turned me down... you're loss! "

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "
They lost out because they never got to realise how absolutely marvellous you would have been

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! They lost out because they never got to realise how absolutely marvellous you would have been "
unless they had an inkling you was a bunny boiler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"T’heir loss.

That’s what happens to people from my hometown up north when the go bald. "

(FlatCap)

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By *hedark_knightMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "

Coping mechanism for a bruised ego as some have mentioned. It also made me think of when people say after a breakup or whatever “it’ll be the biggest mistake of, said persons, life” or something along those lines.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Why do people say this to others?

Example: I've been chatting to X, they are now not messaging back, blocked me etc etc....

How is it "their loss".....you can't lose what you never had! "

Bingo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s basically a concept similar to Opportunity Cost .. ie the cost of the opportunity forgone when you choose one option over another.

Imagine you have a choice : you can go to the cinema or you can go to the pizza restaurant, one or the other. The opportunity cost of choosing the cinema is the restaurant visit (and vice versa).

So by not wanting to meet / shag you then there is a cost, or loss, of that opportunity to enjoy you in all your majesty!

Of course the option chosen may well have benefits way in excess of the loss forgone, but there is indeed always a loss, however minimal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I made this post it would cause chaos

But if it didn't whose loss would it be? "

And could they find it again?

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife


"No they lost what they could have had"

Love this

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Because they are trying to make you feel better.

Honestly if guys don't turn up to meet me, it's annoying to me but it's definitely their loss. They won't get to meet me again and they missed out on the best blow job they would of ever had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But its probably is their loss especially if it was me because I am actually a fantastic person in every shape and form of my life. It's so hard being me. But if somebody doesn't want anything to do with me it is their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But its probably is their loss especially if it was me because I am actually a fantastic person in every shape and form of my life. It's so hard being me. But if somebody doesn't want anything to do with me it is their loss. "

I’d like to do something with you…

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