FabSwingers.com forum: Not so gentle knock back

By *o-j OP Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Swapped a few emails on here with a lady , then we became ' friends ' and she sent a message ' can you send a face pic ' I did , less than a minute later I got a message ' no thank you hun ' and friends badge disappeared .

I mean I might not be the best looking 40 something but that seemed a bit harsh ....

Joanne xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

At Keats she didn't string you along x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"At Keats she didn't string you along x "

No, she was a right wordsworth.

OP: at least you got a reply. Don't worry about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I wouldn't let it bother you, next as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a thick skin on here!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

So what exactly did you expect her to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At Keats she didn't string you along x

No, she was a right wordsworth.

No point getting hot under the Coleridge about it.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

How do you think she should have handled it ...yes she was straight to the point but is that not better than using up another half dozen msgs to say the same thing in the end

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By *o-j OP Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Tbh I think it's funny , but it is a bit of a blow to a woman ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no easy way to say "sorry, I don't fancy you", so it's probably better to be honest and clear.

Kudos to her for that.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"At Keats she didn't string you along x

No, she was a right wordsworth.

No point getting hot under the Coleridge about it.

stupid fat fingers

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Swapped a few emails on here with a lady , then we became ' friends ' and she sent a message ' can you send a face pic ' I did , less than a minute later I got a message ' no thank you hun ' and friends badge disappeared .

I mean I might not be the best looking 40 something but that seemed a bit harsh ....

Joanne xx

I've had that off guys when I have sent a face pic. We can't be attractive to everyone. One person's goddess is another's munter. C'est la vie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got one a few weeks ago from a single woman along the lines of "Oh honey, you are so NOT attractive..." she then went on about some guy who was incredible in bed so no way would I measure up anyway!

I think I would have preferred her to have just deleted my initial message and ignored me

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Don't worry about it. I get it coupled with "Do one Igor"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got one a few weeks ago from a single woman along the lines of "Oh honey, you are so NOT attractive..." she then went on about some guy who was incredible in bed so no way would I measure up anyway!

I think I would have preferred her to have just deleted my initial message and ignored me

How rude of her!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've scared more than a few on here

The ones that piss me off are the people who message you a few times then ask for a face pic without sending theirs, even when they instigate the exchange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree.

Just exchanged a few emails with a women, I thought she was joking around at first. Then realised she was serious and I was still polite, then she blocked me ;(

Go figure!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

bit weird how shes in your friends list but didnt bother looking at your face pics?

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it was not a lady you was mailing but a man whos just looking to get pics. x Did you chat on phone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it personally. It's each to their own, so you can't please everybody.

I guess they're only keeping people they intend to meet on the Friends List ... hence taking you off.

Plenty more fish and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I didn't chat on phone.

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had it a few times and got used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I didn't chat on phone.

Good point!"
alot of the woman are men... i find i get lots mailing bi woman wishing to chat and ask me for lots of pics and things when i ask to chat on the phone ... some come clean or run off , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard enough for us married 'single' guys as it is on here

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

But what would be the point of chatting on the phone and then seeing a pic later and just not fancying them?

Noone likes to be rejected but we cant all fancy everyone. Id rather someone said that to me rather than string me along saying they are interested in meeting when they are not actually interested at all...

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By *o-j OP Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

After thinking about it she was fairly local maybe she reconised me ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no, even more ( potentially) dangerous!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Tbh I think it's funny , but it is a bit of a blow to a woman ego "

Bloody hell! Try being a single bloke on here!!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"After thinking about it she was fairly local maybe she reconised me ...."

Maybe she didn't find you attractive? There coule be loads of reasons! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had this once - sent both our face pics so we dont know which one is the ugly git

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

It is a gentle knock back, what would you consider to be gentle?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

it happens, its part of this aspect..

allways has and allways will be..

more so to some groups than others..

some are slightly lacking in their 'delivery' etc...hey ho

move one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we had this once - sent both our face pics so we dont know which one is the ugly git

Blame him, it is always the mans fault

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've had a couple block us when they got our face pics, we laughed about it and wondered if it was both of us it just one who put them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean I might not be the best looking 40 something but that seemed a bit harsh ....

Joanne xx

I didnt even get a no thanks sent the pic heard nothing clearly they were intimidated by my dashing looks lol

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

I think I would have preferred her to have just deleted my initial message and ignored me

I cannot understand why anybody would be so cruel like that.

