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In your opinion, what makes someone fuckable but not dateable?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Answers on a postcard x

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If she’s female

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Following…for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact I don't want to date anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wont date anyone so i dont know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A shitty personality..self absorbed types

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide"

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide

Why? "

Why not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide"

Do a woman's romantic prospects become worthless once she joins Fab?

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Previous things on here and other sites I’ve seen the reason for not dating being -had too many partners so couldn’t take them home to mum/not girlfriend material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide

Do a woman's romantic prospects become worthless once she joins Fab? "

*whoosh* it was *joke* .. hence the emojis …

Gaw blimey …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Previous things on here and other sites I’ve seen the reason for not dating being -had too many partners so couldn’t take them home to mum/not girlfriend material. "
nutter magnet?

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Nothing. I wouldn't fuck someone I couldn't have a relationship with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that depends

Ie if it’s woman

I am not a any holes a goal kind off person

So if I wouldn’t date them I will not fuck them

Dateing dose not need to be on the cards but in my mind if the opportunity off dateing came up then yes I would

When it comes to couples well dateing is out the question as they all ready in a relationship so they just become fuckble

In terms off guys I don’t date guys so don’t need to worry about that and yes I am a any pole a goal kind off person

In terms off tv/ts not shour

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Too much baggage

Age gap

Wouldn't be seen in public with them

Different lifestyles

Not a long term prospect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's kinky not caring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuckable is a very short term kind of attraction. Everything is predicated around that goal.

Dateable is something else far beyond that. Actual connection past that immediate itch once it's been scratched. Everything is predicted around being near them.

I think.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I'm such a _hoir boy, I've only slept with women I would happily date too.

But I guess it would be selfishness/them being self-absorbed. I could put that aside for the odd night, but not for anything longer term...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, I think if someone describes or thinks of you that way then they're neither !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Previous things on here and other sites I’ve seen the reason for not dating being -had too many partners so couldn’t take them home to mum/not girlfriend material. "

I hate that term so what if someone had loads off sex with loads off people they were single they were free to do as they please

And also i would be happy they injoy them selfs

But mind you I have a different mentality form most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking to date so it's not an issue for me. However, I have had a few men who insist on reiterating that they don't want a relationship. As if they assume they're the most irresistible man on the planet Which massively turns me off

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Too much baggage

Age gap

Wouldn't be seen in public with them

Different lifestyles

Not a long term prospect "

This sums up it quite well. Basically, they aren't good enough to date for one, or more reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are fuckable but not datable too ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they don't want to date.

They live too far away.

They are guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Serious answer ..

Good looks, great body, flirty, vivacious.. all nice in the club isn’t it?

Clingy, bit psycho, angry, bad tempered, controlling, rude .. alright to have an angry fuck with but settle down and set up home with? Naaahhhh

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Well maybe its just not what people want they just wanna fk and leave not everyone wants to date...well I certainly not looking to date anyone especially on fab that's not what am here for!

Surely you'd be on a dating site rather than a swinging site if that was what you where looking for??

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m not looking to date so it doesn’t come into the equation

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By *ookingforfun9970Man
over a year ago

wilts

If you are fuckable then surely you are dateable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Too much baggage

Age gap

Wouldn't be seen in public with them

Different lifestyles

Not a long term prospect "

What would make you want to not be seen in public with someone?

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Could be something as simple as how they chew there food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality ...whether male or female, to be brutally honest some ppl are just a good fuck and nothing more.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Intrests

How they dress

Moodswings

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

there’s a physical attraction but personality wise there’s not enough common ground for dating /relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be me....apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big fuck off Doc Martens. Do you own a pair op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big fuck off Doc Martens. Do you own a pair op?"

Nothing wrong with Dr Martins some of the tallest people wear them. I don’t think a footwear choice determine if a woman is undesirable.

Could be wearing Adidas and be a unstable, violent, abuseive cheat. I. Fact more likely to bear wearing Adidas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide

Do a woman's romantic prospects become worthless once she joins Fab?

*whoosh* it was *joke* .. hence the emojis …

Gaw blimey … "

It did go over my head ngl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x"

No answers, that is me though apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too much baggage

Age gap

Wouldn't be seen in public with them

Different lifestyles

Not a long term prospect

What would make you want to not be seen in public with someone? "

I thought that...And why would you fuck someone who thought that about you ?

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

It could be because sex is casual and dating is more long term so more preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

No answers, that is me though apparently

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Marry me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

No answers, that is me though apparently

"

OK, so you've got a really thick lisp I take it?

Not the cute kind. Irritating like?

That or you collect something weird, like toe nail clippings or The Radio Times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

No answers, that is me though apparently

OK, so you've got a really thick lisp I take it?

Not the cute kind. Irritating like?

That or you collect something weird, like toe nail clippings or The Radio Times."

