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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

No.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We were at a party once and a couple there arrived fresh from an overnight meet. Illogically and unreasonably it put me off. I still don't know if it was that they'd met or that they made it known that they had.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

It’s a fuck yeah from us !

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

Yep doesn't bother me at all

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I don’t mind; lots of people have constraints on their time so days to meet sometimes come together.

As long as you’re all ok with not feeling like second best, it’s just a part of adult life.

Have you been asked to take a ticket like at the deli counter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather not tbh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they’re clean and fresh then it’s all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why it would matter. Its a swingers site. I can see why people might have an issue on a dating site where they were looking for something long term. If you saw someone playing at a club would that then turn you off them?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Swanage

Don't see the problem especially if you're at a party where they could potentially move from one couple to the next there and then

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

When I'm feeling confident it would bring out the competitor in me.

When less so, I'd rather not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah not for me

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

"I don’t mind; lots of people have constraints on their time so days to meet sometimes come together.

As long as you’re all ok with not feeling like second best, it’s just a part of adult life.

Have you been asked to take a ticket like at the deli counter?

Why would you be second best? if he asked to cut short a meet with me to meet someone else, yes I'd be pissed.

But if it happens that he's around when I am free...that's a normal meet regardless of whose bed he's just left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I don’t do parties or group fun and I wouldn’t play at a club with a guy I’d seen play with someone else. Just ain’t my thing! No sloppy seconds please!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Swanage

"Also I don’t do parties or group fun and I wouldn’t play at a club with a guy I’d seen play with someone else. Just ain’t my thing! No sloppy seconds please! "
but say you hadn't seen him play, how would you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long ago in Days of Yore I had a week with 3 meets, just because calendars were restictive and it's how it worked out, but wouldn't do it again. Enjoying the anticipation and getting excited about what is to come is difficult if your attention is divided. Also, I need a bit of time after a meet to process and enjoy the little flashbacks and delight in the memories before moving my attention onto another person. I'm not sure if other people function like this? I'd prefer for us to be our meet's primary focus for the time they are with us.

Nell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t say I’ve ever thought about it, but I don’t think it bothers me too much if I was to meet someone say tonight who’d met someone last night.

When I used to go to La Chambre I’d often come down stairs after being with someone and then go back up later on with someone else… To me that was just the nature of swinging clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the context, if it was a brag about their meet with details then yeah their lack of discretion would put me off

But as I enjoy clubs and the swinging scene it would be hypocritical to say otherwise

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

With the friends I have and the friends that they have it wouldn't even be a possibility to avoid!

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. I think most people do that when they get a bit of free time. I quite like hearing stories of debauchery to so would be pretty hot. And I do also love the idea of someone wanting to see me after a meet.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Long ago in Days of Yore I had a week with 3 meets, just because calendars were restictive and it's how it worked out, but wouldn't do it again. Enjoying the anticipation and getting excited about what is to come is difficult if your attention is divided. Also, I need a bit of time after a meet to process and enjoy the little flashbacks and delight in the memories before moving my attention onto another person. I'm not sure if other people function like this? I'd prefer for us to be our meet's primary focus for the time they are with us.

Nell"

100%. Good sex is emotionally and physically intense. I like to be with that a while.

That's definitely why, and not because no one wants to meet me.

Honest.

(Sob.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet for a drink, yes that's fine.

Sexual meet after they've not long left someone's else's bits, no thanks, BIG nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also I don’t do parties or group fun and I wouldn’t play at a club with a guy I’d seen play with someone else. Just ain’t my thing! No sloppy seconds please! but say you hadn't seen him play, how would you know?

I have never played with a random guy in a club, I rarely play at clubs (I like the social side) and when I have it’s been pre-arranged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the honesty . I really need that . Must too .

Depends of what they been up too .

If was only penetrative with protection is not as much cringe as if having much more detail and bare then that .

Depends on our connection .

If is a friend or a lady We get on well May be easier to pretend I didn’t heard anything .

