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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I dont mean back handed ones either.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No. It is my current work in progress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont mean back handed ones either. "

Not sure, try me.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm bloody awful at it!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am not good, I prefer to be on the periphery of things rather than central.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

if i know them to be true, then yes

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Not usually getting many. Try me out and see what I think

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

Col

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubbish at it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who says it

How they say it

Why they say it

From some people yes

From some people no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so. I usually make eye contact, smile, and say "welllll, that's very kind of you to say so."

A compliment should be a shared pleasure.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I am not good, I prefer to be on the periphery of things rather than central."
You have a very eloquent dress sense View.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I am not good, I prefer to be on the periphery of things rather than central.You have a very eloquent dress sense View. "

whispers thanks

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Depends on who says it

How they say it

Why they say it

From some people yes

From some people no"
So if you know them to be bullshitting fuckers its a no, if it comes across as genuine and heartfelt its a yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am, A is not, she always thinks I'm joking!

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on who says it

How they say it

Why they say it

From some people yes

From some people noSo if you know them to be bullshitting fuckers its a no, if it comes across as genuine and heartfelt its a yes? "

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jizz in my pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down "

Exactly the way I react. xxx

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down "
Evie, you are one of the nicest people i know, a truly lovely human being xxxx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down Evie, you are one of the nicest people i know, a truly lovely human being xxxx"

awwwwww....you!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm not to good at it. I often feel uncomfortable, especially at work as I just see it as my job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think so. I usually make eye contact, smile, and say "welllll, that's very kind of you to say so."

A compliment should be a shared pleasure. "

Not if the are shouting "your pussy is so fucking hot" in the throes of a shag tho

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I used to knock them back, but have learnt to accept compliments gracefully. Usually I say thanks and try to return the compliment, even if it's only saying "how nice of you to say so"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet all compliments with a piss take remark type brush off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My false flattery and insincerity radar is very sensitive and accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont mean back handed ones either. "

No. On a bad day I have even had a go at someone for it lol

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down Evie, you are one of the nicest people i know, a truly lovely human being xxxx

awwwwww....you!!!! "

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True though.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I dont mean back handed ones either.

No. On a bad day I have even had a go at someone for it lol

Cali"
Why on earth would you do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends how you feel about yourself, regardless of the compliment, if someone says.."I love your hair" yet you feel that it doesn't look great, you won't receive it as a compliment.

You will then think on, and perceive said person is only pointing a flaw you already feel you have.

Human minds and the way we work, self destructive, very complex and to me a compliment is about the person I am, not the way I look.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Femme, how do you take your compliments?

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Femme, how do you take your compliments?"
with a pinch of salt and a lime wedge...lol...seriously i think im pretty good at accepting them...

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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago

France

When I receive a compliment I simply thank the giver for their kindness. If they were being insincere then they usually feel a little foolish for it, but if genuine then it's made them happy. I think this has become easier with age...as a youngster I always laughed them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to believe I accept them with good grace, unless I believe the giver of the compliment is being insincere or has a hidden agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not at all x

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By *vana sukalotWoman
over a year ago

In a land of make believe (Derby)


"nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down "

I'm the same, maybe its not something I'm used to hearing and when I've had them I find them hard to accept as truth. I can take a put down much better than a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont mean back handed ones either. "

I am unaccustomed in the art of reverencing them so I would not really know. The last one anywhere near was a someone saying " you're not really a bastard" and it was flummoxed as to how I should reply. Try me and I will soon find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think i know if the compliment is a genuine one, in which case i accept. But off strangers i find it hard to accept

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

Have you been sneaking into my inbox lady??

Been 'debating' this today.

I am awful at receiving compliments. In fact, I can't take them.

In real life I tend to go red and squirm as I think theyre telling fibs anyway

I try and say thank you but just end up saying.... The weather's nice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you been sneaking into my inbox lady??

Been 'debating' this today.

I am awful at receiving compliments. In fact, I can't take them.

In real life I tend to go red and squirm as I think theyre telling fibs anyway

I try and say thank you but just end up saying.... The weather's nice... "

uve really tasty lookin fanny lips xxxxxxxxx

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc


"Have you been sneaking into my inbox lady??

Been 'debating' this today.

I am awful at receiving compliments. In fact, I can't take them.

In real life I tend to go red and squirm as I think theyre telling fibs anyway

I try and say thank you but just end up saying.... The weather's nice...

uve really tasty lookin fanny lips xxxxxxxxx"

Than.... Oh the weather's been nice today

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Makes me go awwwww shucks geeeorge.

Preferably if their not called George though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have a problem if they are sincere with them.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

neva liked them even if i think they maybe sincerely meant and for that reason i dont generally hand them out incase they make the recipient slightly uneasy as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont take compliments well, just in case they are false ones and the op has an ulterier motive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like 'em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont mean back handed ones either.

No. On a bad day I have even had a go at someone for it lol

CaliWhy on earth would you do that?"

