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"I got told I was a turd today because I hadn’t relied "The cheek of him. | |||
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"I got told I was absurd today because I hadn’t relied "relied on him? Omg but having said that some men aren't reliable  | |||
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"I got told I was absurd today because I hadn’t relied "You are absurd absurdy beautiful and wonderful  | |||
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"Pointless posts from women. Literally any post telling men something is pointless." Which is weird, given how many posts are by men asking why they get no luck on here. | |||
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"I've just had 'let's go girl' Not a clue where he wanted to go." Was it Shania Twain? | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men . "I'd give you one  | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
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"I've just had 'let's go girl' Not a clue where he wanted to go." He wanted to feel like a woman | |||
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"I've just had 'let's go girl' Not a clue where he wanted to go. Was it Shania Twain?" | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men . "Yup  | |||
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"Pointless posts from women. Literally any post telling men something is pointless. Which is weird, given how many posts are by men asking why they get no luck on here." The FAB paradox. Man posts thread asking where he’s going wrong. Man messages hundreds of women asking one of the above listed questions. Man posts thread asking where he’s going wrong. Woman posts thread telling men to stop messaging the above messages. Men don’t stop. And the cycle continues. | |||
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"I've just had 'let's go girl' Not a clue where he wanted to go." Sorry about that. Sometimes I just think with my dick | |||
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"Men bashing/women bashing. Thats pointless" Not bashing. Advice! I want messages just good ones lol | |||
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"I got told I was absurd today because I hadn’t relied
You are absurd
absurdy beautiful and wonderful "No, I’m absurd and fake apparently
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"I've just had 'let's go girl' Not a clue where he wanted to go. He wanted to feel like a woman " Very good | |||
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"Men bashing/women bashing. Thats pointless" 100% | |||
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"I think all messages are pointless to the receivers if they aren't interested. No amount of effort in a message is going to make you attracted to that person, you're either interested from the get go or not." Some truth in that! Hence why the repeated messages get a bit much! | |||
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"I got told I was absurd today because I hadn’t relied
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No, I’m absurd and fake apparently
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"I think all messages are pointless to the receivers if they aren't interested. No amount of effort in a message is going to make you attracted to that person, you're either interested from the get go or not." agreed. For a first message, If the profile isn’t interesting, anything they say is pointless. | |||
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"Men bashing/women bashing. Thats pointless Not bashing. Advice! I want messages just good ones lol" Yea i get some of those. But i equally get some lovely ones. I'm sure men get some crappy ones from women too. Just ignore/block those ones or use filters to stop men from.messaging | |||
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"I think all messages are pointless to the receivers if they aren't interested. No amount of effort in a message is going to make you attracted to that person, you're either interested from the get go or not." To be fair many times I looked at a profile and thought "damn, they seem great" then within first few really shitty "how are you today" or "let's arrange sex" messages whole attraction is gone with no return.. Missus | |||
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"Pointless posts from women. Literally any post telling men something is pointless." True most struggle to read | |||
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"Sites like this aren't easy for us guys. Think about how many guys you ignore. Then think about how many others have ignored those guys. It can be pretty demoralising. " I've packed my violin away for the day, but can over you a tissue if you like? If it's too demolishing, cut your losses or try something else? | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men . "Or People can express how they are feelings openly. | |||
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"Sites like this aren't easy for us guys. Think about how many guys you ignore. Then think about how many others have ignored those guys. It can be pretty demoralising. " Maybe think why messages are being ignored. How many how is fabs treating you messages do you want me to reply to? | |||
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"I read your profile, I'm not what you're looking for, but thought I'd chance it anyway. Just why?! "it's like walking up to a lady in a club knowing that she is way out of your league but trying anyway, God always loves a trier | |||
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"I read your profile, I'm not what you're looking for, but thought I'd chance it anyway. Just why?! "I'm way out of your haircut.