Or put it in same top shelf as past of 20 years ago …

Status saying : “ oh what a night that was “

I find off putting :/ I’m a bit ocd cringe I think .

Nothing wrong about it .

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t bother me but I’d prefer not to hear about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why it would matter. Its a swingers site. I can see why people might have an issue on a dating site where they were looking for something long term. If you saw someone playing at a club would that then turn you off them?

As far as playing with them there? Yes, seconds aren't appealing to me but then sex with randoms isn't appealing to me either so I'd play by arrangement with an established partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social meet for a drink, yes that's fine.

Sexual meet after they've not long left someone's else's bits, no thanks, BIG nope! "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "

Hmm, I’m not sure I’m not lucky enough to meet that many people that this would be an issue. It’s really none of my business what somebody does outside of meeting me ? So I no yess not. I can understand why it would be an issue though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around"

But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

That's OK by me ..why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn’t bother me but I’d prefer not to hear about it. "

Is cringe . Massive . I have to pretend I don’t know .

But is part of my game . Everything has to be on the table ( no details needed ) but everything needs to be known .

Yes is cringe . But tomorrow I wanna came to you . And I can’t do that unless I’m 100% sure I’m safe .

Cringe or no cringe health and safety takes priority .

The cringe pushes away , but honesty and caring pulls good people closer .

Is how it works with me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d rather not tbh! "

I can also see why it would be off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "

Don't care if that's what they do, fine by me, but I would not meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dosent bother me one bit

I my self have pritty much done it on a number off times

Finshed a meet went to leave a veri and end up handing out seconds

But I am always up front and let them know before hand

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Nothing better then getting a nosh off of someone who still has another mans love juice in her gob

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

As long as they are freshly showered and hygienic then it wouldn't bother us. Is it any different to being in a club and playing with different people there?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

not meeting, forums only

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "
as I only do group play in clubs .. it would be very hypocritical of me to say yes. To be fair when I did do private meets.. I'd often do more than one in a day/ evening and didn't care if they had too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he had a small dick and halitosis I'd fancy my chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait, you get meets?

Back under the covers you.

Well, you know my position.

No hard feelings yeah?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My free time is rare and my tastes very specific. Sometimes there will be close timings and other times a full on drought.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Wait, you get meets?

Back under the covers you.

Well, you know my position.

No hard feelings yeah?"

I don't know falafel. Can't remember. It's been so long since we last spoke.

Remind me?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Why would it b a bother? No problem I can see? X

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Generally no unless it’s within a group of friends and unavoidable

If I’m having sex with someone I like to focus on them for at least 24 hours before and nit ge distracted

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's natural life. I'm only interested in the time spent together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex twice in 2 days. You slay me, Meli

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a no from me

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It’s also a no from me

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Swanage

I have never played with a random guy in a club, I rarely play at clubs (I like the social side) and when I have it’s been pre-arranged. "
Ok plausible reason

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Day after is fine. Same day would be a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait, you get meets?

Back under the covers you.

Well, you know my position.

No hard feelings yeah?

I don't know falafel. Can't remember. It's been so long since we last spoke.

Remind me?"

Repugnant.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around

But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans "

100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not a chance.

I know there's no exclusivity but I don't ever want to be one of many. And once I feel like another one of many they are saying and doing the same stuff with, I'm done.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

No, I wouldn't do that to someone so I would expect the same respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.

Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..

