FabSwingers.com forum: Why don’t you tell your friends?

By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.

What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would I? Its personal and basically none of their business, can have a laugh and wind up about sexlives but never felt I needed to go into detail. Nor would I want details of theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve been talking about why we don’t tell our friend we play. We don’t think it’s that they would spread the “gossip” or judge us disapprovingly. It’s probably just because we don’t have a reason to.

What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"

Some wont see the possitives of this lifestyle and might judge for it. I wouldnt want to risk loosing any good friends.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?

Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?

Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?"

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my friends because the last thing I want is someone coming to me trying to be all cute saying they saw my gf on x website or app.

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

All good points and you are right of course. We don’t want to know about their sexlives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I told my friends because the last thing I want is someone coming to me trying to be all cute saying they saw my gf on x website or app. "

Or even worse, someone goes to my gf and says they saw me.

‘If I was some other chick and someone happened to see?

And when you asked me about it I said it wasn’t me?

Would you believe me?

Or up and leave me?’

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?

Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?

Yes!

Oh. I'll write a book then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?

Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?

Yes!

Oh. I'll write a book then

I actually meant to say "agreed!". Instead, only managed enthusiastic yes to all above.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

They asked what I had been up to and kept telling me I should get dating and find myself a man... No ta!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Because it's none of their damn business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't need to know about each others sexlife being the main reason.

Also you'd be surprised how many people say they're very open minded and non judgmental, but when you discuss swinging. It'll either be recieved with questions or go down like a lead balloon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it's none of their damn business.

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she knows what she wants and how to get it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Because it's none of their damn business.

she knows what she wants and how to get it. "

Wrong thread

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't discuss my sexual life with my friends...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it's none of their damn business.

she knows what she wants and how to get it.

Wrong thread

Oh sorry

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't want to be bored by their sex lives, so why should I brighten up their day by telling them about mine?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"
I tell them because I'm an open book, I tell them I go to nudist beaches as well

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"They asked what I had been up to and kept telling me I should get dating and find myself a man... No ta! "

Sorry... Wasn't reading properly... I did tell mine

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Most of my good friends know, in a general sense.

But I don't usually go into details.

Not something I would mention at work though.

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

"They asked what I had been up to and kept telling me I should get dating and find myself a man... No ta! "

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

"I don't want to be bored by their sex lives, so why should I brighten up their day by telling them about mine?

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

"We don't need to know about each others sexlife being the main reason.

Also you'd be surprised how many people say they're very open minded and non judgmental, but when you discuss swinging. It'll either be recieved with questions or go down like a lead balloon.

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true

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

A couple of our friends outside of fab know, they’re very open themselves as we are about most things. The reason why we don’t make it public knowledge as it’s not necessary for everyone to know and a few of our friends are very straight laced and I know they’d be horrified! Although most of them suspect we get up to naughtiness with the friends that do know. Which may be partially true

Also I wouldn’t want my parents finding out, they would be extremely horrified considering they think I lost my virginity to my husband

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

")Also I wouldn’t want my parents finding out, they would be extremely horrified considering they think I lost my virginity to my husband

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

They wouldn't be the slightest bit interested in my sex life.

Not that I have many friends.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It's my business, not theirs. I don't want to hear about their sexy shenanigans, and I'd imagine they don't want to hear about mine

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By *reedy JamesMan
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Tell my friends that I like to used like a "bitch"? Well, for a bunch of reasons, but one is I get off on the contrast between my masculine persona in my day to day life and what I am like behind the closed door of a bedroom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?

Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?"

I don't know why Swingers think everyone wants to know about their sex lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im past caring and of people asked me outright I would tell them.

I wouldnt tell them myself unprompted though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of the fun and thrill for us two - is no-one we know knows what we get up to....

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

What friends?! lol!

My safety buddy knows but I don't bombard her with details. She's got her own life to sort out plus she is a sexual abuse survivor so I do not need to trigger her.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Few friends know I play. More knew I did BDSM, but given that they also do/did it, hard for them not to know.

No need for them to know the details, not is it any of thier business.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

There would then tell there friends and so on not good....

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"

Mainly because my friends are a bunch of prudes, and I'd be varying degrees of judged, mocked or ostracised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told a friend and his wife once what me and a girl had got up to. Just thinking that at time they're open minded. It turned out the correct answer was, keep that one to yourself. Lesson learned.

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

"I told a friend and his wife once what me and a girl had got up to. Just thinking that at time they're open minded. It turned out the correct answer was, keep that one to yourself. Lesson learned. "
oops

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?

