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By *icole 123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire

Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing more fragile than the male ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why I never say no.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Should you not be asking that guy in question rather than people who had no part to play in it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t remember seeing skinny whales on Nat Geo

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe


"Should you not be asking that guy in question rather than people who had no part to play in it? "

Yeah I'm sure more interaction with that guy is just what OP needs

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Ignore, it’s not worth the abuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why let it bother you?

That's exactly what they wanted to achieve with their twat-waffle nastiness.

Bin their message and forget they exist.

Often, if I get a narky vibe from a first message, I'll just not answer or I'll block before sending my response. You can always tell when there's a higher chance they'll spit their dummy out at a polite no.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Just say yes

Just say there’s nothing holding you back

It’s not a test

Not a trick of the mind, only love.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Why let it bother you?

That's exactly what they wanted to achieve with their twat-waffle nastiness.

Bin their message and forget they exist.

Often, if I get a narky vibe from a first message, I'll just not answer or I'll block before sending my response. You can always tell when there's a higher chance they'll spit their dummy out at a polite no."

This ^^

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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"Should you not be asking that guy in question rather than people who had no part to play in it?

Yeah I'm sure more interaction with that guy is just what OP needs "

Yeah after the vile reply he’s sent he’s sure to want to answer the question op is asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well no, really means cno. I had someone follow me into the threads the other day after I'd blocked them... I wouldn't fizz over the whale comment though. I was just annoyed they were looking for 'she's a twunt, and I'm a really nice guy!' feedback after I'd literally blocked because I didn't want to chat.... Welcome to the Internet

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Don't let it get to u! Some men are like kids having tantrums when they don't get their own way! X

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Nothing more fragile than the male ego "

I disagree. It’s a tiny minority of idiots that act like that , they are just the ones sending all the messages in here

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

And yet he chose to contact you in the first place so there had to be some attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get crap like that all the time. I just block and move on; they are not worth me getting myself upset over. It's still not nice I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some people are cunts. On the plus side he's shown it now and not after meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And yet he chose to contact you in the first place so there had to be some attraction. "

Meh! Far more likely he's just playing the numbers game, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why let it bother you?

That's exactly what they wanted to achieve with their twat-waffle nastiness.

Bin their message and forget they exist.

Often, if I get a narky vibe from a first message, I'll just not answer or I'll block before sending my response. You can always tell when there's a higher chance they'll spit their dummy out at a polite no."

She’s allowed to feel whatever she’s feeling though.

We all have days when we take things to heart

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By *icole 123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire


"Should you not be asking that guy in question rather than people who had no part to play in it? "

He blocked me!!!!

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

And here I was thinking that it was a site for adults.....

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

You boil your piss? Isn't that going to make your kitchen smell?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

The fastest thing in the universe isn't the speed of light, but going from hero to zero in the time it takes a no to register

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!

You boil your piss? Isn't that going to make your kitchen smell?"

Funny!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And yet he chose to contact you in the first place so there had to be some attraction.

Meh! Far more likely he's just playing the numbers game, no?

"

Bit unkind to the OP

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

And men moan that we don’t reply

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"
report the message and get him a nice time out

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"And yet he chose to contact you in the first place so there had to be some attraction.

Meh! Far more likely he's just playing the numbers game, no?

Bit unkind to the OP"

Agreed. Especially coming from another woman…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let these cretins annoy you. These entitled twats have zero social skills and would not be worth meeting anyway that's for sure.... they are just showing their true colours when they resort to abuse.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Just a crushing of another ever so fragile male ego, followed by a spitting out of his dummy.

Don't worry about his dribble.... way too dramatic.

Ignore, or block next time. Saves you from any venomous responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing more fragile than the male ego "

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s totally wrong no definitely means no and that should be the end of it ….name calling isn’t needed end of.

I have myself experienced the same thing on here….don’t let it get to you hun he obviously has issues.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"
it’s his problem not yours. Of course, you could have replied “yes, I will be fucking - but not you” sort of thing. The dude was emotionally immature. Bear that in mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest and even though I've been here years I don't think I've ever had a horrible message back from saying no, that said it's very rare I say no...I normally block to be honest.

It's very easy to say don't let nasty comments bother but it would bother me no end, hence why I don't give them a chance x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on here means we will automatically drop our knickers for any man who asks... Didn't you read the fine print?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should you not be asking that guy in question rather than people who had no part to play in it?

He blocked me!!!!"

A class act all around lol. What a bullet you dodged there sweetie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To not get blocked himself

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Don’t remember seeing skinny whales on Nat Geo"

What about a minky ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"To be honest and even though I've been here years I don't think I've ever had a horrible message back from saying no, that said it's very rare I say no...I normally block to be honest.