I have a shoebox full of Kerrang! mags

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Third nipple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Big fuck off Doc Martens. Do you own a pair op?

Nothing wrong with Dr Martins some of the tallest people wear them. I don’t think a footwear choice determine if a woman is undesirable.

Could be wearing Adidas and be a unstable, violent, abuseive cheat. I. Fact more likely to bear wearing Adidas "

Throw em in the bin and buy some crocs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

No answers, that is me though apparently

OK, so you've got a really thick lisp I take it?

Not the cute kind. Irritating like?

That or you collect something weird, like toe nail clippings or The Radio Times.

I have a shoebox full of Kerrang! mags "

Ah kerrang is fine and shoe boxes are small.

So you're alright.

For now.

But I'm watching

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Nothing in common

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Desperation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

No answers, that is me though apparently

OK, so you've got a really thick lisp I take it?

Not the cute kind. Irritating like?

Which issues

That or you collect something weird, like toe nail clippings or The Radio Times.

I have a shoebox full of Kerrang! mags "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're sexually attractive to me but we just don't share anything in common outside of sex.

Or if they're at a different life stage to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide"

Grabs the popcorn*

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Answers on a postcard x"

The opposite of what I'm looking for on my profile. Lol!

1. Not a gentleman.

2. Zero patience.

3. Terrible sexual skills but I'm just horny so just lie there and be my human dildo. don't talk or move. Lol!

4. Zero to low emotional intelligence.

It would be a one-night, one-time thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide

Grabs the popcorn*"

Lies about having popcorn

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By *heExcommMan
over a year ago

Llantrisant

They aren't looking for a relationship but fancy a fool around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They spin too many plates at once

T.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide

Grabs the popcorn*

Lies about having popcorn "

I do have sweet and salty popcorn in my hand right now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know really because I wouldn't fuck someone I didn't like/ trust/ respect. They may not want to date but If I was fucking them I wouldn't think them undatable in different circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fuckable would be someone who oozes sex appeal, i.e. they tick all your boxes in terms of having the attributes which you find most appealing; & undateable would be someone who is simply so different in nature as to be incapable of coexisting...!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

A brown paper bag makes someone fuckable but not dateable.

You can slip the bag on them to shag but you would get some funny looks if you took ‘em out on a date with it on.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Answers on a postcard x"

Surely it is:

Fuckable = on here

Not dateable = on here

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Something P said to me recently about "crackhead energy".

C

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Too much baggage

Age gap

Wouldn't be seen in public with them

Different lifestyles

Not a long term prospect

This sums up it quite well. Basically, they aren't good enough to date for one, or more reasons. "

They're the reasons I'd give, plenty of men with far too much baggage to date, but they're ok for a bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I thought that about someone I wouldn't do either as they clearly wouldn't be for me......

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

High maintenance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I thought that about someone I wouldn't do either as they clearly wouldn't be for me......

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Yes.

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By *heExcommMan
over a year ago

Llantrisant

You flirted all night and got along really well and were about to get down, then you find out they have a partner that doesn't know. Right out the front door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who talks about themselves and shows no interest.But I probably wouldn't fuck or date anyone like that ,even if he was easy on the eye .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Significant age gap - more than 10 years

Significantly different values/lifestyle

Baggage

Low emotional intelligence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x"

Fuckable : cause u really like her .

Why not datable ?

there are chances :

1- u not emotionally ready ( trapped loves )

2- u don’t feel 100% complete .

3- is not your interest .

Others fear the dating cause all they think is :

- commitment

- pressure

- agony .

- pain

- suffering

- cheaters

- charmers

- Broken hearts .

And sometimes there’s none of that .

But just that fear is pressure itself already .

I believe more then 90% of the anti - dating is fear of hurting .

That is 100% my speculation . Is just my believes .

High chance I be completely wrong . Tho … I think I’m not far .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A shitty personality..self absorbed types "

That’s not even fuckable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’re on Fab ….

#Fabicide

Do a woman's romantic prospects become worthless once she joins Fab? "

Never .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Previous things on here and other sites I’ve seen the reason for not dating being -had too many partners so couldn’t take them home to mum/not girlfriend material. "

Fragments of excuses :

- When u love someone u turn the world into a pyramid for her and nothing can reach the top

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm quite prepared to take anyone I'd fuck on a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be fukable but not datable .

At list she got pregnant of me and didn’t put any effort to have a nice relation after that .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A shitty personality..self absorbed types

That’s not even fuckable "

You're right but...alcohol

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Serious answer ..

Good looks, great body, flirty, vivacious.. all nice in the club isn’t it?

Clingy, bit psycho, angry, bad tempered, controlling, rude .. alright to have an angry fuck with but settle down and set up home with? Naaahhhh "

Angry fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious answer ..

Good looks, great body, flirty, vivacious.. all nice in the club isn’t it?