He told me he loved my thighs. I decided he was taking the piss. Told him so. And blocked him. My former master went mad at me.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tend to self-consciously laugh them off! Which sometimes annoys the giver!!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I have taught myself to accept them gracefully after someone explained to me how horrible it felt to say something they genuinely felt was true just to have it brushed off or joked about or dismissed.

If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.

If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.

And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I accept and say thank you but this site does rather make us girls cynical

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I am good at receiving them, in fact I positively court them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am good at receiving them, in fact I positively court them."

I hadn't notice u doing that

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Never had one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had one "

good try lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Never had one

good try lol "

. And yes, actually, I do accept compliments gratefully and sometimes in a mildly disbelieving manner but I still like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well only the other day I had a string of compliments one after the other; in all honesty I was amazed at this sort of attention ..... till I realised they where "complaining" about lol

Apparently it was because im a virgin and at a recent meeting was made to do the "VIT" (virgin initiation test)and it was because I couldn't stop giggling at seeing naked bodies - being a virgin you see - Honest I am

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I have taught myself to accept them gracefully after someone explained to me how horrible it felt to say something they genuinely felt was true just to have it brushed off or joked about or dismissed.

If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.

If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.

And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. "
i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.

If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.

And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine."

And some people have to pluck up courage to give a compliment so to ignore it or make a joke of it you are making a joke of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like getting them and giving them I can't help myself, if I see something about a person in the street even... my EX used to walk off like I was doing something terrible

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.

If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.

And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine.

And some people have to pluck up courage to give a compliment so to ignore it or make a joke of it you are making a joke of them."
Thats extremely true, a friend of mine who i go to the footy with was exesperated with his now ex at one point, as he complimented her a lot and she always dismissed him ...it really got to him.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I like getting them and giving them I can't help myself, if I see something about a person in the street even... my EX used to walk off like I was doing something terrible

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Compliments from randoms strangers are great - they must be genuine if they are just going to wander off and never meet/talk to you again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm rubbish at accepting them go all red n make a stupid half smile/wince kinda thing

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"nope, go all shy and try to think of ways to knock it down

Exactly the way I react. xxx "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Th only compliments I can ever take is if someone mentions my eyes. The are a lush green. Apart from that. I can't take any. ( not that I have many) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like getting them and giving them I can't help myself, if I see something about a person in the street even... my EX used to walk off like I was doing something terrible

Compliments from randoms strangers are great - they must be genuine if they are just going to wander off and never meet/talk to you again."

Yeah that's true, I've had the odd compliment from strangers and it can really brighten ones day

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"If it's an honest compliment then to dismiss it it to dismiss the giver as a lier.

If it's a false compliment the giver is still offering it because you have something of value.

And if it's a sarcastic compliment the best way to deflate the giver is ti accept it with a straight face and good grace and move on. i think you are right about dismissing the giver as a liar especially if genuine.

And some people have to pluck up courage to give a compliment so to ignore it or make a joke of it you are making a joke of them."

nnnn.... nnnn... nnnice arse pic in your gallery TD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm terrible, never believe they mean it when they say a compliment

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thank you Ryan, I'm glad you like it.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *ctavius StuntMan
over a year ago

london

hahaha

I do something today and you may say "You are awesome, brilliant, wonderfull."

Tomorrow i may do something that pisses you off and you will hate me.

Love and appreciation often turns into hate and loathing and then back again.

I try, not always succesfully to treat compliments and insults in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone compliments me, I think they're taking the piss.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I dont mean back handed ones either. "

Yes, as they usually confirm what I already know: that I'm awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone compliments me, I think they're taking the piss."

I'm the same, I do t believe them, they're only doing it to keep me happy or get what they want lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to believe I accept them with good grace, unless I believe the giver of the compliment is being insincere or has a hidden agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept them well its nice that some body takes the time to show their appreciation.It makes up for the time when you run into ignorant people,for example i have lost count of the amount of times i have opened a door for someone and they walk through and never even look at me or say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had a problem so send as many as you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never had a problem so send as many as you like "

So get your bum out and I will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never had a problem so send as many as you like

So get your bum out and I will "

Think I will keep it in my pants as its cold out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realised a while ago how rude it is to reject a compliment so I try to say thank you graciously, even if I don't actually believe a word of it.

I'm gradually learning though that it takes all sorts and it's quite possible for people to love things I despise.

It works that way for celery and parsnip, so why not for body shape and size?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope !

Crap at it.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"I realised a while ago how rude it is to reject a compliment so I try to say thank you graciously, even if I don't actually believe a word of it.

I'm gradually learning though that it takes all sorts and it's quite possible for people to love things I despise.

It works that way for celery and parsnip, so why not for body shape and size? "

Nobody likes parsnip do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I realised a while ago how rude it is to reject a compliment so I try to say thank you graciously, even if I don't actually believe a word of it.

I'm gradually learning though that it takes all sorts and it's quite possible for people to love things I despise.

It works that way for celery and parsnip, so why not for body shape and size?

Nobody likes parsnip do they? "

Allegedly they do.

I think I remember Pearl saying she does and will be having them on Christmas Day.

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