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"Maybe they've swung in the past and they're happy with the site and chatting etc "Pretty much how we use the site. Still happy to fuck other people though.  | |||
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"Maybe they've swung in the past and they're happy with the site and chatting etc
Pretty much how we use the site. Still happy to fuck other people though. "well you understand that premise then | |||
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"I'm not single obviously but I guess they're interested in group sex as single people but not in participating or seeing a partner participate as a couple. We quite often meet single men who wouldn't meet if they were in a couple" Maybe seeing it first hand puts them off 
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"I think such people often get travel sick as they swing to and fro and also bounce up and down a lot. " I heard a little ginger up the rectum can help with this. | |||
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"I'm not single obviously but I guess they're interested in group sex as single people but not in participating or seeing a partner participate as a couple. We quite often meet single men who wouldn't meet if they were in a couple Maybe seeing it first hand puts them off
I guess I'd just assume that people already involved would be more open to it."Maybe it does put them off .
Swinging as in people in couples having sex with others isn't for everyone but group sex or threesomes might be. One of the best way to get that is through swinging I guess | |||
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"I'm on here as a single as is my partner. But we don't meet as a couple. Mainly due to our preference in who we meet.. I know me personally wouldn't take one for the team so spk, if he wanted to meet the female of the couple.. " Yeah we haven't done many couple swaps for the same reason. | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers?" Because most people have no desire to see their partner having sex with someone else? | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers? Because most people have no desire to see their partner having sex with someone else? " That makes sense for most people. It makes less sense for people who sign up to a swinger's site. | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers? Because most people have no desire to see their partner having sex with someone else? That makes sense for most people. It makes less sense for people who sign up to a swinger's site." Not really. Im on here as a single, to meet single women or female half of couples. I wouldnt have any interest in my own partner, if i had one, having sex with other people. | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers? Because most people have no desire to see their partner having sex with someone else? That makes sense for most people. It makes less sense for people who sign up to a swinger's site." The site caters for single people and couples looking for single people. There's no rule that once a single person finds a partner they have to have sex with other people. Some single people don't meet couples; are we supposed to? | |||
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"Because they like to commit to one person. I don't see a problem with it." I'm committed to one person | |||
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"Because they like to commit to one person. I don't see a problem with it. I'm committed to one person "Committed sexually. | |||
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"Not everyone on here is actually a swinger 
Pxx"I'm not. I joined to find a friend with benefits and maybe meet a couple. I found most couples weren't interested in me and the man doing anything so I stopped looking for them. | |||
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"Not really. Im on here as a single, to meet single women or female half of couples. I wouldnt have any interest in my own partner, if i had one, having sex with other people. " This is the bit I find curious. I get some people have no interest in swinging at all, they're just here for dating. But I'm surprised you'd be against it on principle while actively engaging in it with couples. | |||
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"Not really. Im on here as a single, to meet single women or female half of couples. I wouldnt have any interest in my own partner, if i had one, having sex with other people. This is the bit I find curious. I get some people have no interest in swinging at all, they're just here for dating. But I'm surprised you'd be against it on principle while actively engaging in it with couples. " Im not against anything in principle, i just wouldn't do it myself. Im not here for dating. Im also not here to meet couples, just single women or women half of couples | |||
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A" Yeah pretty much
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"Not really. Im on here as a single, to meet single women or female half of couples. I wouldnt have any interest in my own partner, if i had one, having sex with other people. This is the bit I find curious. I get some people have no interest in swinging at all, they're just here for dating. But I'm surprised you'd be against it on principle while actively engaging in it with couples. Im not against anything in principle, i just wouldn't do it myself. Im not here for dating. Im also not here to meet couples, just single women or women half of couples" You're coming to take our wives? | |||
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A" Therers nothing hypocritical or double standards about it. The couple you refer to are free to decline the male if they wish. Nobody is being made do anything against their will | |||
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"Try again. What I find hypocritical is couples who will want my partner for their woman, but I'm not allowed their man. Or they just want to have sex in the same room as us. Or they just want a bit of touching and oral between the ladies. Why are women so insecure about their husbands with me?" Some people are so fussy | |||
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"Seems weird to me that some folks say they're just here for the chat and not to meet "We've had a few fun meets via Fab in the past. For now we're happier popping to clubs. I've no problem with being weird to you | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers?" It's not a swingers site anymore, it's an adult dating/chat/cam/sex/forum site. I have not signed up to swing,I have signed up to meet select single men. It does seem to be couples who start these types of threads. | |||
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"I have met with a married couple, once. It was not ideal as he wasn't happy that she&I had more chemistry than he&I. They have been on and off fab many times. It's not seeming to suit them so well and not all couples deal well with swinging even if they are drawn to it. This has been a stark warning to me. I have seen relationships implode on here. " I can see why that would put you off. I guess there's a lot of sense in not wanting to dive into it early in a relationship, no matter how/where you met. | |||
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A Therers nothing hypocritical or double standards about it. The couple you refer to are free to decline the male if they wish. Nobody is being made do anything against their will" Congratulations on completely missing the point. So someone who has a mindset of "I'm happy to fuck someone else's wife but I'd never let a wife of mine sleep with anyone else" isn't being just a tad hypocritical? 