It's very easy to say don't let nasty comments bother but it would bother me no end, hence why I don't give them a chance x"

No it wasn't how many It was how many beans to go around the caravan.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Should you not be asking that guy in question rather than people who had no part to play in it?

He blocked me!!!!

A class act all around lol. What a bullet you dodged there sweetie x"

Shows what a total coward he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"
Can you actually get a fat whale ??

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

This reflects entirely on him and not at all on you.

I wouldn't give his lack of maturity a second thought, keep going and enjoy a man from fab, not the man-child.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

This is one of the main reasons I stopped replying to messages if I'm not interested.

It's funny how fast you go from being gorgeous sexy and someone they want to have sex with to ugly fat and undesirable in 2 messages just because you dared to say no thanks.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

As I already said in a previous post here today, this is just one of the pleasures that comes with a free swingers' site...every obnoxious flotsam and jetsam looking for a shag, and every troll not even remotely interested in the swinging scene.

I'll prepare to be shot down in flames for this, but when sites charged membership around 20 years ago, these types of arseholes were almost non-existent. The fact you had to pay a yearly membership sorted out the shit from the gold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're going to spit the dummy with you then I just block. Easy answer x

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Yorks/Lincs

a simple block would be best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some can handle rejection others can't , you have to go through the mill to understand which is which .

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

We had this the other day from a couple (well that’s what the profile said) we politely turned them down and they came back with insults and as we were reporting them for it they blocked us. I will say in fairness to the single males most of them are usually pretty accepting of a rejection especially if they’ve taken the time to read the profile and it’s fairly obvious that most of them don’t.

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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Why do you even care? He's unlikely to ever find sex.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

[Removed by poster at 03/11/22 20:54:51]

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"As I already said in a previous post here today, this is just one of the pleasures that comes with a free swingers' site...every obnoxious flotsam and jetsam looking for a shag, and every troll not even remotely interested in the swinging scene.

I'll prepare to be shot down in flames for this, but when sites charged membership around 20 years ago, these types of arseholes were almost non-existent. The fact you had to pay a yearly membership sorted out the shit from the gold.

"

You'll still get them but there will be fewer.

The number of fab members that aren't site supporters is astonishing, keep seeing the message limit reached comments in the status posts locally. It's not that expensive anyway, but an annual charge is something we'd pay if it keeps the moron numbers down, but that's not a given is it.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Should you not be asking that guy in question rather than people who had no part to play in it? "

It's a forum for discussion, if I'm not much mistaken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this is why we do not bother replying to most. Some folk just do not take rejection. They think because we are on here we will have sex with anyone

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

What the fuck??!! You're not fat.. what a rude cnut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

His ego was bruised because you wouldn't give him what he expected. He's a sad indication worth wasting your time on.

Of course you have the right to say no as does any person on here.

Manners cost nothing but could mean everything.

Just looked at your profile and you look lovely imho so just ignore the twatwaffle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

Arrrgh … just ignore them . Frustrated desperate ignorants . Childish .

You are a very beautiful lady and very sexy too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s why I never say no. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why let it bother you?

That's exactly what they wanted to achieve with their twat-waffle nastiness.

Bin their message and forget they exist.

Often, if I get a narky vibe from a first message, I'll just not answer or I'll block before sending my response. You can always tell when there's a higher chance they'll spit their dummy out at a polite no."

I would suggest more ( not being rude )

But I think wouldn’t be less case of being reported . That’s 100% harrassment not to mention barbarian and extremely low level rude crap . Losers .

I grab my chance to thank you all ladies here

Who make all this possible x x

Massive respect .

I got loads of super sweet rejections .

Is not your ideal reply but is Stil nice to know the lady was kind n lovely .

Respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like :

If I feel rejected then so will she.

Simple block

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Exactly why when I gave up answering after a while, some were grand and thanked you for the reply, others just got personal and insulting

Tg x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he is one of the minority that spoil it for the rest of the single men on here.

Not just men though, we had a woman message last yr, directed at inked saying if you want a real woman with real curves and not that fat mess youre with im only a message away....

Stung a lil but theres always gonna be nasty ass people who dont know how to treat other decent human beings..

(Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And he is one of the minority that spoil it for the rest of the single men on here.

Not just men though, we had a woman message last yr, directed at inked saying if you want a real woman with real curves and not that fat mess youre with im only a message away....

Stung a lil but theres always gonna be nasty ass people who dont know how to treat other decent human beings..

(Mrs) "

guess she was jealous hun x

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

Whenever that happens leave the message in your inbox as proof. Report the idiot. Also, block them.