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly. "Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here. But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow . | |||
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"3 of those have worked for me." Yes. But I am easy…. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow ."Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe! | |||
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"Add to that pointless messaged from couples... "Male half here, want to chat/meet..." Or from female " Fancy meeting my man" " Oh the time imaginary mrs you mean. We had. I have my mrs permission to meet as she does not want to meet at the moment | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly. "This.....it's a forum, is it not? | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!"She is giving advice she said that is usually schooling others on what to say. Usually to suit what they want from fab. While others may want something else .Not everyone looks for the same thing so what suits one won't suit others. I just gave an alternative option to help her not be getting as annoyed by the messages she is getting And I think that is you actually making assumptions on what I think. And looking for an argument where there isn't one to be had. | |||
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"3 of those have worked for me. Yes. But I am easy…." Touché. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!"It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling. These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them. Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades | |||
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"Sites like this aren't easy for us guys. Think about how many guys you ignore. Then think about how many others have ignored those guys. It can be pretty demoralising. " I bet it can be. Most messages turn abusive though if you reply and say no thank you. But i understand it can be hard for the guys on here. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling.
These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them.
Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades"People are allowed to moan and get things off their chest without being ridiculed or told they are a professional victim. If every single woman on this site blocked single men from messaging them there would be uproar, The membership of fab would significantly reduce and we would have endless Posts from men complaining how they can't message. I think it is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel and how you think people should do things nobody has to listen to that advice though do they! | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
She is giving advice she said that is usually schooling others on what to say. Usually to suit what they want from fab. While others may want something else .Not everyone looks for the same thing so what suits one won't suit others. I just gave an alternative option to help her not be getting as annoyed by the messages she is getting
And I think that is you actually making assumptions on what I think. And looking for an argument where there isn't one to be had. "This is the OP's 1st forum post maybe cut some slack rather than making judgements. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling.
These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them.
Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades
People are allowed to moan and get things off their chest without being ridiculed or told they are a professional victim. If every single woman on this site blocked single men from messaging them there would be uproar, The membership of fab would significantly reduce and we would have endless Posts from men complaining how they can't message.
I think it is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel and how you think people should do things nobody has to listen to that advice though do they!"No they don't have to listen to anything anyone on here says but yet so many are often triggered by the person giving advice so I hope you practice what you preach. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling.
These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them.
Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades
People are allowed to moan and get things off their chest without being ridiculed or told they are a professional victim. If every single woman on this site blocked single men from messaging them there would be uproar, The membership of fab would significantly reduce and we would have endless Posts from men complaining how they can't message.
I think it is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel and how you think people should do things nobody has to listen to that advice though do they!
No they don't have to listen to anything anyone on here says but yet so many are often triggered by the person giving advice so I hope you practice what you preach. "What exactly am I preaching? | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
She is giving advice she said that is usually schooling others on what to say. Usually to suit what they want from fab. While others may want something else .Not everyone looks for the same thing so what suits one won't suit others. I just gave an alternative option to help her not be getting as annoyed by the messages she is getting
And I think that is you actually making assumptions on what I think. And looking for an argument where there isn't one to be had.
This is the OP's 1st forum post maybe cut some slack rather than making judgements. "I gave her an alternative option that was all as I saw she was new to the site and thought it might help her not be so annoyed on here,she doesn't have to take any advice I gave on here .Like you said no one has to . And it was you who made judgements I think you will find and tried to start a pointless argument because you decided you didn't agree with me. So maybe stop trying to have an argument over nothing. I know I won't be replying to you on this as it's is derailing the thread for the op. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
She is giving advice she said that is usually schooling others on what to say. Usually to suit what they want from fab. While others may want something else .Not everyone looks for the same thing so what suits one won't suit others. I just gave an alternative option to help her not be getting as annoyed by the messages she is getting
And I think that is you actually making assumptions on what I think. And looking for an argument where there isn't one to be had.