We're not talking about personal boundaries or preferences here, where the dynamic in a couple means that by mutual agreement they may have different limits, comfort levels and ways they play where one interacts more with someone else than another.
We're talking about an individual who believes that non monogamous sex is ok when it's someone else's partner they're balls deep in but they'd rather eat their own shit than let any partner of theirs participate in the same activity.
It's literally a perfect example of double standards.
Is it any wonder that many couples have negative views on some singles on Fab and in the swinging scene in general, given that so many fail to grasp such a simple concept? 
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A Therers nothing hypocritical or double standards about it. The couple you refer to are free to decline the male if they wish. Nobody is being made do anything against their will Congratulations on completely missing the point. So someone who has a mindset of "I'm happy to fuck someone else's wife but I'd never let a wife of mine sleep with anyone else" isn't being just a tad hypocritical?
We're not talking about personal boundaries or preferences here, where the dynamic in a couple means that by mutual agreement they may have different limits, comfort levels and ways they play where one interacts more with someone else than another.
We're talking about an individual who believes that non monogamous sex is ok when it's someone else's partner they're balls deep in but they'd rather eat their own shit than let any partner of theirs participate in the same activity.
It's literally a perfect example of double standards.
Is it any wonder that many couples have negative views on some singles on Fab and in the swinging scene in general, given that so many fail to grasp such a simple concept?
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A Therers nothing hypocritical or double standards about it. The couple you refer to are free to decline the male if they wish. Nobody is being made do anything against their will Congratulations on completely missing the point. So someone who has a mindset of "I'm happy to fuck someone else's wife but I'd never let a wife of mine sleep with anyone else" isn't being just a tad hypocritical?
We're not talking about personal boundaries or preferences here, where the dynamic in a couple means that by mutual agreement they may have different limits, comfort levels and ways they play where one interacts more with someone else than another.
We're talking about an individual who believes that non monogamous sex is ok when it's someone else's partner they're balls deep in but they'd rather eat their own shit than let any partner of theirs participate in the same activity.
It's literally a perfect example of double standards.
Is it any wonder that many couples have negative views on some singles on Fab and in the swinging scene in general, given that so many fail to grasp such a simple concept?
A"Hmmm projecting is getting to be such a thing these days. Really, what I think you'll find, is that those pesky singles respect the personal choices of the hallowed couples as mature adults in charge of their own selves and their relationship. So... if these mature adults say to a single: "hey, we are happy to open our relationship up to a 3rd or more, do you fancy joining us for a spot of fun?" Well, some singles might just say... "If you're happy to and are sure, then I'd enjoy being a 3rd for our shared enjoyment". They aren't going to be emotionally engaged with the couple, it'll be scratching an itch not scowling in judgement. If the single is no longer a single, the options have changed, the dynamics are changed. They can say no as a couple if they are possessive of a partner when emotionally engaged. This notion of judgement based on sharing is not a thing from the perspective of the single. Seemingly it is a thing from the perspective of the couple. | |||
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A Therers nothing hypocritical or double standards about it. The couple you refer to are free to decline the male if they wish. Nobody is being made do anything against their will Congratulations on completely missing the point. So someone who has a mindset of "I'm happy to fuck someone else's wife but I'd never let a wife of mine sleep with anyone else" isn't being just a tad hypocritical?
