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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have a very big job interview I have been waiting for years now…. Problem is I am having a huge struggle with failure and rejection lately

having been rejected a lot as of lately both in my personal and professional life has had a toll on my confidence and I’m even considering not attending the interview just to avoid putting myself in that position again…

Need to add I have ADHD and this sensitivity to rejection is something pathological, not something I can control, but I’d appreciate any sensible advice really

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Rejection is hard to accept but unfortunately it's part of life. Can you reframe the way you look at it? If you're not accepted for the job it means that the job wasn't suitable for you rather than you weren't suitable for it.

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By *ena AmourTV/TS
over a year ago

Chard

Given that these days it is hard to even get to interview stage, you have done well already.

Stay as calm as possible by controlling things you can, appearance, on time etc.

I always try and think of an interview as a two way process as well, they must think you can do the job already or they wouldn't have offered. Have a couple of questions to ask them, it shows you have thought about them.

Good luck, you will rock it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What have you got to lose?

If you don't go, you've already lost and will always wonder what if.

Nerves are normal and is always accounted for. Be yourself and if you don't get it then what have you lost.... nothing.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at it this way. The worst that can happen is you don't get offered the job? But, you will have gained from attending the interview either way. It's great to keep our interview skills up to date, and if you don't get the role then you can ask for feedback which will inform you of any areas you might need to brush up on for future one's. It's a win/win situation really. But you'll kick yourself of you don't at least try. Good luck OP, and chances are you'll smash it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs good luck believe in your self you got this just tell yourself your awesome

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

OP. The thing to remember to keep you calm is that if you have the interview they think you can do the job. You have all the qualifications needed. Essentially it’s in the bag. Just be yourself and let them like you! Just for being you.

Then it will be all yours.

Best of luck and try to keep as calm as you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP. The thing to remember to keep you calm is that if you have the interview they think you can do the job. You have all the qualifications needed. Essentially it’s in the bag. Just be yourself and let them like you! Just for being you.

Then it will be all yours.

Best of luck and try to keep as calm as you can

Love this.

Good luck OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rejection is hard to accept but unfortunately it's part of life. Can you reframe the way you look at it? If you're not accepted for the job it means that the job wasn't suitable for you rather than you weren't suitable for it. "

This is a truly wonderful way to look at the situation.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nothing to lose ..but everything to gain...Good luck sweetheart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Link into the positives of adhd.

https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/positives-of-adhd/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to remind yourself of your positives... Your skills and experiences, including life experiences.

Remind yourself why you applied for the role originally and remember you are worthy of it

Every experience is a learning experience... Look in the mirror and tell yourself out loud 'i am awesome', do it 10 times, getting louder every time

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this.

I have a lot of sympathy / empathy with the OP and can understand how they feel, but the reality is that in real life (despite what people are told these days) you do have to encounter setbacks and things don’t always go in your favour.

It’s true for all of us, I guess the way to look at it is that if there’s 20 people applying for a job and there’s only one appointed, then 19 others didn’t get it.

Was it a *rejection*?

Not necessarily.. most of them may have been perfectly good in the role it’s just that the one candidate was just slightly more suitable.

There’s a big distinction in that respect so please don’t assume you’ve been rejected .. in fact the opposite, you’ve been shortlisted for the role which suggests that you’re a very strong candidate. I hope this all makes sense!

Anyway, I hope the interview goes really well and that you get the job you want.. if not, dust yourself down, and go again!

Keep smiling!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Hope you had a restful sleep, woke up feeling better and it goes well.

If you haven't gone yet do some breathing exercises before you go. A good question I find is 'What do you enjoy most about working here?'

Good luck, let us know how it went

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP I have no advice but just wishing you the best.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I think we all get that feeling when we're nervous of something, our mind says, take the easy way out, don't go.

Self sabotage. But it's something you have to push through. You say you've waited and wanting this for a long time so please do go. Worst that can happen is you don't get the job.

You have got this, don't worry, you're ready for this, go show them how good you will be in this job.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much everyone! I have just come out of the interview! Need to wait until the end of the day to know something but I sure have done my best.

Now fingers crossed

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Good luck !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I got the job guys! Thanks so much for their encouragement and kind words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got the job guys! Thanks so much for their encouragement and kind words

Aaawwwww well done and congrats

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Great news, congratulations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got the job guys! Thanks so much for their encouragement and kind words

Yaaayyy that is fab!! Well done xx

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By *ena AmourTV/TS
over a year ago

Chard

"I got the job guys! Thanks so much for their encouragement and kind words

Yeeehaw! Pleased for you

I have been more tense for you than some of my own interviews!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come get your congratulations fuck.

It will be quick as I have to go to work so if it lasts less than two seconds, it is not because I have no stamina but because I am in a rush

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I got the job guys! Thanks so much for their encouragement and kind words

Congratulations!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"I got the job guys! Thanks so much for their encouragement and kind words

I’m so happy for you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

I’ll come to get my two seconds of pure extasis, whenever you have them

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