This is the OP's 1st forum post maybe cut some slack rather than making judgements.
I gave her an alternative option that was all as I saw she was new to the site and thought it might help her not be so annoyed on here,she doesn't have to take any advice I gave on here .Like you said no one has to . And it was you who made judgements I think you will find and tried to start a pointless argument because you decided you didn't agree with me. So maybe stop trying to have an argument over nothing. I know I won't be replying to you on this as it's is derailing the thread for the op. "OK | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling.
These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them.
Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades
People are allowed to moan and get things off their chest without being ridiculed or told they are a professional victim. If every single woman on this site blocked single men from messaging them there would be uproar, The membership of fab would significantly reduce and we would have endless Posts from men complaining how they can't message.
I think it is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel and how you think people should do things nobody has to listen to that advice though do they!
No they don't have to listen to anything anyone on here says but yet so many are often triggered by the person giving advice so I hope you practice what you preach.
What exactly am I preaching? "That people should be able to express an opinion without judgement or that they should be able to say how they think things should be done but yet you found fault with that argument almost immediately when someone else did exactly that. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling.
These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them.
Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades
People are allowed to moan and get things off their chest without being ridiculed or told they are a professional victim. If every single woman on this site blocked single men from messaging them there would be uproar, The membership of fab would significantly reduce and we would have endless Posts from men complaining how they can't message.
I think it is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel and how you think people should do things nobody has to listen to that advice though do they!
No they don't have to listen to anything anyone on here says but yet so many are often triggered by the person giving advice so I hope you practice what you preach.
What exactly am I preaching?
That people should be able to express an opinion without judgement or that they should be able to say how they think things should be done but yet you found fault with that argument almost immediately when someone else did exactly that. "Where did I say they shouldn't be judged? I just don't see how it's helpful telling people they are professional victims. | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling.
These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them.
Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades
People are allowed to moan and get things off their chest without being ridiculed or told they are a professional victim. If every single woman on this site blocked single men from messaging them there would be uproar, The membership of fab would significantly reduce and we would have endless Posts from men complaining how they can't message.
I think it is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel and how you think people should do things nobody has to listen to that advice though do they!
No they don't have to listen to anything anyone on here says but yet so many are often triggered by the person giving advice so I hope you practice what you preach.
What exactly am I preaching?
That people should be able to express an opinion without judgement or that they should be able to say how they think things should be done but yet you found fault with that argument almost immediately when someone else did exactly that.
Where did I say they shouldn't be judged? I just don't see how it's helpful telling people they are professional victims. "Where did I say I was trying to be helpful? | |||
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men .
Or People can express how they are feelings openly.
Of course they can. But expecting things to change because they have schooled others in what they want to hear is like beating your head off a brick wall. It's the internet and most on here don't use the forums and most likely those who send those type of messages won't pay any heed anyhow even if they do read them.So surely it is easier to take thing into their own hands and stop getting these messages ,rather than letting it annoy them so much and ruin their time on here.
But that's just my opinion I'm sure many will disagree and prefer to be getting annoyed and pissed off over things they can't change anyhow .
Wow! Where did the OP say they expected anything to change or wanted to school people? I think you have made a fair amount of assumptions there. Projecting maybe!
It's pretty obvious that people don't start threads giving advice if they aren't schooling.
These forums are full of professional victims and those who enable them.
Use the tools given by the site and stop whinging is the advice given to men on here when things don't go as planned. Maybe some women should take their own advice now and again rather than starting crusades
People are allowed to moan and get things off their chest without being ridiculed or told they are a professional victim. If every single woman on this site blocked single men from messaging them there would be uproar, The membership of fab would significantly reduce and we would have endless Posts from men complaining how they can't message.
I think it is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel and how you think people should do things nobody has to listen to that advice though do they!
No they don't have to listen to anything anyone on here says but yet so many are often triggered by the person giving advice so I hope you practice what you preach.