Clingy, bit psycho, angry, bad tempered, controlling, rude .. alright to have an angry fuck with but settle down and set up home with? Naaahhhh

Angry fuck?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Serious answer ..

Good looks, great body, flirty, vivacious.. all nice in the club isn’t it?

Clingy, bit psycho, angry, bad tempered, controlling, rude .. alright to have an angry fuck with but settle down and set up home with? Naaahhhh

Angry fuck?"

Porn ennit

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x"

Anybody on here basically

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I have to be honest OP. What makes a person fuckable and not dateable is entirely down to my state of mind.

I have zero interest in dating anyone or having a relationship but fucking is still very high on my needs list. I guess that’s why I feel so at home on FAB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Serious answer ..

Good looks, great body, flirty, vivacious.. all nice in the club isn’t it?

Clingy, bit psycho, angry, bad tempered, controlling, rude .. alright to have an angry fuck with but settle down and set up home with? Naaahhhh

Angry fuck?

Porn ennit"

Innit.

Iiiiiii-nnit.

C'mon guv, you're from Landan mate.

Sort i'aaht.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could give a really morbid answer that’s disgusting… actually nvm. I’ll say no loyalty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically "

Why

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why"

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's for the bedroom darling, not the boardroom"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship "

What does a body count have to do with it?

And what do you consider low?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship "

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

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By *ouple4PlayXCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description "

Exactly. How does body count make you good or bad?

I think anyone with a shit personality is undateable.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description "

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count"

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count"

Like yourself…

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Shitty personality/ outlook/ views would make someone undateable.

Sex appeal and self confidence make someone fuckable.

There are plenty of people i class in the former that I would still fuck and then never interact with ever again.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count"

Assumptions are the mother of all fuckups and to assume makes an ASS out of ME and U.

Preferable not to assume but such is life. Enjoy.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock. "

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

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over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs"

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks. "

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material "

Have you ever had a one nighter?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs"

Would you find it reasonable for a woman to have the same requirements of any future husband? Few prior girlfriends and no sleeping around? We can't be having double standards......

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

Have you ever had a one nighter? "

Yep i have

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

Would you find it reasonable for a woman to have the same requirements of any future husband? Few prior girlfriends and no sleeping around? We can't be having double standards......"

Absolutely. If thats what she wants

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

Have you ever had a one nighter?

Yep i have"

And you don't see the hypocrisy? At all?

And by "quality meets" I mean not just any rando that sends me a dick pic with "alright love, wanna hop on it?". I mean someone with half a brain who's actually a nice person and respects me. That already discounts like 99.99999% of men on here.

And on the off-chance I happen to find someone like that, he ghosts. Or he has a girlfriend. Or both.

So no. It's not fucking easy to get a meet.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

Have you ever had a one nighter?

Yep i have

And you don't see the hypocrisy? At all?

And by "quality meets" I mean not just any rando that sends me a dick pic with "alright love, wanna hop on it?". I mean someone with half a brain who's actually a nice person and respects me. That already discounts like 99.99999% of men on here.

And on the off-chance I happen to find someone like that, he ghosts. Or he has a girlfriend. Or both.

So no. It's not fucking easy to get a meet. "

No hypocrisy. As i said above, a woman is free to hold the same requirements i do.

You still do casual sex though, don't you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

Have you ever had a one nighter?

Yep i have

And you don't see the hypocrisy? At all?

And by "quality meets" I mean not just any rando that sends me a dick pic with "alright love, wanna hop on it?". I mean someone with half a brain who's actually a nice person and respects me. That already discounts like 99.99999% of men on here.

And on the off-chance I happen to find someone like that, he ghosts. Or he has a girlfriend. Or both.

So no. It's not fucking easy to get a meet.

No hypocrisy. As i said above, a woman is free to hold the same requirements i do.

You still do casual sex though, don't you? "

Not that it has anything to do with anything, and not that I need to justify anything to you, but I wouldn't if I had the choice.

With most of my partners I thought there would be potential for something more, because that's what they made me believe. But as it turns out, men will just say whatever to get you into bed and then ghost or say they don't actually want to date before their dick's even had the chance to dry. So my body count is actually very close to the number of times I've had sex. Which, coincidentally, is not a lot.

I guess it's my fault for being too stupid and naive and trusting and "picking the wrong ones", as someone's bound to tell me and oh my god what the fuck am I still doing on a site full of men who feel this way.

Fuck this. Fuck feeling this worthless. I actually hate this place.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

Have you ever had a one nighter?

Yep i have

And you don't see the hypocrisy? At all?

And by "quality meets" I mean not just any rando that sends me a dick pic with "alright love, wanna hop on it?". I mean someone with half a brain who's actually a nice person and respects me. That already discounts like 99.99999% of men on here.

And on the off-chance I happen to find someone like that, he ghosts. Or he has a girlfriend. Or both.

