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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok this is a true story from another site where we still have friends. A popular couple married for over 10 years and who had many friends on that site, decided to split up. It was instigated by the male half and she was devastated and dropped out of the scene altogether. He continued as a single male, so my question is this ... If you as a single girl or part of a couple, had been friends with both, could you then play with the guy as a single? would you feel guilty? would you not bat an eyelid? .... no judgements from me/us just interested to know opinions xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd been friends with them both as a 'couple' then no couldn't play with him alone xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I'd been friends with them both as a 'couple' then no couldn't play with him alone xx"

I agree hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really know as I've not been there.

but I would think I/We could possibly play with the single male or female, unless a horrible person but that goes without saying.

relationships do fall apart after all, I'm sure each and every one of us have played with someone who's been on a relationship that's failed, different I realise but people do separate.

Like I say though, I'm not so sure, if I/We ever end up in that position I will have a much better idea.

Not too sure is my reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this is a true story from another site where we still have friends. A popular couple married for over 10 years and who had many friends on that site, decided to split up. It was instigated by the male half and she was devastated and dropped out of the scene altogether. He continued as a single male, so my question is this ... If you as a single girl or part of a couple, had been friends with both, could you then play with the guy as a single? would you feel guilty? would you not bat an eyelid? .... no judgements from me/us just interested to know opinions xxx"

I Couldn't if I'd been friends with them as a couple.Not judging either at all .. just wouldn't feel 'right' somehow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been in that situation whilst swinging . But I have through friends who split up , and my answer was no ! (although I was tempted ) I would say no again too , as I can look them both in the eye still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not been in that situation whilst swinging . But I have through friends who split up , and my answer was no ! (although I was tempted ) I would say no again too , as I can look them both in the eye still "

I agree if they have become close ish friends then I couldn't I don't think, but if we just had two or three meets, hmmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i honestly couldnt i would feel as if i was betraying her!! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's nice to see a little sympathy from the guys ... again I'm not judging, but when you know someone quite well and know that she is still feeling the pain of the breakup, it's beyond me how insensitive some can be ... was that judging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's nice to see a little sympathy from the guys ... again I'm not judging, but when you know someone quite well and know that she is still feeling the pain of the breakup, it's beyond me how insensitive some can be ... was that judging? "

Yes that was judging, and also directing the thread, people will now know what to answer.

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On a serious note, if I knew them quite well, regardless of who instigated the break up, regardless of which one wanted to play, I couldn't do it.

not through taking sides, which with all due respect you appear to be doing (I'm not judging ), but quite the opposite, to not take sides.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's nice to see a little sympathy from the guys ... again I'm not judging, but when you know someone quite well and know that she is still feeling the pain of the breakup, it's beyond me how insensitive some can be ... was that judging?

Yes that was judging, and also directing the thread, people will now know what to answer.

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On a serious note, if I knew them quite well, regardless of who instigated the break up, regardless of which one wanted to play, I couldn't do it.

not through taking sides, which with all due respect you appear to be doing (I'm not judging ), but quite the opposite, to not take sides."

Oddly enough it's not a case of taking sides. I just think it's insensitive it that particular instance ... and stop grinning at me with that avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's nice to see a little sympathy from the guys ... again I'm not judging, but when you know someone quite well and know that she is still feeling the pain of the breakup, it's beyond me how insensitive some can be ... was that judging?

Yes that was judging, and also directing the thread, people will now know what to answer.

................

On a serious note, if I knew them quite well, regardless of who instigated the break up, regardless of which one wanted to play, I couldn't do it.

not through taking sides, which with all due respect you appear to be doing (I'm not judging ), but quite the opposite, to not take sides.

Oddly enough it's not a case of taking sides. I just think it's insensitive it that particular instance ... and stop grinning at me with that avatar "

I grin at everything, manically, I had to think really sad thoughts to get the pic you see as my avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah, here's a question, if the lady decided she wanted to play, would you?.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ah, here's a question, if the lady decided she wanted to play, would you?. "

If the guy was in her position then no. If it was an amicable split and they both decided to play and were comfortable, probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ah, here's a question, if the lady decided she wanted to play, would you?.

If the guy was in her position then no. If it was an amicable split and they both decided to play and were comfortable, probably "

cleverly skipped around there Ms Serens.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Nope, couldnt do it.

However, if both stayed in the "scene", and both wanted to play as singles, then, after a period of time, maybe.

We have seen relationships founder, and we tell both individuals the same, we will not take sides. If we are friends with a couple, then its because we like them both, so if they split up we will not take sides.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ah, here's a question, if the lady decided she wanted to play, would you?.

If the guy was in her position then no. If it was an amicable split and they both decided to play and were comfortable, probably

cleverly skipped around there Ms Serens. "

I thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ah, here's a question, if the lady decided she wanted to play, would you?.

If the guy was in her position then no. If it was an amicable split and they both decided to play and were comfortable, probably

cleverly skipped around there Ms Serens.

I thank you "

Not just a stunning body eh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ah, here's a question, if the lady decided she wanted to play, would you?.

If the guy was in her position then no. If it was an amicable split and they both decided to play and were comfortable, probably

cleverly skipped around there Ms Serens.

I thank you

Not just a stunning body eh. "

The body fades but the brain stays sharp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok this is a true story from another site where we still have friends. A popular couple married for over 10 years and who had many friends on that site, decided to split up. It was instigated by the male half and she was devastated and dropped out of the scene altogether. He continued as a single male, so my question is this ... If you as a single girl or part of a couple, had been friends with both, could you then play with the guy as a single? would you feel guilty? would you not bat an eyelid? .... no judgements from me/us just interested to know opinions xxx"

No.. We wouldn't, not with either sex.

Partly as we rarely see singles anyway, partly as if we were friends with both would feel weird...

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