What exactly am I preaching?
That people should be able to express an opinion without judgement or that they should be able to say how they think things should be done but yet you found fault with that argument almost immediately when someone else did exactly that.
Where did I say they shouldn't be judged? I just don't see how it's helpful telling people they are professional victims.
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"Or alternatively those who get so annoyed by messages they receive could block men from messaging and annoying them so much and send first messages themselves and save themselves from getting annoyed by these annoying men . "That would only work if men made an equal effort with their profiles. | |||
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That would only work if men made an equal effort with their profiles. "Pffft effort. | |||
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"I agree the messages can get very tiresome. A particular favourite of mine is ‘I know I’m not your type but…’ Why do they think they’re going to be the exception? Bios are there for a reason, I just wish they’d pay attention to them. I wonder how many guys actually read bios before messaging?
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I know I’m not your type but I’m local, will keep you hydrated and will let you ride my lawnmower.
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"You'll always get chancers, those perhaps a teensy bit deluded to their suitability, the odd ignoramus as well as those desperately clinging to hope that this random interaction might be the one... Will it stop? No, of course not. But that's life, the reality of people within the function of this place. Read, block, delete and move on. And on, and on, and again. One more time, probably. Music's got me feeling so free "Come on let's celebrate, celebrate and dance so free...
Oh I should go Punk up my Daft.
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That would only work if men made an equal effort with their profiles.
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That would only work if men made an equal effort with their profiles.
Equal to who exactly?
The person they are messaging."The point is though that the men are blocked and therefore don't message and the women make first contact so should the womens profiles be of equal effort to the men they are messaging? | |||
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"Men let me give you some advice. These messages are all useless. And here’s why! “Did you get my message” yes we did. Stop pestering. It’s not a carrier pigeon service ALL messages get through “Not impressed?” If you send this after we haven’t replied to a picture or something I can promise you the answer isn’t going to be oh yes I was just too excited to reply. Again, stop pestering “Can I ask you a question?” You just did. “I’m gonna make you cum/blow your mind/make you scream” Yeah I’m sure but at least give us a choice in it maybe? The list goes on but you get the drift!!" Guaranteed if you didn't have a message for 6-months you be exactly the same as the guys moaning that nobody ever messaged you and girls couldn't get meets just be grateful you get too much attention and not enough. | |||
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"Add to that pointless messaged from couples... "Male half here, want to chat/meet..." Or from female " Fancy meeting my man" " And pointless messages from women: “Hey x” | |||
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"We get sent a lot of statments like, " enjoy your time in the club". If we post we're going to a club. From men million miles away, who we've never met ect. Why? Or the regualar ones, I'm staying in a hotel on xyz, wanna join me? No introduction, no message just the statment that they are. Why? It's not gonna drop my knickers. " I mean, enjoy your time in the club? Really? Those horrible fucking bastards. Nobody should stand for such niceties! They’re lucky you can’t name and shame them, they’d get some stern words if you could let me tell you! | |||
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"….. Sometimes I’ll then block that profile, not out of spite, but it seems that blocked profiles don’t show in a search, that way I’m not going to send a message that they’ve already received Works for me, although that approach might not suit all" I do the same I actually block if I’ve been read and deleted. I block now and then if it’s also yellow unread for ages. (I don’t check my mails often, but i notice when I’m DM’ing people on threads ). Probably the same outlook as you. They’re busy, and I am. Just not doing the same things.