So no. It's not fucking easy to get a meet.

No hypocrisy. As i said above, a woman is free to hold the same requirements i do.

You still do casual sex though, don't you?

Not that it has anything to do with anything, and not that I need to justify anything to you, but I wouldn't if I had the choice.

With most of my partners I thought there would be potential for something more, because that's what they made me believe. But as it turns out, men will just say whatever to get you into bed and then ghost or say they don't actually want to date before their dick's even had the chance to dry. So my body count is actually very close to the number of times I've had sex. Which, coincidentally, is not a lot.

I guess it's my fault for being too stupid and naive and trusting and "picking the wrong ones", as someone's bound to tell me and oh my god what the fuck am I still doing on a site full of men who feel this way.

Fuck this. Fuck feeling this worthless. I actually hate this place. "

Not the site for you then, it sounds like

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

And sometimes there’s none of that .

But just that fear is pressure itself already .

I believe more then 90% of the anti - dating is fear of hurting .

That is 100% my speculation . Is just my believes .

High chance I be completely wrong . Tho … I think I’m not far .

Nah. 45% you hurting me. 45% losing my gotdamn mind 10 % me hurting you back....the criminally insane way.

Ah look my former marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, that escalated quickly.

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By *ereagainlolMan
over a year ago

Lerwick


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

Have you ever had a one nighter?

Yep i have

And you don't see the hypocrisy? At all?

And by "quality meets" I mean not just any rando that sends me a dick pic with "alright love, wanna hop on it?". I mean someone with half a brain who's actually a nice person and respects me. That already discounts like 99.99999% of men on here.

And on the off-chance I happen to find someone like that, he ghosts. Or he has a girlfriend. Or both.

So no. It's not fucking easy to get a meet.

No hypocrisy. As i said above, a woman is free to hold the same requirements i do.

You still do casual sex though, don't you?

Not that it has anything to do with anything, and not that I need to justify anything to you, but I wouldn't if I had the choice.

With most of my partners I thought there would be potential for something more, because that's what they made me believe. But as it turns out, men will just say whatever to get you into bed and then ghost or say they don't actually want to date before their dick's even had the chance to dry. So my body count is actually very close to the number of times I've had sex. Which, coincidentally, is not a lot.

I guess it's my fault for being too stupid and naive and trusting and "picking the wrong ones", as someone's bound to tell me and oh my god what the fuck am I still doing on a site full of men who feel this way.

Fuck this. Fuck feeling this worthless. I actually hate this place. "

I'm sorry you feel this way, you shouldn't feel that every man on here will just fuck and go unless that's what a person wants them to do. The meets I've had on here have been a memorable experience from start to finish for me. Whenever I get a meet, which isn't often living in the Shetland Islands, I have treated the woman with the utmost respect and always gone by her wishes of how the meet should go. Whether it's meeting for a drink or a meal beforehand, staying the night, so that they can feel some intimacy or just turning up and going right after. I know it might seem weird to some men, but I think when you are invited to meet someone you should try to make the person feel happy that they agreed to meet, instead of getting frustrated by people that just want to do what they want and bugger off when they've shot their load.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material

Have you ever had a one nighter?

Yep i have

And you don't see the hypocrisy? At all?

And by "quality meets" I mean not just any rando that sends me a dick pic with "alright love, wanna hop on it?". I mean someone with half a brain who's actually a nice person and respects me. That already discounts like 99.99999% of men on here.

And on the off-chance I happen to find someone like that, he ghosts. Or he has a girlfriend. Or both.

So no. It's not fucking easy to get a meet.

No hypocrisy. As i said above, a woman is free to hold the same requirements i do.

You still do casual sex though, don't you?

Not that it has anything to do with anything, and not that I need to justify anything to you, but I wouldn't if I had the choice.

With most of my partners I thought there would be potential for something more, because that's what they made me believe. But as it turns out, men will just say whatever to get you into bed and then ghost or say they don't actually want to date before their dick's even had the chance to dry. So my body count is actually very close to the number of times I've had sex. Which, coincidentally, is not a lot.

I guess it's my fault for being too stupid and naive and trusting and "picking the wrong ones", as someone's bound to tell me and oh my god what the fuck am I still doing on a site full of men who feel this way.

Fuck this. Fuck feeling this worthless. I actually hate this place.

I'm sorry you feel this way, you shouldn't feel that every man on here will just fuck and go unless that's what a person wants them to do. The meets I've had on here have been a memorable experience from start to finish for me. Whenever I get a meet, which isn't often living in the Shetland Islands, I have treated the woman with the utmost respect and always gone by her wishes of how the meet should go. Whether it's meeting for a drink or a meal beforehand, staying the night, so that they can feel some intimacy or just turning up and going right after. I know it might seem weird to some men, but I think when you are invited to meet someone you should try to make the person feel happy that they agreed to meet, instead of getting frustrated by people that just want to do what they want and bugger off when they've shot their load."

