FabSwingers.com forum: Body dismorpha

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone have this? There's times I look at myself and think I look good than I can look and think I look like total crap for no reason. Same body, nothings change bar my mind set

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By *ornyhun69Woman
over a year ago

Wales

Mee!! Awful I am x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mee!! Awful I am x"

People say there's nothing wrong with me and yet at times I think there wrong and can find issues with my body that's not there.

Hard habit to completely break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mee!! Awful I am x

People say there's nothing wrong with me and yet at times I think there wrong and can find issues with my body that's not there.

Hard habit to completely break"

Often these things are quite deep rooted and need some professional support to help you to understand what you are feeling and why and maybe give you some strategies to help you feel more comfortable in your own skin.

Maybe a chat with your GP might be worthwhile. X

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Yup. Not as much any more but some days are tougher than others. Often depends on what type of mirror i’m in front of.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"Yup. Not as much any more but some days are tougher than others. Often depends on what type of mirror i’m in front of."

I know it is how you feel about yourself that really is what is going on here.

But!

I think you have got a fantastic body

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Yup. Not as much any more but some days are tougher than others. Often depends on what type of mirror i’m in front of.

I know it is how you feel about yourself that really is what is going on here.

But!

I think you have got a fantastic body

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha literally Dora.

Same breath

“I look hot in this”

“God I’m so fat!”

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By *ustincider888Man
over a year ago

Preston Ish

I get where you're coming from OP although I think my mind plays tricks due to a bit of a midlife crisis going on with me

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By *urvywelshcougarWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Does anyone have this? There's times I look at myself and think I look good than I can look and think I look like total crap for no reason. Same body, nothings change bar my mind set"

Yes, had this for many years i think. Some days im ok and it doesn't bother me, others i think the worst. Not as bad as i used to be but still creeps in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend suffered hugely, I lost her 5 and a half years ago, if you do have suffer from it, please do get help, even on a platform like this, talking about it etc.

She was absolutely beautiful, the most beautiful smile, her teeth! Everything about her was just stunning but she could never, ever see it.

We all have hang ups about our bodies (mostly) if course we do but for others it's deep rooted, so please, from the bottom of my heart, please do get talking and try to believe people when they say you are beautiful.

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

All the time brother you’re not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do..its crippling at times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many of us experience this OP. I do and others are saying same here so you’re not alone. But the things that trigger your dismorphia will be those things which someone else is attracted to.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"Does anyone have this? There's times I look at myself and think I look good than I can look and think I look like total crap for no reason. Same body, nothings change bar my mind set"

Yep I (mr) get this a lot. Some days lifting goes really well, get home and catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and I really don’t like what I see. Next day I can walk past the same mirror and think I look pretty lean.

I generally use three things to gauge my body now. Mirror, scales and weights on lifts. As long as two out of the three are improving then I’m doing something right

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I used to be really into body building, the more I went to the gym the worse the dysmorphia got. Looking back at the photos now, I was in amazing shape. At the time all I could see in the mirror was a skinny guy with no muscles.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Try being trans and bi-gender...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think to an extent, yes.

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

With all the steroids in today’s world a man thinks they can achieve that look naturally and they don’t realise that the person on YouTube is actually injecting several times daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do yes but it's much better these days. At one point it completely consumed me.

I've been focusing on changing my mindset over the last year or so, and that along with weight loss has made such a difference.

I think it's important to always try to remember that your appearance does not define you as a person. You're more than a number. Your body does wonderful things.

It's so tough. And I still have some pretty shitty days, but overall I'm better than I've ever been.

Have you spoke with your doctor? Maybe he could refer you to some sort of therapy which could help?

Sending a virtual hug.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I do, some days I think I look good but most I'm saying to myself that it's no wonder I struggle at the moment to find someone that wants me for me.

Doesn't matter how many people say I look great or feel great while running their hands over me because in my head I can't believe it

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Me , 24/7 365 and 366 sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv got this and it has got to the stage in the past where I become very unhealthy chasing an image.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I do. I'm ok from the neck up, the rest is

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm my own worst critic... I don't even like my face... occasionally I get bouts of " I am what I am" but not often

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By *he Running Man 2022Man
over a year ago

Shipley, Bradford

Me!! I'm always stood on the scales on a morning. Even when I tell myself not to. I work out 4 days a week too and I'm always finding faults in my own body, whenever I look in the mirror

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I suffered with it terribly for over 40 years from late primary school to the age of 50. It had such a debilitating impact on my social life, my sex life and my long term relationship. I finally came to terms with my many imperfections as a woman who has had 3 kids in her 50s. It is not easy to learn to accept - then eventually love - yourself but it is truly life changing. The self-respect and confidence that you gradually start to build becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sending love and hugs to everyone struggling with self doubt x

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By *ighlander81Man
over a year ago

Hamilton

I’m not particularly fond of much of myself at all! Backed by being single for over 5 years and still not really had any meets from here! Seems telling

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By *urvywelshcougarWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I work out up to 6 days a week, stand on the scales daily. I do eat alot better now than before so have a better relationship with food. I've never liked my body growing up and even though im told I'm attractive i don't always believe it. Some days are better than others.

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By *endydick.CumbersnatchMan
over a year ago

Constantly. I can think I look both underweight and overweight at the same time. Especially as I've always been around competitive athletes, you compare on stats, results, races, wins and if you're bigger/smaller than those you're racing against.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Me.

Struggled with my size all my life, never been slim

Used to make my own clothes and they would always be way, way, too big, so convinced was I that I was absolutely mahoosive!

Acceptance has been a long journey, but I'm getting there.

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