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"Men let me give you some advice. These messages are all useless. And here’s why! “Did you get my message” yes we did. Stop pestering. It’s not a carrier pigeon service ALL messages get through “Not impressed?” If you send this after we haven’t replied to a picture or something I can promise you the answer isn’t going to be oh yes I was just too excited to reply. Again, stop pestering “Can I ask you a question?” You just did. “I’m gonna make you cum/blow your mind/make you scream” Yeah I’m sure but at least give us a choice in it maybe? The list goes on but you get the drift!!" Well give us a perfectly crafted message then so us guys can learn from you ... I'll guarantee it's just the same as what I send to women I like, but get so little response there is little point. Best strategy is short and sweet as it's a waste of time concocting war and peace every time. | |||
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"Guys that message saying " i.ll give you what your hubby/fella/ partner can.t " Really !!! They have no idea what swinging is about "It's a shame because I know a few guys from my stint of being single, but they're all missing out because of this attitude!! | |||
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"Are you saying you want a cock pic with all messaged as you like a point ok im sure we can manage with that " | |||
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"Men let me give you some advice. These messages are all useless. And here’s why! “Did you get my message” yes we did. Stop pestering. It’s not a carrier pigeon service ALL messages get through “Not impressed?” If you send this after we haven’t replied to a picture or something I can promise you the answer isn’t going to be oh yes I was just too excited to reply. Again, stop pestering “Can I ask you a question?” You just did. “I’m gonna make you cum/blow your mind/make you scream” Yeah I’m sure but at least give us a choice in it maybe? The list goes on but you get the drift!!" “Can I ask you a question” is so annoying. Just ask. Why ask to ask. You’re expecting me to say yes, so why ask to ask. I really hate it when men, who haven’t read my profile, say they’re interested in me and presumably expect me to be excited/flattered that they’re interested. You’re interested…okay? Is my reciprocal interest not important? | |||
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"'Hi' The most pointless 2 letters commonly used. A Or... I just wanted to say hi What exactly are we meant to do with that, cos it's not a conversation starter But as we have established over many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many threads from guys… Often their messages go unread, I imagine some feel like why bother when the chances are it’ll remain unread or not replied to. Women make a point about how they can’t reply to every message because they get so many blah blah blah *insert exaggerated number here, so in a way they’ve contributed to the lack of effort in messages. End of the day it’s on looks, we’re a shallow breed (people will deny that of course) but if my face doesn’t do it for you, you won’t be interested, if your face doesn’t do it for me nor will I. Ryan Reynolds could send me that message and I won't reply, because they made zero effort and just wanted to say hi" Chances are they’re not going to make effort because of all the threads from girls pointing out how many messages they get and why the DON’T reply. That was my point. Ryan Reynolds is married, we’ve established we don’t like that here either. | |||
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"Well this rattled a few angry men didn’t it! It was meant as tongue in cheek advice, light hearted. Glad to see a fair few of you got the tone! I think guys are pissed off with the relentless Man Bashing threads on here from holier than thou couples OP
Ah, bless. That must be terrible.
The only solutions I can think of are for men to do better, or women and couples to lower their standards.
Which would you suggest?
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"Well this rattled a few angry men didn’t it! It was meant as tongue in cheek advice, light hearted. Glad to see a fair few of you got the tone! I think guys are pissed off with the relentless Man Bashing threads on here from holier than thou couples OP
Ah, bless. That must be terrible.
The only solutions I can think of are for men to do better, or women and couples to lower their standards.
Which would you suggest?