We're not talking about personal boundaries or preferences here, where the dynamic in a couple means that by mutual agreement they may have different limits, comfort levels and ways they play where one interacts more with someone else than another.
We're talking about an individual who believes that non monogamous sex is ok when it's someone else's partner they're balls deep in but they'd rather eat their own shit than let any partner of theirs participate in the same activity.
It's literally a perfect example of double standards.
Is it any wonder that many couples have negative views on some singles on Fab and in the swinging scene in general, given that so many fail to grasp such a simple concept?
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Hmmm projecting is getting to be such a thing these days.
Really, what I think you'll find, is that those pesky singles respect the personal choices of the hallowed couples as mature adults in charge of their own selves and their relationship.
So... if these mature adults say to a single: "hey, we are happy to open our relationship up to a 3rd or more, do you fancy joining us for a spot of fun?"
Well, some singles might just say... "If you're happy to and are sure, then I'd enjoy being a 3rd for our shared enjoyment". They aren't going to be emotionally engaged with the couple, it'll be scratching an itch not scowling in judgement.
If the single is no longer a single, the options have changed, the dynamics are changed. They can say no as a couple if they are possessive of a partner when emotionally engaged.
This notion of judgement based on sharing is not a thing from the perspective of the single.
Seemingly it is a thing from the perspective of the couple."Nope. Nice try but nope. Again - not what I referred to at all. Of course things change when a single who swings (or has casual sex via a swingers site or whatever you choose to call it) meets a non-swinging partner. Of course they may no longer swing if they choose. The situation I specifically (note, specifically) referred to involves an individual (male or female) who vocally states that they'd never allow, permit or whatever word you choose regarding permission, any partner of theirs to ever have sex with someone other than them, whilst actively pursuing casual sex with other people partners, because that would be morally wrong or break their personal belief system. Hope that clears things up. Again. No projection at all. A | |||
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"People come and go or stay for their own reasons not to fit into the expectations of how others consider how they should use the site" Not really interested in the expectations of others. More the attitudes of people who use the site to swingers/swinging. | |||
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"Try again. What I find hypocritical is couples who will want my partner for their woman, but I'm not allowed their man. Or they just want to have sex in the same room as us. Or they just want a bit of touching and oral between the ladies. Why are women so insecure about their husbands with me?" I’d hazard a guess and say that they are likely not secure in their own relationships….for me, it turns me on thinking about J with other women - I get a lot of pleasure from it. Then at the end of it all, it’s me and him who get to reconnect and spend the night together, knowing we’ve had a whole lot of shared fun. And to me that’s just so sexy Mrs | |||
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A Therers nothing hypocritical or double standards about it. The couple you refer to are free to decline the male if they wish. Nobody is being made do anything against their will Congratulations on completely missing the point. So someone who has a mindset of "I'm happy to fuck someone else's wife but I'd never let a wife of mine sleep with anyone else" isn't being just a tad hypocritical?
We're not talking about personal boundaries or preferences here, where the dynamic in a couple means that by mutual agreement they may have different limits, comfort levels and ways they play where one interacts more with someone else than another.
We're talking about an individual who believes that non monogamous sex is ok when it's someone else's partner they're balls deep in but they'd rather eat their own shit than let any partner of theirs participate in the same activity.
It's literally a perfect example of double standards.
Is it any wonder that many couples have negative views on some singles on Fab and in the swinging scene in general, given that so many fail to grasp such a simple concept?
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Hmmm projecting is getting to be such a thing these days.
Really, what I think you'll find, is that those pesky singles respect the personal choices of the hallowed couples as mature adults in charge of their own selves and their relationship.
So... if these mature adults say to a single: "hey, we are happy to open our relationship up to a 3rd or more, do you fancy joining us for a spot of fun?"
Well, some singles might just say... "If you're happy to and are sure, then I'd enjoy being a 3rd for our shared enjoyment". They aren't going to be emotionally engaged with the couple, it'll be scratching an itch not scowling in judgement.
If the single is no longer a single, the options have changed, the dynamics are changed. They can say no as a couple if they are possessive of a partner when emotionally engaged.
This notion of judgement based on sharing is not a thing from the perspective of the single.
Seemingly it is a thing from the perspective of the couple.