But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around

But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans

100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum

Yes. With men you can quite often tell when they've spaffed in a woman recently, their erection isn't as firm (sorry men, it's just not), they're not quite as... grrrr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who she is if i in any way gave a shitabout her have any warm feelings towards her barring the one feeling between her legs no probly not as i dont do being sloppy 2nds in that case but if just for sex nothing else the hole being the goal what she does on her time is her business but i would have to be pretty darn d*unk to be in that kind of a mood these days so 70% no 30% yes based on the lust level and my beer impared judgement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends who she is if i in any way gave a shitabout her have any warm feelings towards her barring the one feeling between her legs no probly not as i dont do being sloppy 2nds in that case but if just for sex nothing else the hole being the goal what she does on her time is her business but i would have to be pretty darn d*unk to be in that kind of a mood these days so 70% no 30% yes based on the lust level and my beer impared judgement "
ps iv only been d*unk once the last 2 years so probly best to shrink those odds

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't have an issue with it, we are all adult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around

But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans

100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum

Yes. With men you can quite often tell when they've spaffed in a woman recently, their erection isn't as firm (sorry men, it's just not), they're not quite as... grrrr. "

Just never can win the race …

First gear goes to fast , last gear has no torque even it lasts for Eva

* Jesus holding a frying pan . Pancake party ? Leaking cum ?

Jesus ask her :

- sorry love , have u been cooking candles again ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn’t both me in the slightest. I suppose it depends on your individual perception or sex and intimacy.

If I was going for a night out with vanilla friends, would I be hesitant about meeting up with them if they had a night out the day before or even a lunch thing that day? Not at all. As long as they were having fun and enjoying our night out, what they did a few hours before has no effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have an issue with it, we are all adult"

Yes … but not al like garlic sauce on the kebab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was ladies night at the clubs the night before I would kindly ask that you bring the new friend with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One great thing about men on Fab... they've likely not had sex in months!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In theory I wouldn't mind especially if they are a couple, I mean couples are always at it arent they. But in practise it might just tug at my (strings) a bit. It would entirely depend on the meet too. If was just us two singles wanting sex for sex's sake then yes I maybe miffed, we could have sex with each other twice over the day next day instead. If it was part of a scenario where you fuck a stranger then go back to fuck your partner/friend as a reclaim then yeah Ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One great thing about men on Fab... they've likely not had sex in months!"

Oooooh you bitch haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We might be on a swinging site but jeez, there's ways to behave, there's etiquette to observe, there's respect for yourself and for the person you just left and the person you're sniffing around

But there is etiquette when sharing men with other women. Having respect for the person you are with at the time, is of utmost importance when partaking in casual sex shenanigans

100% agree on respect. There’s also energy levels, physically and mentally. I want her recovered and on fire not all knackered and leaking cum

Yes. With men you can quite often tell when they've spaffed in a woman recently, their erection isn't as firm (sorry men, it's just not), they're not quite as... grrrr. "

Noted, be extra grrr to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One great thing about men on Fab... they've likely not had sex in months!

Oooooh you bitch haha

It's a positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.

Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..

But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many."

How utterly contradictory

Colour me shocked

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It wouldn’t bother me. It’s no different to playing with multiple people in a club. As long as it’s safe I see no issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wouldn’t bother me. It’s no different to playing with multiple people in a club. As long as it’s safe I see no issue."

Nice rack

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Not so keen to be honest, thats why i'm not a fan of verifications, especially loads of them. I'd prefer not to know

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"One great thing about men on Fab... they've likely not had sex in months!"

Years darling, years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One great thing about men on Fab... they've likely not had sex in months!"

That debatele if they bi they have more sex than anyone

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By *r SteelhammerMan
over a year ago

belfast

Does not bother me but please shower first don't want to be fucking someone smelling of sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so keen to be honest, thats why i'm not a fan of verifications, especially loads of them. I'd prefer not to know"

So your telling me +40 year old with double the verifications is a turn off? The meets could be socials and the guy could still be a virgin

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"It wouldn’t bother me. It’s no different to playing with multiple people in a club. As long as it’s safe I see no issue.

Nice rack "

Thanks, I grew them myself

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.

Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..

But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many.

How utterly contradictory

Colour me shocked

Oi! Stop being mean to my friends, twunt.

Love you.

xoxo

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

"Not so keen to be honest, thats why i'm not a fan of verifications, especially loads of them. I'd prefer not to know

So your telling me +40 year old with double the verifications is a turn off? The meets could be socials and the guy could still be a virgin "

Socials are different. But yea, loads of verifications are a turn off for me, especially descriptive ones

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't meet often and prefer to only meet people on a similar journey.