Plus, why do so many men on here have such fragile egos? Is it because this isn't the panty dropping parade they thought it would be?!"I haven't used the man bashing term on here ever but there is a definite lack of balance. There have been numerous comments in other threads schooling men in how to write messages, what pics to take and how to write their bio. There have also been certain posters who are adamant that women and couples don't have to make the same effort. That is very true and they don't never they will no doubt be inundated regardless. However a lazy profile is a lazy profile and any woman or couple who doesn't make the same effort they expect from others don't really have a leg to stand on if they aren't getting the quality messages they expect. Too many on here have a do as I say not as I do attitude and are quick to get offended because others don't agree with them. | |||
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"Another man bashing thread No it isn't people are allowed to say how they feel about certain aspects of the site. yes it is as we often see single men getting targeted on the forums if it’s not the way we message it’s how we take our photos OK if you feel a woman saying what she doesn't like to see in messages is targeting men then maybe that's the problem. " not just women couples are equally as bad at “bashing single men “ but it seems I’ve taken this post completely wrong as it was posted as “bants” | |||
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"Another man bashing thread No it isn't people are allowed to say how they feel about certain aspects of the site. yes it is as we often see single men getting targeted on the forums if it’s not the way we message it’s how we take our photos OK if you feel a woman saying what she doesn't like to see in messages is targeting men then maybe that's the problem. not just women couples are equally as bad at “bashing single men “ but it seems I’ve taken this post completely wrong as it was posted as “bants”" I think you have taken it wrong I think we are getting into a situation when nobody can say anything they don't like without people saying is bashing one person or another. If you had read the thread you would see there are many people that receive messages that they find irritating. I will reiterate if you see that as bashing men I think it's you that doesn't understand the issue. | |||
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"This is turning into a man bashing thread isn’t it? We don’t stand a chance in here, I figured this out ages ago. It used to be easy to get to talk to someone, I’m not quite sure when it changed but it did. One thing that might help is paying attention to any women who were kind enough to point out where so many men were going wrong. Men so often complain that they don't get anywhere. Yet a woman explains why men don't get anywhere (with her) and guys respond by complaining about the "bashing." "I could explain my woes and troubles and observations on some people. But we all know how it sounds, it brings negativity to a certain group. The single men here for example. So if you’d like to defend the op, fine. She has her veiw of those perticular men that sent those specific messeges. But to then shout it out to the whole forum sounds like she anticipates we would ALL do that if we sent a DM. | |||
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" Well give us a perfectly crafted message then so us guys can learn from you ... I'll guarantee it's just the same as what I send to women I like, but get so little response there is little point. Best strategy is short and sweet as it's a waste of time concocting war and peace every time. "Personally, I would be happy with something along the lines of: ‘Hi, I had a look at your profile and think you look really hot/ attractive. I think I could fit what you’re looking for. Drop me a message if you might be interested in chatting a little bit more, no offence taken if I’m not for you x’ Does it guarantee they’ll get a reply? No! Does it increase the chance of a reply more than if they’d sent ‘hi / what you up to? / meet tonight? / you free? / nice tits’ - Absolutely! | |||
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"'Hi' The most pointless 2 letters commonly used. A Or... I just wanted to say hi What exactly are we meant to do with that, cos it's not a conversation starter But as we have established over many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many threads from guys… Often their messages go unread, I imagine some feel like why bother when the chances are it’ll remain unread or not replied to. Women make a point about how they can’t reply to every message because they get so many blah blah blah *insert exaggerated number here, so in a way they’ve contributed to the lack of effort in messages. End of the day it’s on looks, we’re a shallow breed (people will deny that of course) but if my face doesn’t do it for you, you won’t be interested, if your face doesn’t do it for me nor will I. Ryan Reynolds could send me that message and I won't reply, because they made zero effort and just wanted to say hi" What do you class as effort? Perhaps a long missive extolling one’s qualities giving chapter and verse why the respondent is fit for purpose. That could lead lead to an allegation of a cut and paste narrative, perish the thought. Some may apply the law of diminishing returns when corresponding with fellow Fab followers and see too much effort as being to much effort. The basic facts of Fab are lots of chaps trying to meet with, in comparison, few ladies and couples so the effort reward ratio is, unfortunately a low threshold. But you have sumptuous breasts! | |||