Nope. Nice try but nope. Again - not what I referred to at all.
Of course things change when a single who swings (or has casual sex via a swingers site or whatever you choose to call it) meets a non-swinging partner.
Of course they may no longer swing if they choose.
The situation I specifically (note, specifically) referred to involves an individual (male or female) who vocally states that they'd never allow, permit or whatever word you choose regarding permission, any partner of theirs to ever have sex with someone other than them, whilst actively pursuing casual sex with other people partners, because that would be morally wrong or break their personal belief system.
Hope that clears things up. Again. No projection at all.
A"Omw, I'm not the idiot you think. I got it the first time. And MY point, is singles don't care if you're a couple or not so long as everyone that's getting naked is happy to do so. Whatever is between the couple is a matter for them. Whatever is going on in the life of the single is a different matter. I would not swing as a couple. Full stop. I have met with a married couple. I don't judge them for meeting others just because I would choose differently in their shoes. I let them manage their own lives as they see fit. Their relationship is not my business. | |||
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"For me, quite simply I would be a bit jealous I think. If he's having sex I would want it to be with me. Thats in a relationship though. I could do fwb'ing where we met others and did wicked things. I do have insecurites that mean I would need certain things from a relationship. But doesnt mean I wouldn't consider it down the line. " That's interesting. Would that mean you couldn't have a relationship with somebody after you'd been fwb? Or that you could but there would be a point at which you'd expect monogamy? | |||
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"For me, quite simply I would be a bit jealous I think. If he's having sex I would want it to be with me. Thats in a relationship though. I could do fwb'ing where we met others and did wicked things. I do have insecurites that mean I would need certain things from a relationship. But doesnt mean I wouldn't consider it down the line. That's interesting. Would that mean you couldn't have a relationship with somebody after you'd been fwb? Or that you could but there would be a point at which you'd expect monogamy?" It's really hard to say. There's always a reason for the distance that fwb involves, away from making a full connection. It would depend on the circumstances of that distance. If I am an fwb I already love you to death, but Also I wouldnt ask for monogamy off someone that doesnt want it or isnt used to it because it would never work long term. If it naturally fell that way, then lovely, I'll keep you.  | |||
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"For me, quite simply I would be a bit jealous I think. If he's having sex I would want it to be with me. Thats in a relationship though. I could do fwb'ing where we met others and did wicked things. I do have insecurites that mean I would need certain things from a relationship. But doesnt mean I wouldn't consider it down the line. That's interesting. Would that mean you couldn't have a relationship with somebody after you'd been fwb? Or that you could but there would be a point at which you'd expect monogamy? It's really hard to say. There's always a reason for the distance that fwb involves, away from making a full connection. It would depend on the circumstances of that distance. If I am an fwb I already love you to death, but Also I wouldnt ask for monogamy off someone that doesnt want it or isnt used to it because it would never work long term. If it naturally fell that way, then lovely, I'll keep you. " | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers?" Perhaps their view of Swingers is negative from their experience of them. | |||
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"Not weird really. I googled bicurious and this site came up so that’s how I ended up here. Lots of people on here aren’t swingers. With regards to the double standards comments I don’t agree. I’ve been with married men but there’s not a chance in hell I would have been happy about my husband going with someone else. I also like meeting someone else with my FWB as a couple but there’s no way I’d be that someone else and ever meet a couple. Is that double standards?" It's preferences. Same as couples who only ever have 3somes. Surely they can't be called Swingers if they don't both fuck other people. | |||
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"I think (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP may be referring to a view of double standards. That some singles are more than happy to shag someone's wife or partner via here, yet if they ever became a couple then the thought of someone else doing the same to their partner is a categorical no and they'd never consider it. A view of 'It's fine for me to do your Mrs but nobody would ever get near mine if I had one'. I've seen it and heard it. The thought of them sharing goes against their morals but in the meantime they'll happily approach others looking for a bunk up. It's always seemed hypocritical to me, even though of course everyone can do what they wish. But if someone approached us for a meet and expressed that view they'd have as much chance of getting naked with us as I have of winning the Euromillions. Fuck all. A Therers nothing hypocritical or double standards about it. The couple you refer to are free to decline the male if they wish. Nobody is being made do anything against their will Congratulations on completely missing the point. So someone who has a mindset of "I'm happy to fuck someone else's wife but I'd never let a wife of mine sleep with anyone else" isn't being just a tad hypocritical?