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

We have had this a few times one woman told me I should raise my standards as Sir is no oil painting. She then tried to arrange a meeting a few weeks later telling us she would lower her standards for one night. Needless to say we didn't meet. You can't be everyone's cup of tea and you just have to laugh it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean I might not be the best looking 40 something but that seemed a bit harsh ....

Joanne xx

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At the end of the day this is an environment where people meet for recreational sex and if friendship comes from then that is good.

The whole concept of meeting on line is that you read some prose, view a picture or two and then make a descision as to attraction; a very fickle and floored process, hence some austere rejection messages! That said I recently got a thanks but no thanks message from a couple who were subsequently got let down and messaged me saying I was first reserve and could I get to their house within the hour! I politely declined using the "I have to wash my hair" excuse!! I may start a new site called "Recreational Sex for the sensitive"

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I mean I might not be the best looking 40 something but that seemed a bit harsh ....

Joanne xx

Wouldn't say it was harsh...if they didn't find you attractive then wouldn't you rather know than be strung along or meet up and them go through the motions. Know we prefer people to be honest with us.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I think I would have preferred her to have just deleted my initial message and ignored me

Now that's harsh! Can't see why people feel the need to sent messages like this.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"It is a gentle knock back, what would you consider to be gentle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After thinking about it she was fairly local maybe she reconised me ...."

or maybe she was just being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would have preferred her to have just deleted my initial message and ignored me

Now that's harsh! Can't see why people feel the need to sent messages like this.

Agreed, that's not just harsh it's downright rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least she sent you a message I just get blocked and no reply lol and as a lot of others have said next

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

she must of bin mad anyone wth a bod that hot mst have a nice face and its all about personalty 4 me, her loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she must of bin mad anyone wth a bod that hot mst have a nice face and its all about personalty 4 me, her loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only add people once I've actually met and don't have face pics on err !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the ones who ask for face pics to be sent to their e-mail account... I always politely say there are sufficient facial pics on our profile.... Sending them via e-mail is not going to change how we look...

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had a couple block us when they got our face pics, we laughed about it and wondered if it was both of us it just one who put them off."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've scared more than a few on here

The ones that piss me off are the people who message you a few times then ask for a face pic without sending theirs, even when they instigate the exchange.

You wouldn't scare us off next time we are your way we'll say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we had this once - sent both our face pics so we dont know which one is the ugly git

Blame him, it is always the mans fault

ahhhh but i think my man is gorgeous

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

That was a gentle knock back......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would have preferred her to have just deleted my initial message and ignored me

I cannot understand why anybody would be so cruel

like that. "

No worries, Karma the bitch will pay a visit. X

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"That was a gentle knock back......

not as if they printed your face pic and put it next to the fire to keep the kids away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hehe.... brilliant!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Didn't see anything wrong with the reply.

You should try being a single male on here!

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

yes us poor single men.......

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If someone sends me a face picture attatched to a nice message and i dont like the look of them, i just say no thanks. I thought it was polite, what else are you supposed to say

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"If someone sends me a face picture attatched to a nice message and i dont like the look of them, i just say no thanks. I thought it was polite, what else are you supposed to say"

maybe... You are far too hot for me

I may faint in the presence of your beauty

No thanks is better than "urgh the midwife must have slapped your mother when you were born!"

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

Don't assumeit's becauise she didn't like what she saw ... some people are intimidated by attrative people .... esprecially if you're gonna be sharing thier partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh I think it's funny , but it is a bit of a blow to a woman ego

Bloody hell! Try being a single bloke on here!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I think I would have preferred her to have just deleted my initial message and ignored me

I cannot understand why anybody would be so cruel like that. "

Not cruel: downright nasty!

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I mean I might not be the best looking 40 something but that seemed a bit harsh ....

Joanne xx

has this happened only once?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean I might not be the best looking 40 something but that seemed a bit harsh ....

Joanne xx

I don't think that is harsh at all

Harsh, to me, involves being rude or unnecessarily candid with someone.

I would suggest that the lady did not find you attractive, would not consider meeting and thus removed the need for a friends status.

Just out of interest, what sort of rejection or knock back process would you suggest that someone uses ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't assumeit's becauise she didn't like what she saw ... some people are intimidated by attrative people .... esprecially if you're gonna be sharing thier partner.

This may be one of the reasons...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my lass tried a threesome and now only wonts that she prefares alone though i am not sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you didnt get chance to see her does the curiosity not kill u?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no it just feels ok to me love to hear her moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chatting to the op

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