FabSwingers.com forum: Ugh

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just venting

Been exchanging some messages with a local woman, all going fine, she’s clearly genuine, plenty of veris, we’d arranged a social meet

Then she’s gone and hidden her profile on the very day we’re due to have a drink

I totally get that it’s her prerogative to change her mind, but I’d much rather just be told directly that she doesn’t want to meet after all!

Oh well, time to catch up on some box sets instead

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

Block and forget my man. Can’t miss what you never had

Fab is just a game of chance

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

It happens,it's not great from her side to do that but unfortunately it happens. Give her the benefit of doubt for the moment,something may have happened that was more important but in general there are probably more no shows than shows on this site.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

That's fab I'm afraid dude , happens to us all just accept it and move on is all you can do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It happens,it's not great from her side to do that but unfortunately it happens. Give her the benefit of doubt for the moment,something may have happened that was more important but in general there are probably more no shows than shows on this site. "

Yeah, I’m old enough and ugly enough to come on here with my eyes open and have low expectations, that way I can’t be too disappointed!

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Just a bit of a woman's perspective here.

I often hide my profile - even when I'm meeting. (It's a form of inbox management) In fact, I hide it when I'm meeting someone I'm keen on. I know not every woman does this, so not necessarily something to read in to.

But I guess what I'm saying is, unless you've asked her if she doesn't want to meet you, I think you're wrong to assume her hiding her profile is a rejection.

And yes, you can still message her even with her profile hidden, unless she has in fact blocked you.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Just venting

Been exchanging some messages with a local woman, all going fine, she’s clearly genuine, plenty of veris, we’d arranged a social meet

Then she’s gone and hidden her profile on the very day we’re due to have a drink

I totally get that it’s her prerogative to change her mind, but I’d much rather just be told directly that she doesn’t want to meet after all!

Oh well, time to catch up on some box sets instead "

Have you messaged her? You can still do that even if profile hidden

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Useful insight, thank you!

I’m not one for being annoying if I think someone isn’t interested anyone and wouldn’t dream of flooding their inbox, it’s not a classy look

I dare say there’s a good reason to hide, but that’s none of my business, it’s all part of the game to see what happens and move on if things aren’t meant to be!

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Useful insight, thank you!

I’m not one for being annoying if I think someone isn’t interested anyone and wouldn’t dream of flooding their inbox, it’s not a classy look

I dare say there’s a good reason to hide, but that’s none of my business, it’s all part of the game to see what happens and move on if things aren’t meant to be!

Sending a message asking if youre still meeting isnt flooding the inbox. Youre more than entitled to do that

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You can message a hidden profile but the best advice is as soon as a meet is arranged - get a phone number or other means of contact.

It's not uncommon for people to live in shitty phone signal areas.

If you break down or get lost on the way to a meet and the only means of contact is via Fab, then if you have no Internet access but do have enough bars on your phone to make a crackly phone call then at least you can let the other party know.

Leaving Fab messaging as your only means of contact increases the risk of losing touch, being stood up, getting ghosted etc and it's often a useful filter to help decide if someone is serious. If they're reluctant to share any other means of contact then that could be a red flag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Useful insight, thank you!

I’m not one for being annoying if I think someone isn’t interested anyone and wouldn’t dream of flooding their inbox, it’s not a classy look

I dare say there’s a good reason to hide, but that’s none of my business, it’s all part of the game to see what happens and move on if things aren’t meant to be!

Sending a message asking if youre still meeting isnt flooding the inbox. Youre more than entitled to do that"

I was the last one to send a message, she was going to confirm a time and then it’s radio silence… the etiquette of playing message tennis is a minefield, I think playing it cool

and waiting is the best option, I don’t want to appear needy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky escape dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Useful insight, thank you!

I’m not one for being annoying if I think someone isn’t interested anyone and wouldn’t dream of flooding their inbox, it’s not a classy look

I dare say there’s a good reason to hide, but that’s none of my business, it’s all part of the game to see what happens and move on if things aren’t meant to be!

Sending a message asking if youre still meeting isnt flooding the inbox. Youre more than entitled to do that

I was the last one to send a message, she was going to confirm a time and then it’s radio silence… the etiquette of playing message tennis is a minefield, I think playing it cool

and waiting is the best option, I don’t want to appear needy

When are you supposed to be meeting? I'd send another message and if no reply then forget her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Useful insight, thank you!

I’m not one for being annoying if I think someone isn’t interested anyone and wouldn’t dream of flooding their inbox, it’s not a classy look

I dare say there’s a good reason to hide, but that’s none of my business, it’s all part of the game to see what happens and move on if things aren’t meant to be!

Sending a message asking if youre still meeting isnt flooding the inbox. Youre more than entitled to do that

I was the last one to send a message, she was going to confirm a time and then it’s radio silence… the etiquette of playing message tennis is a minefield, I think playing it cool

and waiting is the best option, I don’t want to appear needy

When are you supposed to be meeting? I'd send another message and if no reply then forget her."

This evening, once she’d confirmed a time

Already forgotten (although that might be partly due to my advancing years

)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Useful insight, thank you!

I’m not one for being annoying if I think someone isn’t interested anyone and wouldn’t dream of flooding their inbox, it’s not a classy look

I dare say there’s a good reason to hide, but that’s none of my business, it’s all part of the game to see what happens and move on if things aren’t meant to be!

Sending a message asking if youre still meeting isnt flooding the inbox. Youre more than entitled to do that

I was the last one to send a message, she was going to confirm a time and then it’s radio silence… the etiquette of playing message tennis is a minefield, I think playing it cool

and waiting is the best option, I don’t want to appear needy

When are you supposed to be meeting? I'd send another message and if no reply then forget her.

This evening, once she’d confirmed a time

Already forgotten (although that might be partly due to my advancing years

Forgotten what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lucky escape dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Useful insight, thank you!

I’m not one for being annoying if I think someone isn’t interested anyone and wouldn’t dream of flooding their inbox, it’s not a classy look

I dare say there’s a good reason to hide, but that’s none of my business, it’s all part of the game to see what happens and move on if things aren’t meant to be!

Sending a message asking if youre still meeting isnt flooding the inbox. Youre more than entitled to do that

I was the last one to send a message, she was going to confirm a time and then it’s radio silence… the etiquette of playing message tennis is a minefield, I think playing it cool

and waiting is the best option, I don’t want to appear needy

When are you supposed to be meeting? I'd send another message and if no reply then forget her.

This evening, once she’d confirmed a time

Already forgotten (although that might be partly due to my advancing years

)

Forgotten what?

I’m not sure

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