I've no issue with how often others want to meet but I would rather not be just a number.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion. "

Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.

Maybe a rap.

Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.

You've brought it on yourself.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You mean I won't be special and unique to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP what is your answer to the question? Keep it short and sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.

Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.

Maybe a rap.

Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.

You've brought it on yourself."

Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.

We could even have a rap battle.

Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.

Alliterative duel.

Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I would be happy meeting one person not long after another, so it would be hypocritical to be bothered if they did the same!

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"As long as they are freshly showered and hygienic then it wouldn't bother us. Is it any different to being in a club and playing with different people there?"

This is my thoughts as well x

Tg x

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"OP what is your answer to the question? Keep it short and sweet "

See; I'd have given an answer. But you asked the impossible. I don't really do short and sweet alas.

Anyway, it's far more interesting reading other views, I didn't want to tilt the chat in a certain direction because I'd typed how I viewed it.

Also, I'm trying really hard to not be as predictable in this reply but it's long and waffling so I failed*.

*sorry M.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really do short and sweet anus."

Understood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally depends on my mindset at the time and the context of the meet.

Sometimes wouldn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a swinging world and sex with others is perfectly fine..

But if I was in a needy mood and it was a much anticipated meet up it may make me feel insecure about being a number of many.

How utterly contradictory

Colour me shocked

I pride myself on my contradictory ways.. keeps everyone on their toes!

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over a year ago

"Not so keen to be honest, thats why i'm not a fan of verifications, especially loads of them. I'd prefer not to know

So your telling me +40 year old with double the verifications is a turn off? The meets could be socials and the guy could still be a virgin

Socials are different. But yea, loads of verifications are a turn off for me, especially descriptive ones"

Same but I prefer to see no veris showing at all, not even social ones.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.

Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.

Maybe a rap.

Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.

You've brought it on yourself.

Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.

We could even have a rap battle.

Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.

Alliterative duel.

Then play pogs cause we be the coolest."

Babe.

I've done it.

Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I don't really do short and sweet anus.

Understood."

Why did I even check if I typed it wrong? Why J P? Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances are somebody wouldn't say, and I certainly wouldn't ask when somebody last had sex as it's absolutely not my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.

Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.

Maybe a rap.

Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.

You've brought it on yourself.

Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.

We could even have a rap battle.

Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.

Alliterative duel.

Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.

Babe.

I've done it.

Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen."

New custom ringtone found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.

Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.

Maybe a rap.

Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.

You've brought it on yourself.

Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.

We could even have a rap battle.

Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.

Alliterative duel.

Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.

Babe.

I've done it.

Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen."

Please tell me you’ve done it Wham rap style!

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.

Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.

Maybe a rap.

Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.

You've brought it on yourself.

Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.

We could even have a rap battle.

Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.

Alliterative duel.

Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.

Babe.

I've done it.

Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen.

Please tell me you’ve done it Wham rap style!

Oh do you want me to sing it to you in the aforementioned style?

Prepare your eardrums.

I'm honestly a musical genius. Should be writing for the West End with this talent.

(Yeah I'm joining you in wine)

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over a year ago

"OP what is your answer to the question? Keep it short and sweet

See; I'd have given an answer. But you asked the impossible. I don't really do short and sweet alas.

Anyway, it's far more interesting reading other views, I didn't want to tilt the chat in a certain direction because I'd typed how I viewed it.

Also, I'm trying really hard to not be as predictable in this reply but it's long and waffling so I failed*.

*sorry M."

Was my answer predictable? Waffle for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...to avoid detection of recent erection misdirection and indiscretion.

Also I really love this and I think I might make a song out of it.

Maybe a rap.

Remember when you have to hear me sing/rap it to you later.

You've brought it on yourself.

Oh I love a little bit of random sing songy nonsense, so bring it.

We could even have a rap battle.

Probably be more of a rhyme scuffle.

Alliterative duel.

