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By *lder A Wiser Passion OP   Woman
over a year ago

morecambe

yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"

Play guitar very very loudly

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

Close my eyes & breathe.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Call a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to a hypn0t!sm YouTube video. John Moyer does good ones x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"

Generally lean into it for a bit, then realise I don't like when I am figure out why I feel like it and confront it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise, walk, get outside and touch grass, figuratively and literally.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here if you need a chat though op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spiritual-meditation

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Once I've recognised that I've started down a dark path I try to calmy walk myself through my emotions and understand where these feelings are coming from in the most pragmatic and level-headed way I can.

Also

Worries go down better with soup

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By *mids21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Drink and try to relax

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Go for a long walk with my dogs

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Listen to hard house music and float away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't sleep and drinking don't help but maybe a walk or find something to destract you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fill my head with music (earphones) and i walk, or go to the gym

Its important to get good sleep and eat well OP if you can xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for a ride on my motorbike to clear my head slightly hoping a tree or wall will step out in front of me x

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I would say if you are in a dark place then please please please reach out to someone... I hit that place a few weeks so totally get where you are.... One thought at a time, one step at a time, one day at a time... My inbox is always open x

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"
take your mind off it, fill your day up with other crap, work, food, people, cinema etc etc etc

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"

Get some fresh air.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Music and running.

I’ve always found running to help.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Go for a walk.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Get outside. Go for a walk. I find the rhythm of walking helps me think things through in a clearer way.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

if we end up with these 3 hour power cuts we are all going to be in a dark place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do something I enjoy that I may not have done in a while. It breaks up my routine and provides a great release of energy. Do you have anything like that? It happened to me a few weeks ago and it feel awful. I hope you feel better soon OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went insane genuinly profesionally insane treat me with respect i fucked like a bison

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Journal, move my body to release, breathwork, EFT.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

I go for a drive, listen to music, or I escape into a film.

Taking my mind completely away from the situation seems to work for me.

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By *moothpussyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I love to go horse riding when im feeling down.

I also have a friend that I can call day or night and she knows she can call me at anytime.

I don't think we were designed to live in a fast-paced world like this. Sometimes we need time out.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I don't allow my head to get full of shit or be in a dark place, i stay away 24/7 365 away of situations that can lead to that state. Reading peoples energy , body language and people actions really protects my mind, aura and my soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"

Go swimming, it clears my head totally, the best thing I've ever done for my anxiety

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Drink. Play loud music and sing very badly and very loudly. Wallow. Draw or paint. Cry. Wait. Renew.

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Exercise, the endorphins help..

socialise, getting out the house and seeing friends can people realise they aren’t alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get mobile any way I can. A change of scene, the enorphins. Both seem to help.

Sorry if you’re going through it OP. Sometimes it’s like weather. It passes, but has to be endured.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise is 100% effective, the blood pumping around clears your mind and body, I feel 10 times better after a workout,which at the moment is mainly swimming but any sweaty workout is good for your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And keep away from alcohol,nothing worse if your head is in another place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"

First thing is that you recognise that you have an issue.

Second is making a decision to allow it to control you or you take control.

Sometimes that is easy and sometimes it's not easy.

I find that I am more vulnerable when tired so that's the first thing I action, I recognise I'm tired so ignore all of the emotional noise and get a good sleep. That usually sorts it.

However if its something bigger and still bothers me then the very best thing is to talk to someone about it.

The person you have the issue with (work or personal) or a trusted friend or 2. Failing that a support group or medical help.

I hope this had helped.

Don't forget

Everything is only temporary. All things change with time

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"

Swim, then resolve it.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I found writing helped me, that and setraline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I just say another thing that I did when I went through really bad patch, sounds daft, but I had regular chats with myself in the mirror and it really does help, like I said it's sounds daft but helped me

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Go for a walk, feed the swans or the squirrels, get a coffee, find a friendly face to have a chat with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many mentioned above but also switching off, having a nap, taking time off talking with people to re organise the "shit" crawling around the head.

T.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for a ride on my moterbike. A long long ride. Its something i love and it brings back the reality that there are good things that i enjoy in life.

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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago

Gateway to the Beacons

cold shower, cold water dipping

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Go and lift heavy things

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Try getting some exercise and talking to people close to you, or just keep talking. Try to write your feeling down, it might help. If you feel this way for a few weeks, it’s ok to reach out to your GP for support. You are not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn on some metal scream to the music after awhile you end up dancing and in a better mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes when your head full of shit what do you guys do"

Reach out to friends, get outside for a walk, lift heavy stuff in the gym or write (brain dump onto paper and then burn it).

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Boring, but I analyse cause and ask the question "can I do anything about it?"

Yes = do it

No = pointless fretting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let my other half know these days (I never used to open up though), I clean / tidy up a little - because it needs doing but no other reason- and hit the game consoles hard.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Music, walking, long drives that's usually my go to.

Mrs

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By *laything1966Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Walk my dogs and I have recently restarted making plastic scale modelling, the concentrate needed seems to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meditate, write, try and just sit with the emotions, feel them and have a good cry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walk our dog got some great places to be alone for a while. My motor bike and my workshop in the garden always making something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go for a ride on my moterbike. A long long ride. Its something i love and it brings back the reality that there are good things that i enjoy in life. "

Totally agree riding my bikes let’s me forget the world for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take my medicine

Normally doesn’t happen to often

Just when I forget meds

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Breath in and out, try to eat well, do something you enjoy, music, audiobook, shower or talk a walk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to music.. LOUD or go for a walk.

Nikki x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Cuddle the cats.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Hide away, listen to music, be kinder to myself, talk to loved ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit in the woods,cry and imagine the world without me in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go hiking up mountains , takes your mind off it

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Suffer, mainly.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

I usually go for a run in a park or remote area, get some clear oxygen in the body, exhaust myself physically...when I start it's like a tornado of thoughts, by the end of the run it starts to clear out.

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Prefer to be on my own left alone. And those days are plenty of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for a long walk..nature always always sorts me out

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By *andomly FriendlyCouple
over a year ago

Hull

I go for a walk or a run.

Headphones in and off I go

Helps me massively

S

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Siting outside in garden with just nature and a good book (weather permitting) does the trick for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shred some trails on my mountain bike

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By *he Running Man 2022Man
over a year ago

Shipley, Bradford

Go for a run (or walk). Really good for giving me head space.

Especially using a Spotify play list or audiobook

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By *hiregirl76Woman
over a year ago

Scotland

Cry myself to sleep and hope it's all gone when i wake up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cry myself to sleep and hope it's all gone when i wake up"

That's so sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Session at the gym with my music.

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