We're not talking about personal boundaries or preferences here, where the dynamic in a couple means that by mutual agreement they may have different limits, comfort levels and ways they play where one interacts more with someone else than another.
We're talking about an individual who believes that non monogamous sex is ok when it's someone else's partner they're balls deep in but they'd rather eat their own shit than let any partner of theirs participate in the same activity.
It's literally a perfect example of double standards.
Is it any wonder that many couples have negative views on some singles on Fab and in the swinging scene in general, given that so many fail to grasp such a simple concept?
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Hmmm projecting is getting to be such a thing these days.
Really, what I think you'll find, is that those pesky singles respect the personal choices of the hallowed couples as mature adults in charge of their own selves and their relationship.
So... if these mature adults say to a single: "hey, we are happy to open our relationship up to a 3rd or more, do you fancy joining us for a spot of fun?"
Well, some singles might just say... "If you're happy to and are sure, then I'd enjoy being a 3rd for our shared enjoyment". They aren't going to be emotionally engaged with the couple, it'll be scratching an itch not scowling in judgement.
If the single is no longer a single, the options have changed, the dynamics are changed. They can say no as a couple if they are possessive of a partner when emotionally engaged.
This notion of judgement based on sharing is not a thing from the perspective of the single.
Seemingly it is a thing from the perspective of the couple.
Nope. Nice try but nope. Again - not what I referred to at all.
Of course things change when a single who swings (or has casual sex via a swingers site or whatever you choose to call it) meets a non-swinging partner.
Of course they may no longer swing if they choose.
The situation I specifically (note, specifically) referred to involves an individual (male or female) who vocally states that they'd never allow, permit or whatever word you choose regarding permission, any partner of theirs to ever have sex with someone other than them, whilst actively pursuing casual sex with other people partners, because that would be morally wrong or break their personal belief system.
Hope that clears things up. Again. No projection at all.
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Omw, I'm not the idiot you think.
I got it the first time.
And MY point, is singles don't care if you're a couple or not so long as everyone that's getting naked is happy to do so.
Whatever is between the couple is a matter for them.
Whatever is going on in the life of the single is a different matter.
I would not swing as a couple. Full stop.
I have met with a married couple.
I don't judge them for meeting others just because I would choose differently in their shoes.
I let them manage their own lives as they see fit. Their relationship is not my business. "Yes, you're giving them what they want at the time. Whether that's what you'll want in the future I'd irrelevant. | |||
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"Not weird really. I googled bicurious and this site came up so that’s how I ended up here. Lots of people on here aren’t swingers. With regards to the double standards comments I don’t agree. I’ve been with married men but there’s not a chance in hell I would have been happy about my husband going with someone else. I also like meeting someone else with my FWB as a couple but there’s no way I’d be that someone else and ever meet a couple. Is that double standards?" My reasons for joining here haven't really changed in 6 years as I want to explore so many things I've never experienced or had the opportunity to do so before. I've never had a threesome of any description so initially I was actively looking to speak to couples but with zero success. Over time I have amended that because too many couples were only interested in speaking to the cock rather than the person. I now have an amazing fwb and we are on exactly the same page in regard to meeting others and when time and circumstances allow we will meet other couples and interested singles but using our own experience as singles to speak to people as equals and ensure mutually beneficial experiences. Does that make me or us "proper" swingers? I've no idea but neither of us are here to meet just for the sake of it. | |||
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"Try again. What I find hypocritical is couples who will want my partner for their woman, but I'm not allowed their man. Or they just want to have sex in the same room as us. Or they just want a bit of touching and oral between the ladies. Why are women so insecure about their husbands with me? Some people are so fussy "Yes, to the point the man isn't ever allowed to touch any woman. So fussy. | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers?" A lot of single guys get off on the fact that they're having sex with another man's wife rather than having sex with a woman. I don't know why that is, ego perhaps, but whatever it is they presumably wouldn't want another man having their wife as that would hurt their ego. A red flag to us. | |||
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"Maybe they should rename the site fabswingersandpeoplewantingcasualsexandjustgeneralperverts.com?" does seem strange that we’ve a fabswingers.com & a fabguys.com but no fabgirls.com | |||
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"Maybe they should rename the site fabswingersandpeoplewantingcasualsexandjustgeneralperverts.com? does seem strange that we’ve a fabswingers.com & a fabguys.com but no fabgirls.com" Id love a fabgirls site | |||
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"Always seems weird to me that (some) people sign up to a swinger's site but say they'd never swing if they were in a couple. Interested in why swingles wouldn't want to be swingers? Perhaps their view of Swingers is negative from their experience of them." Yeah. I'll bet every one of us would have a different idea of what a 'swinger' is though. I certainly wouldn't describe myself as such. | |||
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"Maybe they should rename the site fabswingersandpeoplewantingcasualsexandjustgeneralperverts.com? does seem strange that we’ve a fabswingers.com & a fabguys.com but no fabgirls.com Id love a fabgirls site" domains going free...! | |||
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"Maybe they should rename the site fabswingersandpeoplewantingcasualsexandjustgeneralperverts.com?" Nailed it!