Then play pogs cause we be the coolest.

Babe.

I've done it.

Honestly my voice is fucking angelic. You lucky sod. Now stop reading my posts and hurry up and listen.

Please tell me you’ve done it Wham rap style!

Oh do you want me to sing it to you in the aforementioned style?

Prepare your eardrums.

I'm honestly a musical genius. Should be writing for the West End with this talent.

(Yeah I'm joining you in wine)"

Umm yeah I want to hear that rap! We can take tips from our West end musical genius in two weeks!

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah? "

It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.

I’m not sure if compersion is the word I’m looking for here but I’d love to have the kind of relationship with whoever I’m meeting where I’m happy for them and whoever they just met and I get to share that afterglow with them…but alas I’m still a swingle loner and don’t see that changing anytime soon so I’ll just live vicariously through you

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over a year ago

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?

It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.

I’m with you on that.. would love to have an established connection where compersion could happen. Until then it’s a bit of a hive of insecurity!

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?

It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.

I’m with you on that.. would love to have an established connection where compersion could happen. Until then it’s a bit of a hive of insecurity!"

Let’s just watch Meli instead and have compersion then

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

It wouldn’t faze us, just as long as we’d have time to reclaim, freshen up and get dressed up again!

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

I'd want the details... likely a turn on more than a turn off. Challenge accepted. In the past I've had a last minute meet opportunity on the Friday where I'd had something planned in advance for the Saturday. To be fair nither couple minded and both appreciated the honesty, luckily.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?

It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.

I’m with you on that.. would love to have an established connection where compersion could happen. Until then it’s a bit of a hive of insecurity!

Let’s just watch Meli instead and have compersion then

Sold. Two weeks from today yeah?

P.S VG I'm so excited, we should have a singalong with the West End Boi!

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over a year ago

"Nope, not a chance.

I know there's no exclusivity but I don't ever want to be one of many. And once I feel like another one of many they are saying and doing the same stuff with, I'm done.

This, hate it so much.

Takes a great experience and burns it to the ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I wouldn't do that to someone so I would expect the same respect."

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over a year ago

"I don't meet often and prefer to only meet people on a similar journey.

I've no issue with how often others want to meet but I would rather not be just a number. "

Exactly, feeling like 'just a number' dilutes the connection and makes the intimacy seem false and too superficial for me to be aroused by it. Makes me doubt every word, every gesture, every compliment. I imagine them with others saying and doing the same. I can't quite delete thoughts of them being with me and having their schedule of past and future meets running through their head. Of leaving our meet and whipping out their phone to hop on fab and check up on their listings.

But that's the cynical non-swinger in me. The one with her eyes wide open and her heart locked up tight. The one who thinks people serve their own needs on here. The one who doesn't trust.

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over a year ago

"So great hive mind of wankers.

How do you feel about meeting someone/a couple the same night/next day after they've met someone else? Is it a big no, a don't care or a fuck yeah?

It really depends on who I’m meeting, who they met and what I’m comfortable with in our relationship.

And yes, the who is the kicker. I am niche & super super hard to match chemistry with and if they have been with someone I find unpleasant it'd be impossible to see past imaginings of them together to fuck them myself.

Takes a while for my ocd to reset and the ick to fade.

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over a year ago

"I don't meet often and prefer to only meet people on a similar journey.

I've no issue with how often others want to meet but I would rather not be just a number.

This. Yes. So much this.

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over a year ago

"I don't meet often and prefer to only meet people on a similar journey.

I've no issue with how often others want to meet but I would rather not be just a number.

But that's the cynical non-swinger in me. The one with her eyes wide open and her heart locked up tight. The one who thinks people serve their own needs on here. The one who doesn't trust.

THIS!

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

I suppose ultimately it depends on what your motivation for being on Fab is.

If you are just here for casual fun, it is not likely to be much of an issue.

Conversely, if you see it as a specialized relationship site then it is going to be much more significant.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

o o OO o o

It would be a no for me.

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