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By *ack688 OP   Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

…that there are so many more men in here than women, the difference is huge, like maybe 50:1, it’s certainly not a statistic anomaly, so, what either draws more men to this, or deters women more?

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ack688 OP   Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex."

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Women are *still* discouraged from being obviously sexual

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too? "
nope most women want a stable relationship with kids loyal husband etc the ones that love sex are a rare breed to be treated with respect

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By *ack688 OP   Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)


"Women are *still* discouraged from being obviously sexual "

So it’s not a lack of want, it’s a not wanting to be seen to want?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Women are *still* discouraged from being obviously sexual

So it’s not a lack of want, it’s a not wanting to be seen to want?"

That might be some of it but it's other people's attitudes.

I have seen people on here say that modesty and humility are traits they admire in women.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too? "

I think women are more likely put off by some of the attitudes on here and leave, and find what they want else where, rather than them not being drawn to it.

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I think there are more men because quite simply if you are a woman anywhere it's gotta be much easier to get a guy that's just how nature works ! Realistically nature itself has put the pu$$¥ on a pedestal!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too? nope most women want a stable relationship with kids loyal husband etc the ones that love sex are a rare breed to be treated with respect "

Can't you love sex and want those things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too?

I think women are more likely put off by some of the attitudes on here and leave, and find what they want else where, rather than them not being drawn to it."

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too? nope most women want a stable relationship with kids loyal husband etc the ones that love sex are a rare breed to be treated with respect

Can't you love sex and want those things?"
of course but I'm talking about numbers more than anything else

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too?

I think women are more likely put off by some of the attitudes on here and leave, and find what they want else where, rather than them not being drawn to it."

That's very true

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

There'll be many things. Single parents are more likely to be women which limits free time. Even in shared parenting it's known that women tend to do more than men, possibly leaving them more tired and less in the mood. The menopause. The fear of being recognised is possibly more acute for women, and being sexually adventurous is traditionally more frowned upon for women. The fear of it. Women are generally smaller and weaker than men. Meeting someone new can be a worry when they can physically overpower you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are nicer to women on dating sites. They will often lie about wanting a relationship and use flirting/ respectful ways to try and get sex.

On here the men tend to just demand sex "because it's a sex site" and get pissy when a woman says no.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"Men are nicer to women on dating sites. They will often lie about wanting a relationship and use flirting/ respectful ways to try and get sex.

On here the men tend to just demand sex "because it's a sex site" and get pissy when a woman says no.

"

Ahh yes, the 'sex site' argument. It may be correct, but that still doesn't enable entitlement.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I was a single woman on here I wouldn't be meeting.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too? "

Some might but the majority no

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too?

I think women are more likely put off by some of the attitudes on here and leave, and find what they want else where, rather than them not being drawn to it."

This^^^

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

All dating sites are mostly men. This one is seen by some as a sex site so would be even more heavily men.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Because men have more free time.

Women are too busy doing housework to be on here full time

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Is there a difference between a woeman and a woeismeman?

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Men are nicer to women on dating sites. They will often lie about wanting a relationship and use flirting/ respectful ways to try and get sex.

On here the men tend to just demand sex "because it's a sex site" and get pissy when a woman says no.

"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all men are the same ! I chat with women for social and fun reasons with no expectations of meeting.

Dating sites are no different both men and women fabricate their profiles and no mention of sex but that is what lots are looking for.

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

My observation during time spent in various chat platforms online is that generally women look for something to fill an emotional gap and men are more likely to look for something to fill a gap sexually (so to speak).

This is a huge generalisation of course and doesn’t apply to everyone, but I think that on the whole it’s true.

A lot of women want more than just nsa sex.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Because men are mostly desperate for sex and women are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men need sex more than women so they are more likely to seek it on casual sex sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by most ofvthe messages we receive from single guys many don't have a clue about swinging and just seem to think it's an easy ticket to sex.

The news is.. it's not. Thank goodness for the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too? nope most women want a stable relationship with kids loyal husband etc the ones that love sex are a rare breed to be treated with respect

Can't you love sex and want those things?"

Yes - it’s hard to believe we are in the 21st century at times isn’t it. I don’t think women have advanced to equality in the last 50 years. I was so hopeful when I was a teenager that we could truly be equal - but women still have to fulfil a role that men have contrived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there are more men because quite simply if you are a woman anywhere it's gotta be much easier to get a guy that's just how nature works ! Realistically nature itself has put the pu$$¥ on a pedestal!"