Chief, shes gone. No need to simp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah she's gone dude.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath


"Well, that escalated quickly. "

Indeed it did. Good thing I got married before I came on Fab. Lol!

Dunno what he would say about the wives on Fab.....

This is how I out the chaff any way. I'm going to start telling any man that ask that my body count is high/ 100..I would say 200 but who really has time to be counting all that.

I've seen those low body count requests for wives backfire spectacularly in marriages/relationships when said low body count woman's libido drops to zero or she will only do vanilla stuff.

There is such a thing as being equally yoked.

I like to travel. I can't be in a relationship with someone who never wants to go anywhere. I've got enough emotional intelligence to know that I'm not going to change a homebody into a jetsetter.

But I just got to leave people where they are and let them figure it out for themselves. I'm too old for trying to convince people otherwise.

For the record when I got married, I had a low body count and I didn't want a promiscuous man or a man into non-vanilla sex.

Good luck all. Being single is looking better every day. At least I can say at one point I was "marriage/girlfriend" material. Now I'm "me" material. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

I'm sorry you feel this way, you shouldn't feel that every man on here will just fuck and go unless that's what a person wants them to do. The meets I've had on here have been a memorable experience from start to finish for me. Whenever I get a meet, which isn't often living in the Shetland Islands, I have treated the woman with the utmost respect and always gone by her wishes of how the meet should go. Whether it's meeting for a drink or a meal beforehand, staying the night, so that they can feel some intimacy or just turning up and going right after. I know it might seem weird to some men, but I think when you are invited to meet someone you should try to make the person feel happy that they agreed to meet, instead of getting frustrated by people that just want to do what they want and bugger off when they've shot their load.

Chief, shes gone. No need to simp

So glad I pick up this manosphere/ toxic masculinity rhetoric really quickly now.

When I had a low body count, I just believed men said. They just said what they wanted because they wanted me because I had a low body count for their ego. They didn't want me for me.

Bet the next line will be "blah blah Modern women"

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

I'm sorry you feel this way, you shouldn't feel that every man on here will just fuck and go unless that's what a person wants them to do. The meets I've had on here have been a memorable experience from start to finish for me. Whenever I get a meet, which isn't often living in the Shetland Islands, I have treated the woman with the utmost respect and always gone by her wishes of how the meet should go. Whether it's meeting for a drink or a meal beforehand, staying the night, so that they can feel some intimacy or just turning up and going right after. I know it might seem weird to some men, but I think when you are invited to meet someone you should try to make the person feel happy that they agreed to meet, instead of getting frustrated by people that just want to do what they want and bugger off when they've shot their load.

Good to know some gentlemen still exist.

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By *ereagainlolMan
over a year ago

Lerwick


"I'm sorry you feel this way, you shouldn't feel that every man on here will just fuck and go unless that's what a person wants them to do. The meets I've had on here have been a memorable experience from start to finish for me. Whenever I get a meet, which isn't often living in the Shetland Islands, I have treated the woman with the utmost respect and always gone by her wishes of how the meet should go. Whether it's meeting for a drink or a meal beforehand, staying the night, so that they can feel some intimacy or just turning up and going right after. I know it might seem weird to some men, but I think when you are invited to meet someone you should try to make the person feel happy that they agreed to meet, instead of getting frustrated by people that just want to do what they want and bugger off when they've shot their load.

Good to know some gentlemen still exist."

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did the good girl thing. My ex-husband was my first. So...25 odd years with the one (older) guy. I genuinely do not recommend that. We weren't suited sexually but I had no experience to know that before I got drawn in and let life happen TO me.

It's only the last few years that I got to cast off the role I was stuck in, reclaim my life, express my true self and get my hands on what pleases me.

Life is too short, be safe and be happy. Follow your own path guys and let others follow theirs is my thinking. For some it's a shorter path to reaching their happiness, for others it's less simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x

Anybody on here basically

Why

I would only want to date someone with a low body count. People on here are fine for just sex, but not for dating /relationship

How do you know people on here have a "high body count"?

And what a god-awful description

I dont know, but its a reasonable assumption to make given the nature of the site. Your opinion of my description is none of my concern

As for the lady above asking whats a high count, that's a difficult one to answer, but chances are, anyone who has been on here a while and into casual sex will have a considerable count

What is "considerable" though?

I feel like you think it's easier to get a meet than it actually is. Can't speak for all women on here but I'm not exactly drowning in cock.

Well i think ita very easy as a woman to get a meet, if you really wanted to.

Regardless of that, i dont have an answer for your question about what is 'considerable'. But i do know that my idea of a dateable of marriage type woman, for me, is someone who previously wasnt into one night stands, meets etc and perhaps has only had a few prior BFs

A quality meet, not just any meet in general.

Unless you think we just open our legs for anyone who asks.

