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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I get that not everyone is going to respond to messages sent. It's about what that person looks like. But how do you stand out with a message and get the balance right?!? Something that's not too rude, crude, boring or mundane,

Any tips on sending that first message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, let them send it to you

Other than that, my cupboard is empty my friend. Don’t make it sexual would be my only advice. Not the opener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guuurl you be lookin like that kinda snack I wanna treat myself to between reps at the gym

Always works

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London


"Guuurl you be lookin like that kinda snack I wanna treat myself to between reps at the gym

Always works"

I’ll use that one if I may…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself, anything else will end in tears.

You can't appeal to everyone.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘I wanna handle yer hooters Luv!’ - Works nevery time

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Individually personalised erotica (create a template and swap out names to save time), promises of cake, and twenty-ish almost identical dick pics always go down a storm. Trust me

LvM

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Plenty swear by FAF

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Definitely not Crude for me op or you'd be deleted immediately

Read their profile and try and point out something about them in your message,it shows you've read it..

Saying that, if a profile doesn't appeal to me ,I don't tend to reply to a message ,unless it's a really well written one.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I look for the whole package. If i see a red flag i don't bother. Just be yourself, be polite, non pushy or chat sexual stuff and the right person will respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look for the whole package. If i see a red flag i don't bother. Just be yourself, be polite, non pushy or chat sexual stuff and the right person will respond "

Good day, pretty lady (takes off hat) Say, I was just wondering whether you wanted to perhaps get some things off your chest? I'm a great listener, and would quite like to spend more time looking into your pretty eyes...

Like that right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I get that not everyone is going to respond to messages sent. It's about what that person looks like. But how do you stand out with a message and get the balance right?!? Something that's not too rude, crude, boring or mundane,

Any tips on sending that first message? "

You could have a beautiful message sent and not get a reply simply because the person you sent it to has no interest , you wonder why but you have no choice , the person you sent it to, it's they that decide.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I can’t say any of this actually works for me, so take it with a pinch of salt, but keep it fairly short, though not the three word message type thing, just say hello, make it clear you have read their profile where relevant, maybe something chatty or funny, and enough to give someone something to reply to if they are interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I get that not everyone is going to respond to messages sent. It's about what that person looks like. But how do you stand out with a message and get the balance right?!? Something that's not too rude, crude, boring or mundane,

Any tips on sending that first message? "

Read their profile and try and integrate into your opening message and include a face pic (only if you’re comfortable doing so)!

Just don’t expect anything in return and you won’t be disappointed!!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Be polite, pay a complement, mention something on their profile, send a face pic.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I cannot recall the last first message I sent. Maybe join in with forum/cam room chat to get noticed.

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