Plus some women find being referred to as merely body parts, incredibly reductive

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Most women wont meet or even leave due to "some" mens attitudes on here as the "some" when they join think they will be drowning in pussy where the reality is the power is in the womens hands as with such a large amount of guys on here they can pick and chose. This is where the"some" get pissy and get abusive to the women. I feel sorry for the NICE GUYS on here as we have met loads at socials who have been really lovely to chat to and been amazingly respectful. They are the ones getting a reallt shit deal on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Most women wont meet or even leave due to "some" mens attitudes on here as the "some" when they join think they will be drowning in pussy where the reality is the power is in the womens hands as with such a large amount of guys on here they can pick and chose. This is where the"some" get pissy and get abusive to the women. I feel sorry for the NICE GUYS on here as we have met loads at socials who have been really lovely to chat to and been amazingly respectful. They are the ones getting a reallt shit deal on here. "

What deal are men to expect, nice or otherwise?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Men need sex more than women so they are more likely to seek it on casual sex sites "

I'd disagree with this. I've worked most of my life in male dominated workplaces and if there have been 2 conversations about sex in all that time that's about the height of it.

Compare that to experiences working in an office full of women where but a day went by without a conversation that revolved around sex or had a sexual tone.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Most women wont meet or even leave due to "some" mens attitudes on here as the "some" when they join think they will be drowning in pussy where the reality is the power is in the womens hands as with such a large amount of guys on here they can pick and chose. This is where the"some" get pissy and get abusive to the women. I feel sorry for the NICE GUYS on here as we have met loads at socials who have been really lovely to chat to and been amazingly respectful. They are the ones getting a reallt shit deal on here. "

More often than not the genuinely nice guys don't feel they are getting a raw deal at all.

Someone mentioned putting pussy on a pedestal but it's usually the "nice guys" who put it there rather than the women themselves and they chat to women as if they are a different species.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Possibilities

1. Women are called sluts for being promiscuous

2. Women are at home minding the children of the men who are here.

3. Women are on a period 1 week in 4.

4. Women get pregnant

5. Women are more at risk when meeting strangers than men

6. Women have to put more effort into looking good

7. Women have to spend more on looking good ( not the same as above )

8. Women get sex far more easily off site anyway

9. Women are knackered after juggling work home , kids and big kid.

10. Women need to feel desired not used

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The allure and delusion of quick, easy sex.

And you think that appeals to men more than women? Are women not drawn to that too? nope most women want a stable relationship with kids loyal husband etc the ones that love sex are a rare breed to be treated with respect

Can't you love sex and want those things?

Yes - it’s hard to believe we are in the 21st century at times isn’t it. I don’t think women have advanced to equality in the last 50 years. I was so hopeful when I was a teenager that we could truly be equal - but women still have to fulfil a role that men have contrived. "

It's patriarchy rather than men. Men are born into it too.

I think great strides have been made with regards to equality.

Makes me smile when people think that promiscuity / sexual deviance etc is something new or evolutionary ...

even me calling it sexual deviance says a lot about societies attitude toward the ownership of sex

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Possibilities

1. Women are called sluts for being promiscuous

2. Women are at home minding the children of the men who are here.

3. Women are on a period 1 week in 4.

4. Women get pregnant

5. Women are more at risk when meeting strangers than men

6. Women have to put more effort into looking good

7. Women have to spend more on looking good ( not the same as above )

8. Women get sex far more easily off site anyway

9. Women are knackered after juggling work home , kids and big kid.

10. Women need to feel desired not used"

This!! All of this!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Unbalanced free time opportunities

A woman can come on here and pick up a fwb and leave, unbeknownst to her he is also seeing 5 other women. As there is very limited free time for single mothers to date, lots of men can come and go as they please..

I'd love to not hold down a full time job and a family for a month, my sex life would be amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Possibilities

1. Women are called sluts for being promiscuous

2. Women are at home minding the children of the men who are here.

3. Women are on a period 1 week in 4.

4. Women get pregnant

5. Women are more at risk when meeting strangers than men

6. Women have to put more effort into looking good

7. Women have to spend more on looking good ( not the same as above )

8. Women get sex far more easily off site anyway

9. Women are knackered after juggling work home , kids and big kid.

10. Women need to feel desired not used"

!!!

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"

even me calling it sexual deviance says a lot about societies attitude toward the ownership of sex"

Now this is a powerful quote.

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