Im not sure what you mean.

But im referring to women who dont do one nighters at all, as my idea of dateable/marriage material "

So would you marry someone who declined to have sex prior to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who was that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who was that? "

Timber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who was that?

Timber "

I thought so.

That's a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who was that?

Timber

I thought so.

That's a shame. "

Yes, I really liked her posts

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Too far away or not practical to see often enough to date but still want to meet and spend time together a few times a year

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

These type of threads are excellent for filtering out the non swingers.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Who was that?

Timber

I thought so.

That's a shame. "

I hope she didn't leave over some of the brain dead answers in this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a shame the OP has felt she has to leave the site over the answers to this thread.

Hopefully after sleeping on it overnight and renewed clarity she will come back as she did some good threads and seemed a nice person.

I guess the moral here is though whilst it HAS happened on occasion, maybe an internet fuck site isn’t the best option to finding a longer term dating partner. There are other sites for that.

Most of the men here are looking to get their dicks wet and move on to the next willing pussy, it’s not necessarily a place for Mr Right (although as I say it has happened but it’s more exception than norm)

I hope the OP finds someone who’s totally into her who will love her and respect her, and vice versa

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"It’s a shame the OP has felt she has to leave the site over the answers to this thread.

Hopefully after sleeping on it overnight and renewed clarity she will come back as she did some good threads and seemed a nice person.

I guess the moral here is though whilst it HAS happened on occasion, maybe an internet fuck site isn’t the best option to finding a longer term dating partner. There are other sites for that.

Most of the men here are looking to get their dicks wet and move on to the next willing pussy, it’s not necessarily a place for Mr Right (although as I say it has happened but it’s more exception than norm)

I hope the OP finds someone who’s totally into her who will love her and respect her, and vice versa "

Goodness..this is sad ...I liked timber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nooo amber your were wonderful and very beautiful so sad to see you go wish you all the best and hopefully one day you return

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

There is a big wide world out there OP, full of lovely people who really don’t give a stuff about your sexual PAST. And that’s what it is, your past. We all have one.

Don’t let those with double standards make you doubt yourself. The right person for you is the right person for you. No matter where you meet them, in what circumstances, or their prior sexual history.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Answers on a postcard x"

Anyone with a profile on a Swingers site. I would fuck them but would not trust them to date them.

However many people do meet partners on here and are very happy.

Just I am not compatible with them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Timber was a good poster and she may come back sooner or later and use the site in a way she sees fit.

I don't believe she left because of anything that was said in the thread.

The decision to leave was hers and hers alone.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Answers on a postcard x

Anyone with a profile on a Swingers site. I would fuck them but would not trust them to date them.

However many people do meet partners on here and are very happy.

Just I am not compatible with them. "

I didn't answer the question..... she's gone.

Oh I'll answer anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a shame the OP has felt she has to leave the site over the answers to this thread.

Hopefully after sleeping on it overnight and renewed clarity she will come back as she did some good threads and seemed a nice person.

I guess the moral here is though whilst it HAS happened on occasion, maybe an internet fuck site isn’t the best option to finding a longer term dating partner. There are other sites for that.

Most of the men here are looking to get their dicks wet and move on to the next willing pussy, it’s not necessarily a place for Mr Right (although as I say it has happened but it’s more exception than norm)

I hope the OP finds someone who’s totally into her who will love her and respect her, and vice versa "

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex."

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Anyone I find physically attractive within my age boundaries who is legally available e.g. not attached or imprisoned.

Not dateable ....... the entire universe. I don't date. I do one off or repeat nights out though..... and have sex if they are on the 'would fuck list'.....

Call me Carole Vorderman , roll me in numbers and cringe at my fake laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude."

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Ah no. If you’re reading this I hope you’re ok sweetheart. You’re a good un. Hope to see you back .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I was fuckable but not dateable as I was a little bit broken by life in general and did not want to inflict that on anyone plus did not have the time or energy needed for a relationship. I've worked on myself and now I'm dateable again

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what."

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with .

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

RIP Timber! Long live the madonna-whore dichotomy. Off to church, keeping my body count low since the middle ages

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


".

Who is looking down on people?

"

Some people on this thread are as evidenced by there comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"RIP Timber! Long live the madonna-whore dichotomy. Off to church, keeping my body count low since the middle ages "

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford


"Answers on a postcard x"

They send postcards.

Serious answer: a shallow personality- if they can’t hold a conversation while clothes are on, chances are they lack imagination when the clothes come off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so old I'm carbon dateable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She'll be back, but different.

Probably SimberTwindler or something.

Sounds like someone twirling a little baby lion King.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

In answer to the question. Depends. If I was looking to date, which I’m not so it’s hypothetical. It’s possible I could meet someone on here but not if they were a swinger and wanted to carry that on. I’m sure It’s possible to meet someone on here and fall for each other and have a monogamous relationship, maybe just not as likely as other avenues.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with ."