Mainly because my friends are a bunch of prudes, and I'd be varying degrees of judged, mocked or ostracised. "

We’re definitely keeping it to ourselves. It makes it even more fun this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's none of their business

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By *arkjackMan
over a year ago

West Cork

I have told my friends.

I don't care if my family find out either.

Other people's privacy I respect but personally have super low affection for other people's opinions on sexuality, whether it is conservatives or progressives there is is always somebody telling you what the Correct Thought is.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have a couple of close friends that know, but that is mainly for my own security

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die

Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do vanillas have to 'tell' friends about their sex lives ?

Is it just me that thinks my sex life is my business ?"

Some men like to show off they events as a trophy . Is a Macho attitude.

For me they just embarrassing themselfs .

A man who fucks a lot is an hero

A woman that shags more then 1 is a slag .

And that’s it . That’s how they work it out x

Vanilla has nothing to do with that

I’m 100% vanilla .

I never showed a single

Photo of anyone to a third party .

I never told about adventures .

Tho when u go out with someone everyone ends knowing

I hate gossip . I hate nosy people .

I don’t mind share emotions and experience but with it braking discretions z

Respect .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die

Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex

She ment :

“ u r a dirty woman . U never change u knickers . I never saw u change your knickers . I wish u take me with you “

That’s what she really ment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die

Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex

She ment :

“ u r a dirty woman . U never change u knickers . I never saw u change your knickers . I wish u take me with you “

That’s what she really ment

No, she would have just presented me with some new pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my circle small practically non existent so no chance of me letting on about me being on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a couple of close friends that know, but that is mainly for my own security"

Yeah . I suggest that …

Meeting a new stranger or go in his house , if u can share the details to a trusting friend x

Or if u have no friends a pal from fabs u can trust . So at list someone knows where n who you with and when .

I done that before . A lady was feeling insecure to trust herself to me . So I asked her best friend to photo my passport …

Helped her to relax . And happy new year

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

We like to have something for us.. our little secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it's none of their damn business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's my business, not theirs. I don't want to hear about their sexy shenanigans, and I'd imagine they don't want to hear about mine"

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

"We like to have something for us.. our little secret. "

Exactly that!! I don’t want everyone knowing my private life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t tell mine because I love the secrecy of it all. Such a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m proud of being on fabs .

There’s absolutely nothing wrong about it .

If u think be on fabs is bad ?

U should see how they look at women who seats in a caffe drinking beer in Portugal back in a day

Not anymore , now the ladies tip the bottle upside down like a man

. U know … with they hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm uber vanilla /prudish in my normal life... They'd die

Although my previous boss did say to me that i was the filthiest person she'd ever known... So i obviously exude a certain amount of attitude or sex

She ment :

“ u r a dirty woman . U never change u knickers . I never saw u change your knickers . I wish u take me with you “

That’s what she really ment

No, she would have just presented me with some new pants

Your boss she is a very naughty lady . I like her already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's my business, not theirs. I don't want to hear about their sexy shenanigans, and I'd imagine they don't want to hear about mine

Oh but they do ….

Tell us . Tell us …. And then ? And theeeeen ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't discuss my sexual life with my friends..."

I do .

I tell them all to “ fuck off “

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"

I don't play as such , lm just looking for a like minded single woman and l don't tell my friends cause it's simply none of their business.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

What are the reasons you haven’t told your friends?"

Because it’s got nothing to do with them.

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By *ust Passing ThroughMan
over a year ago

poole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any friends x

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By *aysOfOurLives OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

"I don't have any friends x "
lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any friends x "

Awwww I'll be your friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my friends add swingers and the others, most of them apart from a few know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second. "

I actually don't

well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.

I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt to tell and no-one to tell it to.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second.

I actually don't

well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.

I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals. "

Lemon, I'll be your friend. I'll take you up the Shopping Shitty if you like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second.

I actually don't

well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.

I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals.

Lemon, I'll be your friend. I'll take you up the Shopping Shitty if you like?

Oh god yes please take me up the shitter.

I mean shopping shitty. Yes we should do it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I don't have any friends x lol, and yet we don’t believe you for a second.

I actually don't

well I do but he's my partner and the rest I know are just more acquaintances I would only share coffee and mundane things with.

I'll take Foolhardly up on his offer and we can be best friends and the bonus is we both like sex and have seen each others genitals.

Lemon, I'll be your friend. I'll take you up the Shopping Shitty if you like?

Oh god yes please take me up the shitter.

I mean shopping shitty. Yes we should do it. "

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