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"Another man bashing thread No it isn't people are allowed to say how they feel about certain aspects of the site. yes it is as we often see single men getting targeted on the forums if it’s not the way we message it’s how we take our photos OK if you feel a woman saying what she doesn't like to see in messages is targeting men then maybe that's the problem. not just women couples are equally as bad at “bashing single men “ but it seems I’ve taken this post completely wrong as it was posted as “bants” I think you have taken it wrong I think we are getting into a situation when nobody can say anything they don't like without people saying is bashing one person or another. If you had read the thread you would see there are many people that receive messages that they find irritating. I will reiterate if you see that as bashing men I think it's you that doesn't understand the issue. " you know if a bloke posted this he’d of got a strip tore of him | |||
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"Another man bashing thread No it isn't people are allowed to say how they feel about certain aspects of the site. yes it is as we often see single men getting targeted on the forums if it’s not the way we message it’s how we take our photos OK if you feel a woman saying what she doesn't like to see in messages is targeting men then maybe that's the problem. not just women couples are equally as bad at “bashing single men “ but it seems I’ve taken this post completely wrong as it was posted as “bants” I think you have taken it wrong I think we are getting into a situation when nobody can say anything they don't like without people saying is bashing one person or another. If you had read the thread you would see there are many people that receive messages that they find irritating. I will reiterate if you see that as bashing men I think it's you that doesn't understand the issue. you know if a bloke posted this he’d of got a strip tore of him" But as has this woman so what's your problem. | |||
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" Well give us a perfectly crafted message then so us guys can learn from you ... I'll guarantee it's just the same as what I send to women I like, but get so little response there is little point. Best strategy is short and sweet as it's a waste of time concocting war and peace every time.
Personally, I would be happy with something along the lines of: ‘Hi, I had a look at your profile and think you look really hot/ attractive. I think I could fit what you’re looking for. Drop me a message if you might be interested in chatting a little bit more, no offence taken if I’m not for you x’
Does it guarantee they’ll get a reply? No!
Does it increase the chance of a reply more than if they’d sent ‘hi / what you up to? / meet tonight? / you free? / nice tits’ - Absolutely! "I refer to my previous response regarding breasts! | |||
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" Well give us a perfectly crafted message then so us guys can learn from you ... I'll guarantee it's just the same as what I send to women I like, but get so little response there is little point. Best strategy is short and sweet as it's a waste of time concocting war and peace every time.
Personally, I would be happy with something along the lines of: ‘Hi, I had a look at your profile and think you look really hot/ attractive. I think I could fit what you’re looking for. Drop me a message if you might be interested in chatting a little bit more, no offence taken if I’m not for you x’
Does it guarantee they’ll get a reply? No!
Does it increase the chance of a reply more than if they’d sent ‘hi / what you up to? / meet tonight? / you free? / nice tits’ - Absolutely! "Thanks for that paragraph of wisdom. Once I have tidied up the grammar I may use it! | |||
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"Same people berating men again I see. It’s a wonder why they’re on a sex site "But it's OK when When it's women I don't see you and some of the other men on those threads. You showed some rather unpleasant views about a woman on a thread recently but I guess that's OK because she got what she deserved because she's on fab. | |||
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" Well give us a perfectly crafted message then so us guys can learn from you ... I'll guarantee it's just the same as what I send to women I like, but get so little response there is little point. Best strategy is short and sweet as it's a waste of time concocting war and peace every time.
Personally, I would be happy with something along the lines of: ‘Hi, I had a look at your profile and think you look really hot/ attractive. I think I could fit what you’re looking for. Drop me a message if you might be interested in chatting a little bit more, no offence taken if I’m not for you x’
Does it guarantee they’ll get a reply? No!
Does it increase the chance of a reply more than if they’d sent ‘hi / what you up to? / meet tonight? / you free? / nice tits’ - Absolutely!
Thanks for that paragraph of wisdom. Once I have tidied up the grammar I may use it!"No need for that! | |||
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"Men bashing/women bashing. Thats pointless What she says! " Exactly, why would I have a go at the exact sex I like. It makes little sense. She’s not perfect. But her awkwardness is what’s also attractive. Her shyness (I wish she was more confident) is cute. I want more conversation, but she lets me waffle. I’m So glad I make my own mind up instead of thinking each and every woman is a gold digging shallow instagram wannabe. | |||
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