I find the whole getting upset about the number of people thing just a bit

My take is that it is insecurity and a bit of hypocrisy that makes people worry about someone’s previous sexual life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have a new chat up line.

"I wanna fuck you so hard, you will be come undateable"

Should I include a dick pic to make sure it guarantees success ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Well I have a new chat up line.

"I wanna fuck you so hard, you will be come undateable"

Should I include a dick pic to make sure it guarantees success ?"

Good idea but change it to fuck you so often .......

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

If I thought someone wasn't dateable I most likely wouldn't want to fuck them either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"There is a big wide world out there OP, full of lovely people who really don’t give a stuff about your sexual PAST. And that’s what it is, your past. We all have one.

Don’t let those with double standards make you doubt yourself. The right person for you is the right person for you. No matter where you meet them, in what circumstances, or their prior sexual history.

"

Maybe there are some with double standards, but I'm certainly not one of those. I already said in an earlier comment that i have no issue if the woman wants to apply the same standard at her end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

"

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with ."

If youre referring to me, im not looking down on anyone.

Just like that lady said she wouldnt date anyone from here because she wouldnt trust them, i wouldnt date anyonr from here because of prior body count. Whats the difference?

Why are you giving her a pass but not me?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

"

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with .

I find the whole getting upset about the number of people thing just a bit

My take is that it is insecurity and a bit of hypocrisy that makes people worry about someone’s previous sexual life. "

The thread though is about fuckability vs dateability .. I can kind of understand someone wanting to fuck a nymphomaniac who needs sex as often as they can as a one-off versus wanting to long-term date them but always wondering if they’re out fucking elsewhere to satisfy their needs.

It’s perfectly acceptable (imho) to be happy about shagging someone but not wanting them as your life partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if someone has a really busy life.

I'm a very busy person. I don't have time for a partner who needs time and attention, so I can't really date anyone just now, so for me I'd consider someone in a similar situation fuck able but not datable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not. "

Fine.

Put some socks on.

You'll catch cold flashing that much leg.

Behave.

Happy?

But yes, there's plenty of pandering. It's nauseating. Be yourself and if you can't, reflect as to why.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with .

I find the whole getting upset about the number of people thing just a bit

My take is that it is insecurity and a bit of hypocrisy that makes people worry about someone’s previous sexual life.

The thread though is about fuckability vs dateability .. I can kind of understand someone wanting to fuck a nymphomaniac who needs sex as often as they can as a one-off versus wanting to long-term date them but always wondering if they’re out fucking elsewhere to satisfy their needs.

It’s perfectly acceptable (imho) to be happy about shagging someone but not wanting them as your life partner. "

It absolutely is! Who is anyone to say it’s not.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not. "
the truth hurts

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with .

If youre referring to me, im not looking down on anyone.

Just like that lady said she wouldnt date anyone from here because she wouldnt trust them, i wouldnt date anyonr from here because of prior body count. Whats the difference?

Why are you giving her a pass but not me? "

Slow down nanaman..... I didn't say you were looking down on anyone.

I DID say maybe the person who said that 'people were looking down on others' meant you.

I found what you said , open fair and honest. Totally abhorrent , unreasonable , dated and judgemental but certainly open, fair and honest and an opinion you are entitled to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss Timber forum is a bit of a cockfest now

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not. the truth hurts "

In some cases I think it does. Some extremely defensive folk on here. Not necessarily on this thread. Just in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unpopular opinion but I’d wager that there’s a huge amount of men on here who fuck women that they’d never date and not just because of ‘body count’ or promiscuity but because many men fuck women they aren't particularly attracted to!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not. the truth hurts

In some cases I think it does. Some extremely defensive folk on here. Not necessarily on this thread. Just in general. "
exactly some see the negative in everything and some like to antagonise

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with .

If youre referring to me, im not looking down on anyone.

Just like that lady said she wouldnt date anyone from here because she wouldnt trust them, i wouldnt date anyonr from here because of prior body count. Whats the difference?

Why are you giving her a pass but not me?

Slow down nanaman..... I didn't say you were looking down on anyone.

I DID say maybe the person who said that 'people were looking down on others' meant you.

I found what you said , open fair and honest. Totally abhorrent , unreasonable , dated and judgemental but certainly open, fair and honest and an opinion you are entitled to.

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I dont agree at all with 'Totally abhorrent , unreasonable , dated and judgemental'.

Im not being unreasonable, its just a preference. Im not being judgemental either, shes free to feel the same way if she likes. Im unsure what relevance 'dated' has; are we all automatically supposed to change because of the ticking of a clock? And as for abhorrent, i think thats a massive stretch and very inappropriate

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Unpopular opinion but I’d wager that there’s a huge amount of men on here who fuck women that they’d never date and not just because of ‘body count’ or promiscuity but because many men fuck women they aren't particularly attracted to! "

Yes theres certainly that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming late to this thread. I am sorry to see Timber go.