I am sure I will get called the white knight for this, However, I don't understand sending an abusive message because somebody said no thanks. Did he think after calling you a fat whale you were suddenly going to change your mind? The only thing I can think of is those guys sending an abusive message after getting a no thanks think you should be grateful they asked to meet you. They are hurt you had the audacity to say no thanks. Lol, and they wonder why they can't get a meet.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"As I already said in a previous post here today, this is just one of the pleasures that comes with a free swingers' site...every obnoxious flotsam and jetsam looking for a shag, and every troll not even remotely interested in the swinging scene.

I'll prepare to be shot down in flames for this, but when sites charged membership around 20 years ago, these types of arseholes were almost non-existent. The fact you had to pay a yearly membership sorted out the shit from the gold."

That is not true. Aresholes have money. Over the years I have been on various paid swingers' websites. Idiots who send abusive messages are on there as well.

I would argue if you make guys pay they would feel even more entitled.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"If they're going to spit the dummy with you then I just block. Easy answer x"

Report and block. They need to be told by the admin that sending nasty emails will get them banned.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Blocking says a very clear 'No', without any potential abuse.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"As I already said in a previous post here today, this is just one of the pleasures that comes with a free swingers' site...every obnoxious flotsam and jetsam looking for a shag, and every troll not even remotely interested in the swinging scene.

I'll prepare to be shot down in flames for this, but when sites charged membership around 20 years ago, these types of arseholes were almost non-existent. The fact you had to pay a yearly membership sorted out the shit from the gold.

That is not true. Aresholes have money. Over the years I have been on various paid swingers' websites. Idiots who send abusive messages are on there as well.

I would argue if you make guys pay they would feel even more entitled. "

I've also been on paid for swingers' websites in the early 2000s, and whilst it may not keep every arsehole away, it really does reduce the number of them. I have to admit that I personally haven't witnessed any increased sense of entitlement with that, though.

Of course, you're always going to get idiots in every walk of life, but at least the thought of having to pay, say, £50 - £80 a year to join would put off the worst of the vermin. They would happily go elsewhere where they can make a pest of themselves free of charge.

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

Fuck paying

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

I guess the best way of putting it is that if you're not emotionally mature enough to face rejection, be respectful to people, or act your age, you're obviously not old enough to be on here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just block saves any hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess the best way of putting it is that if you're not emotionally mature enough to face rejection, be respectful to people, or act your age, you're obviously not old enough to be on here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I already said in a previous post here today, this is just one of the pleasures that comes with a free swingers' site...every obnoxious flotsam and jetsam looking for a shag, and every troll not even remotely interested in the swinging scene.

I'll prepare to be shot down in flames for this, but when sites charged membership around 20 years ago, these types of arseholes were almost non-existent. The fact you had to pay a yearly membership sorted out the shit from the gold.

That is not true. Aresholes have money. Over the years I have been on various paid swingers' websites. Idiots who send abusive messages are on there as well.

I would argue if you make guys pay they would feel even more entitled.

I've also been on paid for swingers' websites in the early 2000s, and whilst it may not keep every arsehole away, it really does reduce the number of them. I have to admit that I personally haven't witnessed any increased sense of entitlement with that, though.

Of course, you're always going to get idiots in every walk of life, but at least the thought of having to pay, say, £50 - £80 a year to join would put off the worst of the vermin. They would happily go elsewhere where they can make a pest of themselves free of charge."

It would also exclude genuine swingers who are skint

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

I learnt a long time ago that…”no one has the right to piss you off until you give it to them”

It was a lightbulb moment for me. I don’t give that right away easily, never to strangers, colleagues or fairweather friends and far from being closed off to people, I’ve found I’m actually much more open and understanding that they have issues that make them react in ways I may not like but can still choose not to give crap about. Hope it helps.

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

dudley


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"
good enough to catch your eye ..... fact is rejection hurts and caused him to spit his dummy out and spout childish insults, think to yourself “did I really want to be meeting people like this anyway? “

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

They’ll be another thread soon, when a guy will tell women they’re being rude or they have bad manners for not replying to their messages.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Some people are ill educated and have no respect.

its a shame to have to say it but , block delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a message people need to respect.. no means no.., and if they can’t accept it on Fab… then report and name and shame..

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By *onningtonplumberMan
over a year ago

Donnington


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

Honestly you should report him and fab should ban

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to be pedantic, they took no as no. Just decided to fire off some abuse in return. Not acceptable BTW

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Why is it so hard for guys to accept?,i’ve just been told to “fuck off then you fat whale “!,just because I said No thanks after reading his message,it really boils my piss!!"

What do you expect!

You are supposed to lie back, with legs wide open, welcoming any bloke that you tqke his fancy. Only joking.

Yoi obvioisly have come into contact with the most delicate substance known to mankind. That is the fragile male ego, simply by saying 'no' it has been shattered.

My advice is say no, then block them. It saves a standard neanderthal reponse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that's how many women come to conclusion - best not to reply at all.

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