OP this is a particular pet peeve of mine - people who hold sexual exclusivity as an ideal in their romantic or more committed relationships but still partake when single - serving both god and mammon Personally I hate monogamy (power to those it works for, doesn't for me) and would have liked places like here to be a haven away from it, is all. | |||
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"We joined as a couple, had some lovely meetings and a few disappointments after this she lost interest but I was so keen to carry on I assume many people are in the same situation where 1 half wants it much more than the other so you end up with swingers that won’t swing " Is she aware that you still have her pics all over your profile? | |||
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"Maybe they should rename the site fabswingersandpeoplewantingcasualsexandjustgeneralperverts.com? Nailed it!
OP this is a particular pet peeve of mine - people who hold sexual exclusivity as an ideal in their romantic or more committed relationships but still partake when single - serving both god and mammon Personally I hate monogamy (power to those it works for, doesn't for me) and would have liked places like here to be a haven away from it, is all. " | |||
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" OP this is a particular pet peeve of mine - people who hold sexual exclusivity as an ideal in their romantic or more committed relationships but still partake when single - " Why do other peoples relationships bother you in that way? | |||
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"In a club once we asked a guy why he didn't bring his wife along "God no, she not a slag? Lucky the club owners heard him and he was barred." Thats awful I would love to have my wife come with me all the time but she is more polyamorous then a Swinger so has more in-depth relationships with others instead | |||
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"It is odd, I've definitely seen it more with couples where the man is the one off limits than the woman. Wives insecurity and yes, double standards to a point. But ultimately it's all personal choice. " There are loads of couples where the guy genuinely has no desire to get involved with another woman but just wants to see his partner enjoy herself. It's not the woman's insecurity or double standards but their choice to play that way. Relationships differ, there isn't a right way to do this stuff | |||
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"We joined as a couple, had some lovely meetings and a few disappointments after this she lost interest but I was so keen to carry on I assume many people are in the same situation where 1 half wants it much more than the other so you end up with swingers that won’t swing Is she aware that you still have her pics all over your profile? " Yes she likes showing off and being admired Every picture is with her permission Most also posted by her on our couples profile She still likes chatting with friends | |||
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" OP this is a particular pet peeve of mine - people who hold sexual exclusivity as an ideal in their romantic or more committed relationships but still partake when single - Why do other peoples relationships bother you in that way?" For the reason I wrote which you edited out - I would have liked an understanding and appreciation of non-monogamy and even promiscuity to be the baseline here. And just to point out, there are loads of spaces, both on and offline, where mono people and single people can find all sorts of connections without prejudice; but not so many places where partnered people can do the same. So I really don't mind what people do in their relationships, but I do mind what attitudes and mentalities they bring to this space. I observe that many monogamous-minded people view fabs, swinging, casual sex etc as a stopgap solution, or a poor substitute, and also that some actively look down on the people who they perceive to be into it more than they are. On a more practical level it's tedious to have people coming in and out of contact depending on whether they've hit on a good date or not. Say bye cos they've met someone, say hi again three months later when it's over. Are you in or out?
As a sidenote - I don't see what the fuss is about partial swaps (when one partner is open to hard swap and the other isn't). I think in general too much emphasis is put on PIV penetration, I don't see the point. | |||
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