I know it is becoming fashionable in the parts to say you can use the site for whatever you want but, at its heart, it is (and always has been) a swinging site and people (men, women and couples) are here for sex. By all means look for other stuff as well but you can’t be surprised if people just want to meet others for sex.

I don't think anyone issurprised but the attitude of some is quite shameful. They are looking for sex but at the same time they are looking down on the people they want to have sex with. It's a pretty shoddy attitude.

Who is looking down on people?

Not wanting to date someone doesn't mean they are looking down on them.

It's a very entitled attitude to say that anyone should date them no matter what.

Maybe they mean the person who said that people from here are okay to fuck but not to date or marry.

There could be other reasons other than looking down but they made a clear statement that people from here are not dateable - due to the number of people they'd had sex with .

I find the whole getting upset about the number of people thing just a bit

My take is that it is insecurity and a bit of hypocrisy that makes people worry about someone’s previous sexual life.

The thread though is about fuckability vs dateability .. I can kind of understand someone wanting to fuck a nymphomaniac who needs sex as often as they can as a one-off versus wanting to long-term date them but always wondering if they’re out fucking elsewhere to satisfy their needs.

It’s perfectly acceptable (imho) to be happy about shagging someone but not wanting them as your life partner. "

I couldn't keep up/ satisfy someone who was a nymphomaniac or had a high body count so I wouldn't date them. I wouldn't trust them to be happy with monthly sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unpopular opinion but I’d wager that there’s a huge amount of men on here who fuck women that they’d never date and not just because of ‘body count’ or promiscuity but because many men fuck women they aren't particularly attracted to! "

Attraction is a spectrum.

A large majority will, when the urge takes them, go anywhere the purple headed lust monster leads them.

And that can adjust taste, boundaries and everything in between.

That's life though, women do the same though not to the same extent we can make sweeping generalisations.

It's all about experience, judging the individual and compatibility with your values, time and need.

And that Venn diagram can be constantly shifting.

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not. the truth hurts

In some cases I think it does. Some extremely defensive folk on here. Not necessarily on this thread. Just in general. "

Woah I’m staying clear last time I got blown out the water

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not. the truth hurts

In some cases I think it does. Some extremely defensive folk on here. Not necessarily on this thread. Just in general.

Woah I’m staying clear last time I got blown out the water "

Haha that’s probably best sweetie

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Trouble is, like everything, it's an open ended statement that draws out a lot of insecurity as to the why, as if recognising attraction but realising long term incompatibility is a bad thing.

It isn't. That's totally normal.

What isn't, is misleading, deceiving and manipulating others to meet their needs.

Everyone has their own line in the sand, that's fine too. The reasons might be unpalatable, but that's fine also.

. Agreed. I’m sure, on these forums, a lot of people won’t comment how they really feel due to the backlash, in fact I know they won’t. I like the people who aren’t afraid to give their true opinions on here, even if it gets them grief, whether I agree with them or not. the truth hurts

In some cases I think it does. Some extremely defensive folk on here. Not necessarily on this thread. Just in general.

Woah I’m staying clear last time I got blown out the water "

Youre late to the party anyway, thread almost full

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I know you don't think it's judgemental and that is what makes me smile a little.

If you save the best bit of your dinner till last - you made a judgement.

If you wouldn't have a partner based on how many fucks they've had you made a judgement.

I respect your right to make that choice but it is a judgement.

If you are still in an open honest mood - why don't you want a well fucked one ?

( don't do the preference answer. Dig deep )

Ta.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unpopular opinion but I’d wager that there’s a huge amount of men on here who fuck women that they’d never date and not just because of ‘body count’ or promiscuity but because many men fuck women they aren't particularly attracted to!

Attraction is a spectrum.

A large majority will, when the urge takes them, go anywhere the purple headed lust monster leads them.

And that can adjust taste, boundaries and everything in between.

That's life though, women do the same though not to the same extent we can make sweeping generalisations.

It's all about experience, judging the individual and compatibility with your values, time and need.

And that Venn diagram can be constantly shifting."

On here though woman don’t need to fuck guys they’re not attracted to. So I’d wager it doesn’t happen anywhere near as often.

For many many men their need for sex outweighs any need for mutual attraction. There’s no doubt that a lot of men would fuck women they’d never deem attractive enough to date/intro to friends etc!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unpopular opinion but I’d wager that there’s a huge amount of men on here who fuck women that they’d never date and not just because of ‘body count’ or promiscuity but because many men fuck women they aren't particularly attracted to! "

I'm a woman and there's men here that I would fuck but wouldn't date. It's got nothing to do with their body count though, so presumably that's acceptable?

People can set their own standards for who they are willing to date, so long as they're not giving anyone a misleading impression about their intentions, that's their right

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